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How do we get unicorns to not stand us up
September 26 2018
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mango69er
6 years ago
Maybe try a lunch date first. And if they dont show up, you havent wasted your money on a motel. And get to know each other over lunch. Then arrange for a sexy everning together another time. Know its hard finding the time when kids are involved - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
6 years ago
According to your post.... you’re arranging your first meeting in a hotel.... all “geed up” to “seal the deal”. That tells me pretty clearly that you’re M writing this Can you say “pressure”?!! Assuming the people you’re messaging are genuine, you’re loading on the pressure to meet and get suddenly sexual in messages with a stranger who don’t know who you are and you don’t know them. Say that out loud until it sinks in. Until you’ve spoken to them on the phone, they are just words and photos on a page. So.... cool your jets Message.... non-sexually. Then talk to them.... via the phone! Determine if (IF) they’re suitable to meet before arranging it. Then, meet, but without the pre-loaded and I’m going to say ever-excited pressure you’re applying before you’ve even met. (Nobody other than a revved up college kid says deal the deal). That way you’ll make more genuine connections and not just write messages to anonymous people with an agenda of getting your rocks off. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Believe me - it’s a blow to the ego every time... Some people aren’t sincere and were never going to show. Some people change their mind but don’t have the decency to tell you or maybe don’t know how to say that they’ve changed their mind. It’s always a 50/50 chance of someone showing or not showing - it’s a gamble every single time. - Posted from rhpmobile
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compressor
6 years ago
No answer for you but it is sad they do that to you unless there is a very good reason
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RHP User
6 years ago
You may need to elaborate on your screening process. You seem to have been stoodup by more unicorns than there actually are. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
But totally agree nothing worse than time wasters and inconsiderate people who cancel without telling you. - Posted from rhpmobile
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DynamicCouple36
6 years ago
Is that they probably were not unicorns at all . More than likely they were not even female. Our advice is not to book a hotel room upfront and before you have even met them face to face. Rather arrange to meet them in a public place for drinks and or dinner. Suggest a venue that you were going to go to in any event, that way if they don’t turn up, you can still enjoy your evening regardless. Our next bit of advice is not to put too much pressure on them nor sound too desperate to meet them / snag yourself a unicorn. Be slow and respectful in your approach. It’s certainly worked for us . There are plenty fakes on here. Best to always assume that they won’t turn up. That way if they do, it’s a bonus. If they don’t , then it’s not a train smash. - Posted from rhpmobile
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twowithnolimits
6 years ago
Perhaps if your lady was to become a unicorn for others.....
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RHP User
6 years ago
I’m not sure that’s the answer either.. If they’ve entered into this as a couple seeking experiences together then that’s what they are after... Having the female seek experiences on her own isn’t the answer. It’s the nature of the beast. You can screen, you can chat, you can ask all the right questions in the world but when it comes time for the crunch of meeting there’s always going to be a chance that person/couple will not show.. People are prone to change their mind without explanation. Profiles are prone to be fake. Couples can be dominated by one party with the other oblivious to what’s going on and then when surprised with a meet that driving party can get a surprise themselves when the other half isn’t willing to play the game. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Bazingal
6 years ago
Remember as a couple you outnumber a single woman. I am a unicorn. I only ever meet people for a drink in a public place to start with no promises for play if there's no attraction. I will not put myself in any uncomfortable situations and will bolt if I am pressured in any way (even after meeting). However I appreciate everyone's time is precious. I won't stand someone up. If I feel it's not right I will communicate that. Most are ok, but then I can get abused too. I just view that as dodged a bullet by trusting my intuition about them. So as suggested above take it slow, no pressure. If you develop a rapport (even friendship) you will probably have more success. Good luck :)
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sweetnsensual
6 years ago
We have found a number of things work well including those listed above. Must have the woman of the couple involved in chats. Must have everyday chat and treat people as the intelligent human beings they are. Must have a girl girl phone chat. I can really get a feel for the person that way and so far haven't had any no shows after a phone call. If the single girl wants to I've often had a coffee or drink date with her alone. I have the view we're trying to establish more of a friendship and ongoing connection so really happy to invest the time. I treat everyone we meet or have interactions with in the way i want to be treated as a decent, intelligent, respectful person. Of course not everyone gives me the same in return but that's life. Have met a number of amazing single girls and formed ongoing connections with them. Ms sweetnsensual xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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MnauMnau
6 years ago
"There are plenty fakes on here." Spot on 👍 And silently guess who should (and not doing) something about it. And it never will... - Posted from rhpmobile
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MsJonesy
6 years ago
Is never sealed until you have all met, laid eyes on each other, and chatted about more than sex. So maybe calm your expectations, both in online chat, pic sharing and meet expectations. Verify they are indeed female by talking on the phone, and maybe ask what would make them comfortable enough to meet for a chat and drink...with no pressure to play at that meeting. In other words..... take sex off the menu until everyone is comfortable.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Sound stupid I know what is a unicorn??? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
6 years ago
Maybe stop looking online and start going to Chateau Vino Swingers club on a Saturday night, the theme nights attract more single women but you will find unicorns most Saturday nights. Most have never heard of RHP.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Unicorns are women gang will root you and your wife, at the same time usually.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Yes it is best to meet altogether for a coffee or drink first just to see if u are all on the same page or have women chat to each other first before meeting - Posted from rhpmobile
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cyclone_madness
6 years ago
Yes i the wrote the post i will admit that the wording in the post could have been better but it was written after i seen how upset my partner was as she suffers bad anxiety so for us its a difficult preperation process organizing kids keep her calm.... we took onboard much advice and have changed our approach. We have good chats with some people and as we only play as a couple we only msg as a couple so when we are chatting it always to the pair of us
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