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How are Swingers and Lifestylers dealing with ‘The New Normal’ of COVID19?

May 08 2020

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We thought this could be a good topic of conversation on the forums, we just wrote this and we're curious how fellow Aussies feel about it. What will the future hold for swingers, events, dates, and the lifestyle in general is absolutely on the forefront of many people’s minds right now. It is being discussed on social media, blogs, tweets, in forums, in private communities. There is no doubt that COVID-19 presents challenges for us all in 2020 and beyond.How are swingers dealing with the lifestyle right now?Some swingers have remarked that their sex life is similar (some even reporting a higher sex drive) as it was pre-covid (PC) whilst others have noticed a significant drop in their sexual drive.We’ve certainly noticed a downward trend of engagement of sexual interaction at all levels; podcast stats are down globally, more so for sex positive podcasts, we’re receiving fewer messages on dating websites around the world and even fewer messages from our lifestyle friends than pre-covid.Media consumption is changing — Spotify’s total music streams are globally down by 11.4% last week, say MBW. In Italy, where the effects of the virus has been strongest, music streaming is down by 33% since Feb 7thMost podcasts are seeing drops in consumption of about 20% People have other things on their mind, they’re thinking about their home life, their jobs, health concerns, financial issues and more, it is no surprise that the libido has taken a hit (us included). Others are excited to get back into the swing of things and are gagging for the boarders to open so they can hang out with friends or visit their favourite clubs.We were recently talking with fellow content creators about the challenges we will face as a community moving forward and they asked “what will be different?”What are some of the things concerning swingers about the future?We have received countless emails, DM’s on social media and remarks on our podcast website about the lifestyle. Here’s the common threads of concerns;Anger that this has impacted their holidays, swingcations and opportunities for playStrict regulations on social gatherings with rules such as keeping parties small, door checks, health declarations and group playrooms bannedPeople fear the health risks involved and are seeking ways to be safer; people are talking about having health conversations that are broader than just the last STi checkBusiness’s (clubs, events, and private parties) will be fewer as the quality organizers cease operations and make way for a ‘grittier’ version due to necessity.Swinging will never be the same againSo how do we move forward when the lifestyle is currently so fundamentally changed for us all. Will things go back to normal?There is no doubt that the road will be long and rough for the lifestyle, whilst some couples might jump back in the waters, others may take a more delicate approach. The lifestyle industry will be affected in the same way that other entertainment venues / holidays and cruises are impacted.~ Texas Concerned SwingerSwingers are already taking risks with STi’s, this is just another test people will be taking if COVID is here to stay, there will be no change to the lifestylePhysical distancing is not exactly a part of the swinging mantra and many clubs and parties aren’t equipped at managing this new normal.With certain areas of the world opening its boarders and clubs/events open their doors to patrons it is hard to say how the impact will be to our way of lifestyle. For some perhaps there will be no changes at all, for others, this might be a new question to add into your sexual health discussions before play.Our Predictions for the future of SwingingFor swingers who do not tend to frequent the lifestyle clubs, resorts or hotel takeovers might not be as impacted as those that thrive on this kind of environment.I personally love getting out and meeting groups of other lifestyle people, I thrive on the environment and being able to connect and meet multiple people in one night / weekend (thus a greater chance of connecting with that likeminded couple or person). I’ve had 3 events already cancelled for 2020 including personal holidays I’ve been waiting 12 months to take, I’m eager to get out and meet with people.Some people might be more likely to stick to double dating or continue to holiday / play with their inner circle of close swinger friends.Resorts like Desire will get an initial influx of overbookings once they open their doors again especially the smaller property like Desire Pearl / RMThere will be an increase of travel notifications and hot dates on lifestyle websites for the next 3 months as people favour smaller meetingsPeople will be eager to get out and enjoy the lifestyle as soon as they feel comfortable.Conversations around travel and health will be as normal as STi discussionsInformal Meet and Greets will get a good gathering of people and end up with waiting listsEvent owners will need to look at insurance and adding policies to their websites, ticket terms etcHouse parties and smaller parties will be favoured over larger events for a whileA swinger friend of ours predicted this: As more people try out the lifestyle and have a positive experience, regardless if they decide to continue or not, they will have a better glimpse of what the lifestyle is about. People will learn it’s not a sex-filled free for all (unless they’re into that). Rather, they will see empowered women, observe a supportive environment no matter the body type, and will appreciate the openness with how everyone interacts just to name a few attributes. Hopefully, some will discover just how positive, caring, and respectful the people in the community are and change their view about the lifestyle. In time, swinging can become more mainstream and accepted.~ Mr WhoKnowsHow do you think the lifestyle will change, adapt or be different (if at all?)We would love to hear your thoughts. Drop your comments belowNote: we understand that the COVID situation is an emotional topic for many of us right now, we ask that you please be considerate when responding to this post. Whilst our views might differ from yours, we do value your input and respect your opinions.

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The_Antichrist

5 years ago

I didnt read all of this and for that i apologise in advance if what im about to say if its totally irrelevant ... But... Covid-19 is an entirely a gamechanger for everyone...not just swingers.... I’m a tad confused about why its such sn importsnt issue for swingers as any inclusion of 3rd party’s is just an added option to ones sex life...it really shouldnt be considered the centrepiece of ones existence in my view.... But... I am a weird cunt ...

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Phoenix_Rising

5 years ago

That was really long, it’d helpful if you broke it up into paragraphs for easier reading, I got halfway through and lost my spot then couldn’t be bothered finding it again in the mass of words. (Granted I’m a lazy cow and am never that invested in long stories) I agree with most of what I read though and found that actually you were answering your own questions as you went, giving similar answers to what you’d most likely hear from a lot of people here. For me personally nothing has or will change much, I exercise the same level caution I always did and I’m still more scared of things like herpes than Covid when it comes to having sex with strangers or going to a club. Maybe people will just have to talk to their casual fucks for a minimum of two weeks to make sure they don’t develop a cough if they’re worried about rona 😂 Ms Phoenix.

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Phoenix_Rising

5 years ago

*be *great, etc...fuck my typing, you know what I mean I hope...lol

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ReyandJean

5 years ago

Nice thoughtful post. It's possible that people are burnt out on e-interaction. That may pick up again as they resume an out of house routine. For us, we'll be taking is easy for a few more months. We're adopting a wait and see approach and will stay away from the larger parties we've enjoyed in the past. We may consider intimate meetings with close friends from the lifestyle. Despite our position, we realize that this virus is just another element in a risky lifestyle and another thing that might kill one, to add to an already long list of possible misfortunes. Like many risks, there's an element of fate, luck, karma involved, even with the best mitigation measures in place.

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sweetnsensual

5 years ago

great analysis!We are doing more Zoom catchups which has been a lot of fun

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FeistyFatty

5 years ago

Dot points please? Way too long😋

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CandDSwing

5 years ago

Hey guys To all those asking for paragraphs & dot points This was formatted as a report / website posting in that way with paragraphs, pictures, bullet points etc Regretfully when approved by RHP the formatting went away So, just so the understanding is there that I’m not a grammar Monster....

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MrPlayful

5 years ago

I didnt get through it all eother. Firstly, not everyone here is into the club scene and as another forumite said somewhat recently, many who have casual sex don’t seem to practice good sexual health (using condoms etc) so why would COVID worry them too much? I think though for the majority, as restrictions ease, this life will return to normal over time. Slowly but surely.

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JohnAnn2227

5 years ago

We have missed being able to go to parties and clubs immensely. We have had Zoom catchups with swinger friends and had sex in front of the camera and vice versa and while it was better than nothing it was a very distant 2nd to pre-covid playing. We have been watching old videos of us playing at parties or with friends and it really makes us want to get back into the lifestyle.We are catching up with friends next weekend for our first play. Before people launch at us, they have been living on their boat for the last 5 weeks and we have been working from home and have not had contact with others. We are going onto their boat for the day and so will be safe.Once there is a vaccine we will feel comfortable going back to clubs and parties.

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MelbCouple4fun

4 years ago

So we are now 4 months since the original post and we all know a little more about COVID. It’s not the killer they sold it as. And smart/sensible people can take steps to minimise risk of getting it. What are thoughts on the restart of parties and get togethers? (Those in Melbourne can feel free to rant and rave .....)

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