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How do I find my own groove??

June 30 2020

Being a little older and with the expectation that I am supposed to have had a lot of sexual experience, I have found that I did not have as much as I thought Previously I have just gone with the flow so to speak and mostly did what my partner at the time wanted to do with not much thought to my own needs. The reciprocal oral, not trying much new stuff, blah blah blah. I have stepped outside the box a bit, but I have discovered there is just soooooo much more that is worth exploring. I have been with my partner for 2 1/2 years. Blows my mind and we have pretty regular sex weekly, sometimes more often sometimes not as much. I am obsessed with his dick and happy to give head every time without expecting anything back. I just love watching him and the reactions I get. He is 11 years younger, very fit and super hot. The sex is the best I have ever had and is still amazing. I find I lack confidence in asking for what I want as I have never really done that before. I have an opportunity to try anything and everything. I want to keep it fun and exciting but I'm not sure where to start?? We don't live together so I find that keeping it spontaneous and not having to plan every detail challenging. He is a generous unselfish lover who wants to please. Any suggestions on how I find my own groove and ideas on what to try to find what I like would be awsome.......

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Tall74nHard9

4 years ago

Communication. Talk to your partner about your wishes, and see how far he is willing to accommodate you. You say you are shy and relatively inexperienced, so a good talk with him to help you in the general direction you are wishing to travel. Good luckTall

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teamaj2

4 years ago

Epic You seem self aware , you have a partner in crime , (so to speak ) and the world is your oyster . I know a lot of people may disagree , there is some tasteful porn out there to see what intrigues you , podcasts, even books . Your partner is obviously willing to help you explore so communicate your needs , fears and hopes in exploration . Not everything you will try will be to your liking . I’ve been known to get into fits of laughter when trying new things with my husband - a sense of humour helps . My husband is nearly 20 years younger than myself and we’ve been together over 14 years . I was clueless when we met , which I know surprised him . The fun in exploring all things special together has been a wonderful journey . The fun never ends , he has a good imagination, is inventive and a slightly naughty . Hopefully you will find the same with your partner , with time comes trust, to allow yourself to relax and enjoy the ride . Good luck ! Ax

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RHP User

4 years ago

Maybe go to some swingers clubs and fetish nights together. See what happens. There's no obligation to do anything or anyone, but if you feel like truing something, you can dip your toes without judgement. Private house parties are often the best as they tend to be more selective on who they let in. Some clubs dgaf, its all about the cover charge. Some.

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nightingale8

4 years ago

How exciting, sounds like there’s so much to explore just between yourselves before you even start wanting to add more people. Since you’ve tagged bondage, I would go to some classes together for some light hearted fun. Shibari? Tantra?Learn how to please yourself, look at yourself, explore toys, visit a nude beach, dress up and go out with no knickers, try ice/wax/feathers/rope/oil/food, try nude photography, read erotica, read about consent and boundaries (sounds boring but essential for exploration). I could name anything really.

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romacpl69

4 years ago

Hi. I would agree with Tall. Communication is key. My wife was very similar to yourself & would go with the flow with everything that was happening. I wanted her to open up more about her wants & desires & after a while she was forthcoming. Your partner sounds like a really great guy wanting to put you first. I know from my own personal pov seeing her really getting into it is such a turn on for me as well. Just think about all the things you’ve wanted to do or try over the years & chat with him. You never know what he maybe wanting to do either. Have fun with your quest

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RHP User

4 years ago

Hey! So, roleplay is totally your friend. Have a chat over text before you see each other and discuss the scenario. Why roleplay? Because it allows you to say things and do things that "you" wouldn't. So you won't be judged for saying "DHFHDFHDSFHF"... whatever that is... You can open up and say things you never would because it's just a character you're playing. For example, play the role of a gym instructor teaching how to pleasure a woman in a class...

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