M37
How can we improve??
May 29 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
Communicate well and respect your partner. As hard as it is to believe, women are people too and perhaps the best way to balance this extraordinary fulcrum we call live. Travel well and good luck.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Although if you go live it is life? Freakin' typos .... I've fast fingers!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Is getting to the bedroom. Communication and being a gentleman and if you must boast about what you do well in the bedroom before you get there, don't boast that you're the best at giving oral. Do you guys realise that's what you all boast about? You can't all be the best at it. When you get to the bedroom, communication (surprise, surprise). As Midnight said, it's all about communication and respect. Not all men make the same mistakes and not all women want the same things, but I've yet to meet a woman who doesn't like a true gentleman who communicates well. Good luck and hope you get some constructive and helpful answers to your question.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Treat every person as an open book. Read them individually. They might all come from the same book store but each has a different story. Dont assume you know the ending because youve read a few books before. And its great that you are asking this question in the view to enhancing someone elses experience. You have worked out that this will enhance yours too. Have fun on your journey. You will learn more about yourself from each person you meet.
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RHP User
9 years ago
whatever "Ray Donovan" has......Then.. it doesn't appear to matter ....
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RHP User
9 years ago
I would say - slow down. Yes its exciting but I hate it when the sex is rushed so many want to just hurry up and get what they are after and yes, I get that and likely want it just as much as them but the build up and anticipation and foreplay is what makes for great sex in my opinion. I greatly dislike it especially when its the first time i'm having sex with someone and they are on a massive time constraint , means I can't relax because we are watching the clock .
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RHP User
9 years ago
Don't assume you know it all, communicate, slow down, respect.
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Deliver what you promise :) be respectful and be kind to one another, even if the women you meet don't quite meet your expectation, looks wise! That is, say no to the woman if she is not who you have imagined to be, image wise, and don't just use her anyway to get your loads off! Yes, I am aware that you've asked what could men improve on in the bedroom, and my statement above is relevant to your question in the sense of communication, like others have suggested. I am not one to suggest what men could improve on in the bedroom in terms of sexual skills or techniques, or styles, etc. because I am not an expert in that area to recommend. Hence, I can only answer your question from the mental point of view :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Cavey,I love that show I just finished binge watching the first series.Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
Following on from what Poison IV said. Slow it down and take the time to really get to know your partner's body. Sometimes the back of a neck, the curve of a spine or hip can be just as sensitive as the obvious bits ☺️
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hat off to the posters...Great advice. Overall, the theme is respect...that, by far, is the most important element. (PoisonIV) Slow down. Take the time to (Willow_1) read the open book. (WiccaWitch) Not all women want the same things. By way of example, I met 3 very different ladies recently. 1) (sweetgem) Be respectful and be kind...even if the women you meet don't quite meet your expectation. Our first date was just a meet & greet. By the second date, we had established our terms of engagement, so after settling in for a while, I hit the go button and it was no holes barred, hard and fast, squirt after squirt until she had nothing left. A short break and then ran her and second time. 2) In a public arena, this lady played the room...overflowing with sex appeal. I watched and read the open book. I played and she strayed. I let her go and didn't crowd her. When she finally lay down, with suitors all around. I started the show, and then stepped aside to give others a go. She took another 3, but it was really just her and me. At the end of the night, when all others had taken flight. She said "You were amazing". So what did I do, that separated me from the other few. I was (Wiccawitch) a gentleman and I connected. 3) Very shy girl. It took a few days for her to agree to come back to my place. Then she disappeared into the bathroom, procrastinating, for ages before finally emerging wearing a towel. As she nervously sat down on the bed, I said nothing more than "relax" and proceeded to dim the lights right down and get some soft music playing in the background. Then I lay her face down, taking the towel from her naked body in the motion, and gave her a slow and through, full body massage. She relaxed completely. When done, I rolled her onto her back (on the towel) and I could see that "OMG, this is it" look. So a gently laid my sarong across her eyes and took it VERY slow. She went from relaxed to excited and arched off the mattress, begging to be taken. But I held back and continued with (PoisonIV) the build up and anticipation and foreplay. The moment that I finally touched her clit with my tongue, she exploded. After that, I lost count of how many climaxes followed. The point that I am trying to highlight is that there is no single answer. Every person is different and (MidnightCruising) Women are people too. So the best that you can do is (Summersolstice) Observe, Adjust and Never think you know it all and never stop learning.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I agree, the areas or parts of the body most missed/neglected are what I call the 'grooves' and it's hard for women to have men understand what it feels like, so many nerve endings or it seems that way. When giving oral, they rarely kiss and lick those grooves near the hip bones, around the abdomen. I love that, big sloppy kisses, when a guy knows how to spend time on all those places aside from direct contact with the pussy, it drives most women wild, but they think going straight in is what we want. Yes slow it down and allow the sensitivity to flow through to the main event area, before you go to the main event lol I can't think of a better way to say it, hope that makes sense. And agree that it's not just around the abdomen, the neck, boobs, sometimes just hover near the face, breath it in, let it evolve, the journey can be amazing given the right chemistry and focus from the guy and keep those hands moving, nothing worse than 'dead hands'
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RHP User
9 years ago
forgot the inner thighs, big sloppy kisses and licks there too, lay off the clit for a bit, soooooo many nerve endings in there, never go straight for the clit, that's porn gone wrong IMHO
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Willow_1' Treat every person as an open book. Read them individually. ...learning through spontaneity. There have been times when I have felt like the other person not only has written the book but committed it to memory. Not unlike a well-rehearsed play, almost every move has been previously choreographed in sequence. Ad lib and learn... explore and enjoy!
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
Quoting 'looking4quality' Following on from what Poison IV said. Slow it down and take the time to really get to know your partner's body. Sometimes the back of a neck, the curve of a spine or hip can be just as sensitive as the obvious bits ☺️ I thought those places were some of the obvious areas....to me at least. Tall
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Sassynwild1
9 years ago
Ask what she likes and doesnt, dont think your good at something cause a few people said so...sometimes people are being polite and each encounter is different depending on how you fit together . A man that puts his needs last and gets turned on by turning you on is such a turn on. I like a cohesive sharing of how you interact dont be bossy or too rigid in how you like things. I learn new things with each person im with...you need to be able to go with the flow and read each other and each others needs. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Refer to example 3. That paragragh was getting a bit long, so I skipped those details. Thank you for elaborating. And I will add breathe play. Same same with breasts. It is not all about the nipples.
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Kampalina
9 years ago
There tends to be a start when communicating, when Person X says what it is they want.......if Person Y really listens, observes the body language, gets in tune with that person's energy.....they seem to bring that oomph to the intimacy. Yet if Person X is only doing the talking they won't be listening to what Person Y is all about, so the oomph is then only one way. Its really sweet that Romeo-Here has posted this what can "men" do better. I bet lots of us gals thought "Well...and a scoll list unfolds..." In all honesty though, it can be applied to both men and women, to really listen more and talk less. Sorry no pun intended with the X & Y People above hahahaha. Listen, observe and tune in to that other person and their energy! Until you really understand someone's truth you won't know if they are right for you or if you are right for them. If you are intimately compatible or not. Then you are just winging it and doubting whether the other person is enjoying the experience. Which can work at times too, not always though. Any form of communication will only work when there is raw honesty too. The most memorable erotic experiences can come from accepting everything about each other. You can only accept what it is that do know, what the other has shared honestly, and what you have expressed with them openly. What was that? Sorry? Hahahaha, ya have to speak up so I can listen ..... had to lighten it up a bit hahaha
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nailed it! :-)
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