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How active are you on here??
December 05 2013
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
It happens..... I respect those women who use their one message per week and choose me as recipient. The site is (allegedly) about connections and when it's a buyers market, so to speak, women can be more proactive to help filter out the chaff
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RHP User
11 years ago
I tend to make contact for a little while then have a break from it..At the same time I know if I don't write a message good enough it wont be a positive reply..But I can get lazy with it.. I think it may well be easier to just do a video message for people to get a better feel , rather than the written word..
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RHP User
11 years ago
do I send a message or flirt, same as OP I answer the few messages I receive usually. There are very few profiles on here in my area sooo Im just content reading the forums.
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RHP User
11 years ago
At the risk of painting myself in a pretty fucked in the head light, I don't send messages unless there's a purpose, for example a nice post on the forums, and let's face it, that's a short lived conversation that goes nowhere. I never know what to say without feeling like I'm coming on too strong, too desperate, too geeky, not sexy enough, too dumbarse....you get the picture I'm sure. Do I receive messages?? Nahh, unless it's a polite thank you normally. Do I actively meet?? Yes given the opportunity that works for both of our availabilities. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are strange fruit... Some sweet, some just (a) little tart 😜, some are ripe and ready, some need to sit on the shelf because they are not yet ready to eat... But they are all wonderful 😍 Most of the women I communicate with have either wanted to smother me with kisses for something I've said 💘 ... Or they just want to smother me... 👀😄😄😄 My past was full of reactive women... I prefer my future... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it
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RHP User
11 years ago
Zero activity.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm fairly quiet here on this site these days. Don't send much out in the way of messages or flirts, and I have a minimalist profile that appears to be working exceptionally well. Previously, my profile attracted so much attention I didn't know what to do! At one stage, I received two messages and a flirt all within a 6 month period - where on earth was I supposed to find the time to respond? CheersJAB
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RHP User
11 years ago
Like you Awesome (and most other women on here I suspect) I've rarely done searches for profiles. The occasions that I have simply confirmed the, ah, slim pickings in this part of the world. When I was paid up I occasionally messaged a guy if he caught my attention on the forums, and had an interesting profile. But when there's little chance of meeting in person it does lessen my motivation....given the choice between endless messaging and meeting in person I would always choose the latter.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've not actively searched for people in my area. I have sent first messages to a number of men who have caught my attention through the forums, none of which are local. Most of the men I've actually met from here have been guys I messaged first after I've noticed their comments in the forums. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
... purely because my priorities are elsewhere at present which is clearly stated in my profile. It's a rare thing that I come across someone that intrigues and captivates me on some level, therefore I feel compelled to initiate contact on occasion when I do.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm just wondering if I'd be having a better time or be hearing from guys that I'm more interested in if I got a bit more proactive and started choosing them???? Thoughts?? Stir-it, can't you just say... I like your profile, I'd like to know more about you and see if we'd be fabulously compatable. I'm blah blah... Get back to me if you'd like to shag...😎
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well Awesome one, now that your profile is unlocked, perhaps it will get a bit busier for you here :-) I have to admit to the forums having a negative impact on my sex life. I check them at least 3x/day, and never really do any searches. I may message the odd person who checks out my profile or sends me a message. They are rarely local, but I enjoy chatting nonetheless. I would recommend you being proactive. That way you get to do the selecting, rather than just choose from those who are selecting you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you're not happy with the apples at your greengrocer (inbox) then go and buy from the orchard... When a woman shows interest and contacts me... I'm interested immediately because I know that she is... And is there anything nicer than having someone's full attention...? ... Ok maybe two peoples full attention... 😄😄😎 So my advice to the women of rhp who are feeling flat about the online experience... Get on the front foot and use your free message each week... And awesome, may I use those tips to lurk...? Or have you handed him the copyright ? 😄 Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
The thing is....I'm ridiculously stupid. I know this and am quite aware of it. I think it was mentioned before on another thread actually and it's one very few times I've actually disagreed with DG....I know right ?? Shock!! But at the risk of sounding like a complete loser, we've all seen the threads where the ladies have given the tips and the advice on messaging and so far those tips are but are not limited to:- 1. Make it obvious that you've read their profile. 2. Show the YOU. 3. Let's shag messages need a paddlin' 4. Suggesting too early to meet is considered a bad idea as it's a sign of a wham bam thank you ma'am with no "mutual benefits" 5. Not suggesting a meet soon enough gives the opinion "he's not into me" or "he's just not serious about wanting to meet" 6. Don't reveal too much about yourself too soon to create intrigue. Ok...this just does my head in as it's fine line between spewing out a whole heap of pointless shit that both parties don't really care about. 7. Be clear about your intentions and what you bring to the table to offer....which let's face it would contravene a few former tips. I'm sure I could list more but I think these are good starters. I've also said in the past that RHP is no different to the real world, and I am still to this belief as messages are simply just conversation in the written. This brings us to the face to face scenario I'm sure someone will mention and to me, it's no different, except, at least with a profile there are some things listed that give me indicators as to what sort of person they are. I also don't believe that the guys are solely alone in this. For the girls they have things just as hard, as replying to some of the messages they DO receive must be completely mind numbing. A message that simply says "hi" well, let's face it, that's doomed as the only reply really is "hi." Then how are you? Then it just spirals to the abyss of boring. I understand that constant escalation is the key, but even some of the messages that are directly concerned with an interaction in the forums or chat have an expiry date if that constant escalation is not being practiced by BOTH parties, with clear indicators. And by this I mean the written form is so inherently hard to judge tone, demeanour, body language, etc through essentially small talk conversation starters and to me a lot of genuine profiles lack any real leverage. But dare suggest a meet too soon and it will be game over, irrespective of which sex initiated the suggestion. It would be easy to argue that all this shows is a distinct lack of conversation aptitude and an abysmal level of confidence. However, I disagree. Whilst I can only speak on my behalf, but by time someone has actually piqued my interest conversationally to desire meeting, the relegation to the friend zone has already occurred. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
My brain went faster than my fingers on that one so I hope you can all the necessary gaps :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I regularly searched and sent messages to women that interested me, with next to zero response. So I found myself logging on less regularly. Then I found the forums and everything changed. As I became more active on the forums, I was being contacted by lovely ladies. Most of these have become friends, some a little more than friends. Until recently, I haven't been contacting anyone new unless there was something said in the forums that caught my eye. I even sent Meeka's Strapon a message the other day. I must be bored.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Was there a reply? Intreaged!
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RHP User
11 years ago
It was lovely to meet you too. Lets catch up next time you're in town?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Typical no response. Why do I bother with membership..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Oh, I rarely log into that account. But hey I am sure the Strapon is willing to meet you. 😈
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sounds like a fear of failure?? Just use the template above. Ask a few questions... Just like at a party... Give a little of yourself... I've met you, you're a nice guy, you know how to strike up a conversation... Just Do It!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm pretty new to this but getting into a rhythm now. I've spent a bit of time testing stuff with my profile and the messages I send. Great old song by Racey pretty much sums up the situation. Some like to talk dirty, and nothing more. Others want endless d@Ms. Others seem keen to meet, nailing down the intimate details and then go quiet. Then some are serious, send a few messages and the meeting happens. I like to write and share ideas, so I actually enjoy all the variations. The problem is to find the time to get back to people. The good thing is that everyone seems as busy as I am and are very forgiving when the messages are sporadic. I'm reducing my activity but increasing my successful activity.
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RHP User
11 years ago
So many messages so little time. I think it might be time to move from Bumberry and go play in the big smoke.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meeka's Strapon must have been lurking. I'm not bored any more, just scared.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lurk. You're an interesting bloke who can talk the leg off a chair... In an interesting and socially fun way 👍 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Awesome71' Funlover Was there a reply? Intreaged! Ooh, Funlover likes it like that! Know what I mean.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Did you message meekas strapon looking for your inner gay dude, the one that all the chicks like hanging out with ? 😜 Apologies for my poor performance in going off early in my previous post... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it... How's that for a second effort ? 😎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was actually aiming for generic.....I failed upon reflection lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not very
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RHP User
11 years ago
I make sure people can see I have viewed their profile and go searching and look at profiles I am interested in......they then see that I have viewed them and if they are interested they will make a move That way I don't risk being rejected!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Lol that method is somewhat riddled with flaws.... When people look at my profile I just think meh....if they were that interested they'd have sent a flirt or message. OR..... They're just perving :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not looking to meet new people at the moment and, since joining 15 months ago, I have rarely used my one free message per week. Most of the time I just use it to send to my favourite person...no, not Bob! ;) (inside joke) but I do reply to all messages sent my way. I get some interesting offers lately which I had to sadly decline, but I do appreciate them taking the time to view my profile and messaging me. I'm logged on from my phone most of the day so it seems like I'm always online when I'm actually not :P I enjoy reading the forums and have picked up some valuable information, thanks to the forumites :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not quite Tough Mudder active... prefer the face to face than the written chase. (Can't wait till the next meet and greet). And JayJay... with that Miss Sexyclaus outfit? Rejection what...huh!?!?!?? SG
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RHP User
11 years ago
I came, I seen, I looked deeper but now I just read :)) Timing never seems right but fuk it's a crack up of a read at times :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've never had much success messaging and there aren't many people in my area either. I like to go on cam sometimes when a lady wants to watch and enjoy phone sex or texting. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
The strap on is giving me schtick for my bad spelling!! Bahahaha!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Awesome71' The strap on is giving me schtick for my bad spelling!! Bahahaha! Oh but I schtick so good! Come on baby, let me show you a good time. I am fit and healthy and 9 RHP inches long and I can go ALLLLLLL night. Don't listen to those other guys they are all liars, their stamina is nothing compared to mine.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'JayJay_66' I make sure people can see I have viewed their profile and go searching and look at profiles I am interested in......they then see that I have viewed them and if they are interested they will make a move That way I don't risk being rejected!!! I see. Very very interesting. I have always wanted to bonk Mrs Claus on a sling.......... mmmmm.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Fear of failure is a factor and I think people would be lying if they it wasn't. But I don't believe it to be the only factor. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
If I see a profile I like, I'll view it a few times and if they view me then I'll message. Something else I look for is how often they log on... If someone isn't logging on daily then they are less likely to be wanting fresh meat. I'd presume that they are either jaded or happy with what they already have... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I go through phases depends how busy work is and how much free time i have. More active when i have some free time and actually interested in meeting someone otherwise happy to just browse around and of course read the forums :) But i have messaged guys i have been interested in often in the free time periods, i have no problems doing it and yes facing the rejection is hard at times, but hey at least you know and can move on ....whats the famous word? Next lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
On the road lurk, I gunna drag you out of your truck and give you a hug 🚚 🎃 Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I'm with Kale in that I only approach the "odd male" on here...and yes boys you're all forumites and gorgeous in your own ways (Blushes at the admission). I will contact the "odd couples" here too if I like a post or a picture AND there has only been two people I've initiated "stalker-like" intensity toward and one I brought here so he doesn't count lol. The other I hope to meet someday but he is in WA. No Cavey it's not you this time....😘 Yes Master Pie, I still think of you....xx
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indulge_you
11 years ago
Quoting 'Awesome71'I've realized that I'm very passive on this site. I rarely search out the profiles of those I might be attracted to. I nearly never send initial flirts or messages. I just trawl through the messages I'm sent and respond to those with whom I connect on some level. Women, have you had success approaching people on this site?? Guys, how often do you get approached by women? How would you feel about it? It is called fishing for a reason otherwise it would be called catching. As a male I search often. I have learnt to have low expectations from this site. If I meet a couple of ladies a year that is all I expect. So far this year I have met 3 ladies a very good year. Sometimes I get flirts from ladies. "send me a message" so i do and surprise no response. I think I have had one message from a lady. Really it doesn't matter what you write I suspect it is your picture is all that matters. If the OP wants more messages. Start a new profile. I often search for members who joined in the last week.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Stalk me... Ohh, You can stalk me, stalk me, anytime... Stalk me... Geez your a trolip indi 😄💋 One day I want to be just like you 😈😄 Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I do use my message occasionally if someone keeps viewing me or they have made a comment in the forums I agree with. I used to search in the past but Tasmania had pretty slim pickings too. Though in saying that, I did meet a totally awesome guy in Tassie who I messgaed after he flirted with me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Since I joined up I haven't searched any profiles or sent the first message/flirt either. Reason being fear of rejection (but then again I only have 1 free message a week, being a guest).I reply all messages and some flirts. However, I seem to enjoy reading up on the forums and posting on here, some of the topics are quite stimulating and I feel more relaxed posting on here compared to making first contact, - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Generally only use this site when bored with nothing better to do. I mostly send at most 5 messages a week and care factor in receiving a reply is almost zero :) have found this site in particular is even more superficial then most and that's saying a lot lol aqua
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Violetincredible
11 years ago
Hi :) I'm very active using searches and sending messages... I actually do that more than I respond- males, females and mixed lol. I love looking at and reading profiles and I know if I've messaged them and they reply- meaning they can't find me repulsive, there is a good chance meeting them might happen! Xxviolet
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Lol love you too ole mate! 😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well to be honest just read though the forms now!!! Have sent msgs and rearly get replied. Have tried all sorts of msgs. Our paid membership is almost over and won't be wasting time renewing it. There are too many fake or profiles that are misleading. Still check out what new people have signed up. But normally just see what's happening in the forums. Great topic tho. Intesting read. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Haven't been on rhp that long. Highly active to start with but that is starting to drop off now. Still search profiles regularly but initiate contact less regularly. Time of year perhaps? We have a list of people to meet, just need to find mutually agreeable times (trying to organise our first rhp member meet for next Saturday). Our first forum post (don't spend that much time in here). Gobsmacked that the ladies (jayjay, morgan, tash) have a fear of rejection! Surely you ladies could have your pick of anybody on here?
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Greidiawl
11 years ago
not very active on this site.. I got sick of the fake profiles that RHP generated (and got found guilt of in a court case) to send winks etc... before that I was more active here but moved to other sites where I am happier to spend my cash after the dishonesty was exposed...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'WildSong' But I do use my message occasionally if someone keeps viewing me or they have made a comment in the forums I agree with. Same!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not very active at searching on here. I normally just reply (or not reply) to messages, but if I am on the prowl, then ill search and send my 1 message for the week. Mostly, just lurk in the forums.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meekas_Strapon' Quoting 'JayJay_66' I make sure people can see I have viewed their profile and go searching and look at profiles I am interested in......they then see that I have viewed them and if they are interested they will make a move That way I don't risk being rejected!!! I see. Very very interesting. I have always wanted to bonk Mrs Claus on a sling.......... mmmmm. Thank you Strappy ;)) Trying to picture you in a Santa outfit atm
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Missb4u
11 years ago
I am a paid member and search for guys all the time. I use the date finder to and send flirts and messages to any that interest me. Seems like a waste of time to me to be on here and not actively looking. But I have to say I only send local usually. Cause I want to meet and have sex so long distance, even though they interest me (like many in the forums) I don't send cause that would be frustrating to me...lol.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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On_Safari
11 years ago
And something to fill it!!! Mwoohahahaha...damn I should get my xmas oic up too maybe Meeka's Strappy'll like me too 😈 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E' And something to fill it!!! Mwoohahahaha...damn I should get my xmas oic up too maybe Meeka's Strappy'll like me too 😈 - Posted from rhpmobile Best offer I've had lately!! MMM actually, only offer
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On_Safari
11 years ago
It's ok.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sometimes I'll have a look around at what's out there. If I'm interested, I'll send a flirt, if really interested I'll use my one message a week. Most of the time I just lurk around the forums and answer messages I receive.
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RHP User
11 years ago
we have been here a couple of years now , been and still is fun . we are just cruising and have not chased or been chased to any greatextent . just waiting for some sort of connection , women are the hardest to get anything from but we must not intrigue them enough for them to look a little further .still its all just for fun sweatyansweet
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him_and_me
11 years ago
Like you say Sir Lurk, I tend to think that if someone has viewed our profile but not got in touch that they are probably not interested. Unless... I guess they come back a few times. Then they're either interested or having a laugh at our photos! We look at some profiles, send some messages (though not as many now that we've met some nice local people) and I'm in the forums pretty regularly checking up on my favourite posters. I've sent messages to a few people based on things they've posted in forums, sometimes to say I agree or I like their point of view... Mostly those people aren't local and we may never meet, but I live in hope. x Me
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RHP User
11 years ago
We have found as a general rule that the girls we have met in 'real life' (parties etc..) are far active, and the ones online prefer the computer screen... Of course there is always exceptions to rules, just what we have normally found.
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