How much chat is right for you?

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  InTimMate

  3 years ago

  It's not just couples. For me, it's the person that makes it worth it.

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  nqbeaches

  3 years ago

  There’s definitely a lot of time wasters and fake profiles wanting pictures and erotic chat. The minimal chat and one liners are an example of that. Sometimes less texting and a scheduled get together over a cuppa or drink with some one who will commit to showing up in your area is a better option for all.

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  AnnieWhichway

  3 years ago

  First up lines can be hard. To me, it depends on the following conversation after the initial awkwardness. It should be like a normal chat over coffee in a Cafe. If that doesn't flow then it's unlikely to work for me and l exit. The chat should be respectful which rules out crass one liners at the start. Some guys can't get that right

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  sweetnyorkshire

  3 years ago

  we've had exactly the same problem with short messages and undeveloped profiles. it's even more annoying when they open their private gallery and its just 4 pictures of an arse.

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  It’s a catch 22 for me. I used to try and write an interesting first message, telling the other party something about me whilst keeping it light hearted. I had next to no success ( maybe it’s me 🤔) Nowadays I tend to say much less in my initial messages, I just don’t have the energy anymore. On the upside my success rate hasn’t changed

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  sheandhe

  3 years ago

  Totally agree. We prefer a reasonable amount of initial chat showing some investment in getting to know everyone. The short one line responses don't get us too excited. We understand not everyone likes to chat on message too much, yet for us this really helps us build an initial connection, be it 4 way or 3 way depending on who we're talking to. Chat helps us with first date nerves too knowing we have at least some mutual connection before meeting for the first time. Regardless of 'success' on here, we will always favour a reasonable chat conversation with all involved. It also helps us filter out those who really are keen to meet us and those just working their way through a list.

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  teamaj2

  3 years ago

  I think most of us get our fair share of messages ranging from - Hey , Hi, I’m in your area how about it ?, What do you think of me ? Or What do you think of this ?? D. Pics ! It all helps seperate the wheat from the chaff . We have on our profile that we like to chat . See if we have common ground , some online connection , discuss boundaries etc . All helping us gauge if we have some attraction and common ground to then progress to meeting for a drink . We don’t want to waste anyone’s time by meeting up with people that are after a different experience to us . Sadly some will not read profiles and proceed down their own path ,attempting to gain interest. It actually reeks of desperation or disrespect not reading a profile . How much chat is warranted ? I feel it’s about finding like minded , mutually attracted sexy souls . Those that are on the same page regarding chat as well as ticking all the other boxes .How much chat is that ? It depends on your comfort zone and when you feel a level of connection and trust with the person or people involved. For us it depends how open they are in conversation. Often conversation doesn’t flow , it’s yes and no. Yes and no doesn’t give us any insight into the other person nor does it peak our interest . There is no set time frame . We have met people on the same day we began talking , others it’s been weeks . Goodluck . Stay true to what you seek, go with your gut and enjoy the ride . Ax

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  We have a short initial message only because we like to chat throughout the conversation. We never really thought about our opening message, we just want to get to know everyone!

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  Missb4u

  3 years ago

  I’m needy and wanty and I like a lot of chat ongoing. Definitely think I’m high maintenance in this area. I do back off though if it’s all about sex and cock pics. I guess I want the boyfriend experience 🤷🏻‍♀️ yep needy and high maintenance

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  Norfolk_Bojana

  3 years ago

  It’s hard because in our circumstance we aren’t able to meet with couples for a period of time, so chat is what helps us establish and continue a connection…. But neither of us have time to be on 7 chats plus other socials 24/7 - so we drift in and out every few days. The couples we chat with know our circumstances. We also agree - a couple of word responses is generally a convo that ends in the delete folder (even from the most attractive couple)

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  It's a tough one. On one hand we are told to act like we are in public, so in a bar I'm not going to go up to a woman and roll out this whole dialogue, it's going to be the usual greetings before you dive into connecting with them in conversation. I would think it's the same here. One liners don't mean that is all you are going to get but it's hard because what sort of question do you ask or what compliment do you pay going by there pictures without going over the top and sound cheesy or cliche.

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  JaviersDouble

  3 years ago

  Great topic, and something that we've been talking about a lot. We've got a family and not a lot of choices for child minding, so our time is incredibly limited. We see chatting as a way of getting at least a basic sense of who we might be meeting. Can they hold a conversation? Do they sound (at least semi) intelligent? Is their sense of humour similar to ours? We're not here to make best friends, but we're also not chalking numbers on a board and down for sleeping with anyone. So, for us, chatting is a good filter.

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