Seachange

Seachange

F51

Hotel California

December 06 2019

So I have been absent from the Forums for a while for good reason. I just came back from working overseas and really found that visiting the forum was less a priority and more of a distraction. Looking at the number of new threads lately, I don't think I've missed much. Did I miss the forum? Not really. It got to a point this year.that I had forum fatigue - petty squabbles over petty things. Then there are the same old, same old topics such as 'why can't I get a lay? I'm keen and blah blah blah'. Ut wasn't doing ot for me anymore. So it was time the leave and mine more interesting cerebral shores. But I'm back. Not sure why... Maybe I'm just curious to find out if there's anything else new U csn learn from you lot, or Curious on what is going on in my friends' lives (and loves) or Like family, I can't shake you sorry lot anymore out of my system if I tried 😛 or I'm just a sucker to watch in the sidelines some occasional mindless whining and bickering in the Forum fight club. I'll leave again after I get sick and tired of some morons here ruining my experiences but I always come back for my RHP friends and family who have accepted me into the fold. I'm not good at maintaining communication, actually I'm terribly slack. However, most know how I feel about them and I try my best to send my warm thoughts via my Jedi communication powers.😎 Sooo.... What keeps you in the Forum and have you left and come back? Why?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    What keeps me here?? Lol Prozac mostly 😂😂 Nah...I enjoy contributing even if I’m the only one that enjoys my contributions 😂😂. But overall it’s not a bad place, and I’ve left before because my ego was bruised, I’ve left before because I was just tired, or I just wanted a break from it...sometimes it feels as though there’s a level of expectation to only discuss sexual topics and I reckon too much of any one thing gets boring, even sex. I enjoy the social networking here as I’ve had some good conversations evolve into friendships, some have resulted in sexual experiences, others have just been a spotlight on my flaws.... Mr dragon

  • bonefide

    bonefide

    5 years ago

    And the recipes, along with the fashion hints that are occasionally spoke about at the beer garden after the sun go’s down. :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Probably same as you and jack of repetitious messages. However missed reading the forums over morning coffee. So template replies in use and just enjoying a chat with old friends.

  • peasandcarrots

    peasandcarrots

    5 years ago

    When youre off it, you can't work out why you let it consume so much of your life, but somehow, bit by bit, it drags you back in and before you know it, you're hooked again, and can't work out why you ever went away, and the circle repeats

  • deepestpurple

    deepestpurple

    5 years ago

    We aren't particularly welcoming to newbies at times. Moderation keeps things sterile these days. Where's the interesting discussion coming from? The climate change thread was a breath of fresh air that shows we can do it. You come back because you miss me ;) Name and shame the morons, that will be an interesting thread

  • EarthQueen

    EarthQueen

    5 years ago

    Basically I'm inquisitive (*nosy) and I'm interested in how other people see things. But agree with DP. Over moderation has killed some of the fun factor. Shame. It kills many discussions.Some of the best forum topics occurred when the moderation didn't take the wrap us up in cotton wool approach. Morons will out themselves, which is often entertaining. There are also some pretty funny people on here, with some excellent wit and observations. When you put them and the morons together, it's comedy gold. I also like Reddit but RHP has a different demographic that I enjoy.

  • SpicyKale

    SpicyKale

    5 years ago

    Moderation is an interesting topic If I was going to take a guess, they're worried about potential litigation. If my memory is correct News corp we're successfully prosecuted for a forum members defamatory post a while ago. While different laws apply to news services, Christian Porter is floating changes to the defamation law to include tech companies. If someone is going to call themselves out as a complete tool on here, I'd personally prefer to see the post stay up to help others decide if they want anything to do with them. So many of those posts get pulled, but amusing ready while they're up😊 While most of the posts are sex related, you really start to see a bit of depth and thought come out in some. We tend to forget at times that people are coming here for different reasons. Posters complete lack of sexual health knowledge absolutely baffles me at times, is hard not to come over as a lecturing parent! Not that I believe in New Years resolutions, but more non sex topics in 2020!

  • SpicyKale

    SpicyKale

    5 years ago

    *reading

  • Salubrious1

    Salubrious1

    5 years ago

    open up the link for hot topics, then off topic . It's still going and with the main contributors showing respect in my opinion .

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    5 years ago

    What keeps you in the Forum?

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    5 years ago

    One of the reason for my leaving is the over monitoring and censureship of forum topics and posts. The sterilization of the Forum is definitely a turn off. I do understand some prohibition of posts when over zealous members overstep the line but outright closure and deletions of topics prohibits the forum from being a fertile bed of learning on topics of sex and beyond, as it used to be. 😞 And we're left with mundane topics. I'm still glad to see the regulars keeping the forum alive with their pearls of wisdom and edgy wit.

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    5 years ago

    I have left once but only when l was reported by another long term member here for something that l didn't do but ended up battling the mods to clear my name and getting my instant posting back. Principals are worth coming back for. I have taken a few breaks though. I've thought about the addiction of being here. But l have many friends through here, it is my village. As far as addictions go, it doesn't hurt my health but probably has improved my mental health over the years. l learn shit, l can pass on what l have learnt from my experiences and gives me entertainment from the bigots and homophobes. Many more positives than negatives, so here l stay. Someone needs to highlight the issues facing trans and cd/tv community so I'll push that wheelbarrow as well if required

  • deepestpurple

    deepestpurple

    5 years ago

    Quoting 'Seachange' What keeps you in the Forum? Not much these days, my journey here is mostly complete and I don't have the same kind of free time to kill as I have in the past. I try to give back somewhat by supporting new guys to the nuthouse. As much as most of them don't want to admit it, its an emotionally brutal initiation. And I emphasize with new guys, typically just gone through a divorce or breakup, trying to navigate their way back into sex and dating. It can seem hopeless at first but can also be very rewarding if you can get through that. Single guys tend to be treated like second class citizens and I'm aware there's reasons for that and women and couples certainly face their challenges too. I've lived it from that perspective so I try to help with what I have experience with. I'm not going to lie, there's a few characters here I would miss if they were not in my life at all but I find myself coming here less and less. Most topics I try start don't get approved and often I have no idea why.

  • deepestpurple

    deepestpurple

    5 years ago

    Quoting 'Salubrious1' open up the link for hot topics, then off topic . It's still going and with the main contributors showing respect in my opinion . I agree and it really was unusual for this board for such a controversial issue to be discussed without it turning into a shitfight that gets moderated out of existence. Much respect to all involved, including yourself. I stayed out of it as other people were articulating my point of view better than I expect I could have.

  • SpicyKale

    SpicyKale

    5 years ago

    DP, likewise on that thread! We've got very strong views on the topic, but could see it turning into a shit fest. Very glad it didn't, but keeping clear probably helped the mental health 😊 Likewise Annie, we try and stick up for the LGBT community. Hopefully calling out the bigots helps others realise what's appropriate in 2019. I don't have time to spend in the community away from here, so posting is my little bit. We like to think we're even handed with the single guys, although they do bring it on themselves at times. Go easy on the new ones, the marketing tells them it's a sex fest! The repeat offenders with "those" profiles.... 😐 Unfortunately I think only a very small percentage of the people on here actually read the forums. I wonder how the community engages with the rest?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' I have left once but only when l was reported by another long term member here for something that l didn't do but ended up battling the mods to clear my name and getting my instant posting back. Principals are worth coming back for. That's an interesting version of events in what was actually a complicated time in the forum. After years of shit fights over nothing in the forum the mods were trying something new in the way of moderation, and had blocked a cpl of long time posters from posting on particular threads in an attempt to achieve their goal. They'd also come down on your Nothing (I use the word to differentiate from the Anything threads that had come before) threads with a few being closed down or closed in a very short period of time. I had nothing to do with that though I'm sure you suspected me of that. It was, around that time, that it was announced that Anything/Nothing threads would not be allowed because of the way they kept ending up. Even Freya's very old Anything ended up being locked or deleted around that time. It's a curious coincidence that the Anything threads were started to get around moderation, lol. A few other threads of similar types were started after that but most didn't last long. The moderation blues is not at all new! It's been going on since day dot. Now, where were you? Ah yes. You did 'do it' so to speak, it was the views of the different mods that made the difference and reinstating your profile was the right thing to do in my opinion as I have told you before. All I did was report the comment as did SEVERAL other people as the message I got in reply stated which I have also told you before. Not everyone is as open as me, hey. You know I reported because I announced it to the world. Mind you, you'd already started your current male profile in the meantime and weren't missing RHP at all. 😂I'd already planned, as I've also already told you before, to contact RHP mods myself to speak on your behalf because in my mind I reported a comment that blew my mind when I read it, and it wasn't you as a person I had a problem with. I hope all that clears that up for you some. Because I do see your comments about that quite regularly... Principles are well worth fighting for, but differing principles doesn't make one or the other right or wrong. About me and why I'm here? Because I've asked myself many times, I can tell you. I am one of the longest running, most frequent posters, that's for sure. Part of it is the simple fact that it's my life and entirely up to me what I do and I'm not giving anyone the power to think that I left because of them. I choose to believe in myself and it being ok to change what I haven't found worked for me while accepting that it is working or has worked for me to the best of my abilities. I'm in a better place emotionally these days and getting more positive messages about myself than I have had here in the main and that makes me feel less vulnerable too, so much so, I haven't felt a need to report much of anything for months now. I thank the friends who've stood by me and haven't bought into the anxiety I suffer from. Currently, I'm applying for National Redress and my counselor is the best I've ever had the pleasure to work with. She straight off explained to me that RHP is like a family to me. Whoda thunk huh? Part of the problem in the forum in my opinion is the never ending grudges, and I have been as guilty of that as anyone else, the misunderstanding where assumptions are made based on incorrect facts, and the constant complaining by posters (as on this thread) about not being able to get things their own way. Let's not forget the gaslighting! An example of my times in the forum for me is that it was only the other day I objected to a judgemental post aimed at people who'd posted a similar opinion as mine on the thread. Then I get jumped on for objecting to that, lol. I decided later to retract part of what I'd said because I saw an argument elsewhere that convinced me to have a change of heart. We can't force people to think like us and insulting them because they don't think like us isn't going to win them over either. I'm not tryng to win anyone over here. :-D Gotta watch out for trolls and catfish too, this is the perfect breeding ground where there is no identifying yourself or legal need to be accurate with your profile/s. Cheers, Peachy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Quoting 'deepestpurple'We aren't particularly welcoming to newbies at times. Moderation keeps things sterile these days. Where's the interesting discussion coming from? The climate change thread was a breath of fresh air that shows we can do it. You come back because you miss me ;) Name and shame the morons, that will be an interesting thread This is a different perspective of that thread than I had. If I had chosen to stay and fight for my right to have an opinion that didn't agree with one poster who decided they were special enough to post a blanket comment condemning those of us with a similar opinion to mine...As well as follow up comments that said I need to be educated and know what I'm talking about to have the right to have an opinion...Or the comment that questioned that I was threatened by intelligent women...It could well have gone down, and I would have been the one blamed rather than the mob that descended, lol. But I don't see that it makes sense to argue here any more when people's minds are obviously made up and I don't get to have the right to judge them as a person just because we disagree. Peachy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I've joined a movement recently that is softening the hard edges I've developed here. It's relief to finally find something that seems to actually be what it portrays after all my disappointments over these last few years as I've been gradually disillusioned by do gooders are just doing it for themselves in reality. Some of the loveliest seeming people are the worst offenders. Not that there aren't fakers and liars there too but they are not the definition of the movement just a symptom of the possibility that might occur within a movement like this one. Peachy, happy days

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    5 years ago

    Your view, rose colored glasses. Funny how they taint the vision. How's the catfish hunter going anyway? Definition of forum chaos? Peachy going catfish hunting.... Lol. She's still here......

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    ...nor anyone to do it to, then it's time to rethink my strategies. Incremental inspiration and deviant desperation. What more could you ask for? ʗɱ

  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    5 years ago

    In a nutshell,what keeps me here ,I’m curious and like reading people thoughts and different views on things,although it’s been very sterile lately ,have made some good friends via here and I like watching train wrecks ,.and in this village it’s like Neibough’s there’s always one just around the corner to keep the rating up ,lol Mr b

  • luvsilver

    luvsilver

    5 years ago

    How do you know the Anything thread was started to get around moderation- that seems crazy to me. Anything was great. I sometimes want to chuck a quick comment in about something or anything but no threads is suitable to put it in to and not worth stating a whole new thread for it Mr Luvsilver

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I'm progressing with the ability...

  • nightingale8

    nightingale8

    5 years ago

    I'm here because I like a perve and got bored of my Facebook feed advertising me control panties, leak proof undies and offended mums. My demographic sucks.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Another member of Ms Phoenix's rowing team. 😜

  • luvsilver

    luvsilver

    5 years ago

    Mr Luvsilver

  • TheQuiet1

    TheQuiet1

    5 years ago

    Profiles are like adds with no false advertising standards. Here you see the real person whether they intend it or not. I've only been here since about May and I've learnt to take a step back now and then.My first foray here kind of exploded in a way I didn't expect,it was a steep learning curve. For me as an introvert coming from a bad relationship with someone with NPD my response to which was to withdraw this has been a vehicle for me to re-engage with people.And for the most part I enjoy it here if I didn't I'd leave.There seems to be a (somewhat fluid)core of good people here who share their wisdom to the benefit of the whole community. And of course a few that pull the same bs over and over.For now I think I'll stick around and I hope to meet more of you in person in the future.

  • EarthQueen

    EarthQueen

    5 years ago

    Wouldn't Foxy's rooftop beer garden thread classify as the same thing? The amount of biff on the Anything And Nothing was no more or no less than half of the other threads. Seemed pointless to delete them? I enjoyed them, but in my mind that thread is no different ....and its still here to tell the tale.

  • House_of_Fun

    House_of_Fun

    5 years ago

    I (Mia) have meandered through the forums on and off for a number of years. As an introvert I like online communities for sharing ideas and banter more than real life groups, so they very much suit me. Because these threads consist of members from all walks of life, the opinions tend to be highly varied, which I find entertaining, sometimes quite frustrating, but always educational. Some of my own opinions have been reinforced, and others have changed quite drastically because of these forums and its posters. I've learned a lot about every topic imaginable as well as myself. I've challenged and been challenged, helped others and been helped, had plenty of laughs, and I have also shown my terrible side at times and been forgiven. The forums can be a toxic place, but I've found the good people here have always outweighed the trolls and the haters. I count some of you among my real-life friends, and I'm very grateful for that. In short, the forums have always given me more than they've taken. That's why I keep coming back. x Mia

  • countrytouch82

    countrytouch82

    5 years ago

    I stick around but do not comment as frequently as many others, or as frequently lately as I have previously done, but more so if I find a topic of strong interest or something I think I'm well qualified to answer or give advice. I have made some lovely connections of course, many are platonic, and in general I'm still here as well as on other places looking for my potential other half. That of course doesn't mean I will disappear when I find her, as that might mean a future couples profile and/or being involved in parts of the community/events not currently available. Otherwise, in general, I'm only here to help :)

  • truepassion

    truepassion

    5 years ago

    Good question.Insomnia lately mainly. lolThat plus the fact that getting on Facebook is rather like the internet equivalent of doing a home lobotomy on one's self in comparison.

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    5 years ago

    I agree with regards to learning. I have come into the forum with my eyes wide open hoping to ignite something inside or help understand some curiosity or suspicious I hold about myself. The Forum has done both, educate and reset my set of beliefs and convictions I held about sexuality and even my world views. Totally different from 5 years ago. Thank you to all who helped shaped these views in a very positive and compassionate way. Those with negative and crazy views of the world and events, they also helped in reaffirming I'm quite 'normal' and positive in the current flow of world events. 😉😄

  • Obi1kenietzsche

    Obi1kenietzsche

    5 years ago

    Because Cap’n No Beard makes me. Obi1

  • Bazingal

    Bazingal

    5 years ago

    I have learnt a lot about myself, many topics and such a wide variety of opinions. At times I have felt the toxic levels of the forum rise too much and have taken a step back. This year in particular I have spent less and less time on RHP. I will always be thankful for the wonderful people I have met through the site (forum, chat room and meets) and the amazing experiences I have had, including meeting you Seachange xx

  • Cucknshells

    Cucknshells

    5 years ago

    Love your profile picture. Shells.

  • Missb4u

    Missb4u

    5 years ago

    I pop in and out of the forums but post little these days as I no longer have instant posting after tho decided to delete my account for inactivity and won’t give it to me on this one... frustrating. So I hang around and read some stuff and roll my eyes a lot and dream of one day letting loose all the thoughts that run through my head. Mostly I like the wit and humor in here and it is informative on lots of topics. I’ve learnt heaps over the years and find it very cringe wowrthy when I read some of my early early posts... was I ever that naive 🤦🏻‍♀️

  • Keepitsimple01

    Keepitsimple01

    5 years ago

    For the of God....Mate after reading that I feel like I've been hit over the back of the head with a cricket bat and realised that it's not only the dog and cat that chase their tales and go round in circles. The one part I do agree with is how your going to take a break when you've had enough of the morons and I'm going to do the same. The only difference between you and me is that my break has to start right now thanks to you and I hope yours starts the day I return. Is it the tail or the asshole under it a dog and a cat are trying to get too.🦄

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Is that dude talking to?? 😂😂 Mr dragon

  • EarthQueen

    EarthQueen

    5 years ago

    Dragon Chuckles He got it off his chest at least. 😅

  • Lullah

    Lullah

    5 years ago

    Speaking of Hotel California in 2004 I was able to see The Eagles at Rod Laver, along with everyone around me I sang along to most of their songs. It was great hearing Hotel California live.

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    5 years ago

    I think he needs a little bit if a lie down...😄😄😄 Not sure what he is on about... Ahhhh. I think he's now sleeping in his daybed... 😄

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    5 years ago

    All good here.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

  • inspirit

    inspirit

    5 years ago

    I hardly attend anymore. Got into a vanilla relationship. Lasted 6 months 😈🤦🏻‍♀️🤣 Now in a debaucherous one whereby I can explore my Dom side. Interesting coming from being a sub. Welcome back Ms.

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    5 years ago

    Nice to hear from you. Xox

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Quoting 'luvsilver' How do you know the Anything thread was started to get around moderation- that seems crazy to me. Anything was great. I sometimes want to chuck a quick comment in about something or anything but no threads is suitable to put it in to and not worth stating a whole new thread for it Mr Luvsilver I missed this, lol it's true. I was in a group with Manly when he planned it lol... The idea was to get around the 'staying on topic' rule that was coming up a lot at the time. It implies so in the topic body, lol. Well, how's that for ironic. It's still there and the last post on Manly's thread is by you Seachange. There have been many incarnations on the original theme since. Manly even popped in and popped right out after he started a second one but that did not seem to go down well and the thread was swiftly terminated. EarthQueen, it's likely you remember Foxy ran a coffee thread for the briefest of times not so long ago. The Rooftop thread followed immediately after that... In the old days... they used to just delete threads, I like that we do get to look back over what is left at times. At one time, if you deleted your profile, all your posts went with it, it was quite impressive the day they all came back, I found my lost limerick. Hotel California aficionado Peachy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I believe it is significant that RHP decided to lock this thread at the top of hot topics, and flattering as well Seachange? The possible threat of deletion did not come about, rather an upgrade of sorts. I am glad for that and impressed with the follow up. The topic so suits us in this forum lol, that can't be denied. Peachy, it's not long to New Year

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    5 years ago

    This forum is seriously fucked up. 😕 Ms Foxy

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    5 years ago

    It's been interesting that some characters have managed to derail the thread. But that is th way the forum goes . Some reveal their sanity or madness along the way for all to see and avoid for the latter. This is Hotel California in true fashion, after all. You can check out, but you can't leave.... Well for some.😉

  • Lullah

    Lullah

    5 years ago

    I found a new reflection journal in my room, great timing for this time of year. Did anyone find one in theirs? I have begun writing, it's been a very cathartic experience so far.

  • Lullah

    Lullah

    5 years ago

    Maybe there's a better hotel out there somewhere to take this Big Redhotpie Party to. Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' This forum is seriously fucked up. 😕 Ms Foxy

  • House_of_Fun

    House_of_Fun

    5 years ago

    They have Champagne on ice here! Nup, I'm staying.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Pink champagne and plenty of whine 😂 🍑 👏

  • Lullah

    Lullah

    5 years ago

    Quoting 'House_of_Fun' They have Champagne on ice here! I'm heading to The Roof Top Beer Garden, I've booked a table in a quiet corner as I'm going to some more journaling. I'll be ordering a nice non alcoholic beverage or two as alcohol and writing aren't a wise combo. I've read that posting when pissed isn't a wise combo either.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    It looks like the ladies from the blue rinsed Mundaburra Country Woman's Knitting Association have arrived with their temperance ways to sit in judgement of us all. Roll on Christmas Day Champagne breakfast... Peachy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Get a cage you too.

  • Lullah

    Lullah

    5 years ago

    the bull by the horns and stuck up their arses, my post was posted to Mia in the positive hence with the word noice with a thumbs up in the header. I can't control the same same old implied crap someone posts.

  • Lullah

    Lullah

    5 years ago

    Haven't you watched Kath & Kim ?? --- Sharon Strzlelecki --- that's noice Kmmy ---- that's noice Mrs D

  • Lullah

    Lullah

    5 years ago

    that's noice Kimmy

  • Lullah

    Lullah

    5 years ago

    but I assumed Mia posted the post I replied to. FFF too many people gettingQuoting 'Lulah' the bull by the horns and stuck up their arses, my post was posted to Mia in the positive hence with the word noice with a thumbs up in the header. I can't control the same same old implied crap someone posts.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    🙄

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    5 years ago

    Goodbye for now. So you found the asylum exit door? 👌 Hope you're ok. Your contributions will be missed, personally I will. One of the sane ones in this asylum. I hope to see you again. Drinks at hotel California lobby....🍹🍹 Merry Christmas.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Every now and again I log on for a few days to see what I’ve missed. Apparently not much 😘

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    🎵 We are all just prisoners here, of our own device...

  • countrytouch82

    countrytouch82

    5 years ago

    * With our own device(s) :P

  • ozrocks

    ozrocks

    5 years ago

    As a newbie and potentially a moron, i would just like to put it out there that if I get named( which is very likely) i will not be shamed. From history i will usually post when I feel strongly about something which I see a lot of moron sheeples tut tutoring and agreeing on how disgraceful it is. I tend to play devil's advocate and turn perspectives around. Of course there will be those who are not amused, and those who take I personally. There will be some who think I am axshully being serious, and will classify me. Well just keep in mind, you may name me, but never will I be shamed!

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    5 years ago

    Generally there is no problem when people post their views that they believe in, strongly or otherwise. Problems begin when someone posts for the sake of igniting a flame. It's called trolling. If you troll, you troll. Shamed or not shamed, dunno. Reported maybe probably. Potential moron, we shall see

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    5 years ago

    I dabble, haven’t had instant posting in forever now and don’t care however ..... it is nice to pop in on everyone every now and then and see what if anything is new? Have some of the single profiles from a decade ago become partnered? Who’s left, who’s stayed and who’s still being the squeaky wheel 🙂 popping in periodically also means I get to stay in touch with loved ones and maybe pick up a stray shag if I feel like it 🤷🏼‍♀️

  • madotara69

    madotara69

    5 years ago

    In the poetry slamming thread. Miss Indi and wait in shy lustful ore... fantasising astray in dreamy wishful thinking, just quietly that Indi hot as she is.... feels like it. Sex slaves starving....... Hi Indi, hope your feeling well😊 Mado Mado Tara xx

  • Obi1kenietzsche

    Obi1kenietzsche

    5 years ago

    Cap’n No Beard and I are still here, wandering aimlessly about, being as silly as possible, and generally trying to keep out of trouble. (Well.. I am, but I’m not too sure about the Cap’n) Obi1 xxx

  • On_Safari

    On_Safari

    5 years ago

    How are you and beautiful Tara going? Long time no see, you must come for a visit 😉 it’s been too long for me since all the old crew were in one place. I think the new crew would enjoy all the laughs with the old crew.....just sayin’ ~ Indy xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Interesting post with a good point, and curious profile... Welcome to the forum, 🍑

  • usrightnow_Again

    usrightnow_Again

    5 years ago

    We have only logged on twice in about the last 6 months. In a way, we miss how things were a few years ago in the forum. There are still a few of the old regulars around and that's one reason we stay. And a reason we returned in 2018, after some much needed time away. . We're also here, as we've mentioned before, because this is our only Social Media or dating type site profile. The Forums do give us the opportunity to occaisionally comment on issues we might wish to. It's one of the things we appreciate about the site. The opportunty to talk about more than just sex, gives people a chance to see others in greater depth. So often in the past, Forum contributors have said in numerous threads, they look for a connection, when looking for someone to have a sexual relationship with. The Adult Forums provide the opportunity to get below the skin of a prospective sexual partner, before you get into their pants. . We've also had some terrific discussions with people in Forum threads and via pm. Will we stay? Who knows, however, we're here now, in our basement apartment here in this little Hotel California. Nice thread Seachange. . Mr. & Mrs. urn. .

  • MrKentia

    MrKentia

    5 years ago

    I'm reading the forum when I'm bored. Sometimes I'm on the loo to be honest. I rarely find any interest in it but there's not a lot of places where you have discussions around sex and some topics are really good to see other's perspectives and learn a bit from others experienxes. However, sometimes it's just older people fighting about their principles and an overaged view of the world. Making sure that we all know about their opinion and making old dad jokes or similar thinking they are edgy and impressing with some witty banter. You can read them clashing and trolling newbies regularly, jumping on topics that don't concern them, putting themselves on a pedestal and making sure you know that: - they got lots of messages - they know better - they've seen it all - they have instant posting on the forum so they are valued - they have an opinion on everything - they think the forum is filled with morons and you're one of them But yay, as said, a lot of good stuff too here because there's nowhere else.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Your right. Absolutely on the money dead right.So keep posting and maybe that will encourage younger people to join in.One thing though, if you ignore history you are doomed to repeat it.I have spoken.

  • 0z_boy

    0z_boy

    5 years ago

    Welcome to the motel that I got for yaSuch a lovely place Such a lovely place (yeah nar wazza a disgrace.)lalalalalalaltheres plenty of room at the motel that I got for ya, ya can swing a cat ya can swing a cat (yeah nar faaaarrrk that) lalalalalalalAny time of year, any time of year, (aint no aircon here) (aint no aircon here) The blinds are crooked and twisted,, it got the rusty S bends,, she gotta lotta pretty pretty toys that ended up my rear endHow they dance in the courtyard, sweet summer sweatSome dance to remember, she danced to forget :p feel free to add to it hahaha

  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    5 years ago

    This hotel needs to have some hotel trouble maker specials ,the hallways are looking a little empty , trouble makers get half price ,yup they are a pain in the ass but get lots of people involved kicking ,screaming and face planting , with their provocative thoughts and insults ,lol, Mr b

  • Kokoflamingo

    Kokoflamingo

    5 years ago

    Its ironic that Ive yet to read a post of yours where you are not trashing other posters, especially women . Welcome aboard the trash train.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Didn't you have a thread of yours deleted because of the kicking and screaming? Pot/kettle... Frankly, if people don't have the nerve to post, or not, without blaming other people for their decisions, I'm a big fat meh. Adults take responsibility for their decisions instead of crying it's someone else's fault because they can't make other people act the way they're comfortable with. I'm still here, still have IP, must be doing something right. 😇😂

  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    5 years ago

    Damn peachy , thought I’d add something into a thread without making it personal and without any real finger pointing just a general statement ,about quite a few of the controversial people did keep things ticking along , and at times interesting and at times way too far and personal ,yes they should be sidelined for a while to cool off ,and yes you have ip and still here , I think I’m missing the point there but anyway , I still can’t read what you post with the colours and fonts most of the time ,sorry ,yes but I only vaguely Can remember a thread being deleted by me , and that was a long time ago but just saw it was going to end in a shit fight if I remember correctly I don’t have an interest in if it’s something To do with something I posted and if I rembrr there was a lot of tension and anger in the air around that time by multiple members but each to their own , you must have an incredible memory ,that’s for certain ,wish I had a peace of that , lol

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Having a good memory is a blessing and a curse, lol. But better to exercise it than not! Having a convenient memory is something abusers use hey, called gaslighting. That's not about you just a wander of mind on the thought in general. I'd like to know how the font I used to enjoy using because it was fun and colourful (until all the negative feedback) is relevant? The comments on it so often rather than responding to what I was talking about got old in a hurry. Last time I used it was Dec and couldn't be going any further back than that but do know all the fun was taken out of for me ages ago. I folded and became boring black and white like everyone else. Still feisty and love to have a good chat though. You thread, I was disappointed because while you did post weirdly a time or two, I think you left me stuck on an island stuck up a coconut tree or something similar? it was a bit of fun. I was told in message about why it was deleted, so I'm not full book on that anyway, just how we are all effected, and not in a good way, by the drama that you felt you needed to delete it. That's my point made. It really wan't meaning to be personalised, I'm giving my reasoning as you have mostly done in return. I'm not into seeing people face plant etc, there's far more fun to had with people having fun at the same time. Cheers This thread and it's premise is just a big whinge to me. So, I guess we can safely say that's where I'm coming from. It describes itself in it's OP and that's hilarious. Just my opinion. Puzzles are great for exercising the memory.

  • AnnieWhichway

    AnnieWhichway

    5 years ago

    Your IP....like the tide....ebbs and flows

  • boobsandbusted

    boobsandbusted

    5 years ago

    My apology’s about the colour and font thing ,I obviously hadn’t noticed ,and made a mistake basing that in older posts ,If I see anyone with mega word bits and pieces ,I just don’t read them anymore unless it’s interesting to me ,either way my old crap eyes turn to mush on the iPhone Cos my glasses are never near by ,and don’t need the brain drain ,confrontation or pushing my own barrow is not what I strive for ,not who I am and would rather avoid it ,life is short and sometimes shorter than expected

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Quoting 'boobsandbusted' My apology’s about the colour and font thing ,I obviously hadn’t noticed ,and made a mistake basing that in older posts ,If I see anyone with mega word bits and pieces ,I just don’t read them anymore unless it’s interesting to me ,either way my old crap eyes turn to mush on the iPhone Cos my glasses are never near by ,and don’t need the brain drain ,confrontation or pushing my own barrow is not what I strive for ,not who I am and would rather avoid it ,life is short and sometimes shorter than expected No worries, I mean, look how old you are! Peachy

  • MrKentia

    MrKentia

    5 years ago

    Thank you koko ! I like when it's fair so berry happy to join the train like everyone! Tchou tchou

  • Kokoflamingo

    Kokoflamingo

    5 years ago

    Departs from platform 69

  • ruby_blossum

    ruby_blossum

    5 years ago

    .......seems my en-suite has no loo paper.

  • 0z_boy

    0z_boy

    5 years ago

    I dont know the number but dont stop you could be on a roll :p

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I'm home

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    5 years ago

    if I'm going to be back on a more permanent basis, just yet. Haven't been on since around last August, methinks, as at the time the Forums were becoming soooo banal (as mentioned by a few others), and looks like things haven't changed that much in the interim. Mainly have been popping in to check how the newby situation has been going on, and nothing really has changed there either. New profiles are almost always "Not Available". Scroll through to some that actually are, noticing that the last activity has been today/ yesterday/ this week - and you know that they won't be returning. Leaves you with the usual 'regulars', who aren't really interested in meeting up anyway - don't know why they stay. I like to see how the people I've become friendly with are getting along. Don't think I will be contributing to the Forums as regularly as I have in the past (some of you I know will be happy with that). Just isn't the interesting variety as there was before. The mods do have something to answer for in that regard, with an inability to be consistent. Apart from that, I'll just see which way the wind blows and what directions it takes me. Tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    I could have said most of what you already said, but you did.I'm here because i like to keep in touch, I'll probably bail if/when my stalker creeps me out.

  • Tall74nHard9

    Tall74nHard9

    5 years ago

    Being in the same age range, I believe that you would be experiencing very similar issues. Shame that so many can be so blind. BTW, where can I pick up a stalker …? Tall

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard'where can I pick up a stalker …? Tall They know I don't want to have anything to do with them but still take little to no notice, that's wilful ignorance in my view, creepy.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Ive been a forum poster/lurker on and off for 13 years now. Im easily forgettable as I tend not to get involved with political drama. Ive seen a massive difference in the forums since the start of my time here. From sexual posts and Please advise to Trolls to negativity because one doesn't agree with another. However, in the same tone Face book is the same. It began as a reconnect with old friends and keeping connected to a way of Trolling and negativity and "look at me" posts. For the most part moderators are in a difficult position. Protecting RHP from litigation and maintaining a sensible.....lol....coherent communication tool. Do I think they over react? Possibly, but posts are subjective and people read into them what they want. There is no way that you will get 100% of the members here agreeing. We are all human. Do I think some posters over react? Yes. Again, its part of being human. Many people hide behind keyboards as its safer. Doesn't make it right but it is now a way of life and someone has to moderate. For the most part I thank the moderators for doing this as I wouldn't. They are damned if they do and damned if they don't. But while they decide I like a few popcorn moments. (And yes I have been a premium member previously before the "Guest comments arrive"

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Quoting 'jennifer102' Ive been a forum poster/lurker on and off for 13 years now. Im easily forgettable as I tend not to get involved with political drama. Ive seen a massive difference in the forums since the start of my time here. From sexual posts and Please advise to Trolls to negativity because one doesn't agree with another. However, in the same tone Face book is the same. It began as a reconnect with old friends and keeping connected to a way of Trolling and negativity and "look at me" posts. For the most part moderators are in a difficult position. Protecting RHP from litigation and maintaining a sensible.....lol....coherent communication tool. Do I think they over react? Possibly, but posts are subjective and people read into them what they want. There is no way that you will get 100% of the members here agreeing. We are all human. Do I think some posters over react? Yes. Again, its part of being human. Many people hide behind keyboards as its safer. Doesn't make it right but it is now a way of life and someone has to moderate. For the most part I thank the moderators for doing this as I wouldn't. They are damned if they do and damned if they don't. But while they decide I like a few popcorn moments. (And yes I have been a premium member previously before the "Guest comments arrive" Your profile joined in the year after me and in your earliest posts, posted on a thread of mine in SWB (Secret Women's Business) that confused the fuck out of me. Luckily there was no litigation involved! Peachy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    5 years ago

    Isn't this where The Hotel California used to be?