How to be more dominant?

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  chevtrek

  8 years ago

  Have you not heard of role play to indulge her.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  First thing would be to find out exactly what your partner likes then head off to your local sex shop. Decent bed or wall that you can tie her up or down is a good start.😉 Cuffs, Rope, Whips and chains, Hot wax or ice cubes are a few things I enjoy. It's important that you try to remain strict and firm with her. Let her know your in charge. This may be out of character for you but try to think it as role play and your the Dungen Master. 😈😈😈 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  It's called The Rodeo Root When you're banging her from behind, grab her pony tail with one hand, put your other hand in the air... And tell her "I'm cheating on you on RHP." Then see how long you can hold on for as she's swearing and bucking away. If you hit 8 seconds? You've dominated that gal.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Before you even get in the bedroom. Tell her what lingerie / underwear she'll be wearing. Don't say 'I want you to', say 'You're going to be wearing ...'. She wants you to be more dominant so have her knowing more is coming. Don't rush anything, when you're alone tell (not ask) her to turn around, so you can see all of her. Have her then put her hands on a table or bed, so you can look at her from behind. You want to establish a power difference. Have her undress (slowly), having her turn around or walk around her as she does, clearly establishing you're the one in command, her to do as told. You don't need to jump into breaking out the cat of nine tails straight away. 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Or better still, Say her sister's a better root whilst holding on to ponytail 🐎🐴 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I, for one, am hopeless at it. I always end up laughing and can't act for the life of me 😋 Good on you, OP, for wanting to give it a go. All the best 😃 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Still looking for ideas, suggestions and anything else to help

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Firstly it is no-ones business why you have a profile on here and what you are doing . To your credit you have revealed your attached status and so anyone contacting you is aware that you have commitments elsewhere, so its a case of buyer beware. But as I said, none of our business why you are here. No ones business but yours and you have asked a valid question which should be respected. Moving on. The key to all successful relationships is open and honest communication. Your partner has indicated they like to be dominated, so she's the first one you should ask. Tell her that you wish to please her and explore this area together so basically ask her what she likes, doesn't like, what excites, how far she wishes to go, what is off limits to her/both etc. Get her to describes her fantasies. Start slowly, experimenting with some of her ideas or suggestions and agree upon a safe word for her to use if what you are doing is too much for her on a physical or mental level. Secondly Google is your friend and if you enter key words in. You will be taken to some fascinating reading. Read and absorb and discuss areas of interest with your partner. You may be pleasantly surprised. Thirdly there are lot of sites that deal predominantly with BDSM/Fetishes which can give you some interesting insights into dominance and how to go about it all. I suggest browsing there for ideas and suggestions. There are also a lot of clubs around that deal specifically with dominance etc. Perhaps this is a area to look at in the future, if all goes well. I also suggest joint shopping trips to your local sex shop to see what may inspire you to play differently than how you are playing now. Try to be open minded with anything your partner may suggest. Look at role play as a way to explore as well. You may find that without knowing but by exploring together, you may tap into a part of your psyche that you never knew existed which may prove to be very exciting for you. This could be a fantastic, exciting and wonderful time in your relationship. Relax, enjoy, remember not take it all too seriously and more importantly, have fun but always with mutual respect for each other and for others who you may encounter, along your new journey. Wishing you both all the best.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Then. Make decisions. Act on them. Take the initiative. "Excuse me honey, do you mind if I tell you to ....." Doesn't cut it. Best starting position is putting a gag on. Fortune favours the bold.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Grow a pair !

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Then tie his hands and legs together like a rotisserie chicken for easy access. I am sorry I am off topic. But that is often my reaction to men doing as the Sailor man says. 😇

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I'd probably start by confirming with your partner what she wants, and what being dominant means to her. There is such a wide range of arrangements, activities, etc that can be involved. You could do a search for D/s contract which would list a heap of ideas of activities to include. Would list items. such as forced face fucking, wax play, impact, restricted eye contact, etc (tons of etc) then whether it is something you're interested in, a soft limit, hard limit etc. Both of you should be aware of what you would and wouldn't do. You can also search for submissive tests, which gives you an idea of her idea of being submissive. As you would approach a scene with a service-orientated sub, very differently from say a Daddy/little dynamic. Etc etc. It's not a one style fits all, its a dynamic interplay with two people. There's lot to explore and it can be exciting. But it is a journey for two, so it needs to work for you as well Have fun

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  JP, if you're cheating, and somebody gives you this advice in the same reply: a) "Firstly it is no-ones business why you have a profile on here and what you are doing." b) "The key to all successful relationships is open and honest communication." Such a contradiction should come with a piece of toilet paper.

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  Tool1983

  8 years ago

  choose a safe word and proceed to treat her like a filthy little fuck toy and abuse her untill she needs to use the safe word ;)

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Seriously Tool ... please stop! JUST STOP FFS!!!!! Dominance and abuse in the one sentence!!!!! I am not going to respond any further :( Tulips has summed it up, its role play and as such, if it's not in your true nature it may not come off as expected. For me, only a true dominant man/woman can dominate me. I'm going to suggest go out to a BDSm club, let her see if this is what she's into to :) explore together before you do anything, gauge by her responses what 'tickles her fancy' and then go about exploring those with what you're comfortable with :) To learn about this lifestyle, I did a whole heap of research. I went to lifestyle lunches, seminars, talks, joined network groups .... learn as much as you can :) Mary xx

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