How often does "Jealousy" play a part in swinger couples inter-relations with other couples?

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  countryman2

  2 years ago

  We are human in the end. I have experienced changes in relationships twice. One was jealousy. My then girlfriend and I were playing at a party. She was with a guy and she looked over and saw me with another woman. She called me aside and explained she had a red flash of jealousy watching me and couldn't do this any more. We stopped. I also know another couple where the same thing happened. They stopped too. The other one was not jealousy but love. My bi-girlfriend and I struck up a relationship with another woman. We really enjoyed each others company and used to see each other most weekends when she didnt have her kids with her. The other woman reached a point where she wanted to be the dominant partner and have the 2 women live together. My girlfriend and I discussed this at length. In the end, my girlfriend decided she preferred a male as her main partner so we ended the relationship with the other woman. The girls stayed friends. The other woman later met a man and they married.

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  soulsofthepure

  2 years ago

  It's all learning.. communication and setting clear boundaries is key 🔑 My wife and I have been together 17 years and always have been swinging but we have also had ups and downs like everyone else too. It still comes down to difference in people, she loves the deep connection and losing herself in the moment whereas it's simply just 'fun' and nothing more to me. In saying this, you might see where we have had our issues in the past but we identified them and grown past it 😀

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  winemedineme69

  2 years ago

  I use to get jealous especially in the early experiences with my husband who seemed to be having a good time whereas I was constantly getting guys with ED or PE issues. It caused a few discussions on whether to continue and a few breaks from playing. We stuck it out and things improved to the point I was the only one having any fun and he was getting left out. He didn't get jealous though which I have to admit irritated me because I associated jealousy with caring. He enjoyed the attention I was receiving and encouraged me to accept the invitations and participate without him. This causes me some guilt as I know he is a great and caring giver sexually with the only tongue capable of giving me pleasure. So jealousy is not something he suffers from which I suppose is good as I know and have experienced how destructive it can be. Communication is vital and doing nothing that allows jealous feelings to flourish is whats kept us going.

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  madotara69

  2 years ago

  I think jealousy is used a little loosely as a bag for many emotion’s that aren’t. Mado Mado Tara xx

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  Mrs_Deep_Love

  2 years ago

  I am always happy when my husband is having a good time. Sometimes I can be envious ( very different to jealousy) that he hasn't had to spend the night consoling a male partner with ED issues. And is clearly having more fun than me.

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  boobsandbusted

  2 years ago

  Oops sorry didn’t mean to reply to Mrs deep just ment a general comment

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  TallstTgurlEver

  2 years ago

  Thankyou everyone so far, for leaving your comment /opinions and for replying to one another tastefully,without nastiness..otherwise i'd have to moderate the replies,delete offending comments,direct offending reply to rhp admins for their thoughts..and wait days/weeks for reply...kidding rhp admins are excellent & quick..

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  Sawadee

  2 years ago

  If youre going to enter a sharing lifestyle you must address jealousy issues early in the piece. I remember our first adventure ' we did discuss things we thought we would come up against , but nothing really prepares you for the real thing.. Being my wifes coming birthday ' l suggested we find someone new for her to enjoy as her bday present.. We didnt discuss too much only that it was always her call . If she decided not to proceed that would be that , but her curiosity won out in the end.. Cut a long story short ' l / we arranged everything ' we met up she and he enjoyed the birthday present . Now this is where l tripped up , the act itself didnt bother me ' thats what she was there for ' but l did feel uncomfortable with the kissing. ? Thats when l felt a pang of emotion.. So go figure .. We went out for dinner after that and l hid my feeling til l finally came to the conclusion you cant have one without the other .. After that ' l dealt with it.. So my advice to any couples wanting to venture ' be prepared to accept that unexpected and accept that it is what it is... lf you are the jealous type , dont go there...

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