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How long would you wait?

June 02 2015

I met someone a few months ago that I really got on well with.. I thought we we're really suited and was sure he felt the same... He lived with his ex... But that suited me as I live with my ex. And I would have to find something pretty special to leave as it will be messy. Everything was going fine, was seeing him a few times a week, then I didn't hear from him for a week.. I sent a text asking if he was OK... Turns out he slept With his ex. He went on to say he didn't think he could keep seeing me while she was there, as he'd feel like he's cheating on both of us, and he would call when she was out. He said he'd enjoyed being with me and sent a few texts saying he wants to see me again, but needs to sort out shit first. I'd already said no hard feelings if u get back with your ex... He said he wouldn't sleep with her again. So should i wait? I have been talking to a few people but havnt met. Do you buy the story? Thankyou for reading my essay! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    It's really your call but if you met on a normal dating site would you wait,probably not. Keep talking to others and if, and it's a big if, he gets back in touch and you still feel connected then meet. Only you can tell if your emotions can handle it. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    this is rather amusing...I nearly even added sad lol But.... Who'd have thought that that would happen?? I mean honestly a guy on rhp(I'm assuming) going back to his ex for a bit of play... Two things come to my mind... 1. He never really left her. Which I could be wrong but meh... 2. How long should you wait...until you listen to your gut?? Guts are great....unless they're all open and hanging out and stuff...they'll tell you when... Me personally I wouldn't....he could be there(assuming the story is true) for some time while he sorts out shit....3 months, 6 months, or simply whenever he feels bored again to drag you back... So.... The question you should ask is how long are YOU prepared to accept it?? - Posted from rhpmobile

  • minxycouple

    minxycouple

    10 years ago

    Keep your options open I say crazycatgrl. Who's to say he'll be back. Time waits for no one. Good Luck! :)

  • SacralChakra

    SacralChakra

    10 years ago

    But my advice would be not to wait at all. If he was really into you he would be with you. End of story. You're worth more than that xx

  • tylannister

    tylannister

    10 years ago

    I'm inclined to agree with both sir_stir and SacralChakra here, even if you and your ex have an understanding of where you're at living together it doesn't sound like he has that with his ex. He needs to get his head clear and figure out what he's doing and it doesn't sound like he's really in a good emotional position to do that. At least not in a way that can include you without you getting hurt. I'd try extricate yourself from the situation and move on. If he shows up again down the line and he's in a better place, that's great - but don't hold your breath. You might turn blue.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I wouldn't wait. In that situation I'd feel like I'm being played. Not a fan of mind games. So I'd be gone. - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Exactly are you waiting for?I don't think that there is anything there..some people are just cowards and are economical with the truth..if he was really interested in you,as Sacral said,he would be with you.You have a choice,you can be a doormat or move on ..good luck xxFreya

  • Lovinit28andKC72

    Lovinit28andKC72

    10 years ago

    Goodbye, take what you need to out of the relationship and move on...... Probably time to stop living with your Ex or not so Ex...💋

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Sorry to hear of another woman on here feeling disheartened.( personally I would be a bit harsher and say you were used) theres another recent forum topic called "blurred lines done", just feel grateful it didnt get to what that poor girl accepted as a relationship. Anyway, Im old and cynical, so my take on what you have written is as follows... His wife had pulled the pin on their marriage,but put up with him staying at the marital home.(side story inserted now...its probably one of the husbands on this site who say the wife knows he's on here but he's only sending innocent flirts and would never actually meet 😎) The man wants a vagina that will cuddle him and tell him how great he is, because he is waiting for wifey to forgive him and give him that 5th chance. But while he waits in the spare room for wife to cool down...off he trots to Pie-land.( and starts googling" how can I teach a woman to squirt") He then meets you, lovely lady, and while waiting for his queen to put him back on his marital throne, he see's you. Fast forward a couple of months....wife takes him back ( because its less hassle than the divorce option.) He goes silent on you ( because its easier for him) but when you contact him, he says he slept with the ex but now feels guilty. But the lovely thing that he has done here is to offer to still stay friends. This is clearly a survival tactic for when his wife kicks his butt out of her bed again. Told ya's I was cynical. But too many women are writting similar stories on here this week.So Im off to the nursing home to get me a good man!!! 💍

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Woman!!! You put your tits in my face like that and how can I not expect to get a chubby!!

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    He has blue eyes and blonde hair they never work out! Haha . I didn't meet him on rhp.I'm still to meet anyone from here. He was a friends friend. I just believed the ex thing as I'm in the same situation , only I wouldn't touch mine. Plus he's seeing someone. I have already decided deep down what I'm doing . I just want other people to confirm what I'm thinking! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    No.. a mutual convenience or distraction- an escape for both unable to deal with the shit going down- in housesounds like all bases are covered with a couple sitting on the wings"messy" it already is special.. i cant see it only more of the same.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I wouldn't...

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You believe what you want to believe. As for waiting, ummm... Nope.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    while you wait the world moves on. I'm not doubting he's a great guy, its not about him, its about you and your life. Move on with it, if he catches up with you that's great. If not then you haven't wasted time waiting for him to decide who he wants to be with.

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    What do you think you're waiting... for?! Theres simply no point skulking around behind a thick cloud of secrecy.... Put this one down to a life experience and say.....NEXTTTTT!!!!

  • Way2go70

    Way2go70

    10 years ago

    My dear, there is a term for people like that, player!!! As Sir_Stir most eloquently put it you would have to be naive to completely buy that story. Not saying it isn't true or he isn't a wonderful guy but the odds are stacked against that. You are young and have 29 friends on your profile so I am guessing you don't have any problem socialising or meeting people. Time to find a new one that will treat you with respect and dignity, even if it is only for a quick bonk those values should not be compromised. And above all respect yourself. It is not ok to be lead by some jerk who cannot be honest and open, even in this crazy messed up world we call rhp.........

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Living with ex isn't ex. Simple.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    If you really want a fresh start and to give yourself and another person a real chance, then stop living with your ex. I understand that you will come up with an excuse to stay and how it's really messy to leave etc etc. but at the end of the day, nothing great comes from living in your comfort zone, especially when that comfort zone is stopping you from exploring new opportunities. Finding love is not like finding a new job.