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How do you figure out if a guy will actually meet you?

July 06 2012

Here to have fun in person, yet I either get abused for declining further contact from a guy, or if I arrange to meet there is about an 80% chance he won't show... I have learnt that if a guy asks for more pics (I have more than enough in my pg for a guy to figure out if he wants to meet), he will not follow through on an arranged meet.... If a guy compliments me I have found those guys don't follow through on meets... If a guy asks to cam, chances are he had no intention to meet and is just a cam whore and will keep asking me to cam... If I can't trust that they will follow through on a meet when they say they will, what other screening measures can I use to see if they are here for real fun and not just the online stuff? (I have met guys socially first too and that is a waste of time) I get plenty of attention from guys but am unsure which ones I should try and meet up with now because of the above, and we don't have much luck with couples. Mrs Fun

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Both sexes are guilty of it, you could always get them to ring and confirm an hour before. I'm gob smacked by the stories of guys not showing up, I think it's the height of bad manners or the pinnacle of insecurity.I'm guessing the majority are in a relationship and somewhat accountable for their time and that's why they no show. The fools should bugger off and leave it to the genuine guys.I think your summation of who won't show is spot on, I recently met someone from here without seeing a pic and she turned out to be drop dead gorgeous... I like surprises and often meet without asking for a pic unless I sniff a con.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    ...it's about the quick, no pressure meet.If there's mutual attraction from the profiles, then swap digits and arrange for coffee or drinks. You might want to cam or call them first to ensure they actually meet the description, but for me that hasn't been necessary.I think people would be much less likely to pike on drinks than on a first-meet playdate (and you can always hold the option open of playing straight away if you hit it off.) You've mention that you've found meeting socially first to be a waste? Why so?I've both been the one and had women be the ones to, after initial contact, say I'm flat out at the moment, but in a fortnight or so? We've gotten back to each other when we said we would, organised a date, sent confirmation reminders before and carried through.Other than setting a date and confirming it, I'm not really sure what else you could do? I suppose there are all sorts of little indicators, like having a verified profile, maybe a paid membership, validations, that sort of thing that could help convince you they're a little more serious?

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    roll the dice,have a seance,read the tarot, throw the runes,consult a psychic or just keep hoping that maybe next time..... x Hugs H

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    If a lot of these guys are in a relationship posing as single guys that does make sense... but I would think that they would at least contact me to say they can't meet at the arranged time, and make another time, but that has only happened twice, the other 50 odd no shows don't bother...I will keep hoping thanks Hesione :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Ba-ha-ha-ha!!!! Laughing because I could have typed that. I so feel your pain! Anyone that asks for more photos just want a "real life" picture to jerk off to. Use your instincts.... I'm sure you get a niggling feeling one way or another about someone. Go with that.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I have no interest in camming anymore... unless it is just to verify who they are without me showing myself. Otherwise they keep asking me to get naked etc even if I have said I just wanted to talk... I would prefer just to meet them and take it from there. I have met socially with two outcomes: being complimented and contacted endlessly afterward, when I still wasn't sure if there was a physical attraction on my behalf, and with the constant contact I lost interest anyway, and never arranged to meet them in the end, or they will flirt and repeatedly look at our profile after we have met, but ignore me when I ask for a play meet.... I reckon Apollo! Guys have admitted jerking off to my private pics as it is... The guys that do show up, generally don't ask for more pics (not even my pg), and chat very little, the main focus of the chat is to organize to meet up. I guess if they are not straight to the point this may be an indicator that they are not really serious about meeting... it is not worth chatting or camming endlessly hoping that they will meet eventually...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I have been stood up, hell one instance I saw the woman walk into the coffee shop, see me and sneak out! Just as well because she looked about 10 years (and 20kg) older than her photos .....   I have been tempted to do the same but then I only organise a coffee date first, I like to know what I am getting into so to speak.   Re the pics thing, so many have pics that don't show a face, I like to know whom I am meeting. Lets face it, knowing what the boobs look like is bloody useless when trying to identify someone at a coffee shop or bar! As for those that give access to a PG for one night, then take it away, well not all of us have photographic memories okay :D

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Oh..... Everyone's a comedian.... Clearly Mooka you are going to the wrong coffee shops too. Jiggy boaw wow

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'ApolloThirteen'Oh..... Everyone's a comedian.... Clearly Mooka you are going to the wrong coffee shops too. Jiggy boaw wow Oh I am going to the right coffee shops, evidently picking the wrong damn women lol   Nice jiggle by the way, love the way your arse moves when you do it

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'ApolloThirteen'Ba-ha-ha-ha!!!! Laughing because I could have typed that. I so feel your pain! Anyone that asks for more photos just want a "real life" picture to jerk off to. Use your instincts.... I'm sure you get a niggling feeling one way or another about someone. Go with that.         Uh-oh. Did I just give too much away???

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    It's actually quite interesting that people seem more inclined to just disappear on raunchier sites than on less raunchy internet dating sites (speaking as a grizzled veteran of 7 years on the latter). Had a no show last weekend - she was supposed to accompany my female friend and me to the Pleasure Lounge. I had actually cooked dinner to fuel us all up before going (and a rather tasty home-made chicken risotto it was too - no freakin' packet mixes for me!). Just didn't turn up. No phone calls, didn't even reply to a gentle message asking if she was still on the way.It's considered the height of rudeness in social contact to abandon a booked engagement for a better offer; however, to not even contact the original person.......sheesh.As it was, we had more fun with two there than I suspect we would have had otherwise.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I have been stood up that many times its not funny. I personally will meet if I say I will. Thats why I'm here. Chatting is fine but have to have physical contact at some stage. My biggest problem is shift work. Doesn't always fit into everyones agenda. I cam aswell that way I can see if they really are a woman. A lot of guys like to set up ex's on these site. Turn up at someones house and find out was set up.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    When I first posted my profile , I was overwhelmed with messages and flirts , well over a 1000, I had some guys actualy begging me to pick them , other ones were the sort of take or leave it type . There was one who kept sending messages and flirts , and begging to meet ,offering to send pictures via email and wanting to see more pictures of me and again begging me to send them via email , I noticed a bit of desperation and told him thanks but no thanks , his next responce was to come back and say - just a coffee and a social meet , again I said no , then the abuse started called me for everthing , and yes I should have blocked him in the first place - I thought I was being polite , he's blocked now. And by the way guys never read the profile   So far I have attended two meetings with guys , one was a no show and the other one looked nothing like his Pic I suspect married and grossly overweight , so no more guys , I'm going to meet couples esspecially the ones I knew in the past   All I can say is be very careful and PS Hello Mooka - there's is a gentleman

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I can't believe there are guys out there who don't show? I can barely get women to reply to emails so there is no way I would miss a meet without explaining. If there are guys who are married and trying for some outside action without permission they should maybe get an honest personality and tyr talking to thier partner. Mike

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    And that is, just don't bother, works for me and I'm never disappointed :p

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Most will have fake pictures of themselves or pictures of them waaaay in the distance and taken about ten years and a hundred big mac meals away.   So a few filtering rules. Only one wank per text message   If they text to many times as in five or more in an hour, then stop texting back they are jerking your chain along with their dick.   Phone sex.Nope unless they want to pay 3 dollars per minute or they sound so freaking hot you just cant help yourself, then put them on speaker and invite your girlfriends over.   One chance to stuff it up. If the give a good reason before the meet then they have two chances after that then computer says NOOOOOOO   If they are pig ignorant and do not even text or call to say they cannot come, then wipe them. Do not give them pictures on email, or cam etc thats just free porn   Cam sex is for the lazy or those that want to be std free or its just their thing to do it on cam and not in the flesh. There is no way on gods earth I would cam. You never know who is watching you.   Nor on the phone, as it could be a ten year old.   When you make a meeting, just have something else planned if they are a no show, and only wait 15 min for them to show up. Then go do something else like brows as a book store and pick up a nerd.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    We just go with 1st impressions n gut instincts, works occasionally. I don't think we have ever asked for a photo, prefer a good personality. We also read profiles 1st b4 anything is said, if it comes across similar to ours we normally wait for their hi, that way we know they're interested also. We've probably missed out on meeting some great cpls n singles but we both aren’t that confident in finding other like minded. Once contact is made n if all seem comfy our preferred method is to exchange phone number, Mr nowannabs 1st up and he is a very good judge of character. If all goes well we have no problem with giving Mrs nowannabs number out n find if they can actual text without been asked to that’s a pretty fair indictcation to the type of cpl/singles we wish to meet. Those that insist on verifying via cam don't get far, because 1 they mostly only want to get off n if that satisfies them well I'm glad we didn't waste our time n 2 Mrs hates cam We get many saying that they're interested but have no idea where we are situated n either have not read our profile or don't know down under very well indeed but when told u never hear from them again unless we travel their way. Sad but common sense rulz the roost around ere, if they like us for whom we are great, if not move on

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Shorter profiles generally.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Their loss I'm afraid, gorgeous pics, what's not to like ?? Most of the no shows within themselves would know its their loss also. Chin up, look in the mirror, what's not to like ?? Jas

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    lol Mooka but we do have face pics on our profile, and ask in our profile that we get pics in return before we meet. But I understand when its only the boobs on show, its like when guys have an ab shot and you ask for another pic, and they give you a cock shot... ummm I would like to know what you look like before we meet, and I need a face pic, so I have learnt to be clearer there. Yeah thats what happens to me seeking. I put in the effort of chatting/ camming/ picture swapping til they are ok with meeting, then arrange a time just to have them not show. I've often thought that perhaps a better offer has come up, which kind of indicates anyway that they were not really interested in meeting in the first place, and only said yes because there was nothing better for them to do at the time lol That's a new one Greg... really? some people are that spiteful they are willing to set up their ex on here... omg! I have to agree with that singleagain! It is blatantly obvious that most guys don't read our profile. Back in the days when we had a comprehensive summary of who we were and what we were looking for... guys repeatedly contacted us that did not fit with what I had written. Personally I think most just stop at the pictures and ignore whats written... lol... so these days our profile is short and sweet in the hope that guys will actually read it...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Plenty of guys don't show Greg... and that's just the way it is on here...But I keep persisting hardtrucker, because I have met some diamonds in the rough... so there are genuine guys out there... its just not easy to pick them from the ones that only want the online stuffBut, Tuscan, they are usually the most flattering photos they have lol. Yeah the endless chatters are just here to jerk my chain it appears... Just there are a lot that say they will meet me if I cam, or they will meet me if I send more pics... and I have fallen for it in the past as I was foolish enough to believe them... Yeah that is true nowannabs please, if a guy asks to cam just to talk, it means once he gets me on there, he will do anything just to get off there and then... like promising to meet when he has no intention to...Thanks cutecouple4u :)I guess just going with my gut and going for the guys that are straight to the point about meeting, without the endless chat/cam/picture shopping might be a way to weed out the genuine ones from the fakes.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    The way I see it, it comes down to chance.   No matter how much time you spend at the gym, or fine tuning your profile, only a certain proportion of people will be superficially attracted enough to respond.   Of the people who do respond, you'll only click with a certain proportion of people to the point where a meeting can be arranged.   Of the people who agree to a meeting, only a certain proportion will actually turn up.   It wasn't nice getting to this stage, but once I accepted knock-backs, no-clicks and no-shows as facts of life, it started to bother me a whole lot less. Keeping at it means there will always be at least a few who follow through.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I have had many meets with many guys from another adult date site. It wasn't a problem of them not showing up, I always gave my number and asked if they could'nt make it for any reason to just let me know beforehand, and they mostly did.   The problem I had, was after a pleasant interlude with mutual satisfaction and the guy saying he wanted to meet again and would call me, but of course never did!   Why don't they just not say anything instead of lying? At least you have no expectations then.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'greg1964' I have been stood up that many times its not funny. I personally will meet if I say I will. Thats why I'm here. Chatting is fine but have to have physical contact at some stage. My biggest problem is shift work. Doesn't always fit into everyones agenda. I cam aswell that way I can see if they really are a woman. A lot of guys like to set up ex's on these site. Turn up at someones house and find out was set up. OMG!!!!! NASTY!!!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Must admit, I havent been unlucky enough to have no shows. I always thoroughly check them out before meeting though. I rarely agree to meet unless been chatting for a few days, and if they cant talk about anything other than getting their dick wet, well im sorry but im not gonna meet them.If they have managed to keep me entertained for a few days, holding some normal conversation amongst the filth ;) lol, and if theres a connection then i will agree to meet.Theres been a few guys that im not sure of, which have persisted for a meet, so i will do a social meet first - most of them dont get a second chance though. The ones that impress me on a social meet, well theyre the really good ones. msmarvelous... i know exactly what you mean about the 'sure ill call ya' thing!!! Usually say good night, theyll say something about chat later. Ill send an sms the following day, or a few days later, just saying hi and get no response. WTF. It amazes me guys will persist with days or weeks of chasing a woman, fuck her, then never talk to her again. If you werent interested why wait that long when there are girls out there willing to meet straight away!!!I have just learnt to accept that on a site like this, there a FEW men who are actually interested in anything more than a one nighter. Im not even after a r/ship. all i want is more than one night with the same guy. Heck, id be happy with two. LOL

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I have met some girls from here. Its usually the ones I talk to and can actually converse with. My guess is that if you can find a guy who can converse without just wanting a way to watch you play with yourself on cam, he is probably keen to meet ya :D

  • HighlandFox

    HighlandFox

    12 years ago

    As 'miketheduc' says, Its difficult enough getting a girl to even reply, so there's no way a guy in his right mind wouldn't show up for a meeting if he managed to get a response! I've never arranged a meet and not shown up. If nothing else, it's an opportunity for a good chat!Basically, if someone shows good manners online and treats you with respect, I reckon they'll show.Tell them you're genuinely interested and you'll contact them when you're available. If that gets their back up, they're not worth your trouble.If a guy is genuinely respectful and not pushy, he'll be prepared to wait for a call and will show when you set the date.That's the way it's worked for me!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I always arrange to meet in a book shop. At least if she is a no show I have plenty of time to browse and buy. Plus I don't look a fool sitting at a table in the coffee shop, drinking my coffee, and trying not to look "all alone". It's a shame that the younger generation have absolutely no manners whatsoever!! A phone call or a text message to say one can't come - surely that can't hurt. And I just could not bring myself to not show for a date, it's just not in me

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    The last couple were simple instructions... "Here's my phone number... I will be at XX coffee shop from 10am.. I will be reading a small paperback book, dressed in blue jeans and black t shirt... I look like my profile picture, long hair and full beard." "I will not be looking around" "I will drink my coffee over 20 minutes then leave.."   I have left after my first coffee on a couple of occasions.. I dont know if they "I came, I saw... I decided NOT to conquer" Or if they never showed.. not my problem.. I like to sit and read in coffee shops.. and even if they dont show.. I can have another coffee...and read some more! *grins*   caveman simplicity

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    There may be plenty of guys here that never intend on meeting and only want pics to wank over but i have found that there a plenty of fakes here in the female profiles also. Most don't respond due to an overload of messages and thats fine, but quite a few of the ones that do respond talk for a bit then let you know that they will do whatever you want for money. If i wanted that, i would just go down to the red light district and choose. Not interested in fakes and pro's. Just the normal women looking for normal guys and i do find it very rude for someone to not turn up when it has been arranged, regardless of if it is a male or female. Does not take much to turn up for a coffee and if you don't click, then just say thanks and be on your own way.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Why don't they just not say anything instead of lying? At least you have no expectations then. Men like to hunt, its their nature to chase the wabbit. They compete for the wabbit, they run round in circles for the wabbit Now when they catch the wabbit, the pursuit switch is turned off. The switch is a spot at the back of the ball sack, or tip of the cock A load is dropped in our around wabbits face, or any other offered hole or parts of body. The guy will feel the fog lift, the haze of lust is gone and they think wtf how do I get out of this with out loosing said nuts still in wabbits mouth. So they go to exit stage right speak. That was great hon, sorry I have to go (insert lame reason here) while cock withdraws behind fly and is firmly zipped up. He will say gosh hon your so hot , sorry I came without your pleasure but next time babe. He will try to to run to his car, but saunter briskly, some will whistle nervous tune as they escape the wabbit hutch. The wabbit will lay back with her hair in a fuck knot and wonder if the lone ranger will call again, he will but disused as another dude. Ladies, golden rule number 250 on RHP Do not text a guy ,or ring, if he wants seconds you will know. Men do not have to have second helpings just as women do not have to have first helpings. Men man up, and say nothing at all. Leave your bullshit along with your pants and boots at the door. say anything instead of lying? At least you have no expectations then.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    you sure are a funny bunny...LMAO. x Hugs Jessica

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    And here i am thinking the Wabbit... AKA Battery operated Boyfriend ,BOB for short was a Wabbit once.Hahahaha @ Tuscanred funny as Missy.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I had out compliments , But i also meet those that spark my interest.Usually if you swap numbers there will be a meet , However i have had women swap numbers text and flirt but than not meet so i guess it a gamble like everything else.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'sexyslut92'Shorter profiles generally. Hey babe i wouldnt stand you up lets have some fun im on bedford rd xx

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    hey.. why do we single guys have such a bad rep in here . i read profiles and send mail or flirts to gals who i fall in their looking for most don't even look at my profile, ignore flirts and mostly never reply to any message sent..it is so hard to stay anything thing when we are treated like some sort of freak just for being single and malei sit in a corner in chat and wait for some one to ask me to meet now , but most in chat will ignore a single maleonly thing left to do is look at profiles or the hot pics

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'sexyslut92' Shorter profiles generally. i would'nt stand you up either.. Croydon here

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    personally i would love to be askedi have no luck asking to meet myself

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I NEVER cam or get into the online thing except chatting in here but, as soon as the talk turns to sex, I stop. I hate cyber sex, as my profile clearly states, I want skin.   I would never, ever stand anyone up. But I am picky so, I very, very rarely agree to meet anyone - that's my prerogative. I did last Sunday and, guess what, he didn't show and has taken two days to apologise and offer an explanation - now he thinks my unwillingess to talk to him is 'unfair'....go figure. But also, he'snow got the chase bit firmly between his balls. No can do amigo...I'm not a game player.....chase all you want, this wabbit will live to see another day.   The way I work is this, guys will know when I'm interested in them because I will tell them...that's their queue to arrange a meet and carry it through. Nuff said.   Guys, (and girls) please be genuine, in your profiles, in your pictures and in your willingness to show up. Please. Otherwise, what's the point?

  • boots_69

    boots_69

    12 years ago

    There really is no way of telling for sure and as a person who much prefers to get their thrills in the flesh;My tact is to make the meet in someplace they will feel comfortable and I am happy to let them know if I am not (very few places I am not able to be at ease in - once i get over the nervousness of actually going to meet)If its a no show - depending on the place, I will usually hang around for about an hour - phone/text me please if you are going to be late and I will stay longer (and yes I have been played this way too) and if for some reason if you arrive and don't like what you see, I am happy to take rejection via a text - I'll have another drink and go on enjoying life.In any case you will find a way that works for you - just don't let the idiots get you down.Cheers Boots

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Im just new to RHP (but been doing "dating websites" for a while) and I would never, ever do a no show (but I have been on the receiving end twice). My first no show left me standing there for 10 minutes waiting and then I got a call saying something had come up and she couldn't make it. As she spoke a fire engine went past me and I could hear the siren also through her phone. THAT made me mad... Grrr...Even if I had second thoughts or if I took one look at her and she was nothing like her picture - how bad can it be to meet, chat for a bit, have a drink and go on my merry way? I just follow the basic rule - "treat others as I wish to be treated".It's not rocket science.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Well hi all,Gees, never mind no shows but to get someone to actually reply to messages is like pulling teeth!!! Anyway, if I can't make it to the meeting I will txt or phone, bloody rude not to do so.Basically, don't do to others what you don't want done to yourself...innit, mate?? lol...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'dte_guy'Gees, never mind no shows but to get someone to actually reply to messages is like pulling teeth!!! what he said.. would be nice just to get a reply and asked..but being a single male in here... we are mud before we even say hello

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    You ignore and decline and they decline you

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Yes well we have been played and played well. No shows EMPTY promises and so on , All we are looking for is a good time with some extra company ., bUT THESE FACELESS MEN who have the hide to ask you for your pics and dont even have 1 in there private gallery . and then take the time to tell you that they think we are FAKE ???? WHAT THE %$#@.. Any how we are going to move on to couples that way we can have the best of both worlds lol,,

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    hehe i like your style!!! ;) that is good advise!!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    again someones started a tread then closed account??   no need to answer

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Maybe RHP can set up a No SHow policy.   If you get reported for no shows three times by three different people you are blocked out for a month?   I got stood up in Melbourne recently - got a message " see you in an hour, so excited".....then nuffink :(

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    never had a No-Show...and have never stood up a woman...must be my lucky white shorts...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    That already hasn't been said here? Seems like none of us can escape real life,not even on RHP.. For me,meeting and being told ' no we don't click' is better than being played. It is all about our expectations..

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Wrong then... As I have yet to feel the failure of not being met... Maybe I should wear moccies and trakky daks...:-P Or maybe I shouldn't wash for a few days... Or maybe I should ring and say..."gidday, does your muff and my cock Wanna hang out..." *and walks away, whistling innocently*

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    fake profiles.. in my case..i seem to find all the fake females profiles ( always ask for money scam ones ) in here a lotprobably explains why i have no luck in this place what so ever

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I haven t been near a dating site in 9 yrs and not much has changed!The internet is still the best place for people to be someone that their not.Im guessing a few of the no shows cant transfer their online behaviour to real life.And fakes,cheating partners etc. will always be there,much bigger numbers than most think.I agree with Tuscanred,make other plans and let your potential no show know this.Tell them u will wait for 15 minutes and then your gone.If they really want to meet they will show.Your amusing too Tuscanred,was laughing away as i read your bit!I haven t had a no show,what i notice is i will be chatting/messaging someone who seems very interested and then they dissapear! With reading all i have here,this is understandable.Guys begging to meet?Begging for pics?It really does make it hard for the genuine ones and i feel for them.Im still a big fan of the old fashion way,offering a girl my numberand a subtle compliment.I more use this site to find specific things i like.

  • abcplus1

    abcplus1

    12 years ago

    We have been stood up a couple of times, had a few meetings cancelled within hours of happening, which isn't so bad, but still annoying. And as said above, getting a reply is like a lottery win, then some that do gushing that want to meet just drop away with no contact. We are yet to meet anyone that was what we are looking for on rhp.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    For me personally, I will wait until the girl wants to meet now.Iin the past when Ive felt like maybe it's time, I've asked if they want to meet and then they go weird and stop replying to my messages. Ive even suggested a public place, pub or somewhere they feel comfortable. Usually have about 1% success. I find The odds better to wait for them to ask. The odds of picking up a girl at a pub or club, compared to online dating though are HEAPS better. I feel sometimes a lot of girls online, (not all) are just getting gratification from the attention, or just want pen pals or some shit? Who knows? Pretty sure women don't know they want most of the time. Anyway I'm new to this site, (hi everyone) and this forum has given me some hope that there is genuine cyber ladies. Yay

  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Chatting first gives a person a rough idea of who the other is like and vice versa. I don't have facilities to scan and send a pic but have not had a problem of guys wanting to meet, only had one no show and an email apologising and a reason why, people get busy, emergency situations arise, I often don't ask for phone number first off and organise a time to meet with 1/2hr either side. If they are genuine then they will show, if not it is an indication that they are not worth it and sorts out the men from the mice, unless of course there is a valid reason. So I don't get cut up if they don't show, I just tick them off my list.   Less is more, so showing less of yourself gives more to the imagination and those worthy enough to pursue will get a nice surprise.

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'BoiNz'For me personally, I will wait until the girl wants to meet now.Iin the past when Ive felt like maybe it's time, I've asked if they want to meet and then they go weird and stop replying to my messages. Ive even suggested a public place, pub or somewhere they feel comfortable. Usually have about 1% success. I find The odds better to wait for them to ask. It depends on who you ask. I like my men to be men. That means I expect them to take the lead and suggest we meet. I suggest you leave the girls who need validation alone and go for the women... Question: Why does your smoking status say "ask me", while you are you holding a ciggie in two of your photos? Smoking reduces your chances on here quite significantly.

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    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'goodtimesricky'never had a No-Show...and have never stood up a woman...must be my lucky white shorts...

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    RHP User

    12 years ago

    which ones are sincere, law of averages. I've never let any one down once a meet has been arranged. at my age my hand has become boring ang only get real hard now when i'm witha lusty woman.

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'sexyslut92' Shorter profiles generally. Does that mean shorter profiles are more likely to stand you up? what about shorter forum posts! :-P

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Niceboi1982'Does that mean shorter profiles are more likely to stand you up? what about shorter forum posts! :-P Never will.

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    12 years ago

    I had a new acquaintence meet recently who informed when we met he had broken his ribs the night before....he was so conscious of the bad effect of a no show he wasn't game enough to cancel.......did I go easy on him.......just a little. Other than that I can't ever recall a no show, always good to have a backup plan though.......

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Ms_Devious' Quoting 'Niceboi1982'Does that mean shorter profiles are more likely to stand you up? what about shorter forum posts! :-P Never will. I have been stood up in the past and cancelled on a few times with no reschedule, so not had the best odds so far!I understand girls might be nervous meeting guys for the first time, but I don't think that is any reason to stand someone up! Or to be rude and not reply to them afterwards!But hey, I am still here aren't I so things can't be that bad!

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    12 years ago

    most people wont admit itbut your not here to meet anywaymost are here for the chat rooms and forums.just look how many posts pop up on this topic.. if we spent less time in forums. we might have a better time .only reason i see these is RHP post them on my home page when I log on.back to looking through profiles