Hot list Etiquette

August 14 2014

Question for those who appear on someone else's hot list. I've done this now wonder am I taking a liberty though RHP allows anyone to place man woman couple on their hot list without the people approving it they may not wish to be placed on this persons list should RHP require a notification be sent to the person and approval before it can be done. The reason I ask if someone is just folowing a profile they receive a notification every time their online at the same time when they change profile pics or post on a forum this aspect worries me. Would like to know peoples experiences positive and negative as a result. No matter the result of this is l will be going through my list and asking permission.

Comments

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Public servant ?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    driving everyone nuts with the amount I post, no idea why anyone would want to follow me but I think I am on a few lists. I don't really have many on my lists other than the friends list. I did have a sexy someone who said he would have to take me off his list because I was hogging his news feed, lol. Can't say I blame him, I would annoy myself!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I don't think many people would be bothered by being on someone's hotlist. If they were they could always block the person, I think that'd stop the notifications flowing.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Blocking a profile stops them from being able to follow your activities. Even if the other profile has you blocked, you can add the name you want blocked on your Block page.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I know about the Hot List but always wondered what the Short List was for Would someone care to enlighten me please?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Hello Peaches ! X 😃

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I think are like your favourites, lol. Not sure what it means on the site or if you get any other perks with having them on there??

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I am on 500 hot lists at a guess. I am on a public forum and out pictures up for all to see so I can't complain if it comes in People's news feeds, although I have my profile setting to stop people seeing when I am on line.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I suppose the people that are really anal about it can go through all the hot lists they are on and block that person if they don't want them to see their profile.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Is for people like me lol 😘 Ms S - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Paradisepair

    Paradisepair

    10 years ago

    I use to to 'bookmark' profiles that take my fancy... It's probably all subjective...

  • him_and_me

    him_and_me

    10 years ago

    I think like Paradisepair said it's just a way of 'bookmarking' profiles that pique your interest. In our case we'll sometimes sit down to do some browsing and short list anyone of interest. Later we might go through that and shift some profiles to the hot list. Hmm...actually,come to think of it, it's been a while since I've gone through and edited those lists... x Me

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Why does it worry you if someone knows when you've logged in etc.??? It's not like they're going to come through your web cam while you're beating up the monkey and laugh at the size of your dick right ??? Or can they??? :p - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    The hotlists I'm on and now I'm paranoid.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'sir_stir' Why does it worry you if someone knows when you've logged in etc.??? Because some people will immediately start emailing you or sending flirt after flirt in order to get your attention. I like to read emails when I am in the mood, so I would rather people not know I am online so they don't get upset that their email hasn't been read immediatlely. I am sure there are women out there who have recieved an angry follow up email a few minutes later and coped abuse because they didn't open the original email fast enough. In fact I know women have received emails complaining of that.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Yep I see your point.... But.... He's male....it's up to him to message :p - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I did not know of it and went looking at it just this moment I do not understand why I would be on the list with people I have never conversed with ?

  • Naughty_nature

    Naughty_nature

    10 years ago

    Some responses hace been interesting I believe Merka100 has the right attitude it's a public forum we made the decision when we joined so don't worry about it. The one that amused me the most was block them I wonder if they realize just how useless that option is all they need do is start a new guest profile ok they can't see restricted pics or message but they can now look again so don't worry. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    it does open the door to people stalking you when you come online.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You can change your settings so no one can see when you're online, so why not do that?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Do people actually feel threatened by someone looking at their profile constantly??? Can I just say..... It's the internet!!!! They may look at your profile a few hundred times but in the big scheme of things it's hardly a hardcore stalker.... Bahahahaha Coroners reports never say "cause of death: excessive profile views and their inbox was overflowing with flirts!!!" Bahahahaha But you've all made me laugh this morning so that's just awesome!!!! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Stealth mode is responsible for more covert perving/stalking than anything else..... So why not use it?? It makes sense to me :) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    10 years ago

    The hot list - to keep track of all the people I find sizzling hot. The short list - ones I'd like to get to know better. Friends - people I have met and like. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Naughty_nature

    Naughty_nature

    10 years ago

    Missb72 that's how the lists should be used and Meander people don't change their settings as they want friend's to message them to know their now on line and want to chat. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I use the list for those whom I think I would like to know better.Also for those I find interesting in the forums, or in general.I enjoy their wit / humour and the wisdom of information they post for other members as they search for life's answers. While yes I may enjoy a perve I am not a pervert. If anyone is offended, just ask and I would be happy to remove them.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting '50zcool' Hello Peaches ! X 😃 Good to see you again!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Rick56789' The one that amused me the most was block them I wonder if they realize just how useless that option is all they need do is start a new guest profile ok they can't see restricted pics or message but they can now look again so don't worry. Being able to block the Hot List is a feature I asked and pushed for in the forums in 2010 alongside someone else who posted a thread about being stalked at the time. We also messaged and suggested it to RHP. The same suggestion that new profiles can constantly be made was pointed out on the thread at the time. But, I suppose if stalking is a serious issue for someone on here, then they could of course keep blocking anyone who hotlists them. And Stalking CAN be a serious issue... .

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I use my Hot List to keep track of... Me! LOL, so I can follow up on threads I've posted on. And to follow a couple of friends who rarely post. . If I used it, the short list would be for people I'd like to Hot List, but don't want all the notifications for. . My Block list has only one Diamond member who keeps sending me invites on it and apparently the Block List doesn't work for them... . Referring back to the idea in the OP of asking permission Rick, I can't help but figure those requests would become one of the things, like messages and flirts, that people don't reply to. It works out well enough that we do have various ways to manage our profiles in ways that suit us all as individuals imo. . Peachy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Ms PeachyFuzz.....I understand that stalking can be a serious issue..., but....How is it on issue on RHP..?? If you don't won't to be trolled, or profiled, then surely you can just have no visible photos, and refrain from posting in the forums..? I understand the need for tight security on Facebook, phones and computer access, but not on this site....A logical question, and now seeking answers...Thanks.. Ms C..xxx - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I'd be stoked if I was on a hotlist !

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Meander' You can change your settings so no one can see when you're online, so why not do that? maybe stalking is the aphrodisiac that leads to a wonderful relationship

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    But going by some of the posts on this thread, RHP would have the same risks as any social media I would think.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Like 50z, Id be flattered to be on sometimes hot list. If some men find something attractive about me in my pics, I don't mind them looking at them repeatedly. I have photos up there, if I didn't want to be viewed I wouldn't, simple. If I'm on anyones lists, at my age then I'm quite cool about it, I don't feel like I'm being stalked? It's an adult dating site and I think it's just a bit of fun. Constant messaging is different, although it hasn't happened to me, but profile viewing, I really don't mind. .

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    There were a couple of guys who added me to their Hot List, we exchanged messages a while back, they showed their true colours, were rude, racist, prejudiced, I give them the flick then weeks or months later they flirt or message me again with the same deal. They may have a bad memory but I don't forget their profile and won't tolerate that sort of behaviour, especially in this day and age. They make me sick! That is the only reason I would block someone so I won't be visible on their Hot List. But apart from that particular group of people, I am flattered to be on someone's Hot List :) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • ocean57

    ocean57

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'sir_stir' Why does it worry you if someone knows when you've logged in etc.??? Because some people will immediately start emailing you or sending flirt after flirt in order to get your attention. I like to read emails when I am in the mood, so I would rather people not know I am online so they don't get upset that their email hasn't been read immediatlely. I am sure there are women out there who have recieved an angry follow up email a few minutes later and coped abuse because they didn't open the original email fast enough. In fact I know women have received emails complaining of that.

  • ocean57

    ocean57

    10 years ago

    I could not agree more with you on that. Btw, you are on my hot list because I think your hot ;) Would love to see your private pics…. please ;) The hot list is my personal list and I should not have to ask for permission to add people. If this is a issue for some people on here, maybe your on the wrong dating site.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Rick56789' Meander people don't change their settings as they want friend's to message them to know their now on line and want to chat. If they're actual friends they'll have my number or KIK username. Quoting 'HoldMyBeer'maybe stalking is the aphrodisiac that leads to a wonderful relationship Yes, because because it's such a healthy way of pursuing someone, and them blocking you is just another way of them saying "I'm so attracted to you I just can't handle it."

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I don't have any issue being on hot lists, or with people looking at my profile repeatedly (I think most women on here have at least one regular 'profile stalker' whose name comes up in the little box with regular monotony) . Like another mentioned, I wouldn't have the pics up if I didn't want / expect people to look at them. I only block people who keep contacting me after I've said no (and yes I've had one who tried it with 3 different profiles, but it was very easy to tell it was the same person). I myself though have never used the hot list or short list features.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You'll miss being lusted after when you're old and undesirable.