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How can I be more confident with girls?
May 02 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
Sweety,You just need to practice. You're an exceptionally good looking young lad. Just have a conversation. Don't think you need to wheel out lines because all of a sudden you're thinking with your cock. Do the same as you do with girls you're not attracted to. Good luck!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Because as soon as you become interested in a person for things other than just friendship, we get all nervous.... why? cos all of a sudden their opinion of us means more We don't want to look silly or nerdy or dumb etc. so our 'natural flow' of personality is put on hold while the nerves and butterflies kick in. Thats when we have to ask ourself , do I risk talking to them on a different level and possibly say something silly in my lusty dither, or am I happy to sit back, say nothing, and watch some cocky n confident dude walk over and snap her up before my eyes Sometimes it will kick us into gear just enough to make that first move or at least pretend to be confident LOL. Good luck
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RHP User
14 years ago
Figuring out women is about as easy as getting a Rubik's Cube all back together...after some smart ass has picked off the coloured bits and stuck them on all wrong in the first place. | Once you realize that you are never going to get it right...just go ahead and get it all wrong, just be yourself and tell your story. Sooner or later, you will find one that is tapping her toe to the tune you are playing and will be the one that get's it... | ...then you'll get it too. | | We are kind of screwed here though...the odds are exactly even.
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RHP User
14 years ago
......we all just want to be liked. And when we see someone we like, we start to feel vulnerable, our confidence starts to shrivel................because.........we want them to like us too. Great advice from the other posters
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RHP User
14 years ago
There is a distinct probability that the person you are talking to is also lacking in confidence to one degree or another. I always have been and always will be very shy but I cover it up rather well. Deep breath, relax and start the conversation with a compliment. And one tip - if the person you are talking to starts to unconsciously mimic your actions it is a fair bet that they find you attractive.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Thats a great one to remember Mistress T and I'd forgotten all about it too.
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RHP User
14 years ago
and I suspect you're one of our crew , is to 'fake it till ya make it' , meaning just 'be' confident even if you don't feel it , yep it's an act , but if you become proficient at it , and I'm sure you will coz you seem like a smart guy , then actual true confidence will manifest out of it. People are often uncomfortable around others that are feeling very shy and nervous , so don't show it , suck it up. It's not easy at first but actually it's easier in the beginning even than it is to be in awkwardness with others. It's the same with girls guys friends whatever , it may be that you feel particularly nervous around girls you like , as you said , so just suck it up around them dude. The fact is you've probably got a subconscious dose of inaccurate self esteem self worth , truth is you're a valuable and attractive dude , of course you already know that , but you have to wait for your subconscious mind that has been trained to think negatively about yourself to get all that shit cleaned out and catch up to reality. Even if you're not in this common category , still the fake it approach will work for you. However key in it is you must act naturally , don't come across with big bravado and bullshit , just be YOURSELF but be your radiating confidence self ----even if you don't feel confident. And wear a rubber ;) good luck out there soldier , war can be Hell , but the spoils sure are worth fightin for!!!!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Rubik eventually went crazy trying to do his own cube so... | Quoting 'HotSexyChilli'So after you've absolutely, definitely, totally scrambled my rubix cube, you'll be able to put it back together as long as I have left the labels in place??? | ...I just bought a set of replacement stickers. I can just peel yours off and stick mine on all six sides. | PS...these are lick and stick. I like them best.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Jordan there are no hard and fast rules with this one..........like any other male on or off rhp your going to do the typical bloke thing and interpret or misinterpret signals from women........I have a friend who is a classic at it....if a girl/women smiles at them automatically he thinks he is in like flynn so to speak...I and the rest of my mates have a jolly old time constantly watching his fuck ups with the ladies.....it is a never ending laugh, however on occasion he does land an exceptional catch and laughs back at us.........So what I am saying is that mate no matter what you do your going to make mistakes, learn from them and apply the lesson to the next situation, eventually, you will start to average much better. Also you are only 18 so whilst you mat feel that you have some experience your still just a youngie, particularly to all the man eaters on this site.Alldanite makes the pertinent point in this forum.....be yourself, cos no one else can. And keep cool and collected, and I dont mean like Nick Wilde cool i mean just take it as it comes and keep your expectations realistic. In fact don't have any expectations, its a bit like an impromptu night out, the less you plan the better it ends up being.Good luck................
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'ChasingMidnight' Figuring out women is about as easy as getting a Rubik's Cube all back together...after some smart ass has picked off the coloured bits and stuck them on all wrong in the first place. | Very true !! It's really hard at 18, your always horny and you want to make a good impression. Just try and be yourself and not worrry about things too much (easier said than done - I know, but worth the effort). If you can exude some confidence then that will help attract a woman and that will then help bolster your own confidence - much as alldanite said..."fake it, till you make it". Once you're over the initial hump it becomes a lot easier...
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RHP User
14 years ago
I guess it is a bit like going over those annoying speed bumps in the road...you can take them one at a tme and the muffler drags no matter what you do. Then again, if you just stomp on the pedal and hit the first one at about 180kph...you will fly right over the rest. Hey, there is even a rumour that some hot chicks like extreme sports and would rather see you drive your car than listen to you talk about it. | Quoting 'Andraxx'Once you're over the initial hump it becomes a lot easier... | Jearzus, all I can say about that is sure as hell hope so...I have tried macho, begging, being clever, playing dumb and even put up with the abuse when a few of them made me cry. Do you think any of that has worked, hell no and even after all that... | ...I am still a virgin. | | Psssttt...this crap line works as well as any of them. Go for the mercy root.
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RHP User
14 years ago
You are just delicious, mister! :D I'm sure the gorgeous youngens are falling over to get a piece of you!In a social situation with females that you are attracted to, maintain your cool and stay calm. Breathe. Don't think of them naked, you'll either stop listening to them and start fantastizing, or end up with a raging hard on. Or both. And much as that hard on would be flattering, I doubt you'll end up with brownie points. Just be yourself. I know it can be hard when you're under pressure and get nervous. I do the same sometimes, get nervous and say whatever is in my head.. it can be pretty dangerous. But honestly, we are all human, and even the most confident of people get nervous sometimes. When you take the feelings to a different level there is a need to impress. Some people can just charm the shit out of anyone! For others, it takes a little effort. Just work on the confidence slowly. You'll come out of your shell. Don't put pressure on yourself, just go with the flow and enjoy the company of beautiful ladies and as you practice more you'll notice it comes naturally!
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'AllNiteAllLucid' and I suspect you're one of our crew , is to 'fake it till ya make it' , meaning just 'be' confident even if you don't feel it , yep it's an act , but if you become proficient at it , and I'm sure you will coz you seem like a smart guy , then actual true confidence will manifest out of it. People are often uncomfortable around others that are feeling very shy and nervous , so don't show it , suck it up. It's not easy at first but actually it's easier in the beginning even than it is to be in awkwardness with others. It's the same with girls guys friends whatever , it may be that you feel particularly nervous around girls you like , as you said , so just suck it up around them dude. The fact is you've probably got a subconscious dose of inaccurate self esteem self worth , truth is you're a valuable and attractive dude , of course you already know that , but you have to wait for your subconscious mind that has been trained to think negatively about yourself to get all that shit cleaned out and catch up to reality. Even if you're not in this common category , still the fake it approach will work for you. However key in it is you must act naturally , don't come across with big bravado and bullshit , just be YOURSELF but be your radiating confidence self ----even if you don't feel confident. And wear a rubber ;) good luck out there soldier , war can be Hell , but the spoils sure are worth fightin for!!!! All of this advice (albeit, I've received it later than I would have liked... I had no idea how to keep tabs on my own thread, how embarrassing!) has only been wonderfully accepted. Was very kind of all of you to help a young bloke out, and I look forward particularly to just acting confident, regardless of circumstance.
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think people can see straight away that you're very likely a top bloke , that's why they responded , coz they wanna see the nice guy happy and get the girl etc. There's way too many assholes doing well with the ladies coz they know the game , while the clean hearted blokes miss out , let's turn that shit on it's f__king head shall we???? Lol There's quite a few tips you can get from mens magazines , a great way is to just google how to pick up women or how to get her to fall for you or whatever. Women just like men are subconsciously looking for certain things in a guy , and there are ways of acting that will increase your chances in a big way. Also you might really see the mistakes you're making with a certain girl and then save the day before some other stud moves in lol Yeah be yourself , but also know something about the game , chemistry is a funny thing , if you know what is likely to get her going then you're ahead of the pack woof woof. Here's a good tip for starters that has been proven by numerous studies recently ; don't show her that you're nuts about her , if you can , then be a little vague about your feelings. But not too much , she still has to know that you're interested. Eg eye contact ; if you're say at a bar of uni or whatever don't give her too much eye contact as she's getting around the place , don't stare or even look at her alot , if you talk to her and a friend at the same time , don't give her all your attention , try even to talk to the friend more than her , it's a proven fact that it often makes the girls think of you and try to figure you out , there's many reasons why this sort of vague mood towards a woman works , one of those is that if she's often trying to figure you out then you'll appear to have some magical quality about you , something special. But make sure you are still being yourself at the same time and don't neglect her , still naturally crack jokes and say something about yourself and give her the odd look and all that. And like I said earlier (and is also proven by studies) , suck it up around the hotties , if you think she's just awesome , sexiest girl in the whole world , then when you talk to her you might talk a whole lotta shit and become nervous , you won't know what to say , so suck it up , even while you're talking to her tell yourself she's not all that so just chill the f__k out!!!! Lol after you've finished talking or whatever then you can go back to the truth that you think she's HOT. Bullshit yourself too lol it's like when you're gonna cum too fast and you REALLY don't want to because it's an important root and you want some more with this girl , so you think dead cats dead cats dead cats or whatever you think is disgusting , and it will distract you away from the way her pussy is grabbing your dick and the guitar shape of her body as you're doggy stylin her....yeah anyway you get the point , control your mind , it's a man up situation , if you know you've gotta be cool then be cool by even bullshitting your own mind , but bullshit your self a little bit , don't over do it or you'll look like a f__kwit lol anyway practice makes perfect , you'll have some f__k ups and some wins but the better you know the game the more fun you'll end up with. Btw the reverse is true if a girl plays hard to get with you or is confused about you then you'll also probably feel more attracted to her , there will seem to be something really special about her (if she's also attractive). So DON'T get sucked into the vortex of falling for her because of that , I've made that mistake many times , chasing after miss special , actually she's usually miss special needs , she's gonna mess you up coz she actually doesn't know what she wants or isn't ready for a relationship. Beware of the girl who seems to have that special something ; she could be a head case lol use your intelligence , don't just follow your dick and the calling of your mind , get schooled up so you don't get f__d up. I WISH someone had told me this stuff 20 years ago , or even a few months back :-) if you google you'll find that everything I've said here is backed up by hard science , I say again sincerely good luck out there man , if you want any more tips or whatever then just ask on here or email me. Oh btw you are in a really great position , the other guys probably don't know shit about sex , GET SCHOOLED UP on how to shag like a champion , if you are really great in the sack then that's a massive advantage over the others , KNOW how to make her cum in many different ways , know it all , your in bed game is just as important as your getting her to bed game. Don't just assume that you're a great lover , you're not going to be unless you know your stuff , study it hard. It's not THAT hard to figure all that out tho , do the reaseach by reading and experiment during sex , eg when you're going down on her you need to find out what she is responding to and go with that. This site is useful finding this stuff out but look all over the net ; it's free. Maybe even take the training of an older woman so she can show you the ropes ;-) older girls can rock your world too coz they know their shit. Just don't fall in love with them coz it's fantastic sex alone heehee. Guard your heart or you will get hurt. Just have some fun for a while , learn the ropes. If you know more than the other guys then you stand to score with the young super hot girls , and you can even train them up , they will be crazy about you if you drive them wild in bed. You lucky young bastard , I wish I was in your shoes ;-) lol Loz
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RHP User
14 years ago
DON'T GET THEM PREGNANT!!!!!!!! :-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
sexy nothing in there ear always work, a finger or two up the shirt
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RHP User
14 years ago
"it will distract you away from the way her pussy is grabbing your dick and the guitar shape of her body as you're doggy stylin her"ANAL, you're so poetic, some good advice in there too.Off topic a bit, when you're on phone and want to put some breaks in your stream-of-consciousness advice columns, use html BREAK tag. So, less than sign, the letters B & R and greater than sign. (Google it, I can't put it in here because it reads the HTML). Cheers :)
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RHP User
14 years ago
That almost goes without saying, but good advice none the less... | Quoting 'AllNiteAllLucid'DON'T GET THEM PREGNANT!!!!!!!! :-) | Too, always remember...the drunker they get the less confidence you need, just hit on them and if they say "no" they might not even remember it and you can try again later. Just don't drink...and always offer to drive. | | I am not serious/promoting taking advantage of anyone who is drunk...please read it.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Allnite, You should grab your own collumn in people magazine or something, Mate=PTop tips, I find I don't talk shit when I'm with really attractive girls because I'm too busy being too quiet in the first place. It often goes right over my head too if a girl is flirting with me. I have to be told after I've missed my chance that 'hey, she was flirting with you man'I suppose I should put myself out there a bit more, because being rejected isn't the worst thing that can possibly happen to me, right?. I guess I should learn not to take disinterest as a personal attack, but that some women just have different tastes. So I shouldn't think that if one girl isn't interested ALL girls aren't interested... haha, which I often assume without even the chance to fail with a girl first anyway.But thanks guys for helping me realize some of this!
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RHP User
14 years ago
remember YOU are in charge not them there is a man shortage out there, and even less good looking guys available. So be friendly and relax... have fun alone, and girls will find you
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RHP User
14 years ago
Just google 'how do I know if a woman is flirting with me?' it's all there on the net and it's usually accurate. Yep be a little ballsy sometimes and take a chance. When you've made a good connection for example (read up on when that is) ask for her number or to go on a date , especially if she's the hottest , coolest girl , it could be that no-one else has the balls to do it , and yeah you're right , the worst that can happen is she can say no , so go for it!!!! Oftentimes if she really is cool then she'll respect you for it anyway , she could turn out to be a friend instead of remaining a stranger. Best piece of advice in the whole world is ; continue being a good dude at all costs , nice guys ALWAYS finish first in the end , real love is the answer , if you always look out for others then real love and happiness will come to you , it's a universal law.
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RHP User
14 years ago
works. I was out last night trying on some of these tips, and did I notice a difference in response from females.It felt great to flirt and have the feeling be reciprocated.Many thanks to everyone who put in their two cents. Believe me, I listened.=>
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RHP User
14 years ago
:D
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RHP User
14 years ago
It'll get easier and easier each time now Jordan, well done xx
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