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How quickly do you know?
November 05 2012
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RHP User
12 years ago
Anything with a heartbeat is a green light. :p
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have always known instantly if it was someone that I COULD have sex with but not necessarily that it would happen. I mean...there are two in the equation and I may find the man incredibly sexy but that is not to say that he feels the same way.
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Cheekyarses
12 years ago
Depends if you are after a quick fuck. And if that's the case does anyone really care if they know or not? If you are after a longer more staying relationship, then take abit of time getting to know them!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Generally, I would know in about half an hour to an hour of sussing him out over drinks/coffee.My gauge is, when talking to him, if I get the feeling that I want to jump the table and ride him then and there, then its all systems go - that is if he wants the same thing.
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RHP User
12 years ago
As soon as they get out of their car and start walking up my steps Its that instant for me. And then I just know as soon as they are within feet of me that if I am attracted its instant desire. A lot of men find that a bit of a problem, that I tend to say no sorry within five minutes or so, but I just do not want to waste their time or mine with chat when all they want is to get into my knickers. But my fwb get more attractive and sexy as we get to know each other better,then we can talk once we stop to breath.
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CrackUp
12 years ago
I would have said the same as you Ms M... but recently, I met someone and I knew instantly, that I wanted him .. we had a brief ten minute chat but, that was really just confirmation of my immediate impression on seeing him.. and that was...YES YES YES. I have never had such an immediate and intense reaction to a man.. lust at first sight.. most certainly.
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Splicey
12 years ago
I base it off instant attraction. If I don't like what I see or hear, then I'm turned off and I rarely allow myself to be turned back onMrsSplicey
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RHP User
12 years ago
Love your comment. For me it changes. I met someone I thought ...yes yes yes... but after chatting for an hour or so it was NO. And then the other night it was Instant No but his persistance paid off and it was heaven. So I guess I'm really crap at knowing if I want to or not.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am quite sensitive and I do operate a lot by intuition......so my responses are very quick.But everything is taking into accountbody language....attitude...posture....eyes....smile....air.....way of talking.....way of walking....smells.....I am a very observant person ( a bless and often a curse :) :) ) so lots of details tells me quite accurate about everyone I meet.......I believe that our outside is a true representation of our psyche.Some times I wish my responses were no so strong....sometimes I wonder if I miss out getting to know people that I should be giving more time and attention ????
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playful4u
12 years ago
Most attraction takes place in a brief space of time and your mind can sum up what appeals to you by visual perception, like thesymmetry of a persons face, and the waist-to-hip ratio, etc. This is the visual aspect. There is also smell of the body or fragrances and maybe touch. I have even been attracted to a persons voice because of the way they speak. So all the senses can play there part. I think women can be a little more fickle than a man when it comes to what turns them off. This could be because women tend to note more details. With sexual attraction, usually we know very quickly, but in saying that we have warmed up to others at a later date.
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RHP User
12 years ago
As soon as I see their face, and how they carry themselves I know instantly. But if I see the slightest annoyance about the place I've picked or anything then I'm gone.
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RHP User
12 years ago
In saying that though, if in getting to know them they are a total dick I find it very much a turnoff. Like someone else mentioned, once I am turned off by someones attitude it's hard to get turned back on again. It has to be the complete package, I simply don't find it sexy shagging someone who is arrogant, rude etc... So I know the sex would just be bad.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I wait and listen to my body. If my nether regions feel it then i know its instant chemistry (lets play NOW!). If it's my brain then keep talking and the rest will follow!!! I try not to give anything a time limit - every encounter is different. It's worked for me so far.
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RHP User
12 years ago
depends in how much ive had to drink :p...nah i would say within a minute actually..im either attracted or im not simple as that... Hardtruckin u crack me up :)))
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RHP User
12 years ago
i think it's just the person my selfsome can bonk the second they meetother can'tif we all were the same, life would be so dull
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RHP User
12 years ago
At first look its great to see if they are appealing to you, then for me its there voice, laugh, smile & general overall positive vibe. If there good at listening and talking, well thats enough to get me in the bedroom. The rest is just luck I suppose if there a great lover and can turn you on or there not and it was a waste of time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Once upon a time if I was feeling desperate I would have been prepared to have sex even before I met someone. Even if I did not know I was going to meet someone. As young bloke this attitude surprised a barmaid once.Now-days it's more a two way thing. That may take minutes or, as I said in a forum yesterday, 2 years.. But hey, it's a day for gambling.
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N4November
12 years ago
Quoting 'Handmaiden' I have always known instantly if it was someone that I COULD have sex with but not necessarily that it would happen. I mean...there are two in the equation and I may find the man incredibly sexy but that is not to say that he feels the same way.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm similar to Saskia.....If i have never ever seen a particular woman before...don't know her....never heard her voice or spoken with her i know in 1 second if the physically aspect has got me. Its just the fantasy aspect and i think everyone can relate to this. That said the physical has never been my requirement. It doesn't matter if its Megan Fox, Jennifer Hawkins or anyone else....if i don't have a basic or better than basic connection there is zero attraction. This is for the casual situation. For a relationship it is based on the person over a long period. When you are in relationship mode it changes how you see someone physically....and that is because you're interested in the person which is where the attraction is. The more you love the spirit and soul of someone the more physically attractive they become. (I couldn't get Megan or Jennifer i was just expressing a point lol).
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RHP User
12 years ago
I know instantly whether or not I am physically attracted to a man and would like to have se with - doesn't mean I will have sex with him that same day/night. I'm with you, I like to analyse their behaviour. I'm far too old and fussy to bed hop nowadays :). I like to take my time to get to know somebody a little bit better as there is nothing more mind blowing than peeling off the layers of somebody mental, spiritually and physically. Sex is just a physical action, a connection on multiple levels is so dam sexy!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
We both agree that there is a very quick yes or no but this is mostly physical and is followed by a longer maybe period for any yes’s. Where the rest of the person, their personality and attitudes come in to the equation. Many things can turn that yes into a maybe or a NO. lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
...so we had sex within minutes of seeing each other without actually speaking to each other.It was great!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ive met guys and have know instantly that it isnt going to happen. Other guys I want them straight away and of course the other guys who win me over with their charm ..........nuf said.
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goldcoastcple69
12 years ago
goes to show how different men and women are lol women seem to take alot into consideration .. us blokes , well ..if it moves and breathes ... thats enough for most of us lol actually , doesnt always have to move ..
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RHP User
12 years ago
If your not looking for NSA fun then you are going to have more mental boxes to tick subconsciously when you meet someone for the first time.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'slinkey'...so we had sex within minutes of seeing each other without actually speaking to each other. It was great! I can definitely see myself do that at a club. Who's taking me? (Pun intended)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'slinkey'...so we had sex within minutes of seeing each other without actually speaking to each other. It was great! The stranger on the train, passing in a passage and then just opening a carriage door. I used to have a carriage key :) ahhh yes off he went after that hot little ohhh my god moment. Not a word was said, just the heavy breathing. stuff me about three weeks later I am waiting at the bus stop in my hostie with the mostie train uniform on, and he stops and says want a ride to the train station? small world , got to find out his name and we dated for a while.
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cbdlivin
12 years ago
For me I really do look for that first five minutes connection but even if it does not appear straight away does not mean I walk away. If the conversation is good I am happy to sit around and chat and sometimes things have happened thru good conversation and I have been very happy not to have rushed away early.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'goldcoastcple69' goes to show how different men and women are lol women seem to take alot into consideration .. us blokes , well ..if it moves and breathes ... thats enough for most of us lol actually , doesnt always have to move .. If it doesn't move........push it !
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting '50zcool' Quoting 'goldcoastcple69' goes to show how different men and women are lol women seem to take alot into consideration .. us blokes , well ..if it moves and breathes ... thats enough for most of us lol actually , doesnt always have to move .. If it doesn't move........push it ! and just convince yourself it was only PLAYING dead
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