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How many fingers? How many pies?
July 21 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've had up to three regular FB/FWB's at the same time, one I met only once a month on business trips, others more often. It was never an issue telling them, I told them before meeting that I was not interested in an exclusive set up and reiterated this all the way through. - Posted from rhpmobile
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JessicaRabbit
11 years ago
They all knew about each other - in fact I managed to get two of them together for a night, now that was fun! I had no problem with this but when one became a little jealous, I went back down to just two. I don't think there's anything wrong with seeing multiple people if you're open and honest about it. If they can't handle the reality of it then they clearly can't do a casual fwb relationship. Jess xx- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Two ... ...Is hard enough ;() GG♒- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
4... I think... Um... Maybe more... *walks off in shame :/ lol. In my defense I did the rebound thing after a break up and kinda ran amok on here lol.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
I hate juggling balls and generally my time is not my own so if I invest it in you I like it to return dividends in spades. I have had 3 on the go.....prefer one regular, one to fall back on and one I take frustrations out on who will hold me when I need him to and not try to fuck me if that's not what I need. I think Lady Tuscan summed this up the other week Chill_n with the "Don't put all your eggs into one bastard" comment. And yes I prefer they know about each other. Just sayin'. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I had what I referred to as my 'Reserve Bench'. I am in no way admitting to numbers, sorry (that walk of shame would be too long). But like Amarella I am recently single and running amuk. and building up a new bench
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wingman2014
11 years ago
One at a time , choose quality over quantity
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RHP User
11 years ago
With the occaisional interstater every now and again We are upfront about having multiple partners from the beginning.Minx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'd be happy with just one!
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RHP User
11 years ago
a lady never tells.....or does she?? there are a few...floating around, but one a little bit more special..
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I MUCH prefer just having just ONE FWB and exploring awesome new things together.Its way more personal and epic then trying to remember what you said to whom and at one stage... what their names where...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can manage 3 in total, any more than that I have to start calling them all "mate" as I can't remember their names.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It would seem that the guys here are not sluts... Or maybe we just can't get more than one at a time... I too am happy with one fwb, two could be ok, but I'd rather quality over quantity. Hp xo
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its when you tell them their the only one you WILL have issues. Be open and honest with them...dont play them.Its been a while since I had a few but maybe three?
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Sorry........ this is all a bit too much like kissing and telling..... not something I do.Its better to not know.... not tell...... and not believe DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sounds like DG is playing some women and not telling them about the others. Or does it mean he doesn't want to know about there other lovers?? Hmmm. I like to tell everyone everything... And hopefully we can all play together. :p My magic number 3.5 and a few good women. lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm with DG....but for other reasons... But to address your questions OP, is it unreasonable for you to have more than one FB, FWB ?? This is easily answered by asking is it okay for my FWB to have more than just me?? I personally respect my playmates choices as I would expect them to respect my choices....whatever they may, or may not be. Would I care to know how many my playmates my playmates have?? Nope, I don't care. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well it's been many many years since I've had to worry about it, but...There were a couple of occasions when there were three on the go. All knew they weren't the one and only, but that didn't mean they didn't expect me to be on call when required. It was exhausting.Seems from the comments so far that the women are better at this kind of multi-tasking.Mr C
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RHP User
11 years ago
..then you'd have to not be worried about 'Stirring someone else's Porridge'?.From time to time
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RHP User
11 years ago
Kiss n tell. But a couple of them do know about each other and the others.
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casanovastudd
11 years ago
.....ran out of fingers and lost count
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RHP User
11 years ago
Would have to be around 4-5, lasted about 6 months before I had to cut down the number.Seriously became more work than pleasure and my friends weren't impressed with my constant busy schedule.I've noticed most fwb's end due to someone catching feelings. 2-3 fwb's is a perfect range me thinks.And yes... every partner knew i was single and it was fair game ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've always made it clear Im not into a 1 on 1 full time relationship, so everyone knows there's others are in the mix. Thing I'd like to point out ' 1 lives about 3 km away and rings me when shes feeling a lil toey, usually every couple of weeks or so' and the others whenever we happen to get together which could be 2 - 3 months apart. . It doesnt feel like 3 at once when it's spaced out.. 1 of the girls is married and living in a loveless relationship after her husband admitted he was gay and urges her to find sex outside. In fact she lets him know she's going out to for some fun.. All good..
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RHP User
11 years ago
You need more than one. If you don't want them to get too needy, you need them to have more than you.
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BrightBubbly
11 years ago
I just counted and I have more than I thought
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RHP User
11 years ago
You have more than 10 lovers at one time that you see on a regular basis? Seriously? I think you may have misunderstood the question.
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Bambi_Peeks
11 years ago
I am still looking for mine LOL - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your'e right , being fussy lessons your chances.. I found by dropping my expectations, things start happening. Does'nt mean you have to accept just anyone that comes along, just lossen up some.. Jay
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MegaSin
11 years ago
I am sure you will find yours beautiful Bambi xx
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Bambi_Peeks
11 years ago
I understand that being extremely fussy does lessen my chances on finding a regular FWB, however I have lowered the bar before and that still didn't get me anywhere. So I am doing it on my terms.... I am in no rush looking for the one who does come close to my criteria. I mean, would you really reguarly screw someone who you don't find attractive to you? Or someone who is attractive to you but feel like banging your head against the wall from the lack of mental stimulation? I believe connection is the key, I am not looking for anything more - I am happy living my life the way it is without having the expectations of conforming into a relationship and still be the outspoken liberated me. Why should I lower my standards to find a regular fuck? I work out and work hard for my body - someone who takes pride in their appearance (extremely hot would be a bonus too ha!) and someone who I could talk about the unneccessary randomness without having the weird awkward silence would be ideal - I didnt think it was too much to ask for... apparently it is this day and age. Quoting 'Jay_Me'Your'e right , being fussy lessons your chances.. I found by dropping my expectations, things start happening. Does'nt mean you have to accept just anyone that comes along, just lossen up some.. Jay
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am gobsmacked at some of the answers here and people justifying themselves. Seriously how to people find the time with some many at once? I'd be f*cked!! literily. FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why does anyone have to justify anything? Nothing wrong with having a few casual lovers is there? As long as everyone is safe and honest with each other. What's the harm? I think you should all have a party and introduce them all. Lol. It's always nice hanging out with each other... You know when everyone is bonking each other. :)
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Its the same as the topics about "whats your number?"DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
No one should have to justify themselves... But given that I don't work fulltime I have lots of spare time to socialize ;) all my lovers know about the others... I never lie to anyone or pretend to be someone I'm not. In fact most of my lovers like to hear about my sexual adventures lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not really. Although yes, some people have seemed to have gone a little nuts with their numbers. LMAO!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
One lover at a time , i prefer to be with one person that i can share laugh,fun and intimate times with ,than having multiple lovers ,i think having multiple lovers too much of a hard work , when it is become more of a work than a fun well i see no no joy in doin it , imagine out and about with one lover and and bump to another lover while you are out there trying to have fun, oh my talking about awkwardness...i must say having one is thats all i need ,so all energy and concentration directly at one person and thats how i show respect and how much i like spending time with that person , so i guess now he better be really good to me too, lol !.... and i knew one been really good to me actually , bless him..xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Silly BP...car meet road... head down the hume... all shall be solved :P
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Bambi_Peeks
11 years ago
Quoting 'MegaSin'I am sure you will find yours beautiful Bambi xx Awwww ty Mega xxx
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BrightBubbly
11 years ago
I never intended to have so many regulars but with work commitments and family etc it doesn't always work out that the same guy will have the same days free as me.Having a few means that I can always get a play date whenever I want or need to !!!It also means that I don't see one too regularly and keeps them wanting more...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I dunno, but two into one seems about right
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RHP User
11 years ago
Best you stay fussy then. Even though I have high standards myself and always will. There's one thing I learnt and that is there's a time and place for everything. A few years back at a Xmas function i got chatting with this very ordinary looking and intelligent girl. Never in a million years would I imagine her as a sex partner I would be attracted to , but it happened, and boy was I glad it did. She had the most beautiful body and the best breasts ever and wasn't afraid to take the lead if she wanted to. Great memories. My point is, if I never dropped my expectations ,it wouldn't have happened. That was of them moments I was glad my better judgement prevailed, and I followed my instincts.. Jay.
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RHP User
11 years ago
AT THE RISK OF SOUNDING EASY...I CAME OUT OF A 17YR MARRIAGE AND WENT ON THE HUNT...I HAD 5 ON THE GO ...4 WERE FIFO AND 1 WAS REGULAR AT HOME ...THEY ALL KNEW IT WAS NSA..IT WAS FUN HARMLESS AND ENJOYABLE FOR ME...LASTED FOR 9 MONTHSI AM NOW IN A RELATIONSHIP AND HAPPY
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Bambi_Peeks
11 years ago
What happens if car is broken down to meet road so it can not get to the Hume? Wish it was that easy as how you describe it but its not unfortunately. Connection and stimulation, if there is none than panties stays on :-P- Posted from rhpmobile
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MegaSin
11 years ago
Always thinking of Ms Bambi. One amazing lady you are xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Currently juggling 5 lovely ladies and 2 couples..a lot of work..and running a small business..hard!! But.good time management and being up front and honest is the way to go!...only live once.;)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You certainly been working really hard no doubt ,watch out for heart attack !..phfeeeeuuuuwww !!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Would just love 1
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'll be lucky if I can find 1 girl to sleep with! Witch is not very offen at all :(- Posted from rhpmobile
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Violetincredible
11 years ago
I develop friends... Friendships go through phases and are of different types (sexual/non-sexual, supportive/devouring etc) depending on the personalities of your friends... I don't think of having people on the go :/ I sort of just go with the flow of the friendship and try to be the best friend I can be all the time xx
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Bambi_Peeks
11 years ago
Awes Mega, you're just full of awesomeness, more so cause you know me ;-) xo
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MsElle72' I'd be happy with just one! I'd be happy if I lived on the Northside and became your "just one".
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RHP User
11 years ago
I suck at this.. I can only do one regular at a time. I have trouble remembering what day it is let alone what or who I'm meant to be doing.. How long is baby brain a plausible excuse?! Haha- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its how Lady Tuscan depicts it people have too high standards....I prefer to meet and make a judgement from there only because I deliberated for a long time on some only to find they were amazingly sexy and with others they were just amazing in so many many ways.
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abcplus1
11 years ago
...... at a time, but that's all we are looking for.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
This topic cracks me up lol
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Bambi_Peeks
11 years ago
I have a few since outlining my frustration - ah the joys of forum... Now to set up the interview and background checks to see if they will be ongoing LOL Oh and got reacquainted with past FWB too lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
It is an FWB site, one should expect more than one partner if that is what floats your boats, some should not expect exclusivety, but if that is what the individuals want then it is up to the couple to work that out, it is a relationship of sorts so being upfront and honest about these things is important if the other doesn't accept that then they should move on, no one should own or possess another, especially in this instance.An understanding at the very beginning stops any confusion.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'd comfortably say 5, what can I say, I wanted to be able to have it whenever I wanted and while it sounds like a lot, sometimes you need that many to have that set up, what with everyones work schedules, other commitments ect It was easily manageable but like everything, these things have an expiry ;) still see 2 of them although one is not regular- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not sure I can decipher the feeling ... is it pity or envy ?Can't remember their names, can't count them all without removing stockings, Can't decide if 4 is too many, ooh my marriage just ended so I'll just jump on RHP and grab 5 or 10 lovers ... I mean what if one is busy when I want some - why should I not get what I want when I want it ? .... sounds like a foreign language if you're a guy.We'll just have to cling the old adage our fathers "prepared" us with ... nothing worthwhile comes easily and without effort.
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RHP User
11 years ago
When I had more time 3. But time is in short supply these days. Between debs at the moment . 1 would be nice!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
8?...7?.....going once....going twice......- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I used to watch that show. Eight is Enough! ;-)
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Quoting 'sirlurkalot' 8?...7?.....going once....going twice......- Posted from rhpmobile Replies fluctuate between .... ...woe is me (cant find one)towow is me (but room for one more)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its hard work being ME!
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