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How do you find a genuine person
April 08 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
When you find out, let me know
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RHP User
9 years ago
Easy to crap on in text or email... ask them to talk to you. The air gets thin after 10,000 feet. If you don't understand that... call me!
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RHP User
9 years ago
That people change their minds..or had no intention of meeting in the first place...Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
don't need to say that they have....it becomes evident when they write a message...... If they say they have read it, chances are, they're testing your gullibility in accepting them at face value.....this makes you a target for liars to declare open season on you from that point on. Let's be honest......it's so far worked for them....a LOT. Or is it alot?? :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
be able, willing, and bold enough to contact those who interest you... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Are a great way to know someone is real, honest and have the right intentions.
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RHP User
9 years ago
all you eye rollers will suggest i make this point simply because I have them. But in actual fact, I have met people solely based on my friends having validated them. If I see that someone I know rates these people then they are a shoe in. If they have no validations, and few friends, I'll most likely assume they are a fake and ignore.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Summersolstice Hi and welcome! I feel your pain, messages from people saying they read my profile but don't actually know what it said are a dime a dozen. I find that becomes obvious very fast though, so may I ask how much you talk to someone before meeting? Thank you for the welcome Summersolstice I do read people's profile and I do not like to really go on forever with messaging and the like ,I have and rather talk to people on the phone and tell them all about us and what we are looking for and try and find out more about the person I am talking to,I do talk a lot verbally before planning a meeting and in saying this we still seem to get people who may think what I say is a bunch of lies , as for the most the people I talk to verbally will agree and say anything it seems until they realise what I have said is the truth either at the last minute on the phone or at the first meeting. I am a straight talker and don't bullshit anyone on this site I will take onboard what you have said and we will keep trying Cheers Steve
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RHP User
9 years ago
I_touch_ myself 2 Hi A deal then if I find one I will let you know -:)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Midnightcruisin Hi Yes I do talk with them and the ones that I can tell obviously are talking shit we do not talk for long ,it is the other types that seem real and then do a quick change at the last minute Even talked with and met an ambulance bloke who on his profile and in his own words face to face said he practices safe sex ,but when it came to the crunch he then said he will not wear one ,just one example of stuff that has happened to us Maybe I will take you up on your offer for a chat mate Cheers Steve
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hi Qefenta 1 We accept that people will change their mind and that is fine Just that it gets monotonous with BS type people Cheers Steve
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hi Stirry Yes have found that in some messages like you have mentioned about people Maybe to an extent it is true that we take people on face value but would rather do that at times than think everybody is a liar We have contacted many that interest us but for one reason or the other we both do not connect A lot or alot that is the question -:) and yes just like the bulk e mails that get sent from women in Russia or wherever if you put it out there ,the odds are that someone will take the bait Cheers Steve
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hi Unicorn99 We have tried with some people with validations and like what you have said but must have got ones that for whatever reason after talking with them go cold Thanks for your input and will keep trying Cheers Steve
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes ppl go cold. All the time. For whatever reason Your profile isnt that spacific about what you and your wife expect from a man who will join you. You mention condoms and no meeting during the week.That, to me, is basic. So anything else will be things you add in a private message or on the phone. So thats just normal screening after initial contact. If you expect things like no uncut cokes or no guy can kiss your wife, no married guys, put it in your profile 😄 Have fun and enjoy your journey together
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hahaha. Obviously meant cocks.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hi Deep_purple We have tried various profile comments ,even mentioning things as you have said but still get the time wasters etc ,thought if I kept it basic then some may want to interact for more info ,even mentioned the classic male+ male+ female threesome and they still ask what do we want , well is it me but what do not blokes understand about the classic threesome business ? The no meeting during the week is put there to try and deter those blokes who just want a wham bam thank you ma'am during their lunch break But again will see how to change our profile and thanks for your input Have a nice weekend Cheers Steve
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Steve.... in reading your topic and replies, there I s lot of "I" from a couples profile. So perhaps if you have trouble screening the people you feel end up not being genuine...... sleeve that job to the Mrs. After all, there would be plenty of people wondering if most couples profiles are in fact genuine, and not just a guy using female pics as a lure. Go on.... give her the steering wheel for a while. She can't do a worse job than the one you're not happy with now, can she?!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
It can be really difficult to convert from messaging to hook up. I find small things put me off, small things that give you insight into that person and experience tells me not to go there, once bitten and all that. So much of my lack of activity at times, is my own doing, but I only move forward if it feels right. So many of them lie though. I had a few guys who wouldn't kiss, but never told me until we met. I was so pissed off, why didn't they have that in their profile. Apparently guys fooling around think it's okay to have sex but not kissing makes it okay? Whatever, but be honest about it. No kissing equals no play for me. The problem for me is the time it takes to line up new people. I was lucky last year, had a whole string of regular guys, so rarely had to worry about new ones, that makes life a whole lot easier. But after a long period of time, they one by one started to move on, which obviously will happen. Then it's back to the drawing board and that sucks. Sometimes I wonder whether I'm the only one who can be there in the moment and appreciate the time I have with that person, and here's the biggy WANT TO SEE THEM AGAIN. You take them on the ride of their life lol they love it, then they fuck off and you never see them again That's all I want, to be able to see them occasionally for hot fun, I don't want to keep them, well I wouldn't mind a 'keeper' one day but not a young guy obviously. I only want to play and have hot sexy fun, same as you. The best advice would be to stick it out until you find a few regular friends, which can take time. That then takes the pressure off the urgency to find new ones. But I do feel your pain. We should ALL be having more sex, the world would be a happier place Hang in there. I do agree with some of the comments above where you could be a little more specific with the 'positives' as in, what you like, what turns you on, rather than what you don't like, although if there are definite deal breakers, leave them in. But yeah, good luck
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RHP User
9 years ago
while most would be assuming the age difference is the problem I have with repeats, quite the contrary, I'm more likely to get repeats from the younger guys and my ongoing buddies have all been in the 20's and 30's. I've had zero success with older guys, IMHE they have more issues, and a lot of them lie about their personal situation. I hate being lied to. The other thing with let's say, guys in their 40's, closer to my age, I find they are also chasing younger women, so they don't interest me. They're welcome to go that way, good luck to them, but they don't get to use me as an 'in between' fuck while they're looking lol Whoever we spend time with, in my opinion, has to want to be there, with you, give themselves to us in that moment. Otherwise it's just cold/detached and not fun for anyone. If everyone was honest, even with the risk of hurting the other people, all cards would be on the table. That then leaves us to make calculated or careful decisions about who WE choose to spend time with them, not just about their needs/wants, without wasting so much time because they either misrepresent themselves or lie. It shouldn't be so hard don't get me started on fake pictures lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hi Mischeviouslad We did the verify thing with both of us in the photo holding up the sign that the admins want for verification There is a reason why my wife does not do the writting but this is not the place to reveal that ,I also have said we as well -:) I have put this out there to actually maybe get some ideas from People which we have got some great ideas from Believe it or not my wife is a little old school and believes that the man should take the lead ,hence why I do the writting and communication until such stage as there is voice talk and then she does some talking
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Validations can be very valuable. Uni and I both have validations that state we are good people, which are the validations I look for rather than those saying what a good fuck someone was. ...but Summer has said what I was thinking. Ignore that I don't have validations. Or friends. I don't get around much...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Cheers Koolgrey and so far thanks everyone ,we have tweaked our profile a bit with some of your ideas and let's see how it goes now As you all may have noticed we have manners and that is important to us call us old school but manners are something that we keep seeing not happening these days in general If any of you are ever our way ,let us know and maybe we could meet up for a chat Maybe we are too honest and trusting but that is who we are Again thanks for all your advice and any further advice would be appreciated
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't accept friend requests or validations and I'm definitely not fake!!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hi Daytimeselights2 That is your right indeed in doing so and good to hear what your view on this topic is as we are not fake as well but it does seem to a lot of people take notice of validations and the like Have you ever had any problems yourself with non genuine people on this site ?
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RHP User
9 years ago
90% of ppl who you start communicating with will fizz out after getting to know if there is compatability. Thats the screening process.It doesnt mean that people are fake because they drift away. It means they are being selective and waiting for those amazing omg experiences. Its worth the wait, so dont be put off by not finding it straight up.
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keen2start
9 years ago
G'Day, well I/we have been on this site for quiet some time and only have had 2 meets and no plays. Its not about reading the profile and yes you do read them but for me (mrs) its more about getting to know the people/person via email, text (if you get that opportunity). I find just being open in a email and chat away. Can be a little sexy, can be just a g'day hows your day type of email. What it boils down to is communication. Being really remote has its disadvantages for i/we don't get the chance to just hop out and meet and greet any lovely people out there so for me its more communication, maybe a flirt, maybe a saucey story, to get the conversation rolling. I know that during the conversation there are questions that i would ask and also some that i would reply to if asked. Then if it by chance if im in the area at the time i would meet and get a feeling and go with my instincts. And if not i would actually tell the person, thanks for the chat but no thanks. I always reply with something i dont like ignoring messages even if its well off putting. I have come across and i think the ladies can agree with me there is some classic one liners that come thru that you end up sitting there laughing at the screen, say thanks but no thanks. I like reading the forums and if i feel comfortable type in them, i really find them interesting. Enjoy your evening and stay horny :)
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rupamohan
9 years ago
It is hard for others to suggest unless you be more specific. What exactly are they ignoring? How many? Are you sure your profile is clear in what you don't want? Is your profile prioritized? If the list is long you will find some people will miss it. Get used to it. Pray.
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RHP User
9 years ago
If you like to pray great but not for us and thanks for your thoughts rupamoham deep_purple cheers Keen2start hello back to you ,must be hard at times living remote and thank you for your thoughts We started this topic as a tool to help us in finding what we want and to try and eliminate those who are not genuine through your experiences Two definitions of Genuine: If something is genuine, it is real and exactly what it appears to be: If people or emotions are genuine, they are honest and sincere: Have included these definitions just to clarify what we are after To be honest we know that not all people on this site are what is listed above as it has been established that there are fake profiles,ages,no shows etc etc Here are some examples of what we have encountered and mentioned either messaging or pre meeting voice talk or at a meeting Will you wear a condom : Yes .... Reality No Are you married /attached and not sneaking around : No .... Reality Yes We would like to have a meeting first to see if we all have an attraction : yes that is fine .... Reality I just want sex and don't care about attraction We could go on forever with what we have encountered , we are patient types and thick skinned and yes do have a laugh at some of the things people have said to us ,we do understand that it may be a long process to find the right people for us Yes basically this is a sex site under the guise of a social networking / dating site as is mentioned on the sites log in page but to us anyone can have sex but not everyone can be genuine
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Scubasteve29' If you like to pray great but not for us and thanks for your thoughts rupamoham deep_purple cheers Keen2start hello back to you ,must be hard at times living remote and thank you for your thoughts We started this topic as a tool to help us in finding what we want and to try and eliminate those who are not genuine through your experiences Two definitions of Genuine: If something is genuine, it is real and exactly what it appears to be: If people or emotions are genuine, they are honest and sincere: Have included these definitions just to clarify what we are after To be honest we know that not all people on this site are what is listed above as it has been established that there are fake profiles,ages,no shows etc etc Here are some examples of what we have encountered and mentioned either messaging or pre meeting voice talk or at a meeting Will you wear a condom : Yes .... Reality No Are you married /attached and not sneaking around : No .... Reality Yes We would like to have a meeting first to see if we all have an attraction : yes that is fine .... Reality I just want sex and don't care about attraction We could go on forever with what we have encountered , we are patient types and thick skinned and yes do have a laugh at some of the things people have said to us ,we do understand that it may be a long process to find the right people for us Yes basically this is a sex site under the guise of a social networking / dating site as is mentioned on the sites log in page but to us anyone can have sex but not everyone can be genuine and unfortunately, even when all seems good and we proceed, some people are just machines, which I think you touched on in your post here. They don't seem to care if the chemistry is there or not. I do. Most of the time it's good but occasionally, you just feel them going through the motions, does nothing for me so makes the whole business of finding compatible play partners even harder
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RHP User
9 years ago
praying, doesn't that put us on our knees, that's a good start, hell what am I saying, that's a GREAT start
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RHP User
9 years ago
They are around still...... Somewhere - Posted from rhpmobile
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