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How do you get over shyness?
August 24 2011
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RHP User
13 years ago
Walk over and say "Hi, after having carefully surveyed the area, I've deduced that you are the most interesting person in the room. May I borrow you for a few seconds?"
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi Shyboy, . . This will sound overly simple, but just be yourself. Despite what each of us thinks we are all interesting people just relax. I do not that walking upto people at a party and starting a conversation can be difficult for lots of people. In here however you have the advantage of just being able to send a message. . . Most importantly always be open and honest. If you do that there is no pressure on you. You don'y need to impress other members, just try to be an individual. You want to be noticed, and that is the first thing :) . . Good Luck I am sure there will be better advice than mine :) LC
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RHP User
13 years ago
Believe it or not I am still very shy despite doing what I do. There are heaps of techniques out there for overcoming shyness but the one I found to work the best was to just plunge in and do it. Say hello, make a comment, give an announcement, smile at someone or ask the question. People don't generally bite if you ask them nicely and respectfully. Eventually you realise that people in general won't reject you because you say hello or make a comment. You don't get over being shy but once you realise that you were making a fuss over nothing and the pretty girl smiling back at you is waiting for you to say hello, it becomes easier. Start with baby steps and move on from there. Good luck.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Shyboy you have to let Meeka show you She's been asked to find someone jusssst like you . . In all seriousness though, shyness really can be a problem if you let it. Make a point of looking at how other people approach a situation, and then tell yourself that they are just like you underneath and could very well be even more shy than yourself but are a very good actor. The old fake it til you make it factor. A simple Hi or gidday and a nice smile will always be a winner
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tamworthguy46
13 years ago
That's a easy one mate.....You get Mistress T......to give you cock and ball torture until your not shy anymore. No seriously.....probably take some of the advice of what the others said........but on the other hand, some women are attracted to shy guys.....! Tam
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just ask them lots of leading questions where they get to talk about who they are and what they like. Once you know a bit about them you will figure out what you have in common and conversation should flow. Just don't be too personal up front :-) What make you shy? Is it fear of rejection or of being laughed at? Its different for everyone. Sometimes people standing alone would love someone to come up and chat with them. If you're really shy then invite them to join your group for a drink.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Really...I'm shy too and sometimes it works to your advantage, they think it's sorta cute. So just walk up and talk a lot. You don't even have to really aim it necessarily and since we never look them in the eyes anyway...it's no big deal, just glance around the room at their breasts. | Just hope something you say makes sense to someone...anyone, and when you turn red scuffle your feet. This works almost as well as leaving your zipper open and pretending it was a mistake. | Last ditch effort...just pretend you're blind, wear dark sunglasses and just feel your way around the room. It helps to carry a white stick although a few of them might grab it and beat you...sooner or later one of them will offer to buy you a drink. If that happens... | ...your half way there. | | Then lie your ass off...and tell them the sex brought your vision back. Hallelujah!
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RHP User
13 years ago
First of all, shyness comes from the way you feel about urself, do you fear rejection?Judging from your photos, your fit, and take care of yourself so why be shy for? Just be yourself and if the girl doesn't like you then move on to the next one simple.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Advice I was given by a sage ol' chef in the first year of my apprenticeship. It works!
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erotictouch4u
13 years ago
One thing to remember about overcoming your shyness is that not everyone will think you are their "cup of tea" so expect rejection occasionally...and remember also that not everyone will be your "cup of tea" either so it happens to others just as much. ET xox
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RHP User
13 years ago
Why hello there Shyguy I think you should attend many clubs and talk to as many people as possible. I know just the place... do you like playing on swings? Or if you don't like that idea, I suggest you use your shyness to your advantage as CM suggests. Walk up to your pray, and look all shy and bashful then raise your t-shirt to wipe your face making sure that your abs are on full display. I don't think you need to do much beyond that. WOO HOO!!Seriously, the more you talk to people the better you will be. Also have a number of stories or questions that you might ask in any given situation so that you can avoid awkward silences. Just like public speaking, be prepared and practice. If you are really that sh,y maybe a public speaking course would be good for you. Have you ever performed on a stage? xxMeeka
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RHP User
13 years ago
With Meeka on this one Shyboy, that little snail trail from your bellybutton is completely lickable and very hawt Wipe that face with your shirt.
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RHP User
13 years ago
you should just walk around shirtless...everywhere...all the time...sorry, what was the question?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Are you sure?You have naked pictures of yourself on a swinging website including full frontal in the public gallery.Its a bit hard to believe.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I sometimes get shy or unconfident and I've found the best way to get over it is....... To think to urself that EVERY1 finds u simply irresistible until u hv strong evidence to prove otherwise;) lol It might not b true but hey, if u think something enough n repeat it enough you'll start to believe it urself:)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Shyboy, there are not too many people who are more shy than myself as I am a bit self concious and lack self confidence in a few areas. I am taking a huge step next Friday week by attending a gangbang party and I hope to attend some private swingers parties in the next few weeks as well. I have never done this before. I think it is a great way to network and meet people and you never know, you may meet someone you connect with. Take the plunge, I did. I am both very apprehensive but very excited at the same time.
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RHP User
13 years ago
There are times when I feel crippled by shyness. I hate talking on the phone to strangers, using a webcam, or talking to a group of people. Strangely enough, if I'm with Mrs O most of the shyness seems to go away and I tend to do most of the talking when we first meet others. The next step is also tough - the actual suggestion of getting intimate - but if we can get over that hurdle I seem to have no problem getting naked haha!!! Mr O
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RHP User
13 years ago
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RHP User
13 years ago
Me thinks you are playing the shy card as a way of getting attention. After checking out your profile there were 2 things that stood out. The first is the emphasis you put on showing off your torso and secondly you state you seek a woman who is confident. Why would anyone who is that shy seek a woman who is confident. Mrs JJ
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'justjuice' Why would anyone who is that shy seek a woman who is confident. Mrs JJ Hey Meeks, Mr Shy is almost within walking distance! How about you head out this way this weekend and I'll take you on a sightseeing tour of the local area ... Never know what we might bump into!
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RHP User
13 years ago
... Well, we all have to something...Right?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Shyguy looks like a keeper Meeks. I mean, If you and flirty can keep him distracted I might be able to sneak up on him and try and check out those armpits.HugsStalky Quoting 'Meeka100' Why hello there Shyguy I think you should attend many clubs and talk to as many people as possible. I know just the place... do you like playing on swings? Or if you don't like that idea, I suggest you use your shyness to your advantage as CM suggests. Walk up to your pray, and look all shy and bashful then raise your t-shirt to wipe your face making sure that your abs are on full display. I don't think you need to do much beyond that. WOO HOO!!Seriously, the more you talk to people the better you will be. Also have a number of stories or questions that you might ask in any given situation so that you can avoid awkward silences. Just like public speaking, be prepared and practice. If you are really that sh,y maybe a public speaking course would be good for you. Have you ever performed on a stage? xxMeeka
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think you nailed it in one... | Quoting 'justjuice'Me thinks you are playing the shy card as a way of getting attention. The first is the emphasis you put on showing off your torso | I am a little bit shy when I walk around with no clothes or my dick hanging out....but only during those really busy times at Chadstone Mall. The rest of the time I just hope they... | ...look at me. | | It sometimes works well too in the CBD mall and even better when David Jones is having a sale on lingerie. I just tell them I'm busking.
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RHP User
13 years ago
MrA, JJ & CM, now common on your jealously is shining through. He is just a young and very hot shy boy that needs his dick sucked ... Come on boys get ur slut on and help the lad. Hehe A keeper you think S.... Duly noted ya badboy :p xx Meeka
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'MrA, JJ & CM, now common on your jealously is shining through. He is just a young and very hot shy boy that needs his dick sucked ... Come on boys get ur slut on and help the lad. Hehe A keeper you think S.... Duly noted ya badboy :p xx Meeka The finders fee
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RHP User
13 years ago
Shy lads seeks confident gal....Ok... 20 seconds of analysis tells you that he has got the combo right. Seriously if you're feeling a bit insecure about the cirucmstances, not knowing what to do or how to behave.... or a shy talker... it's so much fun to get with a woman who talks a lot.... it makes you feel less self conscious about not being able to speak... plus... who hasnt revelled in the joy of being bossed about by a dominant sexy woman who tells you what to do to her.. and takes from sexually you what she wants without all the pussy footing about? Oh gawd yeah. HugsStalky
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem' Quoting 'justjuice' Why would anyone who is that shy seek a woman who is confident. Mrs JJ Hey Meeks, Mr Shy is almost within walking distance! How about you head out this way this weekend and I'll take you on a sightseeing tour of the local area ... Never know what we might bump into! TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think you and the Sydney-siders have this one all stitched up, Meeka...I almost pity the poor shy boy. | Quoting 'Meeka100'....get ur slut on and help the lad. | | You're just lucky he's so old. Little Miss Cougar Panties only wants a finders fee for this one... | ...and normally she eats them alive.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is always much tastier CM
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RHP User
13 years ago
No jealousy here Meeka... If he can get away with getting attention by playing the shy card.. Good for him... Im sure he's sitting back right now chuckling to himself with all the attention he got outta this... There's heaps of guys on rhp who would just love to have a angle like his.. Oh oh... look out for the avalanche of single guys claiming shyness from now on.... lol... Mrs JJ
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RHP User
13 years ago
...only serve prime aged meat. | It plates better and has more character. That nasty blood-red stuff you pick up at Safeway is too chewy no matter how you cook it...never eat it raw and always beat the crap out of it first. | Glad you don't do catering, DGT...serving that up at a large gathering like an RSL picnic or wedding reception might give all the guests gastro.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'MistressT'Believe it or not I am still very shy despite doing what I do. There are heaps of techniques out there for overcoming shyness but the one I found to work the best was to just plunge in and do it. Say hello, make a comment, give an announcement, smile at someone or ask the question. People don't generally bite if you ask them nicely and respectfully. Eventually you realise that people in general won't reject you because you say hello or make a comment. You don't get over being shy but once you realise that you were making a fuss over nothing and the pretty girl smiling back at you is waiting for you to say hello, it becomes easier. Start with baby steps and move on from there. Good luck. luverly answer MT And just for the record SB I don't think you are playing the "shy card". Just remember that gorgeous girl you just spotted across the room is probably just as shy as you (and is waiting for you to go over and say "hi"). Good luck
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RHP User
13 years ago
I like the new photos Shyboy... good firm arse and cock there. Hmmm, you are definitely shy I can see, cause you haven't showed us your pretty little face. hahaha Come on... you to shy to respond to your own thread? xxMeeks
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm with Meeks on this, really like the new pics, what an ass so firm and perky. Shyboy's mood is set to busy Meeka, and there are a few friends in the list, so maybe this thread has worked like a charm and some lucky girl or boy is bringing Shyboy out of his shell as we speak ? Good boy, have fun
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RHP User
13 years ago
There are many kinds of shyness, but the garden variety, or "Common Shyness", is caused by an inescapable feeling the sufferer has that he or she is a bit of a dickhead, and the fear that others will notice.The cure is simply a matter of realising that we all, deep down, feel like a bit of a dickhead. This feeling comes partly from deep rooted insecurities and partly from the fact that we all ARE a bit of a dickhead.It's part of our charm. There's only a small percentage of the population that doesn't suffer from this sensation of dickheadness, and it's a universal truth that they're the biggest dickheads of all.
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Jaspurr
13 years ago
What happens when you're in the bedroom with the girl and she's just as shy?How do you approach the subject?j
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Jaspurr'What happens when you're in the bedroom with the girl and she's just as shy? How do you approach the subject? j if one of you doesn't make the first move or start talking......what won't happen is sex You could even go home, after a very uncomfortable hour or two of not getting it on, with aching balls.... kicking yourself that you sat there doing nothing when you had a chance at doing something great.....IF and it's that only IF that should kick you into motion, think about how you would feel about the wasted opportunity while you're sitting home wanking (alone again lol) . If she's just as shy, she will be thinking 'Thank god he did something' trust me she won't be waiting for you to make a dill of yourself. . Make the most of your opportunities, don't just let them happen around you
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