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How to read the signals?
December 29 2014
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't even recognise interest in messages lol and you think you're thick?? Lol 😝 P.S. What is the swingers grope ?? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
...if they are a man they are interested! :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
And watch, learn and see how it shapes my new year. Let's hope you are all good teachers! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Good grief, I am so lost in this new world also, saying that, I am loving it. But... judging by some of the profile names on here (i.e. oyster catcher) why on earth would you be out with them in the first place. Sorry, feeling amused.
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RHP User
10 years ago
you have to be pretty blatant for me to pick it up.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Sorry to ask but have I been blocked - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I was hoping to get ideas from other forumites about this. I am so thick I can't pick them up, even the physical overtures, I totally miss! It has to be spelled out with diagrams and illustrations before I will get it.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Clueless until there's a look that doesn't look like he has something in his eye and he actually says to me, "I'd like to kiss you." Quaint I know but constant gentlemanly touching (unlike the "swingers grope") and looking and smiling at me kinda gives a clue but I still like to be told you wanna kiss me. Gives me the chance to decide if I'm actually feeling it too. Oh Lord I'm soooooooo old fashioned!!! 😳
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RHP User
10 years ago
..... Who is good at recognising signals should have a class and teach all of us that is useless at it. Haha
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Smilingwithfun
10 years ago
Dr Phil would say that communication is the key. Like he has had lots of experience on first dates
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lovman8
10 years ago
by the time I get to orgasm I have usually worked it out!
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RHP User
10 years ago
and I'll reserve comment for when I find the answer
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
lol...... As has been eluded to earlier.... its a very simple equation, dependant upon the occasion. Attention = interest. Theres your signal..... as visible as the dude with the ping pong bats directing an A380
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RHP User
10 years ago
Body language is key. When someone is interested, they will not constantly present defensive behaviour (arms folded, hands in front of them, rigid posture etc). Some people may do this initially because they're nervous etc but eventually loosen up (no pun intended ). Once they're relaxed, some people may just need a gentle nudge - 'so..shall we take this further?' or 'do you want to go upstairs/to the bedroom?' etc
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RHP User
10 years ago
Signals....Who knew?😉😉xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Everybody wants me. No need to look for signals that way.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I did have the misconception that the sexual interaction in the swinger’s world would be less complicated. Ha! Should of know us human folks don’t work like that. I do agree with the body language and it can be quite blatant at times, but generally speaking in my not very vast experience, the female of the other couple, is the toughest to read. My own little tip, for what it is worth, is directed at the more experienced. If you are planning to meet someone who you know is new to the scene, you should consider taking the lead. We are newbies and there is a lot of figuring out of the intricate etiquette, the process and just the mechanics of what goes on. Having the other party offering to interpret and take the lead helps not just at the time but it gives us a blueprint to follow for later. So if you see me at a party, at the Pleasure Lounge or you meet me in a noisy bar please assume I have got no idea! Come and talk to me... please :) Cheers,Mrs Fun. BTW, we define the "Swingers Grope" as the touchy-feely hand movements that generally start between the shoulder blades and sashay down to the small of the back. In some cases that's where the hand finishes and stays. In most cases, the hand continues its way around the waist. The Swingers Grope can be employed in any social setting and is not dependent of the Groper being familiar with the Gropee. It is the antithesis of the A-frame air kisses type hug.
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RHP User
10 years ago
..when she straddled me and stuck her tongue down my throat... I thought ' hullo' then turned and whispered in the sexiest voice I usually only save for moments like this'. g' day... That usually does it ..
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RHP User
10 years ago
The eyes have it' and are the windows of the soul... They will tell you everything if your in tune with the crowd around you... You just need to be alert...
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madotara69
10 years ago
Quoting 'On_Safari' Clueless until there's a look that doesn't look like he has something in his eye and he actually says to me, "I'd like to kiss you." Quaint I know but constant gentlemanly touching (unlike the "swingers grope") and looking and smiling at me kinda gives a clue but I still like to be told you wanna kiss me. Gives me the chance to decide if I'm actually feeling it too. Oh Lord I'm soooooooo old fashioned!!! 😳 That is exactly the moment Tara and I first made love and too this day we still do. I had no idea a simple few words would have meant so much for her, plus I was a nervous wreck for being denied the privilege. Sure did see a sparkle in her eyes I will take with me on the way out. I did feel a little confidence just quietly. And we fuck a lot more these days, its more naughty. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
You know theres a great connection when you are oblivious to everything and anyone else around you. You both cant break that eye contact. You can feel the sexual tension enveloping you both.you can almost smell the lust and youre eye fucking each others minds. When i get those rare ones, and they are rare, one drink and im suggesting " lets get the fuck out of here".And its on like donkey kong!!! Im not into second guessing or procrastinating. If it feels right,make the first move ladies.
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lil_bit_rusty
10 years ago
Quoting 'Jay_me' The eyes have it' and are the windows of the soul... They will tell you everything if your in tune with the crowd around you... You just need to be alert... What Jay says plus I think that it all boils down to chemistry and situation/luck. You can easily bump into someone at the supermarket, try to strike up a conversation and get the cold shoulder as they might be in a rush.Fast forward a few hours later, you bump into them at a bar/club, they're relaxed and wanting to have fun and, BAM! an instant connection occurs and you end up being barred from that pub for what you did to the pool table. I believe that the lifestyle/site we're on allows us to cut through a lot of the are they/aren't they interested indecision that can go on. Not all, but a fair bit of it. We can be a lot more upfront I feel. Ultimately though, aren't we responsible for letting the other party know that WE are interested? I'm not a sex god, pickup King or a smooth operator with a golden tongue that just drips sweet talk.However... occasionally... just occasionally, I am all of the above. Those times are rare indeed but the reason for them is simple, to the person I am talking to there is an undeniable attraction and we're both keen for it.I love those occasions when I meet/see a person for the first time and know, without saying a word, just from the look into each others eyes, that, "Oh it's on." Then you can just relax, be yourself, have a laugh and, as the night goes on, find out that there's also a mental connection with the person as well as the obvious physical. As for moves? Well I don't want to give away any secrets now do I? If I'm interested then I'll be giving the person my full attention (as I'm an eyes/lips person that part isn't too difficult), be interested in what they have to say and... be looking to make physical contact at any opportunity. No, not sleazy hip grinding contact... well maybe later on if things are going well. It's hard to explain but I'm sure that you all understand, those times where you take their hands to help illustrate a point you're making, the tap that you give them to let them know that you're back from the bar with their drink. The knowing look you give each other after some other guy tries to make an appalling effort at hitting on her. And then there's the move I most love doing, simple and effective body contact. That 'brushing a lock of her hair out of her eye with the back of your fingertips' move. I don't know about everyone else but I love doing that. The way that I do it is that it starts at the eyebrow, across to the ear, slowly down the cheek and then softly and slowly down the neck to just under the jaw. (Don't know about you but I've just given myself goosebumps thinking about doing it) If she doesn't flinch away from the contact, or even better, leans into it, then you know things are going pretty well. I've definitely had my nights where I was oblivious to any signals that were going on, I needed to be smacked in the face with 'em, only to realise upon playback at home, or being told to my face at a later date by friends/the person themselves, that I'd utterly and completely missed a golden opportunity. And of course, usually those opportunities are never, ever, available again. (Occasionally though those missed opportunities will collide with those "You're hot" thread moments years later) Really though, the best signal to give off, at least at first, is one of self confidence (not to be confused with arrogance), politeness and of being friendly. Try being humourous and be prepared to try another tack or move on if it fails like a lead balloon. (Dammit! That phrase can no longer apply as I saw Mythbusters dispel it) I guess the moral of the story really is...Keep trying 'til you meet someone with whom you hit it off. CheersRusty
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'dewata' I was hoping to get ideas from other forumites about this. I am so thick I can't pick them up, even the physical overtures, I totally miss! It has to be spelled out with diagrams and illustrations before I will get it. A wink... and cheeky smile.. and generally any touchy feely business or touchy feely stuff to get up in your business! Generally an uninterested fellow will move on relatively quickly. xtothez
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