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How to introduce yourself
May 16 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
I had an email from a young man one night, grey ghost and few details on his profile, didn't match anything really and all it said was something along the lines of....Hey, wanna fuck. So I replied... sure, I will be there in 15 minutes. Stupid moron. I suppose though that corny pick up lines were used that worked and depending on the level of attraction it may have absolutely nothing to do with what you say. Some are good communicators, others aren't but make up for it other ways. Some people have a quick wit and are funny and others are initially shy. So everyone is different and I like to take people as they come.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I find people quite intriguing to this aspect. I tend to lean towards being articulate in my messages because I hate ambiguity. The problem is, when people write something, they are communicating something they have in mind, but depending on the words used, some people will see one meaning, others may see a different meaning, and others may see multiple meanings. The problem for me is that I can come across as being "long winded". I was messaging a couple that had showed some interest, and they had replied back saying 'what are you into' as I wasn't sure whether they meant sexually or just interests in general, I wrote both, turns out it was too much info and got written off. I agree that one liners are just completely frustrating for everyone, I guess there's always the possibility writing too much as welly to answer the OP question, I think its great that you send a list of things that you would like to see. That's very accommodating, a lot of people I think just go 'too much trouble, next...' As frustrating as some people appear to be, life has shown me that assessing people on their written skills just proves the level of their written skills. Sure it might be a sign that they're just a can't be arsed person, but until you get to know someone for real, you can't 100% write that down as conclusive. I guess we're all really busy people though, and why try to persist with poor communicator person when good communicator person has already come along and sent a nice message.
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RHP User
11 years ago
sorry for the formatting. Wrote that on my mobile phone, seems its ignored the paragraphs...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ausmtv' sorry for the formatting. Wrote that on my mobile phone, seems its ignored the paragraphs... I'm really bad at writing an introduction, it shows no one replies and I've not met any one.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your profile should be your initial introduction. It is extremely frustrating when there is little or no information (i.e. too many "Ask Me's" and just the standard template description) and no photos at all. Seriously, with such a nothing profile, how do you expect to get any interest from anyone? Why bother sending flirts to people when there is nothing to back it up? I just don't understand it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi Peoples, Unfortunately, even in other totally unrelated areas (apart from dating sites and internet forums of other kinds) there seems to be a complete 'collapse" in the ability of people to string words together that make any sense at all. Spelling them correctly is almost a forgotten art and I won't even mention punctuation and grammar. This may have something to do with people not be ABLE to express an 'introduction'... Maybe? I hate to point fingers in any kind of situation but especially during a 'gripe' but it would seem to me that the younger the person, the less adept they are at expressing anything in the written word. Is it the schools, the teachers, the syllabus or the kids themselves over the last 20 -30 years... Whatever it is, it's at 'plague' proportions. I have no answer other than these people educating themselves... But would they really be interested. It's something that's very important to me... I have written for a living at times in my life and I am surprised at what passes for written communication. For fuck sake... we are in the middle of embracing and almost exclusively using the Internet for all communication and much of our social interaction... To be able to use these wonderful, instantaneous means of communicating, working and playing, WE HAVE TO BE ABLE TO WRITE! It's become more necessary than it was in the last generation (prior to 1990 - A generation is generally considered to be 25 years). I've have a pet peeve and that's the way in which some people (not their fault in the long run, I know) use the verbal "Past Modal" as in '[should have, could have, would have etc'. Because of the spoken and written abbreviation "should've, could've etc", they think it is actually said and written "Should of" and "Could of". Sorry about the English lesson (I'm a pompous fart, sometimes... LOL) but it makes me sad more than anything that there are people who really think that 'Probably' is spelt 'prolly'... What's to be Done???
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just let my girls do all the talking. :p
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Openly1' WE HAVE TO BE ABLE TO WRITE! Being able to read is also of high importance. For example, when a profile states "I do not accept random friend requests" then why on earth would somebody send a random friend request?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I cant bear to look at mine. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Missb4u
11 years ago
Of expected things to be be addressed in a message I have to say I would not reply or at best you would get a smart arse reply. I like to compile my messages and responses my own way. Sometimes that means they are one line responses. I do hate a first message that says nothing more than "hi" But I also don't like messages that are a novel. Dot points work for me :P
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RHP User
11 years ago
I get some amazing, well written messages from people with great profiles. I also get "wanna fuck" messages and friend requests from the grey ghosts with no detail in their profiles. Guess which ones I reply to? What gets me is the chat requests from people I've never even heard of. Yeah, right!!
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
Sorry I can't read your posts....I'm totally distracted by your Holly smokin magnificent arss!! Hi I'm Foxy... Foxy
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On_Safari
11 years ago
As I reach out and stroke that ooohhhh so nice arse. I'd tap that!!! Smack that, lick that, whip cream that, rub my girls all over that lol 😘 you get the idea just bring it here young man. Sit on my lap and I'll tell you a story.....mmm😏mmmmmmmm
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On_Safari
11 years ago
G'day I'm Indy.....I'll just clear a place for you to sit. My face before Foxxxy's. Lol
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
*swipes hair off face* come to Mumma, Ausmtv.... Hows that for an first intro?? Foxy
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Gloves are off......grab a paddle and lets split his cheeks between us!!! 😈
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Sweetcheeks?
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Sweetcheeks?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MsElle72'Quoting 'Openly1' WE HAVE TO BE ABLE TO WRITE! Being able to read is also of high importance. For example, when a profile states "I do not accept random friend requests" then why on earth would somebody send a random friend request? Hi MsElle, Very true... But I would assume that if a person can spell and write, I'd say it's safe to assume they can also read... LOL I think the cause of your dilemma is 'Paying Attention to what you read'. I think they may just be "trying their luck and also, I think there's a lot of men on these sites that don't understand just how many messages the Lady's get... That also makes it FAR more frustrating. I have only got 4 messages (unsolicited) in 3 days of membership... A woman in the same position may get 50 in one day. I'm told this by a number of ladies on all kinds of dating sites. I imagine it would apply MORE here, given the sexual nature of the content and what's on offer. So I suppose you have to try and understand we men don't have the choices or opportunities that the Ladies have in so far as the amount of unsolicited attention we received. Women just have to sit and wait for it to just role in (it may not be from men who are suitable or "your type" but going through them all would make the 'less to the point and less qualified' harder to take... So I understand. Thanks...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks Indy and Foxxy. Why don't you guys jump on the plane and come and meet me for a chat and sit in my lap ;). Would be nice to see you IRL. Thanks everyone else for your posts. Good to see that there are some people out there that think that writing is important. A big hand to Openly1 for a very well written response.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think you girls scared him away!! (or he is having a wank while imagining you two fighting over him, haha)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ladies, I don't want to de-rail OP's post, but you have seriously made my day. Thanks for the compliments. That's really nice of you... Maybe I need to arrange a CFNM afternoon tea for you both...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yep we all need lessons in spelling and grammar.... If that is your thing....there are a group of spelling and grammar nazis here.....there are also people here who regular contribute to the fora who can't spell for shit.....spell check helps but it ain't gonna tell the difference between definitely, defiantly,or duffuss...as the articulate pulchritudinous ausm posted....being skilled in the written word is no guarantee of anything other than being skilled at the written word xx Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
( o )( o )
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I have some cups....two in fact!! Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
11 years ago
I'm sorry for high jacking your for forum. Thanks for the offer..... Foxy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think my point was lost in translation...
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RHP User
11 years ago
hi how the fuck are youz! I'm Ann-na Belll-la 😈 My boy is 5 and I have been really surprised with school so far. BIG emphasis on reading and writing. In fact it started in kindy last year. Also they have finally returned to the phonetics way of teaching, not just sounding it out, but learning what letter combos spell what sounds. I think this is great news for the next generation! Gen Y were taught differently if I recall, I don't know for sure as I'm GenerationX the MTV variety. I understand less emphasis was placed on the spelling of the word (sound it out), it was focused on how to say the word. That way it avoids mispronunciation of words in conversation. For example lingerie is not Ling grr ree. But Lonjer ray! I always say it in my head as lingerie so I know how to write it, but somehow our small brains must have the capacity to cope because when I go from thinking of the spelling to saying it - it comes out automatically as lonjerray! Amazing. Sorry also on my iPhone. Oh and the list surfsmurf is talking about is in Reply to receiving an email to get an invite to one of Surf's parties, that has no details on it. I read it as Surf then sends a reply requesting further information.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Please stop your loquacious admiration for the nectarous derrière. I'm the closest :). Thought I'd use my big girls words, just so OP knew I was still "listening" to him.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
But Aus......, I'll be gentle, my cups runneth over and well.....i promise I'll be goooooood.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hi there. I'm still here and I haven't lost my voice although I suffer from a cold.I'm busy organizing my event. Yes Annabella you're right that's exactly what I mean. I usually write to people and ask them to write about themselves, their fetishes and desires and what they expect from the event. Oh Superfoxxxy you can high jack my thread. I would like to high jack you and tie you up and give you a good spank. Good to see some action in the forum. I hope you guys can post something soon so I can sit on the side line. I would love to catch up with all of you I think we could have a very interesting night together. Very educational in many ways :). Now back to the organizing. I have to put the last touches and finalize my guest list. So if you don't hear anything it might be because I'm out and about fornicating or busy organizing something. Ciao,ciao.
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