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How big is too big?
December 29 2017
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Hottie1
7 years ago
Be yourself gorgeous :) I’m boobs, belly, arse, scars ... you name it :) No one man has ever made me feel bad about my body. The right men will help you rediscover the new you and enjoy, like, or even love the new you :) On a personal note, I have experience of lupus in my family and I want to say take care of you xx Mary 💋
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Mischeviouslad
7 years ago
We'll miss Fontaine..... everyone has their preferences. But it's an unspoken truth in here that a lot of guys will cast aside their preferences...... for availability. If she says "yes"..... that trumps a no. That's not a pretty thing or PC thing to say, but we all know that truth isn't always pretty. DG PS Take care of you. I hope you find a strategy that helps you manage the condition - Posted from rhpmobile
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compressor
7 years ago
you don't have to be thin to be beautiful. Bigger ladies are beautiful as well. If I was there now I would love to massage and pleasure every part of your sexy body
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PurePeony
7 years ago
Sorry to hear of your diagnosis. I hope you have supportive Drs and friends to help you on your journey. It's called Life. Life deals us with circumstances beyond our control. What matters is how we deal with the shitty stuff that's been thrown at us. You may be Size 18 but still shine with the radiance of a woman who takes good care of herself, takes pride in her grooming, and struts and sashays like you're on the catwalk. 😁😉 I put on 20+kgs almost 3 decades ago when I was diagnosed with something icky and placed on meds that helped pack the pounds on. In less than a year, I had gone from a chick who turns some men's heads when I walk down the street to a turkey that no men looked at. I isolated myself and became severely depressed. It was worse because I lived in the typical Asian society where women had to be teeny, dainty sparrows and people, including strangers, had no qualms about telling you that you are fat and need to lose weight. The day I owned my issues, faced up to them, and decided to do as much as possible to reverse things was the day things started to change and shift for me. Sadly, it came 30+ years too late and I've lost all those years being and feeling fugly. It's all about energy and vibes. Put out the right energy and vibes and people can't help feeling attracted to you no matter what size you are. Start your day declaring affirmations - "I am beautiful! I am attractive! I am sexy! " and basically, fake it till you make it! 🤣🤣🤣 We all eventually succumb to weight issues, body parts sag and turn flabby, perky peaches morphe into droopy low- hanging fruits 🤣🤣🤣, wrinkles appear, the dreaded cellulite becomes bloody visible... but the ol' heart beats on and the beautiful souls still reside inside the age-ravaged bodies. Stay beautiful and hang in there. Lupus shall not control your life and rob your future. Grieve a little but then wipe your tears and see how you can manage it and suppress it. I battle with chronic ailments that I suppress with lifestyle and dietary changes too. I find that building a courageous and resilient spirit helps in the daily battle. Because I've wallowed through shit and hidden the battle scars, not many know of the demons I have to fight. But I want to encourage you to fight back and reclaim your life, LFF. So sorry I've hijacked your thread. 😛 Lupus can be rough and I just wanted you to not feel alone in your battle. I don't have Lupus but I have friends who do. Stay strong. Stay fabulous.
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FeistyFatty
7 years ago
I'm an 18 now (thanks to 3 complicated pregnancies with steroid therapy throughout all and now a hearty does of "couldn't give a rats") but tall and I describe myself as "beyond BBW".... "Fat and Fiesty" lol. I find it comes down to how you carry and present yourself. Whilst I am a very large lady..... like you; all boobs and belly...... I dress to impress at all times and am naturally very confident and assertive. Once you've given yourself time to deal with your diagnosis and current situation, your confidence will return and you too won't care what people's preferences are. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
I like people who clean,not pushy,respectful ,I don't care what size , race or age they are. Just have fun and be yourself. Enjoy - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
7 years ago
(((HUGS))) tho I admit I thought of cock size when I saw the heading.... 😁😁 In response to your post... it is an individual thing. Not all men like thin, athletic, mum bod, BBW. Just like not all woman like the same either. Personal experience is confidence, sexiness, sassiness is what many seek. The buff air head has no interest in anything over a size 8 who is also an air head. Get my drift 🙄 Most men would kill for your amazing sexy mind to be ravishing them in mind, body and soul. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
By that I mean, if all was fair such a question would not be needed to be asked. However we all know that certain thoughts and prejudices exist. For me, I love curves but even more its the aura someone projects. attraction is blind by mere physical appearance. I spent 8 wonderful years with a lovely lady who went through something similar to you. The change in her appearance did not affect my feelings for her at all. in fact I found her more beautiful and sexier all the time, however she unfortunately could not see the same thing in herself . So I guess what I'm saying is - screw what others think, live life, that to me is true beauty
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RHP User
7 years ago
Feel for you and having a diagnosis of Lupus. The most important thing is to take care of yourself and learn as much as you can about your condition. There is lots of help out there. On your question. I am very far from perfect. With imperfections and battle scars. It does not bother me one little bit although it used to. No one on this site that I have met has seemed particularly bothered by my size or my looks and if they are it is just too bad to be honest, but meeting the guys in itself has boosted my confidence no end. I buy lingerie I like that makes me feel sexy. I am a confident person anyway and that shows. My body issues are just that my issues. Once I learned to let them go I felt so much better and so much more confident. Good luck on your journey lovely
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inspirit
7 years ago
Love the unicorn poop. 🤣🤣 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
But what turns me on is the fact that I like her.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Many years ago I was like most guys being superficial with size ect. Would be after a woman just cause of her body. Even if no real connection you still wanted her just because of her figure.Once you work out that the connection with a woman is far more important than just her body then you real do start to enjoy all the yummy fruits of life. A great connection with a woman will always lead to amazing sex and happiness as opposed to just sex with a woman with that body. if no connection then no great sex and for me these days id rather have no sex than boring sex.size is nothing really anymore. if the woman is great, then the woman is great, big or small.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I am so surprised to open this thread and find these comments this morning. Stunned even. Close friends, former lovers, even colleagues in my industry have been passing comment on my size a lot lately and I was starting to feel a bit wounded by it. I recently have taken a lover (fwb) who finds me very attractive and that has actually opened my mind to dating. In the past when cortisone has caused a weight blow out, I have simply hidden from view until I could get the bulk of it off and then resumed the sexual side of of my life. Opening this thread and feeling the acceptance and kindness on the screen has been the loveliest start to my day. Thank you, all of you for being kind and for taking the time to write, I really appreciate you.
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RHP User
7 years ago
...and not the very secondary symptoms. Weight gain can often be caused by a change/combination of medication and other factors. You've plenty on your plate and as for anyone who is so ill-informed so as to make superfluous comments, here' the prescription for them:: "Take 500grams of Fuck Off then just do it and no, don't call me in the morning." Real friends and those more human will support you and understand. Best.....CM - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
BBW is as it describes, Big" BEAUTIFUL" Women.
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RHP User
7 years ago
I googled lupus because I don't have any knowledge of it, nor have I ever known anyone with it. Weight gain is very common it seems. I came across a blog a woman had written in a kind of derogatory way, meaning writing the opposite of her experience, tongue in cheek. But points she was highlighting included judgement about her weight gain, getting people, including medical professionals, to take her seriously, suggesting she should just exercise more to lose weight, not fully understanding the pain etc etc. It gave me an understanding of what it must be like. When you live with pain day in day out, it drags you down, and advice seems to be to rest when you're able to prevent making it worse, so you're sort of stuck between a rock and a hard place. I'm sure in time you'll find ways to manage it to a degree, time is required though juggling meds etc. As for those people judging, whether verbally to you, or talking behind your back ugh no time for people like that. I wasted a good part of my life worrying about the way I looked. I had so much respect for women who were bigger than me, yet were comfortable in their own skin, I still do. Don't wait until you lose weight, love yourself the way you are xx
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PurePeony
7 years ago
All of us have our own set of ideals. When I say, "I hate obesity", I think back to the times when I was obese, the health issues I faced, and all associated issues including verbal abuse from family and strangers. Do I care if any of you here are obese? Nope. Not my problem, not my life. I have enough on my plate. I have close friends who are obese. No discrimination there. I hate fat. I don't hate the person. I consider myself still slightly obese, I have a tummy that never budged despite my weight loss, and I'm certainly no featherweight. Just because other people are sensitive about their own weight issues doesn't mean the entire world has to tread on eggshells. You can only change yourself and your reaction to others, you certainly cannot change others and the world! Who are the real self-indulgent ones here?
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swingalingson
7 years ago
But sometimes it is like bringing a lemon to a sword fight. You are already behind the 8 ball.
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RHP User
7 years ago
It’s really cool of you to do that.
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Seachange
7 years ago
I'm sorry to hear about your condition. I don't think your current size would matter. Those lucky enough to chat with you will find a beautiful, positive and well balanced human being. A social engaging person. in time, youd I wish you the best with your health and speedy recovery and the symptoms are under control. Take care.
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RHP User
7 years ago
To try and get back on track, and answer your question. Too big is when you you have difficulty doing the deed. Sometimes the sexual gymnastics are just not possible when there are a couple of larger bodies getting up close and personal... That is the reality check. And as they say where there's a will there's a way. If a couple want to get jiggy then the chances are they will, and they will do it for each other and themselves. After all we all need a bit of loving, don't we,,? Sex is the great equaliser...
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RHP User
7 years ago
For most of my adult life and am currently an 18. My vice is food, not huge amounts, but unhealthy food. I'm an emotional eater and have no other excuses for my weight. I won't say that I'm happy about my weight but I'm not unhappy either. I know that I'll never be slim again because I can't see myself living on salad and running 10k a day, which is what I'd need to do lol. At the moment I have no health issues, I don't smoke and rarely drink. Just need to grow from just under 5 foot to 7ft and I'll be fine 😀 But back to the original post. It must be hard to not only be diagnosed with an illness but to have your body change involuntary due to the meds. Hope things become easier for you with time OP. If people judge your appearance they are not worth your time anyway. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hey LLF hope things get better for you. Can't really add to much to the mix but I really don't think there is too big as there is always someone for everyone. For me I like all types as long as they are decent folk. As others have said concern yourself more about your health, the weight side though no doubt challenging for you is only that. I see many beautiful bigger girls around town that easily turn my head.
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RHP User
7 years ago
Hi Saw your photo. Loves you! Take good care of your health! You can do it!
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RHP User
6 years ago
Nothing better then curve woman
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RHP User
6 years ago
I find ladies with a healthy body weight super sexy. I’m not into anything prob over size 12. Don’t flame me, just my preference
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PurePeony
6 years ago
Aww...how sad 💔... NOT! 😛😁
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jensta
6 years ago
Hey Hunni I wish you well Confidence is sexy Love yourself and allow your beauty to shine everybody is beautiful I see woman of all shapes & size Trying on lingerie on a daily basis believe me even small petite to average size woman underneath there clothes are not perfect but they are all are beautiful Little bit of sass is sexy All best xxx Majority of men love a bit of cushion True fact
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RHP User
6 years ago
There isn't a hard limit for me. I like curvy women already so that helps. I find it's more about how you carry and present your self, rather than just the number on the scale.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'MrMojoRisin'Mrs Farmer is a big girl. But what turns me on is the fact that I like her. Actually she's not just a big girl she's very big, and is quite self conscious about it. She's close to my age has had five kids and being a farmers wife is quite well nourished, additionally I believe her bra size is N cup. She lives some 400 K's from me so she wanted to make sure I wasn't going to freak out and run away when I saw her, so she sent photos on her phone.The point is that she had shown herself to be a nice person in our phone calls and as such it her that I liked and not just her body. She is without a doubt my favourite "jelly belly" because of her personality and sense of humour. She's an assett to her community and doesn't deserve such a dickhead for a husband.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I don’t think there is a “too big” each to their own really. But 18 really isn’t anything to worry about. I especially love curves.
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