How to enjoy receiving oral sex ?

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  Sawadee

  4 years ago

  This is more common than you might think. I also struggle to cum with oral and always have. This can be very embarrassing at times because your lady thinks she's doing something wrong and you end up having to explaining yourself which effectively kills the moment. .. But l still love the sensation and live in hope that the next will the one that changes that.. l think you will find your not alone with this ....

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  Rlee552

  4 years ago

  You can also get a psychological block - which in your case will also impact on it. You get so worried about it you can’t hit success. So there is a mental element and a physical element. Some things which you can try is getting yourself right to the brink with other activities and then let oral sex take you over the edge. That helps with the psychological aspect as once you achieve it the first time the second time becomes easier and so on. The other technique can be to combine it. So in the 69 position and so on. At the end of the day though there are activities which hit your sweet spot and others which you can enjoy without getting off and others which you simply don’t enjoy. That’s who you are and be comfortable with that.

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  AnnieWhichway

  4 years ago

  As Sawadee said its fairly common. I rarely cum from oral, regardless if its male or female. I've found that if it comes up in conversation either beforehand or after the event, explain that you rarely if ever achieve success. Your playmate is then aware of the situation without taking it personally. Some take it as a personal challenge to get you over the line in which case, relax and enjoy the show. Of course the important thing is to supply plenty of feedback during it to ensure they know you are loving the sensations. I had a female partner who went on a mission to get me there. Took her an hour but it allowed me to relax deeply to think of sexy scenarios to garnish the physical attention. Amazing result although her lips were too sore for a kiss after....

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  LittleGiant

  4 years ago

  Yikes, the word 'frightened' is pretty intense, sorry to hear that! It's pretty insensitive of whoever said 'every guy loves oral sex' to say that to you, though...And in my experiences I haven't found that to be true at all, everyone is different and you shouldn't have to 'overcome' your fear of it unless you truly want to. Also I think not being able to orgasm from it shouldn't stop you from enjoying it if you enjoy the physical sensation of it - And if you don't, you just don't, and there's nothing wrong with that. A respectful partner would not want to make you do anything that you don't enjoy. I have been with more than 1 guy (and woman) that just weren't a fan of receiving and I didn't take it personally, there are plenty of other ways to have fun! Miss Little xx

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  AnneAlex

  4 years ago

  You are not alone and yes I also struggle to climax when receiving. That's OK explain to your partner what you are feeling. There are many other options. We prefer 69 and yes I do have reservations about coming in my wife's mouth. Its all OK with her and she understands but she loves trying and that's cool.

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  RuralBiCple

  4 years ago

  If I never had oral me ever again I would not miss it .... though I have had quite a few mouths both male and female give me oral, I have only cum twice from oral. I find oral is like a can of "Start ya Bastard" for the sex engine great to get things started but can't get me to my destination. My advice is be upfront and honest about what turns you on and off, if your partner is worth your time they will respect your disclosure.

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  The why is pretty important in working out how to enjoy it, especially if it freaks you out. Or just accept your preferences and don't think you have to make an effort if you're just not into it. It's really like any aspect of sexuality, some people will be into it and some won't. Maybe mention it before you get into an intimate situation. I've been with women who don't like giving and/or receiving oral sex and it hasn't made much difference, there are always lots of other nice things to do! One of them had a mother who had always taught her that "things down there are dirty". Best to make sure they're not in any case!!!

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  bianca_dd

  4 years ago

  "I am frightened of receiving oral sex from a woman" lol I doubt through your entire life you will have anything to worry about babe

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  RHP User

  4 years ago

  I was dating a woman for a few months until last week and I tried to enjoy receiving oral and yes it feels nice but I just cannot get an orgasm that way. Having said that ever time I tried to give her oral she would tell me she 'is not clean' and that basically turned me off sex totally with her.

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