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How do you really view women who speak of sex..?
November 02 2020
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peter196921
4 years ago
Sorry to hear this, I for one don’t assume that ladies or couples are just going to hop into bed with me because they are on this site. For one thing there has to be some sort of attraction to make anything work and even then I would not send photos unless I am asked or I have asked first before sending. The world is made up of a lot of different people, and some of them have a complete different mind set to us all, but just ask before sending just because this is a sex site doesn’t mean you should stop being polite or treating people with respect. Now, I could be assuming here, but this persons thoughts could be women who sleep with more then one person is a s t and the man who sleeps with more the one women is a stud WTF
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RHP User
4 years ago
Recently had similar experience, met this person about 18 months ago for a coffee. Wasnt any connection there for me and I did thank them for the time but didnt see it going any further. Since then I received a few messages still offering to catch up. Always responding kindly with sorry not interested. The last message was no different but he added some sleezy message about how he would do me. So that just earnt him a block. Ms Foxxy told me she read this somewhere and I believe it to be true for many. Women have sex because they want to. Men have sex because they can. Just because I could have had sex with this guy doesnt mean I want to. Unfortunately you cant fix narrow mindness. So I think its fair to tell people that pics or messages not warranted is a poor reflection on them.
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MsSuperFoxy
4 years ago
Just because he is drunk, does not make it OK or acceptable. He has removed your choice. I have a generated message for anyone who sends me explicit pictures without my consent. In it, I'm quite blunt stating that sending unsolicited explicit pictures is a form of "flashing" and is a violation of the constitute and a criminal offence, under Commonwealth legislation (Telecommunications Act 1997). IMO (from a single women's point of view) I believe males see two sides of women. The ones they want to fuck and that's it, and ones they highly respect. Just because he's fucking you, doesn't mean he likes you. Women choose who they fuck. Men (not all), take what they can fuck and offered. So they try the bait of sending explicit photos for a reaction. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
4 years ago
I hear yah. In addition men who approach sexually liberated women and then have boundaries set, like to shame them into being prude and how they are not open minded. There’s an assumption that sex positivity means easy. Total BS
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RHP User
4 years ago
This is the exact same thing high school kids are dealing with and the boys are getting charged for sexual harassment. The argument that young teens are still figuring out themselves and they function in this world can hold some water. Thank god I was born before the era of Facebook and constant social bombardment. Unfortunately it seems common for men to have this attitude that they can send unsolicited pics so what hope do the youth have. It is these actions that make genuine adult interaction and forming new relationships that much harder. I’ve mostly worked in male dominated environments and your ‘friends’ attitude is common, but thankfully not a dominant percentage of men. Although there are times where I think I must have been borne with emotional deficiency as I just don’t ‘get’ the chest bumping, testosterone pumping, dick pulling male bonding sessions that go on with certain groups. Also the attitude that you can’t have female friends as being friend-zoned is a sign of a loser. Women are for sex; apparently. I’ve had a number of female friends through my travels. Just because don’t connect sexually or as lovers relationship have varying degrees. It’s the same as heterosexual and homosexual people being friends. Thankfully homosexual people with the mindset all people are gay is very low so I haven’t received any dick picks. The issue now Phoenix is do you/can you still hang out with this person? You didn’t mention receiving an apology at least blaming booze
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jessica__rabbit
4 years ago
F**king amen to all of that. Being sex positive does mean being indiscriminate. Cyberflashing is gross and absolutely wears on a person, and in your case probably has you doubting your entire relationship with that person up until now. If people can't understand consent and the difference between wanted and unwarranted then cut them loose. Thinking everyone or any one wants to fuck you just because you possess genitals is such an entitled attitude to have. I'm sick to death of having this conversation with grown adult men on here and then being abused because I didn't "take it as a compliment" or wasn't polite enough in my response to unconsensual cock shots/lewd messages/repeated pestering to meet after I've said I'm not interested. My blocked list grows every day. And fuck feeling like you need to be careful not to offend someone who has no qualms being offensive to you in the first place. Reap what you sow. There's nothing at all flattering about being on the receiving end of that behaviour.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Op Seems like you are bored 😂
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Beachdayze
4 years ago
There are way too many unsolicited dick pics shared with me. I don’t find it appealing either. Most times they aren’t taken with much thought and are tasteless pics. Men with their business out of their pants next to a toilet bowl, messy room or super hairy legs lol. Just no thanks. Men: looking at a dic pic does not make most women horny. Unless we know you well and there is a connection or already understanding that those pics are ok to send do not just flash it in our face. In my case it’s more the mental stimulation, the way you talk or move and other body parts that will attract me to a man. Anyway, that’s my two cents. ( I just block them straight up , specially if we have never spoken before. )
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RHP User
4 years ago
I think just about every woman who is more open and 'liberated' when it comes to sex has experienced something like this. I have with a male friend who found out I was on here, although he didn't send nudes. Like you say Phoenix, on here it happens all the time. So many guys who can't seem to comprehend that women can like sex, be open about it, have sexy photos up, be in an open or swinging relationship, enjoy kink etc., but is still selective about who she fucks. From the seemingly innocent initial messages like ''Too bad you're not in *insert location x*, to the ones who tell you what they want to do to you (which is always as arousing as having a root canal), and the ones who don't even write anything and just send their PG full of cock shots. None of them bother to even put a 'hi' at the start. They just assume that because you're on this site you're down to fuck anyone. I automatically block and don't bother responding to try and set them straight, because I know that 99.9% of the time all I'll get back is abuse and slut-shaming bullshit. Unfortunately I think we've still got a long way to go until these attitudes improve (for the guys who think it's only a small minority of men who think this way, I can tell you it's much more than that).
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jessica__rabbit
4 years ago
And as sit here discussing this topic I once again got a first message from someone Ive shown zero interest in who lives in another state just send me their PG full of dick pics. Dick pics on their own. Dick pics fucking other people without a condom. Dick pics with other people's faces in them. Close up rimming shots. FML.
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teamaj2
4 years ago
Phoenix rising Amazing Post . My husband and I have often discussed the feeling we get from a lot of people , that we feel is a truly false misconception. Just because we are on RHP , attend a swingers event / party and occasionally invite someone to join us in play , does not mean we want to play with anyone or everyone with a pulse . The truth being , we both enjoy sex. We enjoy wonderful fun interactions with like minded people that share our outlook towards fun play and people we are attracted to . That does not mean we want to see a barrage of intimate pictures and at a drop of a hat we will leave work to run off and have wild passionate sex with someone that sends random D...k pics taken in the work bathroom or the front seat of their car. It’s sadly the same at some swingers venues . If we are there , the misconception that we obviously are up for it with anyone . It’s truly bad form and far from the truth . We are not angry just slightly irritated by the sometimes ignorant attitudes out there . In the world outside of kink and swingers i can understand people having misconceived ideas , it baffles me in this lifestyle that respect and boundaries aren’t sometimes adhered to . I’d rather put up a positive post . So in closing , I will add there is many many amazing , sexy , respectful people out there that respect boundaries and limits. Amen to that ! 🙏 A x
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AnnieWhichway
4 years ago
Sums up the male thought process. What can l say apart from the embarrassment of having the male genes and sick. Beam me up
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AnnieWhichway
4 years ago
Sick was meant to be dick. Fitting really, a male orientated spell check.....
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SpicyKale
4 years ago
Phoenix, we just don't get it either! We've chatted quite a bit on here and I don't think we've ever swapped nudes! There's nothing wrong with asking for consent before sending a dick pic ffs. People just have no idea what enthusiastic consent means... unfortunately it's a society wide problem that's made worse by the anonymity of the internet. Even on a site like this people need to realise that they need to ask first, it's not that hard.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Wow That’s very dramatic geeeeeee
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Mask_007
4 years ago
I there. I'm extremely sorry to hear that. Some people get out of control, or have no control over they sence of respect. I could not believe that people is so disrespectful of others. Carma will get the better of them.
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Ragdata
4 years ago
Hey Phoenix, I'm very thankful to be surrounded by women who are sex positive and who enjoy sex. One of those friends is even a working girl and we have a BALL swapping stories - as I do with many (not all) of my sex-positive female friends. Unfortunately, there aren't too many men who have had the opportunity to talk about sex with women, and for the most part, feminine attitudes to sex remain a complete mystery to them. When they come across a woman who expresses a positive attitude toward sex, they make the assumption that those attitudes mirror their own - they've just got nothing else to go on! The truth is that not all men have the same attitude toward sex either, and I myself have had to grin and bear the unsolicited "wisdom" a guy who thought he knew it all when to any progressive, thinking person the attitude he was expressing was kinda scary. There are many more lesser examples of some imbecile sharing opinions that those around him would rather he kept to himself. But, this is quite common, I think. When we find someone who SEEMS to share similar attitudes to our own, we use the knowledge we have on board to fill in the blanks ... when what we really should have done was check in and make sure that what we assumed to be the case, actually was. You've DOUBTLESS encountered this thousands of times in the form of an unsolicited dick pic. I can only assume the reason for those is the same as the case you're talking about in your post - that the dick-piccers assume you share their attitudes and appetites. Guys like to look, and their penises are important to them. They'd LIKE to think that you'd like to look, and that it's important to you as well, and many of them TRULY don't understand - CANNOT comprehend - that this is not the case at all. I think this failure belongs to ALL of us. We don't talk enough about sex - we don't talk frankly enough about it, and we most certainly don't talk to our kids about it when we really should be. We ESPECIALLY should be talking to our young men about sex, and I know for a fact that young women have for a long time now been much better educated when it comes to sex than we ever were. This NEEDS to change. The one part of your post that I disagree with is your assertion that he was showing you what he thought of you. No Phoenix, he was actually showing you that he wasn't really thinking at all. I hope he's feeling sufficiently sheepish after you were able to enlighten him about the negative impact of his actions, and I hope you were able to teach him something positive. I know that most guys will take on board what you do share with them, and will genuinely try to be better men because of it. If not, I understand ... but I don't think he was a monster. He was just, like many guys, a little too quick to act without thinking it through first.
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cleancutau
4 years ago
Yeah there’s no excuse for that. I love having open chats about sex with women friends and don’t EVER see it as them presenting an invitation to unwelcome advances. If a man can’t tell the difference between flirting and normal conversation he’s not worth talking to!!
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RHP User
4 years ago
Chivalry guys 🤷♂️ where the fuck has it gone , Ladies first , open doors ,pull out chairs , walk on the road side , hold her handbag if she needs, lay your best jacket in a puddle for a girl to walk over so her shoes don't get wet , throw yourself in that puddle if you don't have a jacket , give compliments if you think someone looks nice ,pay a strangers shopping if theyre short , help someone lift something or offer to help if they look like they might struggle , don't be a fucking sleazy prick and have some respect and common decency about you. If they wanna see it they'll hint or ask , if you wanna see it you gotta fucking earn it cause throwing dick picks ain't the way to treat anyone and is just bloody rude .
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FunwithSandS
4 years ago
Lots of entitled people in the world today, sadly. Much as I would like to think otherwise, the art of flirting and light banter eludes a lot of messagers on here. Phoenix, sorry to hear about your experiences. Perhaps consider it a bullet dodged ;)
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twix_twix
4 years ago
Totally agree with the OP and I’ve written a standard script to respond to unsolicited dick pics and numbnuts so I don’t just tell them to F/O. Pees me off that I have the momentary raised blood pressure and very reassuring to read the common themes in this thread. I focus on keeping my own positive outlook - it’s damn tough.
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PassionFreaks
4 years ago
@suspended, Chivalry isn’t dead, I do those things all the time for Ms PF. I do it because I want too, not for any other reason. Back On topic, I just delete and block the dic picks that we get sent now. Can’t be bothered with replying, it’s not worth my energy. Definitely considering a rhino cock shot in PG2 that I can reply with tho... one can only imagine the terror in the eyes when they probs think they’re opening piccies of my gorgeous MsPF 😂
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RHP User
4 years ago
Well this is why everyone has options. Just exercise them. If someone being rude by word or photo , block delete , but if it floats your boat then I assume you will make contact. We do live in the now world . Love you all
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RHP User
4 years ago
I think some people don’t understand the boundaries.. For some reason men think sending their dicks, will instantly get them laid.. Instead of showing their dick, they should send them intellectual conversation to stimulate their minds 😂😂
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RHP User
4 years ago
Phoenix I am truly sorry to hear of this occurring to you. As others have stated, the entitlement and attitude can be extremely poor and this is the main reason why I deactivate my account at times when it gets too much. Best of luck moving forward lovely x
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1Silverfox
4 years ago
Ladies I totally agree with you on this subject but I’m sure your aware that there are women out here doing the same. I’ve been chatting, haven’t met and boom there is the some of the most explicit female pics. Now being a man I’m not complaining but that’s not the sort of woman I’m looking to meet and don’t 😬
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wantyou_25
4 years ago
Phoenix_Rising thank you so much for bringing this up. I’m glad there are others that share my same sentiments as you on this one.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Be very very clear and precise on what your looking for in your profile description as to avoid confusion.
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RHP User
4 years ago
I get dick pics and videos from strangers constantly on here, Facebook, Instagram. It is very offensive. Nearly as offensive as ‘hi’ because I suppose Atleast they put some thought into taking the picture. There is a new app coming out where it will stop that, they will only be allowed to send one message and a profile face picture, nothing else. Until the recipient consents to receiving more. I can’t wait.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Hi guys hope it’s ok to join in , I’m about to turn 50 this year and have just got divorced and found this site and I have been really surprised of the liberation, having said I am also very concerned about the current male race , I’m possibly considered an ole fashioned country bloke but these guys have no manners and no respect and it seems to a large trend , is it the way they are raised , is it social media or are most the blokes all the ladies talking about just idiots with very little intelligence, what ever happened to a polite introduction and the question of of a response and a thank for receiving one
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MILFandMr
4 years ago
Have to agree with you there Jessica_rabbit. Island life does appear to be another ass wipe. Clicked on his profile to see what the fuss was about, made derogatory comments about my body then had the spine to block us. What a douche. Yep. It’s official. A+ douche bag.
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EarthQueen
4 years ago
Agree. Not always, (but too often) my experience is that with many men you can't express you are sex positive because they see it as a green light to hit on you. They assume because you are sex positive it means you want to fuck at all the times/are constantly horny which then has the opposite effect. Or the other opinion is your slutty and wouldn't be faithful /honest if they are interested in a relationship. You are just someone to have "fun" with. I think it's because they're dumb/uninformed and its Australian culture. Plus the selling of sex through advertising and media basically portrays it this way and this view isn't combatted in any type of education system which just focuses on the mechanics of sex and a tiny bit of consent. We still have miles to go in this area but its good to have places like the forum to discuss it. Women do our best to combat it but I think it's more powerful if informed men challenge each other on these ideas when they are together and focus on teaching their sons more about sex and women than the mechanics and that women aren't a conquest... and to stop slut shaming. I try to have open conversations with both my children about this particularly my teenage son. Slut shaming is alive and well in high school in 2020.
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RHP User
4 years ago
I get it all the time. The one that upsets the most is I write paragraphs and have a long profile so I get called names, a prude, vanilla because I don't like certain things like dick pics. So being able to write whole sentences and paragraphs is offensive.
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black_star53
4 years ago
💯. Some newer guys on this site definitely think it's a free smorgasbord of women that they can just pick from to fuck.. rather than understanding that we also have a say in it... Guys who have been in the scene a bit longer, I find much more respectful of both sides and understand that sex is a two person interaction not just for one person's pleasure. As much as guys will say that they are fine with women who love sex, a lot of them still have in the back of their minds that mentality around not being more than just sex because of how you met. I actually did get told a few months ago , from a guy who I met and we connected much more than just physically, but got told that "ideally I'm looking for my forever person but I KNOW it won't be someone on rhp" Like how rude, as if because I'm on this site it means I'm not good enough to date?!?!
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Rom199
4 years ago
Independent! Courageous, Open-Minded
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blackmmamba
4 years ago
I bet that friend was a full-blown Aussie chap. To all the women here kindly start looking outside your culture and norms, you will be surprised what you have been missing and you won't look back.
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emmy128
4 years ago
I smirk and frown reading through this. Personally I couldn’t agree more with the original post. Just because I am on a sex app doesn’t mean I want to spread my legs for any cock that slides into my DMs YESSSSsss however, if you ask all girls in an open forum some may not agree and they are liberated to live their best life of their choosing. Also agree. Solution? Everyone is different and everyone needs to respect each other a little better. I try my upmost to respond to any man who takes the time to reach me even if I find no common ground or attraction I like to make the effort to communicate as it’s common decency. The sad reality is most of the respondents lash back and become very aggressive if I don’t give them the answer they want. So the reality is I block after response purely to not deal with the back lash. We are all human With all different and unique needs and desires. Let’s try showing a bit more common decency to our fellow humans. I feel most of the men whom respond in such ways are hiding in the fact that they aren’t face to face. No body would speak like that in reality a computer screen shouldn’t change that. Also - while im responding ( more venting hehe) learn to read a profile people. Majority of men/women have clearly articulated what their desires are, it’s just that simple. #micdrop
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RHP User
4 years ago
I get pussy shots all the time. Just sayin.....
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RHP User
4 years ago
I love that saying X✌️
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dandanz
4 years ago
Love it especially when there talking to me apart from that if I’m not involved go for your life
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Anemone2019
4 years ago
I find this a lot as well. A lot of guys seem to assume "because you're here you want it, right?" 🙄 I know not all guys are like this and I've met several who are not but it is a classic example of male privilege - much as I hate to use that term. I was trying to explain entitlement to someone the other day, but realised his preconceived ideas of women on this site was about as Neanderthal as you could get.
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N4November
4 years ago
His behaviour is typical of privilege and arrogance. Unfriend him. There is no respect for you on any level. Misogynist asshole.
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curiousnhorny05
4 years ago
Or your available, there available what’s the problem? You must want to have sex. Also hate receiving dick pics too. Send me a pic that makes me think about it and I’m turned on more by the mystery.
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RHP User
4 years ago
He sounds like a “sneaky fucker” pretends to be your friend but the whole time looking to shag you, then got liquid courage and his fantasy thats been going on in his head forever became a wtf moment
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michealhughes
4 years ago
Interesting
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sxcmouse
4 years ago
Well said. 😊
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RHP User
4 years ago
Hahaha I know exactly where you are coming from. I get the most disgusting toothless +55yo bogans sending me things along the line of "Oh what a shame, you are in Bris, I would have rocked your world" & the most common from everyone is "Are you free tonight?" ...as if it is so obvious that because I'm on a sex site, my vagina must be on active rotation upon anyones request. 97% of the time I really want to reply with "You must be fucking kidding🤮" but as it would welcome further discuss... Delete & Block 🤦♀️
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RHP User
4 years ago
I wonder how these guys would react if a woman they don't find sexually attractive jumps up on their table whilst they're having coffee and flashes their vag? so many 'uneducated' men take this attitude into the swingers clubs as well. The idea that every woman in the club is up for it with anyone that's there. Rather than going in to socialise with possible like minded people This is why we have to pay higher than single women. It's basically a 'dickhead' tax. Open, honest, educational conversations from a young age would level out the mindset so everyone, not just women, would feel ok and comfortable in their own sexual skin. I hope I'm still young enough - or alive - when all guys on this site and in the clubs treat women how they would expect men to treat their mother or sister. and that they go into the club with the mindset to socialise and not the demanded right from paying entry for multitudes of sex.
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RHP User
4 years ago
There are two types of women to the vast majority ( not all to the whiners) of men. Sluts they want to fuck and ice bitches who won’t fuck them. They seem to bombard all of us with unwanted intimacies whether by catcalling, grabbing or sending unwanted pictures of genitals.
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RjWilky
4 years ago
I have recently matched with someone on Tinder and had fairly ‘vanilla’ conversations (not around sex), and the moment they realised I was on this app, his response to me on Tinder was “I’m guessing your DTF if your on red hot pie too 😊”. No mate, I’m not going to sleep with everyone I find on here, and although I love sex, I’d rather ‘go without’ than be touched by someone ignorant like you. I find male behaviour on this app reflects their behaviour in life. When I get sent d*ck pics without them asking first - I see it as creepy and not respecting boundaries or consent. If you can’t ask first on an app, what are like in real life? Also, the amount of men who CAN NOT accept polite rejection were obviously mummy’s favourite boy and were never told no. I always politely decline people I’m not interested in - regardless of how gross their messages to me are. And honestly, a majority respond by trying to convince me otherwise (again, questioning their ability to understand consent) or they start abusing me. I am finding a lot (not all) of men on this app feel entitled to every woman they message, simply because we are on this app for the same reason they are. Doesn’t mean everyone has the same standards, interests and sex drives.
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HappyCbrCouple
4 years ago
We view women who speak of sex the same way we view all women.... With respect.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Its worrying how many guys have a lack of personal respect & entiltement complex over women. It usually stems from their own fragile self worth issues. There is definitely a certain type of make that seems to typify this behavour. Once learned to detect, you can see them a mile away
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RHP User
4 years ago
I've experienced this. When I first joined a guy messaged me, I told him straight out I wasnt interested, it's in my bio. He said he was happy just chatting, which we did. I put up photos and he asked if he could see my albums. I said no, because he wasnt what I was looking for and I wasnt glshow my albums to someone who didnt maych what we were looking for. He said he understood and wouldn't ask again, that he respected my boundaries. Then he just kept sending me messages saying he was going to have a sex change, then sent me a whole heap of sick picks. I just blocked him. I've also experienced this from a few woman though also. I became friends with one woman, nice and casual, obviously a little flirting. Then she messaged me and said she liked to f=÷×+_ like a dirty whore in front of her partner and wanted me lick her sloppy seconds and thirds from her busted p#$$%. Another female who I started chatting to again a little flirting, never mentioned she had a husband messaged me and said "You'll do let's Skype and f#$%. So I think it comes from both sides. People need to read people's bios properly x
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miamore
4 years ago
Omg girl! I could not agree more!! This has happened to me and continues to a lot! I am actually quite picky on who I am attracted to and just because I’m a sexual person does not mean I like any one!! Lol Really appreciate your words they are so very true xx
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Dirtyandfriendly
4 years ago
A lot and I mean a lot (not all) just think with their dick. It's everywhere, it's online, in person and just rude. I've had guys send me messages of their hairy ass and balls and ask if I want this? Decency and respect go a long way and its not hard to gauge a situation too especially in a conversation.
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GrizzleyBare666
4 years ago
This happens to my partner daily. Not just on here but every ,and I mean EVERY, social media platform she has. The assumption that because we/she are in an open relationship then that automatically means its ok to send a dick pic or an inappropriate message. And the amount of guys who's first message is "hey I'm free come on over" , I mean ,wtf! No introduction, no trying to get to know her, no common fucking courtesy. It makes my blood boil. This woman is an intelligent, beautiful, sexual being who is not there just to satisfy your urges at the spare of the moment aaaarrrrgggghhhh. Rant over. Thanks for coming to my TED talk.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Honestly, I’m not exactly a modern day casanova when it comes to flirting but it really shouldn’t require a bachelors degree to understand that sending unsolicited picks of your dick isn’t going to win you any positive attention 🤣🤣🤣 Also to answer your question, I don’t view them any differently... everyone likes sex right? But that doesn’t mean that you want to have sex with everyone, pretty antiquated mentality to believe that because a woman says she likes sex that you’re entitled to jump into bed with her smh 🤦🏾♂️
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RHP User
4 years ago
Love u
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Antsman12345
4 years ago
I like to compete when they speak like that see who can get the dirtiest
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RHP User
4 years ago
Just grow up turn other cheek n stop giving the muppets who offend more notation so their feral hippy ites keep marching in pointless anti slut marches in their undies rhetorically being complete whack job BO Ridden undesirables
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KD101
4 years ago
Be interested to know how this ended. You obviously called him out?
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RHP User
4 years ago
It’s just a short coming , a over reach from an unintelligent I sure man void of intuition , unaware of a heightened plain existing , a synergy , and chemistry...without any of it.....why go there ...
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On_Safari
4 years ago
Totally agree with everything you’ve observed Phoenix. It’s even more awkward when a male friend suddenly changes the status quo and takes everything they should know of your character and values and reduces you to just another “potential shag”. Being open with our male friends in general discussions is not code for “I’d shag you if you made a move or expressed your interest.”
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RHP User
4 years ago
As someone not at all confident sexually..... I don't have a problem with women talking about sex but would be intimidated :) I couldn't even think of sending dick pics.
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Sujeco
4 years ago
The internet has done a fair disservice to how people interact. Somehow many men think its ok to send a dick pic. But in reality its the same thing as pulling your dick out in a bus or a shop etc. Yey in the real world it would possibly become a police matter.. Somehow the internet made totally inapropriate behavior somewhat more the norm. Sad in a way that those who do it have no idea that its a shitty thing to do. I have never met a woman who actually likes dick pics..
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RHP User
4 years ago
Its frustrating when this happens. I especially hate it when a random person on here sends a message and without our reply sends a pg which I usually assume is face pick when there's body pucs and no face pick on their profile and our profile specifically asks for face pics but alas no its close ups of bits and my God I love e that when I've asked for it but not to just open up and without so much as a hello from one of us... boom close ups of their bits. I say this for both women and men. Its not cool, you've got to atleast have a conversation before sending your bits. Consent is sexy! Get it before you try to get some!! End rant. Sorry this happend to you. ❤ K 🙋🏻♀️
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AusThai2
4 years ago
As a male who doesn’t really understand the whole “Dick Pic Culture” I never really understood how full on it was until joining RHP. Originally my partner & I had our settings as open to single males (trying to be open minded) but all the messages etc were just too overwhelming so we had to change it. I noticed that Dick pics are one of the first things that are sent. Does that ever really work for them? I don’t get it.
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tylernsofia
4 years ago
Let me prefix this by saying Everything I say in this is a generalisation. Most guys are dumb in General, although it seems like there’s not much you can do. Sometimes guys need like straightforward feedback, give them back their alpha by straightening them out, and say they could try a different approach just not with you. Just because a guy hits on you doesn’t mean you need to snap or be shy about it. Feedback is better than no feedback and by interacting in this way you’ll leave the world a better place one man at a time. We live in an age when we purposefully, depose men by calling them chauvinist pigs belittle them and make them feel they are pathetic and nothing etc and yet women we beg for real men. Help them calibrate and the world will be a better place. Not saying that you don’t already do this or not, I don’t know you and so far you seem quite switched on, my wife and I always get unsolicited dick pics all the time even though we mention on our profile. I hope this helps love. As it’s given me some personal insight to how better handle ourselves sometimes. Because sometimes.... we forget to be kind amidst our frustration.
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OzRednecks
4 years ago
This is a very interesting forum. Reading many, many, many comments (and a few biffo's) and I'm blown away by what a lot of people are writing on here. Phoenix, i'm sorry this has happened to you and made you feel this way but good on you for speaking your mind. Mrs Oz xx
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chocfitness
4 years ago
All the power to anyone that’s able to vocalise the things they enjoy and are proud of the trial and error encounters experienced when it comes to exploring their body. You obl get one life - enjoy the fk out or it
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RHP User
4 years ago
I just opened my profile this morning to find a message that was not very nice, hmmmm if men cannot accept honesty than that's the problem, not sure how or why some believe cock pic sum up who they are, my response in the end, id put a bag over both, shame that we cannot just enjoy without those who make men seem like lowlifes seriously.
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Warspeed
4 years ago
You’re all missing the point lol. Even though you may of viewed this guy as just a friend. He still wants to sleep with you. Guys can’t be neutral friends with females unless they are gay. They will always think of you naked etc. It’s in our DNA. Guys that say otherwise are lying. Anyway dick picks are so yesterday. I send pictures of my dog.
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DeepPleasure4u
4 years ago
Go back to the old saying if you've seen one you've seen them all so why send photos unless you have explicitly asked if you can or been asked for them I do wonder what attracts women to men on a site like this is it a hunky body tanned full of muscles or is it the conversation starter that attracts the opposite sex personally if you occupy my mind you have my attention cheers Lee
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SmoothOperatorrr
4 years ago
More fuel for the feminist
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RHP User
4 years ago
It’s a simple lack of respect, abd devoid of human connection or empathy.. clearly a show of arrogance Seems to be a issue with men being “ gentleman “ 🤷🏼♂️
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Chellek
4 years ago
Was this on here or on some other site? I feel like that’s relative
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RHP User
4 years ago
Firstly I'd like to tell all those judgemental pricks to STFU. then maybe just a few words, because I don't have much to say on this topic.. *Normal. *Cool. *Confident. *Uninhibited. *Respected, for being themselves. Yeah even those who don't want to get jiggy with me or any other individuals.
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Naughtydouble
4 years ago
Not taking sides but not everyone has the same capabilities on flirting connecting I have friends and the way they go about things makes me smile Can be like a bull at a gate or awkward as hell its not up to us to pose judgement because someone’s method or system seems wrong, Maybe we could try some guidance and say Hey that’s probably not the best way to go about it YOU COULD TRY THIS ... because I find it offensive and so would most everyone else. 😊😊
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TheGMan
4 years ago
Does anyone want to know what the song ‘like a virgin’ is all about?
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Just_Dan
4 years ago
I don't think it's about how men see women. I think it's about your drunk friend and other people who are horny, out of control and lacking empathy. All people are different. I can't imagine doing such a thing, personally. I know this is common though, and I wish women didn't have to navigate it
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cat_n_the_hatter
4 years ago
I am kind to my friends and yet don't expect sex from them. Why is it that so many men associate kindness and respect toward women with sexual expectancy? Do they expect sex from their male friends? The attitude, the entitlement is the problem. Now to your question op. I am sorry for what happened to you. This topic is old, so I do not know if you follow it. First apparent issue is - upbringing and social norms. Women learn to downplay ways in which one is better than the others. Very early most girls learn that sounding too sure of themselves will make them unpopular (they even act as dumb). Therefore, girls learn to talk in ways that balance their own needs with those of others — to save each others face. Boys tend to play differently. Not everyone is treated as an equal. Those with high status in their group are expected to emphasise rather than downplay their status. They use language as a tool to negotiate their status by challenging others (he probably thought instead of language - photo can do). This is not to say that all boys and girls grow up this way or that they are equally successful at negotiating these norms. Second, people go to dates, form friendships, or even relationships with assumptions, daydreams, and expectations. When the guy/girl you start dating is not your ideal (whatever that is for you) or doesn’t share your interests, views, desires, their effort becomes irrelevant - you put them in a box. He had a box for you and you were in the process of finding his.(Ms)
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RHP User
4 years ago
The amount of time I have been accused of flirting just sharing stories because I am comfortable with my sexuality and I have been exploring it for years is unbelievable, I don’t fuck just anyone I just have had chemistry with a lot of people and that shouldn’t be the gage of others thinking I want to have them. I will bluntly ask for it if I wanted it from them!!
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RHP User
4 years ago
I like sex a lot, I talk and joke about sex a lot too but that does not mean that I’m going to shag everyone I talk to 🙄 I have been told that I shouldn’t be on here because I’m not DTF
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VirgoDave
4 years ago
Hi , hey you are 39 years old and the action of 1 man means we have to analyse it and apply to the male species as a majority? Nope don’t agree with that! Just one bloke who’s a dickhead 🤦♂️ , not saying there are not more , I’ve done dum shit at times ! Delete the photos tell him he is a dickhead move on
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RHP User
3 years ago
No problem, but finding my experience to be a bit weird today. Funny place this.
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