Hot to trot 1st timers with no experience...

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  Tall74nHard9

  4 years ago

  Might not necessarily be about being "first-timers". Had a read of your profile, and it seems like a cut and paste of just about any other couples profile. And what's with the compulsion of "professionals" - what do you perceive to be more ability than with other mere mortals ? Tall

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  Rlee552

  4 years ago

  We all have to be first timers to start with, and there are a lot of people who know other people. But regardless of whether you are a first timer or have all of the experience of De Sade it can be hard to get a date. And people are turned off at various times for various reasons. A sense of entitlement; being over eager; I got bored; Etc and so on, can mean a person pulls out (even where they had the intention to meet in the first place). Some people even get put off by poor grammar. No fucks if you miss an Oxford comma. Point is - it’s not you, it’s not the fact you are new. It’s who is on the site. Be patient and your time will come. Plus go to an event. That’s where you will see a lot of the genuine swingers. Don’t go in though with a sense that just because you are there they will sleep with you.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  4 years ago

  Correct me if I'm wrong, this site and the swinging scene is not all about "sex" and "fun times". It's about treating people how you want to be treated. Maybe that's your problem. If you want "fun times" to continue, use the right bait to catch the dragon or in some cases a unicorn. If not your fire will slowly burn out because no one wants to have meaningless "sex and fun times". Ms Foxy

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  funtimescouple1

  4 years ago

  Agree with the suggestions above. It's not just the fact that you are new, it is hard to get a date. There are the time wasters, the non genuine couples, the ones who are doing it for their partner, the too timid ones, the ones who just want to do it but don't treat you with courtesy, the ones who get frustrated of not be able to find mutually available time straight away and so on. We have a few years experience and like courtesy and a connection before hopefully playing and becoming ongoing play friends. Our hit rate is quite low. It's just how it is. Have to agree that 'we are professionals and we are looking for professionals' is a bit of a turn off. Are you referring to occupations and if so, how do they matter? Perhaps you could say 'take pride in appearance and can hold a good conversation'? A bit more info in your descriptions may help as well. Good luck and keep at it. Genuine playing couples are out there.

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  AnnieWhichway

  4 years ago

  Couples are notorious for difficulty due to the 4 way chemistry. Easy for singles, each only has to like each others bits and its a green light. Each member of the proposed foursome has to like the new two, has to be comfortable with them doing their partner. Throw in some self doubt, a sprinkle of jealousy, a clash of venue preferences and it can easily evaporate as quickly as it came about. Remember, couples are mixing it up with 4 sets of insecurities and underlying relationship issues that can detonate underneath them all. Easy to say its a night of sex and fun, sometimes it turns out anything but.....

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  We were new with no experience earlier this year and were told by some nice communicative couples that it is quite common for newbies to introduce complications (drama) during play dates due to their boundaries and awareness of each others' interests / needs not having been worked through yet. Many people are time poor and fixing a date uses up valuable time and money that they don't want to 'risk' on a walk out scenario. Agree that adding a little bit more to your profile bio might help to draw discerning couples in. Give it a bit of your own personality as couples often like to know that during a pre-play meet and greet, the chemistry is going to build enough through personality or intellectual connection to get a fire lit for the proposed bedroom antics. Good luck with it all xo

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  Excited first time couple here 🙌👋

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