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How to pick the real and not so real
February 05 2016
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RHP User
9 years ago
Just do a reverse image search and youll find the pics are stolen from somewhere else - Posted from rhpmobile
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PurePeony
9 years ago
Typically, for me, I like to have a bit of to'ing and fro'ing via the exchange of messages here before proceeding further. As I'm looking for an FWB relationship and not just NSA sex, I need to be convinced that there is a high probability that things might just work out before making plans to meet. I tend to be careful and considered but once I connect with and trust someone, I become more relaxed, carefree and spontaneous. Very often, you find people who are indecisive and act like kids in a candy shop / toy store. Initially, they appear to be interested in you, but then they would suddenly lose interest and cease communication altogether. Just as well because there you have it - a clear-cut answer! These would be your "not so real"s! I have met guys on the very day that contact had been initiated, and I have met others weeks after initial contact. The common denominator in all these encounters is a huge sense of connection (or an insatiable horniness propelling me to check the guys out to see if they just might be an appropriate FWB! LOL!!! Horny tigress on the prowl! LOL!!!) I suppose you have to consider many factors here - do you want a sprinter, or a marathon runner? People who come on too fast, way too strongly, tend to fizzle out just as fast too. I prefer decisive men, not impulsive. I want frequent, regular, hot and sizzling sex, not a Wham! Bam! Thank you, ma'am! and so I am fully prepared to wait until I find someone whose intentions converge with mine. The longer the interlude, the bigger the build-up of lustful appetite and one can only hope that the poor bloke can handle the sexual beast that finally gets unleashed! LOL!!! All said, if the person is indecisive or leaves me hanging after I have decided that he is authentic and trustworthy, I tend to quickly lose interest. Afterall, indecisiveness in men is not an attractive trait to me. Also, because of the nature of RHP, if a person does not respond to you for more than two days but has been online all those days, then it most likely means that he/she has lost interest and is pursuing a newer catch. Ta-daaa! Not so real's! If I have endless banter with someone without wanting to make concrete plans to meet, it means that I think the person is nice to have as a friend, but somehow does not turn me red-hot with lust and there might be little to no sexual attraction whatsoever. I am usually upfront and frank about my intentions and I appreciate the same quality in men. Time-wasters and pussy teasers... nothing sexy about those as far as I am concerned!
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think that everyone is different, so you can't really have a one size fits all screening process.... Even those who don't seem interested, could very well be interested but lack some form assertiveness or confidence....doesn't make them fake or a time waster in my mind.... But.... I'm not one for rushing in to meet within a week. Being an interstate truck driver it takes some planning at times, and other times I don't get a great deal of notice as to where my next destination is, so I have to be also a bit opportunistic. All that matters, is you have a system that you are happy with. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
A few messages back and forth and then arrange to meet.In my experience if you don't meet up sooner rather than later then it never seems to happen. I like assertive, confident guys, so if they are too shy to make a date in a message then they probably aren't for me anyway.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Respond to a second message if the person wants my email address,and to go off site to chat .It's just a red flag for me..you need to check the pics,.there are quite a few very famous people here,its just that they don't know they are here 😀xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
I personally like to chat for a while and get to see if I am attracted to a guy. I do not like pushy guys who try and push for a meet. I will meet in my own good time. I always meet for a coffee date first. Through my experiences pics arent always real and for me there has to be an attraction to give my body to someone. As you can see we are all different in what we all do to meet. The people you call time wasters (endless messages) might have found they weren't attracted to you after they chatted to you. We all do it differently good luck. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
What she said 👍😀
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Will get you there. You learn. And you learn to take it in your stride. If you have a desperate attitude to hook up you will get disappointed. I dont get desperate. So if you make a date and doesn't happen as in no shows or radio silence, i just block and move on. In all probability, there would be some here that would consider me a time waster? I chat a fair bit and play their game. If he sends a 4 word message he gets the same back. And at 4 words a message, it takes weeks of chatting to get anywhere. Lol.
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
Not everyone wants to jump in bed after the first flirt or lane one liner opening message. Some people like to get to know the other potential playmate/playmates a little better before meeting in person and taking the next step. - Posted from rhpmobile
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PurePeony
9 years ago
Whateverway and Dynamic Couple, reading your comments really made me feel less alone now! It felt like a few good breaths of fresh air blowing at my face! Hehe! OK... off to the Saturday market and to search for that elusive toasted Ham and Cheese Croissant! Have a good Saturday, everyone!
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't consider them time wasters or fakes... I think if they dropped off they have just worked out they are just not into you.. Better they work that out before it leads anywhere else 😊 And sometimes it's a good way just to have someone who is a complete random to talk to with no agenda. Xxviolet
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
Lane was meant to read "lame" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I prefer to fet to know the person before meeting. I am quite busy as well (studying) and if I've said im unavailable for x amount if time, dont go asking me to meet every 3rd message, it wont work. I find the banter to be more of a turn on than the "hi, lets meet" type. But this is just my opinion
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RHP User
9 years ago
I like to chat a while before meeting if someone asks me to meet before we've said much more than a hello its going to be a no because I don't know anything about them . That said talking for weeks and weeks on end without a meet does get frustrating and that's around the point i lose interest unless there is a good reason for not meeting like they are A FIFO worker.
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Seachange
9 years ago
Quoting 'DynamicCouple36' Lane was meant to read "lame" - Posted from rhpmobile that's lame...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Someone who gives me their mobile number in their first message is never going to get any farther than that... but if they're still shady about meeting after a week or so of back and forth then I cut things off there too. There are no hard and fast rules however, you get a feel fairly quickly if someone is messing you about.
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RHP User
9 years ago
So does that mean that if someone chats to you, for however short or long, but especially if it is long and you start to establish a connection,that they are obliged to meet up and have sex with you? I find the term 'time wasters' obnoxious. Don't know why but I think any one has a right to change their mind. If someone has made a definite date and commitment to a particular activity then yes that could be seen as time wasting. But whose to say that you didn't enjoy the journey there anyway. So it's probably not all a waste of time. Hehe.
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RHP User
9 years ago
^!
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madotara69
9 years ago
We get this guy now and then sends a chat request, usually it's early in the morning, 4- 5 am, we are night owls have been for years and if we've been fucking we often chill out together, sitting on the couch, cuddling, chatting, looking into Tara's eyes, so beautiful, my best friend and we are in love, we have kids, we have friends, we have friends with benefits, mostly men because women are a pain in the arse to organise, gotta do this, gotta do that, before that does this and that's that. love'm never the less, they are beautiful people, just a pain in the arse, blokes it's easier, "wanna fuck ? "yeah sure, when ?" "now ?" "Yeah ok see you shortly", "cool mate" and that's that. Except the bloke that sends chat requests asking what our address is so he can come and cuddle up between us and fuck after we have fucked. He is a pain in the arse, but we still chat with him and that's that, he's lonely. Are we waisting his time, or him ours ? It's been said, "A true act of kindness, is to give without expecting anything in return" Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Mado is back. 😚😘😍xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm not a huge fan of texting or sending messages back and forward, but a 1st to greet bases I will and if I enjoy my chats I will keep doing so until I feel comfortable to meet them....no number swapping before then thou
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summer_solstice' The term time waster seriously shits me, and whenever I see it on someone's profile it's an instant no. I was just informed by a loser in the chat room that I am a 'time waster' because I politely declined his request to drive round to his house and shag him. It seems to be code for "someone who isn't giving me what I want." Entitlement at it's finest.
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madotara69
9 years ago
those eyes of your's Miss Freya that I could never escape from this nut house xx
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
When you get to the point where you feel it is waisting your time, then cease all contact. You don't have to continue OP. You haven't met them, so to me there's no obligation, nor do you have to explain yourself. Ms Foxy
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Im not sure of your position in regard to emailing or Kik. You give the impression that you are not a fan of it. But from your previous connections in RHP, you are one of those ones pushing that type of communication. From a previous thread, it was pointed out that a lack of face photo was handicapping your success in here. You are one of those wanting to email your face photo at the earliest chance, A lot of women are turned off by that approach. In December, in your previous thread, you stated you would rectify that by placing a face photo in your gallery. Now here we are down the track. No face photo available. You once again complaining about the process that people take. Take the lead Op. Help yourself. You ask advice but dont do anything. Are you real......or not
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RHP User
9 years ago
Are verified. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Freya70' there are quite a few very famous people here,You outed me, damnit Freya! :P
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RHP User
9 years ago
I remember when you first joined,I thought you were being James Cordon.being David Beckham in an Armani underwear ad...you denied it ,but hmm, now I wonder. oh and btw,you are much better looking in real life .😝xxFreya
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RHP User
9 years ago
That this is just something you learn as you go. Well at least that's what I'm hoping will happen for me. I guess gut instinct plays a part sometimes and if there are time wasters what do yo do about the ones you feel are coming on too strong too fast? That there could potentially be something there but it's just moving too fast for your comfort level.. So many experiences so much to learn.. I'm just strapping in, sitting back and letting the ride take me on its ups and downs.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I was very clear on my profile about what I'm after. A new Dom. So I get 21 year olds or men that say they are experienced but when we meet they're vanilla. Definite time wasters. I guess I'm on the wrong site. I am a highly sexed woman and these men say they're fine with me being with others then they get jealous! It's a sex site guys! If I respond to a msg and a day later they reply..... No. Time wasters - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Freya70' I remember when you first joined,I thought you were being James Cordon.being David Beckham in an Armani underwear ad...you denied it ,but hmm, now I wonder. oh and btw,you are much better looking in real life .😝xxFreya I'll take that as a compliment on my real life self and not the opposite on my choice of pictures :P However I stand by my denial. But now everyone that has a pic taken lying on a couch in underwear is going to accused of the same thing. As for the OP... go to a meet and greet. Everyone there is real, and has therefor been happy to meet and turn up!
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lovman8
9 years ago
my favourite waste of time!
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RHP User
9 years ago
aren't on site to actually meet up with others. They do use third-party means of communicating quite deliberately, and aren't at all attracted to actually meeting someone - but still want to 'connect' with people that they can share conversation with. A few (blessed ones) even make that clear in their profile - 'just here for chat'. Good on 'em. Me? I'd much rather speak face to face than ask someone about who they are and what they like via email.
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Nymph3t
9 years ago
When i meet people, it depends on so many things. There has to be a connection.. some guys i'll meet on the same day as getting a message from them and then some guys i won't meet for months, with messages going back and forth the entire time. Timing is everything and if i'm not free when you're free or i'm not sure when you're sure.. i'll take things a little slower.. then on the other hand, if i'm extremely horny and feeling very naughty, i could meet up based on pics alone. It always changes with me.. so while i may not be a time waster for some, i'm sure others would think otherwise. At the moment i'm going through a phase where I just don't have much spare time, and yet if you were chatting with me two months ago, i was free to meet almost every night of the week. Between uni and work and writing up these ridiculously in-depth essays I hardly have time to check my messages let alone organise a meet and greet with somebody. I am looking forward to next term when i will be back to having my free time again.. and hopefully all of the messages i'm getting now don't suddenly drop off due to my current lack of response
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Bothways72
9 years ago
Now I realise that this may sound 'dumb arse' to most people I guess! But this 'reverse image search' you mention Gymguy123....I've not actually heard of it before:-/ Any chance you, or anyone else reading this could explain this please?
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boobsandbusted
9 years ago
I also despise the term ,time waster ,getting to know someone enough to feel comfy enough to meet them with your partner is not time wasting ,it's a good ice breaker for some ,time wasting is some idiot that just thinks it's polite to straight up ask for a number ,or I'm hung and huge and i would be happy to service your sexy looking wife ,now that's a time waster in our books or not turning up to a pre arranged meet up ,cos that actually would be a waste of time ,lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Bothways72' Now I realise that this may sound 'dumb arse' to most people I guess! But this 'reverse image search' you mention Gymguy123....I've not actually heard of it before:-/ Any chance you, or anyone else reading this could explain this please? Searches for an image and shows you everywhere else that image appears on the internet. It's a good way to find out if people are trying to pass off pics they've found on the net as their own. I use tineye, you just paste the image url in the search box.
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RHP User
9 years ago
When I think of time wasters its profiles that pretend to be something - e.g. A couple but they are actually a man! Now they are wasting my time! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Openly_Curious
9 years ago
I like a bit of chatting to see if we're on enough of the same wavelength to make it worth meeting. But then I like to progress to a meet and greet pretty quickly to figure out whether the attraction works in person. Sometimes, though, we or others aren't available quickly. At times that means I do a meet and greet on my own because the people we're attracted to are very similar, so it's a safe bet that if I'm keen he will be, too. Other times it means we chat for a long time. If the chatting is good that can be a good thing. :) Tess
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
That phrase tends to put me off a bit on a profile too, Summer. It usually tends to indicate that they're more interested in jumping straight into bed, rather than exploring connections. For me, there needs to be a combination of both physical and intellectual connection. If chatting is considered time wasting, then sign me up for some wasted time please!
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RHP User
9 years ago
The ridiculous thing is who reads a profile and identifies as any one of those descriptors ..Who says,yep I am a time waster,head fuck crazy person,game player et al..So pointless and negative as you say Summer xxFreya
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PatchworkGirl
9 years ago
Exactly! It's kind of a self-defeating statement - people who are crazy head-fucked game players are probably the kind who would go "oh that's not me, I'll totally message you!". It's like those comments about not wanting anyone with baggage. I tend to skip past those ones too, as I have a history, I have family, and my life is full. Is that baggage? Probably to some people. But I'd rather spend time with people who have a bit of baggage than people who have nothing at all to bring to the equation. Unresolved relationship issues, though? That's another matter entirely.
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ButterMightMelt
9 years ago
I too will avoid anyone who says they only want girls who are "up for it" or "not time wasters". Ugh. I have a very clear profile (I think) and what works for me is a dominant man who wants to make a connection. I love it when someone can get under my skin, and there is a certain type of man who loves doing that and enjoys the lead-up it takes. Time wasters for me are the ones who don't read my profile, or don't make their own one clear, and then I have to ask all the questions to sort out where they're at. (I hear you dawn69 - pffft - kids!). Meeting them all would be a full time job and I have about 2 of those already. Some guys send such lame messages that I'm not surprised they don't get any luck. They give the impression that they really don't care who you are, as long as they get some - and that may indeed be the case. The poster that started this thread didn't sound like one of those, but hey, women can get so many messages. I used to take the time to gently explain that I didn't think we were on the same page, but 90% of the time I would get zero reply to my polite "rejection". So now I tend to just go quiet..
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ButterMightMelt
9 years ago
Quick qualification - it's not "all" the other guys' fault. That's not fair. There are some truly wonderful ones here who are very open and transparent about themselves and what they are looking for. It's just SOME of the other guys' fault. Apologies gentlemen x
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RHP User
9 years ago
I assume you define a time waster, as someone who has no intention of ever meeting? For me: If it's at a stage where I think I'm keen, and they seem keen to discuss a meet, I take it to a phone call. Seems to sort things out pretty quickly, once there. How long that interchange is varies. I went and looked at my messages from my Mr2015, and there were 112! But ... we saw each other for 12 months, and he eventually stopped his complaints. And by no means is that number representative
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Gymguy123' Just do a reverse image search and youll find the pics are stolen from somewhere else - Posted from rhpmobile It still amazes me that a website that makes profits like these dating sites do does not have some sort of screening process for pictures?? This particular site seems a little better than most but for the amount of money they make or could make if they just put in that little extra effort. Oh Tin eye is another good site for reverse image searching.
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RHP User
9 years ago
A couple of weeks ago i started chatting to a woman on here, exchanged messages a few times and thought she was a good sort so swapped phone numbers. After a week or so of phone and txt chats i asked to meet her, we agreed to me Wednesday after work. When this fell through she asked to meet me on Friday so after getting home and getting ready, called her and surprise surprise no answer, i sat on the couch for an hour in my finest before pouring myself a large consolation drink (or three 😲)....on Saturday morning there was another text, and another date made for that afternoon, and guess what happening? Thats right kiddies, stood up again....would she be classified as a timewaster? Lmao....
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Paradisepair
9 years ago
Of course someone could validate themselves... How to tell if a genuine person has no intention of actually meeting? Maybe ask them up front what kind of timeframe they'd like to work to.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I agree. I like having a chat. But it also comes down to timing. Setting up times and places to meet - especially if you have work and family commitments is hard. As long as there seems to be some real effort by both parties - chatting is a way to keep the suspense going - and it might pay big dividends when you finally get to play
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Twoexplorers
9 years ago
We all come on here when we do, no one logs in for us and says now you have to be on.how is it time wasted ?
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RHP User
8 years ago
usually I'll get cold feet at the time of meeting if the onus is put repeatedly on me to decide what to do or its apparent that who I'm chatting to wants to put very little effort in. A coffee or a drink at a bar is good enough. I want to see excitement from a guy as I'm generally excited by that point. Maybe it's worth going back to the ones that you really clicked with and put that extra effort in with a new meet request if you can relate. -longest. - Posted from rhpmobile
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