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How long with your FWB
February 17 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
With one of them. We were lovers first then the friendship developed. We continued as lovers though as we were still having so much fun!!!!
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RHP User
9 years ago
We started off as lovers then we realised we really liked each other. Still going strong the sex gets better and better. Fwb are wonderful. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Have had a few FWB over the years .. My bestest friend of 20years started as just sexual encounter .. But when we realised we connected on a more emotional level .. Friendship took over from sexual need .. Never to have sex again .. We laugh about it all the time .. How we've gone down on each other .. 😳 But when you become emotionally connected FWB should become just friends .. Especially if commited in relationships to other people . The old saying 'don't fuck your friends ' comes to mind .. But love FWB for just sexy fun . Mrs. G here 💋💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
But less than a friend ..we didnt spend any time together outside of the bedroom but we cared about each other,knew what was going on in each other's lives...it went on for three years until life got in the way..he was the most skilful lover..ever xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
We were friends for three years before the benefits started happening. The benefits ended 7 years ago and we're still good mates.
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RHP User
9 years ago
One of my first and one of my best, is still on the go, first met him (another website) probably September or October year before last so not far off a year and a half. He's elusive, but that adds the random or keeps it random, we can hook up fast now. We're so comfortable with each other, in his 20's, very passionate and skilled and the age difference has never been an issue. Can't say too much more for his privacy but he's the perfect fuck buddy, one I feel close to and like a lot, he's so nice, but none of that falling in love shit lol 😁 Love him in the moment though, god do I love him in the moment, extraordinarily talented mmm 😘
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sweetgem
9 years ago
Two FWB relationships (which I prefer to call it a companionship) since I escaped my previous life. In both companionships, we only made friends after the fun began because, I met them on a site similar to RHP and because I had only escaped my previous life, there was only one thing on my mind at that time 😛 Therefore, we began our companionship as soon as from the second date 😛 My very first companionship lasted over two years with it even turned into a relationship at the end, which got me by surprise as I didn't expect it would be. However, this unexpected relationship lasted only a year and a bit, then I had to end it as my personal circumstances changed and relationship was the last thing I had on my list of priorities! Sadly, we drifted apart as time went on, even though we tried to be friends at the beginning of our ending. The second companionship took place nearly two years ago (how fast time flies these days!) and only lasted for six month or so. It passionately lasted for three months in the beginning, where we would meet up twice a week to do movies, or dinner, etc. before we went back to his place to wrap up the night. However, his circumstances changed three months later and things changed dramatically from meeting twice a week to once a month, as well as no sleepovers were possible as he claimed he had moved to interstate. With my woman instinct, I suspected that he did not move to interstate, instead he might have found love with someone else, but didn't want to lose me for his needs. I tried to talk to him face to face, but no satisfied outcome was achieved, so I gave up and moved on. Again, I didn't gain a friend at the end of this companionship, which is fine and maybe it's best that we aren't friends anyway 😛 PS. I apologise for the long response SoftandCurious, hope it didn't hurt your eyes 😛 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
1 day, no I lie, 1 hour... oh dear, I mean 5 minutes and I am not sure she was my friend, she never calls. Which is good as I can not afford the 5 bucks a minute my friends (oops friend) charge anyways.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Three and a bit years. Started off as a random shag, then two, then realised we got along great. We are best friends, first and foremost, and fingers crossed that friendship will always last. - Posted from rhpmobile
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PurePeony
9 years ago
The longest FWB relationship for me lasted seven years. We became friends after being lovers for a while. For the last three years, he became my bf and we cohabited. He proposed to me a few times over the years, but I never felt that we were truly compatible. We lost touch when I migrated to Melbourne nine years ago. My next FWB relationship was for three years. We were friends before we became lovers. He ended up thinking that I was his gf although he refused to acknowledge it at that time. Weird. He started to spend less time with me and became disinterested in sex. He became dismissive, curt and rude towards me and took me for granted. I left after being cold-shouldered for a year and got into a bf-gf relationship. We remain friends, and we still share mutual friends. I am looking forward to my next FWB relationship! Hopefully, the man appears before Fall/Winter creeps up because I don't want to lose out on all the cuddling, keeping each other warm under the doona, sharing throws whilst watching TV, etc.
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inspirit
9 years ago
Really? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Some of you saw your fwb's longer than my marriages lasted. 😳
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's good to hear a lot have stood the test of time. Sounds like a relationship that works for a lot. I have been reading about the pitfalls with having a FWB and the main one seems to be when one develops more attached feelings than the other one. - Posted from rhpmobile
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PurePeony
9 years ago
Quoting 'willow_2' Some of you saw your fwb's longer than my marriages lasted. 😳 ______________________________________________________________________________________________ LOL!!! Guilty as charged! I suppose deep inside, I am very traditional when it comes to marriage and people's cavaliar attitudes about it scares me. It's no longer a sacred institution. It's hard to find a good man and as this site proves, there's just way too many married men who are cheating. And too many ex's taking me for granted which I hate so... FWB's it has to be until and unless I meet a gentleman.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'SoftandCurious' It's good to hear a lot have stood the test of time. Sounds like a relationship that works for a lot. Ours is essentially a relationship, but an open one, and has stemmed from FWB, and at it's core it really is just that. We rely on each other, help each other out, travel, sit on the couch in our trackies with ice cream...but we have two houses, two lives, separate finances. It's perfect.
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RHP User
9 years ago
My FWB have lasted years. I offer friendship before and above everything else. and if we find ourselves in a relationship etc the friendship remains.
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RHP User
9 years ago
8 years off and on. We always seem to catch up thinking friends will be fine but the clothes drop off after a coffee. No pressure , no stress she was a work friend at first, then a FWB Great friend a ohh what a lover 😈 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Mmm hands under the blanket - just my style! I think FWB is great because you don't own eachother, can have a laugh, a fuck but don't have to share finances, responsibilities etc. There's no pressure to be "the one ever after" but you still know each other well and love each other as mates. Trust and comfort come without all the baggage - in an ideal world anyway 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Mine is like that - well the no time spent outside the bedroom anyway! Would love to hang out more but circumstances don't allow it. I think it would be better to have some "friendship" time to have a laugh and add to the relationship on another level. But beggars can't be choosers 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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PurePeony
9 years ago
Quoting 'SoftandCurious' Mmm hands under the blanket - just my style! I think FWB is great because you don't own eachother, can have a laugh, a fuck but don't have to share finances, responsibilities etc. There's no pressure to be "the one ever after" but you still know each other well and love each other as mates. Trust and comfort come without all the baggage - in an ideal world anyway 😉 __________________________________________________________________________________________ - Posted from rhpmobile Yeah... in an ideal world. Truth be told though... A man who makes a good husband may not be GIB (Good In Bed). A good lover may not be a good husband. We have become complicated and multi-faceted people and I don't believe that there is any ONE person who can fulfill all our needs. We play different roles to different people and different groups of friends bring out different aspects of our personality, and I find life is more intriguing and multi-dimensional if we do not restrict our interactions to just one group of people. I'd hate to lose my independance and freedom to meet any and all my friends and participate in activities or join events just because my husband isn't interested. I'd also hate to think that if he "lets himself go" and starts to grow FAT and sloppy and stinky, etc that I will be beholden to the "for better or for worse" clause. It will be like making me die a slow death. I know of friends who have their hobbies / activities restricted by some commando spouse. And other friends, both male and female, who had lots of awesome sex pre-marriage and then post-nuptials, the sex life all but disappears and they have to contend with two to five sex sessions in a year!!! I'd hate to be married to someone who doesn't hold up their end of the bargain, if you know what I mean. It scares me to death because it is akin to being shackled. FWB's can be kept on their toes. We don't have to stick around and suffer pointlessly even when they have decided to stubbornly persist in habits / behaviour / attitudes that are not healthy for the relationship. If I make an effort to keep the relationship alive and well, I expect the same from my partner. I think that's only fair.
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RHP User
9 years ago
LOVE LOVE LOVE IT!!!!! Perfect name for someone who restricts the one they are supposed to support "no matter what." I have a friend whose spouse who reeks havoc if he wants to see female friends. It's gotten to the stage where we are scared to send text messages or phone in case it creates drama for him. I don't get it? Why someone would want to control another adult so much? That's not love it's possession. I've been in an abusive relationship. It slowly eats away at you. Without trust you've got a token relationship at the end of the day. If it's not an abusive relationship and you are just entertaining your spouse because it's less hassle for you, then you're saying "Hey, It's ok for you to treat me like less of a human" And that's the thing - independence and freedom are what gives us life and allows us to grow. Being with someone who wants to shackle you is stifling. I get jealousy - but it gets to a point where it becomes ridiculous. I'm lucky in a way that my marriage was slowly killing me. I finally worked out what I wanted and asked for it. He lives and respects me enough to allow me total control over my life including what I do with my body and who I see. But I would have broken up my family and walked away if he tried. No one is worth losing yourself for - and you're ripping them off also. I'm in total agreement with you about one person not being able to meet all of your needs! It's not possible - it's why we have hobbies and friends and friends with benefits lol! And to expect someone to fulfill you is like drinking poison waiting for another person to die. You need to fulfill yourself. Yes all relationships take work, but the other person needs to compliment your life not complicate it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
We had an amazing time over the years. I fondly remember taking her virgin ass on the rug in her lounge room. In the end we could never catch up, even if it was only to say hi. She kept making excuses to not meet up, I took the hint. I've deleted her number just in case I get the urge to send her a text. Natural - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Still going although he is still away traveling for another 6 months. If it works it works! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
and he is all I ever dreamt of He is smart, he is attentative, understanding, interesting, super sexy and a true gentleman. There are many things we think alike (about the most important topics ) we seem to enjoy similar things I know that even without "benefits" we would have ended up as friends - but the "benefits" make it much better - here is to hoping I am not going to bore him and it will last for decades
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm so happy for you!!!........does he have a brother? 😉 That's my ideal scenario - I don't just want to be a booty call. Even though it makes me feel sexy and empowered, I need more than that. The connection and intimacy you get by getting to know someone more makes the sex for me so much better! And because there's no expectation of moving the relationship into the more traditional - de facto/married situation, the new relationship energy lasts so much longer because there's no pressure.
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Missb4u
9 years ago
Longest for me is probably a month maybe 6 weeks. Not sure if it's me or them that's the problem
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
Has just clocked over the one year anniversary and we still have fabulous times together and the friendship part is very important to us. In fact they are sitting on my couch right now, dinner is cooking and after that we're heading out to a swingers club to let our head and pants down ;) The other one is 6 months and counting and again the friendship part is very important and we are in constant contact. Time together is a lot harder, but we make the very most of it when it happens.
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RHP User
9 years ago
not seeing eachother very often :) hence the friendship is easy to maintain... and maybe about not being possessive - I know I don't care what he gets up to when I am not there as he does not care what I get up to :) I think a solid friendship is what makes FWB relationships work- if that is there then I think there is hope...well..I will be intended to find out
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nattyocean
9 years ago
I have a small number of men who I would regard in the FWB category with whom the sexual component has just been the icing on the big cake of friendship lol. Over 12 months and counting for this small number and with all but one there now no sexual component primarily through distance (I moved) but we catch up for a coffee if I'm in the area and have a great catch up. I enjoy having friends of this nature as the topics of conversation tend to be broader and less restricted as there has been that openness and rawness to the relationship. I feel very lucky to have these people in my life
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RHP User
9 years ago
I would ask the question as to how often one sees such a friend. Unfortunately, despite such friends being adorable, wonderful people who you really want to spend more time with, things like work, life and distance can get in the way of seeing them as often as you want, which can be anywhere from weeks to many months between meetings. Having said that, I am eternally grateful for having any such friendships in my life at all, regardless of the exact nature of the friendship, for many people (still) do not have anyone at all. Like them, my many previous years of not having had anyone, only makes me appreciate every moment with them. I am still learning to express such appreciation/gratitude in the ways I would like, so I am grateful that my friends can see the real me and can see that I am trying. Of course the "friends" part is the most important to longevity. If you get along well on a personal, social and communicative level, perhaps with some common life interests to spend social time on, then those friendships will remain, regardless of how often you see each other and regardless of the nature of any said "benefits".
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'SoftandCurious' And because there's no expectation of moving the relationship into the more traditional - de facto/married situation, the new relationship energy lasts so much longer because there's no pressure. I would like to think that with the right person/s, an actual loving and committed relationship should also have - or come about from - little/no pressure, just two people who wish to share ongoing life and love experiences together, but that is only because I am obviously completely naive and living in a land of fantasy! :P Of course, whilst I would love to have an actual girlfriend, true friends or fwb's will also be happy for you (read: any single person) should you find such a person. That is because I think the best fwb's genuinely care about, and want the best for the other person, even if the best is someone else in the long run. Which comes back to the underlying true and genuine friendship. Of course, fwb's are much easier to maintain than a conventional relationship if you only manage to see each other once in a blue moon. Of course normal relationships can cope with this but only for a certain time, as people do in situations where work etc takes one partner away for extended periods. Relationships need the ongoing physical intimacy to survive as a "relationship" by definition. Friends on the other hand, with benefits or not... well to use an example, with just normal platonic friendships, I have them with old school mates, who I might not see or even communicate with for years at a time, yet we are always best buddies when we do catch up. So I come back to agreeing with the above... this is because of the lack of pressure and/or expectations, which may help some fwb's survive long-term.
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greengsxr
9 years ago
About 8 years I think. I can usually tell if there's going to be a possibility of either party growing feelings in the first month. As you said on my question: communication is the key! With this even more so than in the actual bedroom I feel. Because this is people's hearts were talking about. If one party grows more attached then no matter how hard it is, how much you love them as a friend you MUST end it immediately. Well that's what I think. And as far as ending it goes when feelings aren't involved just be honest - talk. It's never as bad as it seems when u talk it thru.
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greengsxr
9 years ago
Kissk - that does sound a lot more like a relationship to me! I agree with SYDnibarbie - distance is key. This is no normal friendship. Ask yourself this - if he met someone tomorrow and fell madly in love would you be happy for him? Would you be fine with never sleeping with them again and if they are such a great friend will you be happy seeing them together all the time being all over each other? Answer should be " yes no worries" otherwise...... Mmmmmm..... I dunno!
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MsJonesy
9 years ago
Labels don't really come into it. We enjoy the time we spend together regardless of what we are getting up to, have never had 'a discussion ' as to what might be an appropriate label. It really doesn't matter.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'greengsxr' Kissk - that does sound a lot more like a relationship to me! I agree with SYDnibarbie - distance is key. This is no normal friendship. Ask yourself this - if he met someone tomorrow and fell madly in love would you be happy for him? Would you be fine with never sleeping with them again and if they are such a great friend will you be happy seeing them together all the time being all over each other? Answer should be " yes no worries" otherwise...... Mmmmmm..... I dunno! Just wondered, why do you think it sounds like a relationship. To me, it sounds like a normal fuck buddy type situation, particularly when you have a few on your radar, you pick up time with each one when you both have time. I've had 5 or 6 on the go at once, formed a strong connection/trust with each, occasionally will speak to one in between meets, usually not, so for me more a fuck buddy than a fwb, but either way, I never felt like I was getting attached to them in a romantic way. It's all about the sex which just gets better when you have the benefit of repeat meets and you like and respect them, and get that back. But I didn't read kissk's post to suggest any over attachment at all, just that they were going out to a swinger's club, just my thoughts
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needlotsmorefun
9 years ago
Quoting 'CeeCee64' Still going although he is still away traveling for another 6 months. If it works it works! - Posted from rhpmobile
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solrose
9 years ago
Mr and I have been together since I was 14 him 17, when I was 16 we met his younger brothers girlfriend. Instantly we got along like a house on fire🔥 They lasted 9 to 12 months but our friendship lasted and grew. Now 17. Many nights out and house parties later we were staying over after an adult toy party, everyone was wound up and horny, the party host had left and most people left to go home. Mr and I crashed on the lounge floor. Young and horny, we couldn't keep our hands off oneanother but still trying to be discreet!!!! We then hear a little giggle, we looked upto our surprise here she was in the lounge door way watching. Softly see asked us not to stop on her account and encouraged us on...... This was our huge green light!!!!! The for-play continued and so did the gestures for her to join us under the doona. We couldn't believe what was happening, Mr and I had spoke about being with a girlfriend a wish one day it may happen. She literally fell in to our laps, tall, blond and legs that went all the way to heaven. Before to long we left the lounge for her room, (she did have roommates) and it was a night to truly remember. Since then she has been my/our closest and truest friend. Have many times sent Mr and her out for nights out and away, knowing full well what's to come when they get home or back to their motel room. Her and I even lived together in a single bedroom flat for a while. She shared us as a couple and many times on our own. Through fights Mr and I have had over the years to being my maid of honour at our wedding, being there to help after the births of our 3 boys and now a loving ( Aunty ) to the boys we are now 35 and 33. And still look forward to when she comes to stay for visits💥 Sezxo - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Wow .. some here really hit relationship/marriage stage by the sound of it .. i feel so alone now lol . My longest was 6 months , which is perfectly fine by me , otherwise it would have started to feel too much like i was in a relationship .. just weird from my perspective . I think anything past that and - you are just getting too comfortable .. and lazy lol ( no offence ) . Did the ones in a few year "arrangements" - not get bored nor seek variety ? If you didn't then - lets not mince words .. that's a relationship . As for the "friends" aspect of the fwb part then my last - we were friends beforehand and after 4 months yes , we are still friends :)
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abcplus1
9 years ago
But that has occurred more than once.......... The first such one we met via the old Yahoo chat rooms in 2002, the 3 of us remain the best of friends to this day. Another we met on a similar site to this, and again the 3 of us remain best friends 6 years on. We see each other socially, we know each others families and children, attend BBQ's and birthday parties etc.........
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RHP User
9 years ago
Wow haven't found one yet lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
We just celebrated 10 years as FWB and it's not going to end just yet.. Yes we love each other but it's more of an obsession than "In Love". We adore each other and a the best of friends and have known each other for 30 years. We would never have a proper relationship as it would never work. He recently married and still comes to my bed. Do I feel bad? NO, he is my lover, he's her husband. That's the way we want it. It doesn't stop me dating or looking for love. Question is, will it ever end? I doubt it but then again they say all good things come to an end. Just not yet though.....
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Wildewillsy76
9 years ago
My FWB started when we were living on the same in the apartment block we were living in. We had sex once after having a few wines one winters' night and we enjoyed it so much we have had regular sex for 4 years even after she moved out of the apartment block. In some ways it more convenient for us now that she lives on my way home from work. We have never looked at getting together as I feel it may not work as a relationship long term. She has admitted to me marriage and kids are not in her plans as she feels her sister is the more likely to have kids as my FWB is pretty much married to her job.
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RHP User
9 years ago
well a friend of 15 years turned into a FWB now we sort of just alternate between being fwb and regular friends - its complicated. as far as ones who started out as it just being for sex 6 months ish.
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RHP User
9 years ago
well there's one guy that i've been friends with for 16 years after 15 years it became fwb now we kinda alternate between fwb and regular friends as far as ones that started out as sex about six months i've not maintained a friendship with any but im not opposed to it
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'too_real_74' Wow .. some here really hit relationship/marriage stage by the sound of it .. i feel so alone now lol . My longest was 6 months , which is perfectly fine by me , otherwise it would have started to feel too much like i was in a relationship .. just weird from my perspective . I think anything past that and - you are just getting too comfortable .. and lazy lol ( no offence ) . Did the ones in a few year "arrangements" - not get bored nor seek variety ? If you didn't then - lets not mince words .. that's a relationship . As for the "friends" aspect of the fwb part then my last - we were friends beforehand and after 4 months yes , we are still friends :) To me FWB is not an exclusive relationship. So yes, I would imagine that you would have other friends or lovers over that time. OR maybe swing together and have lovers in common.
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KindredPleasures
9 years ago
Met as just a hook up, developed a great friendship and is one of my best friends today. Haven't slept with each other in years due to relationships etc and hasn't diminished anything. One of the most positive things that ever happened during my original time on here :D
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'too_real_74' Wow .. some here really hit relationship/marriage stage by the sound of it .. i feel so alone now lol . My longest was 6 months , which is perfectly fine by me , otherwise it would have started to feel too much like i was in a relationship .. just weird from my perspective . I think anything past that and - you are just getting too comfortable .. and lazy lol ( no offence ) . Did the ones in a few year "arrangements" - not get bored nor seek variety ? If you didn't then - lets not mince words .. that's a relationship . As for the "friends" aspect of the fwb part then my last - we were friends beforehand and after 4 months yes , we are still friends :) You assume people only have one partner in that time, do you expect your partner to be exclusive? I'm not having a go at you at all, I'm genuine with my comment. This is probably a question for everyone. Is that the way you need it to be? Exclusive to me is a relationship or may as well be, but don't want to open a can of worms with that again. I guess I don't understand how an ongoing casual arrangement, whatever label is applied to that, is still casual if that person is expected to only see you, and how would you know they're not seeing other people? And would that matter to you, or other women here? Interested to hear thoughts on that
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RHP User
9 years ago
the other thing is I've never, ever, got bored with my fb's. If it comes to that, it stops. Whether they stop or I do, the intensity and excitement has to always be good, otherwise, what's the point. Not like a relationship where you have to settle, and before I get stoned for that comment, not always the case of course, but my point is you can walk away, not tied to that person in any way as you might be in a relationship and in my opinion, a big reason why a lot of people do this, to keep the spice, push limits, the opportunity to be with different kinds of lovers, whether part of a couple or singles, it should never be boring Many young guys I meet do it because in real life, chicks want to get their hooks into them, marry them, keep them, so they do this and have fun, explore their sexuality before they get tied down, so to speak
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RHP User
9 years ago
I like that . Quote: You don't own each other , can have a laugh a fuck but don't have to share finances responsibility etc and there's no pressure to be " the one ever after " Now that's what I call a good mate. At last , a woman content to be friends without commitment. 👍
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Dorey12
9 years ago
Any ladies reading this and interested a FWB please let me know (ie wink or like my post - you get the idea.)
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RHP User
9 years ago
I actually never implied anything about just having one or several . Just that having the one for years on end , even if there are others inbetween - is more of a relationship not an fwb or fuckbuddy whatever . Oh and that comment in regards to boring wasn't actually in reply to you . Just a generalisation as , seen quite a few post they have been with just the one for up to 10 years , etc . I will answer the question you asked regardless - and no , definately not the way i need it to be . That being said though .. i do prefer one on one .. rather than several at once .. A : Mainly because i find it safer , less risk with std's etc especially when not using a condom , hence why i am paticularly fussy .. with whom i choose as an fwb ( i am extremely cautious and clean myself in every aspect and won't settle for anything other than that in return ) . B : I do like to concentrate my efforts on the one fwb - rather than several at once .. find it much more satisfying , when you aren't spreading yourself everywhere sexually , mentally and what not - and can concentrate on pleasing oneanother far farmore than , if trying to balance a few at once . C : Finally , am very time restricted due to an immensely busy lifestyle so , that most definately is one of the main reasons i prefer just the one fwb also .
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RHP User
9 years ago
That's what's happened to me and my friend. I'm in love with him but he doesn't share any feelings .....lust maybe ??
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'too_real_74' I actually never implied anything about just having one or several . Just that having the one for years on end , even if there are others inbetween - is more of a relationship not an fwb or fuckbuddy whatever . Oh and that comment in regards to boring wasn't actually in reply to you . Just a generalisation as , seen quite a few post they have been with just the one for up to 10 years , etc . I will answer the question you asked regardless - and no , definately not the way i need it to be . That being said though .. i do prefer one on one .. rather than several at once .. A : Mainly because i find it safer , less risk with std's etc especially when not using a condom , hence why i am paticularly fussy .. with whom i choose as an fwb ( i am extremely cautious and clean myself in every aspect and won't settle for anything other than that in return ) . B : I do like to concentrate my efforts on the one fwb - rather than several at once .. find it much more satisfying , when you aren't spreading yourself everywhere sexually , mentally and what not - and can concentrate on pleasing oneanother far farmore than , if trying to balance a few at once . C : Finally , am very time restricted due to an immensely busy lifestyle so , that most definately is one of the main reasons i prefer just the one fwb also . thanks, that's a really honest comment and I respect your choice and preference for that
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RHP User
9 years ago
Started as friends, couple month later the sex started. this continued off and on til i finally put a stop to it.. We were never going anywhere. Both got jealous if the other saw other people. Weird thing is, everyone we spoke to thought we were dating but we never did. Moved in with each other, even shared a bed for a few years. It was basically a not relationship-relationship as i started calling it...We are actually still friends to this day.. still care about each other and there is still love there, just in the friends sense.
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RHP User
9 years ago
A few years and definitely feel as though I could spend a lot more years around this man. He is quiet and doesn't tell me everything but I can't help but keep coming back to him. Definitely know I care letting this occur :) Contradicting this I know he has opened up to me about some very intimate stuff which he wouldn't tell just anyone and I feel privileged :) I hope he does keep the initial love stage up as I feel tide has turned and it's definitely become more animalistic and very direct. But women love being treated like women sometimes and made to be felt special, kept on our toes ! I like all the spectrums mmm and I hope I can do the same back and keep him on his toes. Life is definitely about letting people live and grow independently and come together.. People that play together last together lol bring on more play ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I started seeing her when she was 68 and I was 38. It was great while it lasted,I think we both got what we wanted. Eventually it started being more like being in a relationship than FWB. So we both realised it and decided to move on. I do miss her company some times though
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RHP User
8 years ago
So far so good, we only catch up every 4 weeks or so...both living married family lives, so it's good to unwind sometimes
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Lovinit28andKC72
8 years ago
The longest I've had a 2 FB (one vanilla, one not so vanilla) for is about 12 months, one being more regular than the other. Up until recently, I found my problem was, if I spent too much time with one person, (2 consecutive days, in some cases a few hours) I was jumping out of my skin and I'd get bored, so i couldn't carry on with it. I've been seeing the same man for 6 months now, we are lovers, play mates, best friends, partners in crime, boyfriend and girlfriend. The best part is I can actually tolerate him for longer than 2 consecutive days, must be special I'd say...💋
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RHP User
8 years ago
I met my first FWB the day before my 22nd birthday, we saw each other around once a week for 9 or 10 months (while we both openly saw other people. It ended when we both started serious relationships but we remained friends. We are still friends now and have been together sexually once or twice since I separated from my ex, but mostly we recognise that we care too much for each other to make it regular again. I have another that I started seeing about 9 months ago, once a month on average (it's harder with kids) and the sex is mind blowing. Again we both see other people although I am praying he doesn't find a serious girlfriend and spoil my fun! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I have a couple of guys I've been seeing for, well since I joined this site early last year, so about a year and a half, one even longer from another site. Not all that regular anymore but still friends and hook up occasionally, the sex is always amazing, so why wouldn't I? I can't get attached to them because they're too young anyway so I find that lets me relax and enjoy them without overthinking what could be, because it can't be lol re the bit about them finding a serious girlfriend, I've had some go into relationships for a while, then come back when the relationship ends, that's cool
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RHP User
8 years ago
didn't mean it was cool their relationships end on a selfish level, I don't complain though
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm looking for longer term and I'm not having any luck - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Sometimes it's when youre not looking. ....I met a guy 9 months ago and we always had a great time when we met up. Not just the sex but we went to watch live music, had intimate dinners where we chatted for hours and we both loved going to the nude beach. And this is us now. Ive read the posts that say you cant have lovers who are friends on here and I guess Ive been lucky with the guys I met. So dont give up hope... xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
Thank you lovely xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
I've had one FWB for over 6 years now. We are both open and honest. She sees other men and I see other women. She's been with way more men than I've been with women, but that turns me on.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I was kinda sitting on the fence when it comes to younger boys. But lucky I am, been seeing this beautiful younger person for awhile, he's sooò cute! Though very young but I've never felt more like a women compared to the way how the more mature or experienced men behaved. It's the soul of the man, either you're pure or tainted. I met pure soul with a tainted mind n I'm having one of the best time of my life. That's why I'm not really looking, just using up membership messages lol. Coz for a new guy he better be at least as great or even better, if not I won't bother.
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RHP User
8 years ago
8 awesome months! We would hang out, get pizza and a movie, talk for hours, fuck for hours. He started to have feelings for me, I wasn't interested in a relationship so when another woman came along a few weeks later, he jumped st the chance and I was yesterday's news. 😡 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I started seeing an amazing girl ten years ago, we had firstly great sex, spicy and adventurous, this then become passionate love making. This lasted about two years. As our lives didn't mesh at the time, I moved away, be become good friends. I now call her my closest friend. The sex was great, yes of still like to be having sex with her, BUT I wouldn't give my friend up for anything. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
iv had one off and on for 20 years. every time im single we have hooked up for fwb. another fwb i had for 3 years every 2nd or 4th weekend we hooked up;-) need to find a new fwb
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Reg44
8 years ago
About 3yrs and 5yrs.. Started as fwb but finished because I wouldn't commit my to happy ever after.... As friends afterwards easier to let go and move out of the way..
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Reg44
8 years ago
About 3yrs and 5yrs.. Started as fwb but finished because I wouldn't commit my to happy ever after.... As friends afterwards easier to let go and move out of the way.. One day at a time...
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FieryFun2
8 years ago
When we lived in South Australia we were lucky to have a couple of really keen young FWBs that she could pop round to at short notice or arrange a hotel overnighter. Not been so lucky on the Gold Coast to find a special FWB but it would be nice to find one.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Only 8 amazing months, it was fun and some of the best sex I've ever had. Then he got a vanilla girlfriend and I was treated like yesterday's news. Ignored and forgotten. I was so hurt and angry, but I've learnt from it. Ce la vie 😘😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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