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How Many Times A Week For Couples???

October 08 2015

I heard on the radio (in Sydney at the moment, think it was MixFM) that a survey had been taken (no details given about number or demographic of participants). They said the survey quoted the AVERAGE time a Married or Permanent Australian couple, living together, made love was ONCE a week. I just can't imagine that there are so many either 'dissatisfied, unhappy, sexually inactive' couples anywhere! OK, men do slow down as they get older. Unfortunately, more often than not, women tend to 'come into their own', sexually in their 40's and onwards, when our testosterone has been falling since 25 (at an alarming rate... Not sure of the figures but at 50 it's estimated that most men produce roughly half what they had at 20...). This has always had me perplexed, to have one sex doing the opposite of the other... But who am I to question the 'Grand Plan'?). Obviously, all here (or the vast majority), are quite sexually active, or want to be. Of those who are Married or Permanent Couples, if you are at least a few weeks on your own, with no extra marital influence, WHAT would be your average per week. Obviously, age will be a factor that could well show differences. Also length of time together etc... Be honest. We don't judge Here.... Remember?

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RHP User

9 years ago

I'm single but hope to find someone as horny as me, you know, to share the sexiness, but if I were part of a couple, it would be nonstop, full on, full throttle, I'd probably kill the poor guy haha I am seriously horny, aroused, all the time, it's great, I love it, but I have needs and I'd be in their pants every opportunity. Normal tasks like doing the dishes or cooking dinner would be interrupted let's say lol I thought I'd found that person, and I know it'll be nigh on impossible to find another, someone who's like me, because you're right, testosterone drops, for a lot of older men, not all though I've discovered And if anyone thinks I'm making this up, guys who know me, know it's the truth, they know what I'm like, there is no off switch. I get more aroused after sex, so want more. I'd be waking my partner up playing with him in the night, I barely sleep. And before anyone suggests I need help, I'm quite happy with my life, thank you very much

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RHP User

9 years ago

While many couples might be having sex at least daily, I know of others that basically don't at all anymore, skewing the average quite a bit. Often they would have already gone seperate ways if not for their kids. - Posted from rhpmobile

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DynamicCouple36

9 years ago

We have been married for 18 years now, and have two young children. MrsD was a virgin when we met. Libido & sexual "urges" change over the years. Having kids certainly changed things as looking after them was often stressful and exhausting, leaving us too fatigued and stressed out to be in the mood for sex. When we first met, we had sex every day, sometimes even two to three times a day. Then the kids came along, followed by some major external, life changing / life threatening situations, with resultant weight gain (30 kg for her and 25 kg for him) . Our sex lives hit an all time low of once a week at the most. Almost 3 years ago we made some changes. Lost 30 & 25 kg each and are back to our weight we were before we got married. The kids are now young teenagers and more independent, our lives in our new country a lot less stressful and as a result of our weight loss and better health & personal circumstances, our libido is healthy again and so sex on Mon, Wed, Fri, Sat & Sunday is our preferred schedule :) What we can say is that the brain is the most important sex organ and that libido and sexual arousal are tied closely to ones imagination and ability to fantasise. If one is tired and stressed out this will impact on ones wants and needs. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

No judgement ... but any couple who has sex once a week or less is 'unimaginable' and "'dissatisfied, unhappy [and] sexually inactive" *cough* Sorry Muso, couldn't help myself. But I am just not sure you'll get a large range of answers using such loaded words. Pepper

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RHP User

9 years ago

Would depend on the quality of the relationship for sure. When I was married or attached and was happy I had it mostly morning and night 7 days a week. When I was unhappy in the marriage the last 3 years of it once a year. Now single can go months without. I think your right though once you hit your 40's the libido does def go to another level of higher sex drive.

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RHP User

9 years ago

The wife and I love each other very much, but we had sex this week for only the second time this year (there are reasons for this). She lets me find sexual partners on RHP but even that can be few and far between.

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RHP User

9 years ago

we do it at least 7 times a week more if we get the chance as have very a busy life. husband always wants more and we have been together almost 25 years

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RHP User

9 years ago

You nothing but a hot sexy , horny , randy , unsatible , wet pussied hornbag... Wheres the hose ? lol... PS. BUT ' your'e such a lovable lil hotty ..

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RHP User

9 years ago

It was once a month at best. And even then, it was just because I felt obligated. I rarely came as my head just wasn't in it. But I was in the throes of depression and very frikken unhappy with our relationship. Hence why I left, just wish I'd done it much sooner.

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RHP User

9 years ago

Quoting 'PepperRose' No judgement ... but any couple who has sex once a week or less is 'unimaginable' and "'dissatisfied, unhappy [and] sexually inactive" *cough* Sorry Muso, couldn't help myself. But I am just not sure you'll get a large range of answers using such loaded words. Pepper Your perfectly right Pepper... I am sorry, I should have worded that very differently and not assumed. I know there are many different reasons, that aren't due to any of the things that I quoted... My apologies too all and any. Perhaps I should qualify the question by saying I meant happily together and healthy. My true purpose was simply to get an idea of what the 'normal' (if there is such a thing) average might be for those who are happy, healthy and whose relationship is strong and satisfying... Knowing we're all different, personally, age wise, with job stress levels, activity and time constrictions etc, I wondered, given all these aspects, what the impact and or result on sexual activity may be for some. Thanks for pointing out my assumption, which when read, is not a very good one...

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hotdelights

9 years ago

We are sexually happy. We are fucking average 5 times a week very senstive un cut cock that blows early. - Posted from rhpmobile

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RHP User

9 years ago

We love it! We may not do it everyday, but most days and then it's like a doctor asking; Doctor: "how much often do you drink" (alcohol per week?!) Answer: About " one or two times a week" Clever Doctor: "How many glasses, or bottle (s) does that equate to"? Answer: Erm... "Over one bottle in one sittingl" Doctor: "Binge drinker". We love to be intimate and indulge in our own debauch fun with each other. There is only every now and again, when the pressures of life and careers, kids just get in the way, but we are "binge" fuckers and we make up for it! We have been together for many, many years abd everything still turns us on about each other - cooking, good conversation, drinking, smoking, laughing and just enjoying each other... We have the chemistry that we wont let the little things get in our way of chemistry and what we have :) Okay, to answer the question, it's usually at least 9 - 10 times a week on a slow week. Mrs Ex

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RHP User

9 years ago

Quoting 'Jay_me' You nothing but a hot sexy , horny , randy , unsatible , wet pussied hornbag... Wheres the hose ? lol... PS. BUT ' your'e such a lovable lil hotty .. OMG thank you, been out all day and just jumped in here to have a look, and saw this lol made my day

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RHP User

9 years ago

Quoting 'unicorn99' It was once a month at best. And even then, it was just because I felt obligated. I rarely came as my head just wasn't in it. But I was in the throes of depression and very frikken unhappy with our relationship. Hence why I left, just wish I'd done it much sooner. You're only 36, I wish I was that age again, you have so much time ahead of you to enjoy this. Thing with me is I feel like I'm on borrowed time, how much longer will I be able to attract the guys that I'm attracted to? That doesn't stop me going for broke lol but oh to be 36 again, you lucky thang

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Missb4u

9 years ago

I'm beginning to think I will never find a fwb, lover, partner whatever you want to call it that is as sexual as me. I honestly do not believe that men are that interested in sex. My ideal is to have sex every chance I can and when that time culminates all in one weekend a fortnight I would love to have a weekend full of sex and food and hanging out.

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RHP User

9 years ago

We average between 14 and 20 times a week for the 10 years we have been together which adds up to a lot of mutual orgasms and still going strong

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lovman8

9 years ago

and its good but we have mismatched libidos and I'd ideally like it daily or more. Hence I'm on rhp to fill the gap, mainly by using it for wanking inspiration, sad old bugger that I am.

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Hottie1

9 years ago

I'm a little perplexed that you equate dissatisfaction and unhappiness with sexual activity. I am highly sexual ( fucking horny all the time) though I may actually have penetration or sex possible once or twice a fortnight but I am extremely happy and satisfied. I have a husband, lover and playmates and just being able to get their dicks/fingers/mouths around to be fucked is quite a mean feat ! Yet I am a highly satisfied and happy women because my happiness depends on intimacy and my relationships with them, and not the act of fucking. I have had occasions were I've been inundated with sex(penetration) and have been unsatisfied, so no, one doesn't equal the other for me. Just saying, Mary xx

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RHP User

9 years ago

in a relationship for 6 months, but because of distance, schedules etc we only managed to have full penetrative sex on a handful of occasions (other quieter fooling around at her house as she still lived at home), but during the time we were sexual we were very happy. It's ironic that I've since had sex more regularly but mostly at parties, only now getting into double figures for one-on-ones :) I agree with Mary that I don't think that how often a couple has sex is necessarily an indication of the amount of happiness or satisfaction with their lives. You also have to take into account the type and duration of the sex involved. One quickie a day might be less sex than a marathon once or twice a week. Both can be used to work around busy lives. Even when my partner wasn't present (but still together), masturbation was more satisfying as I had someone and memories to fantasise about (as opposed to porn etc), or after suggestive talks on the phone etc. So I think solo masturbation (however frequent) while as a couple could technically be considered part of a couple's sex lives, as well as sex together. Obviously not represented in the statistics you were looking for, but may be a factor in a couple's happiness or sexual satisfaction. This might be greater where couples spend significant time/s away from each other. If they webcam'ed each other, what would that count as? If a couple is occasionally or regularly apart (FIFO, transport, defence etc), they may have sex several times a day while together, and then spend periods apart, bringing back the average sex to say, once a week? I also wonder if the frequency of sex of a couple is related to the frequency of masturbation while they were single. Also, for those having sex very frequently (more than once a day), if keeping the variety up is any bigger issue for them over the longer term.

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RHP User

9 years ago

Quoting 'ag4mg92' I'm a little perplexed that you equate dissatisfaction and unhappiness with sexual activity. I am highly sexual ( fucking horny all the time) though I may actually have penetration or sex possible once or twice a fortnight but I am extremely happy and satisfied. I have a husband, lover and playmates and just being able to get their dicks/fingers/mouths around to be fucked is quite a mean feat ! Yet I am a highly satisfied and happy women because my happiness depends on intimacy and my relationships with them, and not the act of fucking. I have had occasions were I've been inundated with sex(penetration) and have been unsatisfied, so no, one doesn't equal the other for me. Just saying, Mary xx Mary and countrytouch, You are right... I did jump to a conclusion... I suppose it's because I personally equate it with my own experience with my first wife. From the age of 18 till 29, she was very unwilling to have sex (in any form), while these are some of a man's prime years, as far as sexual activity and ability to 'oblige' whenever your partner is willing. I do apologise for the assumption... A case of the pen in gear before the brain is engaged...

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