RHP

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How Long Do You Need? And How?

August 04 2014

I've been in a bit of a quandary. I've mentioned more than once, that I need to like a lady, and have a 'connection' of some kind, probably I'd refer to it as emotional, before I am comfortable being intimate. I don't know why. It may be a 'security thing'... Someone who is your friend and with whom you share more than just 'sexual attraction' is far more likely to be understanding. Not that I need understanding. It's possibly a 'just in case' sort of thing. Anyway, my question to the ladies (but men also feel free to comment)... How long and in what manner do you usually get to know someone before you get to the point of being comfortable jumping into bed? Is it a "Meeting over coffee or lunch... Yes we like each other, off to bed..." Or is it more of a 'slow dance'... A few meetings and maybe dinner? Or maybe something I would tend to prefer... After chatting online or by phone for a while, A FULL weekend together, where you spend time with each other, enjoy each other's company, do the things you both like, but there's no intimacy until both are ready? Obviously, there would need to be a level of trust with the lady knowing that I am the perfect Gentleman and won't jump her in the middle of the night... LOL. But that IS who I am...

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    to invite somebody and when I do 80% of the time I will have sex.....because I had the talks and when the person didnt lie on his photos and we meet what is there so different meeting in person or talking on the phone or chatting on line. However to meet someone in Person can take weeks for me. I have not set my mind to, this could be a potential partner I just set my mind to this could be a potential lover, no more. I am not very disapointed when it doesnt happen because we cant force nothing, but when it happens I think both parties are happy.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    About 6 years :p - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You, dear man... .wear yr heart on yr sleeve.. I applaud this, and hope u meet a kind, loving and emotionally open woman...Few men on this site, or in real life, r willing to 'sacrifice' their precious weekend in order to chat, laugh and, share intimacies with a possible FWB.... We also like to get to know someone's true personality and spirit, before sex... A good book or DVD is preferable to fucking, just cause u feel u should.... Truly wishing u the very best in life, love and sweet seduction....The woman who does eventually capture yr big heart, will be a v lucky woman indeed...xxx - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I am easy, I will admit it. Only to those who I am attracted too though. I shoot myself in the foot when it comes to a relationship because I am too horny. I insist on meeting asap because I get sick of the bullshit dribble that comes with the online personas, I want to meet a person, not a character.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    My current man and I went on one date, slept in separate rooms, had two lunches over the consecutive days then slept together on the 4th day, wasn't planned, just happened.... I don't think there is a plan when it comes to this stuff, you just know - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'kittykatlynn' My current man and I went on one date, slept in separate rooms, had two lunches over the consecutive days then slept together on the 4th day, wasn't planned, just happened.... I don't think there is a plan when it comes to this stuff, you just know - Posted from rhpmobile That's what I was hoping someone would say. It doesn't have to be planned (although I suppose if it's the way one prefers it, it has to be suggested, at least?). Thanks... That's what I feel is more suited to my (as quoted..."Heart on my sleeve")...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'SpanglishFun' You, dear man... .wear yr heart on yr sleeve.. I applaud this, and hope u meet a kind, loving and emotionally open woman...Few men on this site, or in real life, r willing to 'sacrifice' their precious weekend in order to chat, laugh and, share intimacies with a possible FWB.... We also like to get to know someone's true personality and spirit, before sex... A good book or DVD is preferable to fucking, just cause u feel u should.... Truly wishing u the very best in life, love and sweet seduction....The woman who does eventually capture yr big heart, will be a v lucky woman indeed...xxx Thanks very much for the kind words and your personal thoughts... I think one phrase you used rings true... "just cause u feel u should.... ". It should always be a 'want to' thing and I'd hate to think anyone does because they feel they should...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quote ". I don't think there is a plan when it comes to this stuff, you just know.... I'm with you on this one.. Good stuff just happens ..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    About as long as it takes to remove my pants.. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    ...is a piece of string

  • Circe

    Circe

    10 years ago

    On the alignment of the planets and the stars, the personalities involved and the opportunities that present themselves... My schedule can be a bitch ... Sometimes a long time- several dates, sometimes very quickly- chatting online for ages then one glass of wine and straight to bed (we'd been chatting online for a year!!)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I do like to text for a bit, most find that annoying but that's what i do. I can normally tell from a 10 minute or so text conversation if it's going to go further. I do prefer to have a connection but am also happy to just go for it if im attracted to the person

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Twice it's length from the middle ;) - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You will probably find there are a few guys in here that are the same as you.I am like you, normally for me it would take a month or two, but its really all depends on the person you are with if the connection is good it could be faster. life is like a box of chocolate you just don't know what's in side.

  • 6exxy

    6exxy

    10 years ago

    I don't think there is a time frame and best when both hearts feel it. When two souls catch fire and dance in the dark, beautiful passion happens. There is nothing more satisfying than two souls merrily dancing together 💞🔥.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Hi Meagain7, I like to meet first maybe a coffee or a drink and take it from there. I'm not into constant messages or texts, I like to meet in person. Sometimes I meet someone and its a I'm not going there. End of story. Other times its mm lets meet for dinner and see where it takes us. As for a weekend away, I have just come back from one, and it was an eye opener, have had dinner with this gentleman several times and seemed to hit it off. Very different going away for a weekend, he was pompous, bombastic, patronising and started chatting up another lady on the Saturday night in front of me. Won't be seeing him again.