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How connected are you to your
April 10 2016
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sweetgem
9 years ago
I used to have a couple of them, but I didn't and couldn't be bothered to spend too much time on knowing them because, our interaction was purely physical, not emotional. Therefore, we didn't stay connected all the time and thus, I wouldn't be there for any of them if they needed help. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes I would be there for them, no question. I've had some offer to help me with stuff, but I don't usually take their help because I like to separate life and rhp and they have busy lives themselves so never ask. But yes, I do feel they are friends, the trust and respect is there. I'd help them in a hot second if they asked me, in a non-monetary sense though, but anything else, of course. 'One of' encounters are different, but any guys who turn into ongoing are friends, kind of like a silent business partner, part-time friends, but still friends and I feel close to them 'them' doesn't apply at the moment, currently recruiting lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think it depends on what you are comparing. Fuck buddies or Friends with Benefits. Fuck buddies are just that. Fuck. Nothing else. I wouldn't expect a fuck buddie to be there for me in a time of need as I wouldn't be there for them. But a Friends with Benefits. Regardless of which came first...friend or benefit.......you would be there for them. Just my opinion.
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RHP User
9 years ago
no i don't really know too much casual partners, I'm the meet first play later type so tend to ask all the general getting to know someone ice breakers like what they do for work , what they like doing in their spare time but I wouldn't say I know heaps about anyone who has ever been a fb. I'd like to think I'd be there for anyone I know - even acquaintances ,if they needed me so yes I'd be there for a fb if they wanted me to be.
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RHP User
9 years ago
with the exception of one, who was my 'number 1' priority-wise, I'd drop everything and run for him, for sex that is, but had no other connection with him, knew nothing about him/his life and didn't care. 100% trusted him but no, he was a mystery, but sexual presence like I've never come across
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RHP User
9 years ago
I like to get to know my fuck buddies as well as i can. To me it's an important part of the connection despite only being there for play
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RHP User
9 years ago
No.... I could be such a c#!t right about now. 😇 Goes back to the bad girls corner....
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aussian43
9 years ago
I won't go into definitions of fuck buddies compared to FwB, but if they asked for help I would. Though so far this has only been emotional support for various crises. Getting a gift should not be so unusual as to make a lady cry! Unfortunately the connections have mostly been discreet for several reasons, (on my part, as well as a lady having an active sex life is still frowned upon in some areas), so I haven't been asked to help move house. I did check after a cyclone hit if she needed any help but luckily she survived fairly unscathed.
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RHP User
9 years ago
"Fuckbuddies" are human beings with feelings. Ive always been connected with mine. We talked in between meeting up and did things like going to the movies and going out for lunch/dinner. Maybe they were FWB more than FB. But yes, any guy Ive seen has been more than just a shag. Some have helped me out in the past and I would do the same for sure. Ive never thought of anyone as just a root.
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RHP User
9 years ago
between fuckbuddy and FWB Fuckbuddy - I am not connected - it is a spur of a moment thing "I am in the mood - are you too?" FWB - They are FRIENDS so I am connected - want to know what is happening in their life...are they doing fine or need a shoulder to cry on....etc.
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RHP User
9 years ago
In that case I have never had FBs . But I can see why some people would prefer that. Went to see Jim Jefferies on Sat with an FWB. Thats the kind of connection I prefer :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' Went to see Jim Jefferies on Sat with an FWB. Thats the kind of connection I prefer :) I think we women we gravitate towards FWB...and that is my point...I care about my friends - whether they are with or without benefit.. Fuckbuddy is a different category - that is the NSA - it says "no strings attached" so why would I worry about "are they happy" "how was their holiday" etc etc? I don't.. but with Friends - I want to know how their holiday-weekend etc was...I really want to ...cos they are friends..
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RHP User
9 years ago
Some of you are commenting on fwb's, why? Off topic just a bit? Did you read the op's question? Most of my guys are or were, 2 at the moment, fb's not fwb's, though if I wanted some to be, they would be. I want sex so if i do have a 'date' it'll be a private date so i can get down to business. Example, i hope you don't mind me saying this dude, but we did laugh about your car no longer being a virgin hahaha we had planned to share a bottle of red on the beach and watch the sun go down which we were both really looking forward to, but the weather didn't allow for that to happen, so sat in the car and had our 'date' lol music, chatting, my preference to be in semi secluded locations is because i'm horny, i want to touch them, i want them to touch me. That can make other people uncomfortable in restaurants and art galleries lol But i'm lucky, i know how to split the difference, find guys who ARE respectful and friends, who would take me out if i wanted them to, but i CHOOSE not to. I don't think many women understand that. Some women are more sexual than others, simple as that, but if i needed help with real life, shit yeah. They'd help me without question, and i would them 👍 and yes I do talk to them in between 'just the fuck' lol so how about losing the attitude. Not all of us want to be precious in the lead up to sex 😁
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RHP User
9 years ago
there are other topic threads comprehensively covering the fb versus the fwb, just sayin
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Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
I'm very connected to my Lovers, that's what makes the experience all so much better. Yes I'd be there for the in a flash, because they're not just my lovers, they are my friends. 💋
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RHP User
9 years ago
If someone needs us we do what we can....whether it be a fb, friend, family or a stranger - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's interesting almost no men have answered the question! Does that mean they would be there for their fucks? Probably not. For me it depends how long I have known them. Over time you get to know people so even though you only met for a bonk so as a decent human being I would help them if I could.
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RHP User
9 years ago
What I mean to say was does that mean men would not be there for their bonking buddies.
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RHP User
9 years ago
or they're not on the forum? Mine aren't
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RHP User
9 years ago
Perhaps men don't want to commit to the page 😝 Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
I dont see the difference between the 2 titles. Fuck Buddies.....Buddies (friends) who you fuck. FWB......Friends with benefits....friends who you fuck. Should maybe have a separate title ......the "Dontgiveafuckbuddies". Because as soon as you say Friends, they mean something to you xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
You could be right. Because they are most likely seeing more than one woman. So good cause an argument! I have a leaking tap by the way... Would any handy men like to plug me up. :-)
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have girlfriends.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Seeing more than one woman? Yes, and? I'm confused by your comment. Do you like them to be exclusive or was it just in jest? 😃
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' It's interesting almost no men have answered the question! Does that mean they would be there for their fucks? Probably not. For me it depends how long I have known them. Over time you get to know people so even though you only met for a bonk so as a decent human being I would help them if I could. Or they just don't get so caught up in labelling a relationship they find the need to differentiate between friends, people they have sex with, people they think they may have sex with but haven't yet, people they've had sex with but no longer have sex with, fwb's, fb's, mbfwbdtrbny's (may be friends with benefits down the road but not yet's) and all the other labels everyone seems to want to put on any type of interaction people on this site choose to have. In answering your question...if I know someone and I like someone generally I'll help them out, no matter the abbreviation they seem to have been classified as by the rest of the world. No wonder hnalf the people on this site are no shows...they're probably brushing up on their alphabet so they know what they're walking into. And sorry, this wasn't a personal dig at you, I just don't see the whole point in determining people specific relationship status. Just let things occur naturally and let what will be happen.
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madotara69
9 years ago
Maybe as a couple with kids (family) in the lifestyle, best I recall and made sense was FB's were people who catch up now and then for a play up and FWb's are people who can come to family affairs and keep a lid on things with the kiddies and other friends, until the last of them head off and the kiddies tucked away, the benefit an ongoing friendship with some fun living within the means of the lifestyle. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
lol maybe we should write an idiot's guide to play partner abbreviations. If I write it, with my credentials, it should be a best seller
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RHP User
9 years ago
For once I agree with you. Shouldnt have labels or names full stop. A friend is a friend regardless of their orientation or how much time they are in your life. I have some dubious pet names for you but you are still a friend
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RHP User
9 years ago
and you have half a brain, then yes. If you weren't why would you associate in the first place?
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RHP User
9 years ago
It was a joke. Saying that men don't want to say what they do or how they help out because for sure one of their friends won't be happy because he isn't doing it for them. Safer to say silent. A man's mantra, stay silent and you won't get into trouble. Lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
No idea what you are talking about. I also disagree with Koko, I wouldn't go out of my way to help out an aquaintance with something big, yet my friends who I love I will do everything in my power to help out. Hope that makes sense to the both of you. For many of us there is a clear difference between the two. If you consider all friends and acquaintances equally and would go to the same degree to help them out, that is your choice. I would find that quite amazing though. People who you catch up with for a sex, say someone you may see at a sex club every other month, sometimes all you might know is their first name. That's it. Nothing else.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I bet you are both going say I am still putting labels on things because I said help out in a big way. Sorry, but that does make a difference to me. Friend needs a place to stay for a few weeks for example, sure. A person I hardly know.... I am not so keen. Someone wants to borrow $500 to get out of a spot of bother - good friend - yep. A bonking buddy who's first name I know and nothing else. Maybe not so much. It would depend. That is my honest answer. Sorry if that offends some people.
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RHP User
9 years ago
My Fuck buddies are certainly NOT my boyfriends, girlfriends, Anties, or farmyard animals that I have sexual relations with......but given that we share the mutual understanding of "Wanting" some hurricane ravaging sexxxing in the most ravenous manner every hour of the day, I'd definitely be there for them to give aid, service, assistance or relief if they asked for it.. Nothing beats the act of helping when a "buddy" comes calling for some sort of rescue...
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RHP User
9 years ago
As I said, my FWBs have turned into friends. I dont meet anyone at sex clubs once a month for sex. Theres no difference in my RHP friends to some of my other friends. Ive known some of my RHP ones for longer. If any of them needed a hand or a shoulder to lean on Im here. I dont find that amazing but as you say, we are all different?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'CandyDelicious' I bet you are both going say I am still putting labels on things because I said help out in a big way. Sorry, but that does make a difference to me. Friend needs a place to stay for a few weeks for example, sure. A person I hardly know.... I am not so keen. Someone wants to borrow $500 to get out of a spot of bother - good friend - yep. A bonking buddy who's first name I know and nothing else. Maybe not so much. It would depend. That is my honest answer. Sorry if that offends some people. I understand what you mean and would be the same with people I barely knew in that situation. My buddies kind of cross over, so some in the past, have been, literally waiting for their call, which might come once a month or whatever, knew nothing about them, didn't need to, so a few of those, though respected them highly, and them me, no I wouldn't have called on them or vice versa. But quite a few others, though fuck buddies, I don't go out on dates with them, I stay in regular contact with them and they're friends, we know stuff about each other's lives, there's a closeness there, so yeah, I guess a bit different. I agree it doesn't have to be labelled. Different partners, different situation, just depends
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RHP User
9 years ago
Everyone for such interesting and varied responses ..personally regardless of who it was and I could help I would,but there have been times when I couldn't for various reasons Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
For my superfluous earlier comment. I was in a mood 😐 This topic popped up right at the time that I discovered that someone I valued and considered a friend, had actually never considered me to be a friend of theirs, rather just an opportunistic shag lol It made me cross. I tend to recover quite quickly though 😊 No point wasting time crying over someone that's a shitty person for long 😀 Now to answer your question, yes absolutely I would help someone I know or even don't know for that matter if they were in need and I was able. If I was sleeping with them or not makes no difference. Helping is something I do regularly for friends, and they do the same for me. No matter what it is. A past FB of mine turned up at my house one day unannounced with paint & rollers because he knew I was selling my house and it needed a freshen up before it went on the market. He spent all weekend painting and laughing 😊 I think it's one of the nicest surprises I have ever had. On a broader scale, for me it's the volunteer work that I participate in, that brings me great joy and a feeling of giving back to my community. There's been times when I have been truely humbled by the goodness of random strangers that have impacted in my life. And there have been moments when I have been completely used up by people who only sought to gain. Will it stop me from being who I am? No Not ever 😊 The good far outweighs the bad every single time. And I will keep on giving. RR 💋💋
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neapolitan_guy
9 years ago
Maybe not all guys here have such experiances to talk about. Maybe not all guys here are fortunate to know a woman to cach up with for sex even if it's say every other month at a sex club and all you know about them is their first name. Maybe guys here don't have anything to comment on
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RHP User
9 years ago
I like to like the people I have sex with, and while that's quite a wide ranging group, I'm interested in their lives as much as they're happy for me to be
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RHP User
9 years ago
Well I think it's lovely to hear the word 'bonking' again Candy!! :-) and for me a FB is a 'Buddy' a friend, companion so I would always help out when needed.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I agree 100% with fr33spirits regardless of who what or situation i try to help all you only get back what you give out in life 😊
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joanne1991
9 years ago
If a fb needed help, to talk to someone I'm always there
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RHP User
9 years ago
I could use a few - Posted from rhpmobile
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