How young would you go?

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Hey there. Are you talking about older guys with younger girls, the opposite or both? If both parties are fine with it, then what's the harm in some innocent fun. If its a longer term thing, that's where you have a lot more to consider. Your younger, cuter friend may end up wanting to sit at the computer, gaming the day away. Or Your older, more mature friend may want to stay home, napping more often.

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  flimac

  12 years ago

  clearly my first post and I dont think its in the right place! help

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  flimac

  12 years ago

  Im interested in both, clearly in my conversation it was in regards to older male younger female. I'm interested to see others views before stating my thoughts on it as I'm wondering if it's just me lol

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Too close to the age of my children is a little "icky" however there are always the exception. Like Giggy said...it depends on if it is just for a playmate or more. Many years ago, my friends daughter took up with the best mate of her father. She was just 16 and he was 40. Well you can imagine the furore that errupted..end of friendship and his kids were horrified as she was much younger than them. 25 years later they are still together...go figure. Not for me though, I find that I like the occassional conversation and not many 20 year old boys can hold their own in that department. I like the occassional nana nap on the couch with my man. By the same token I am not ready to help get my partners zimmer frame in and out of the SUV either.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  i personally would go as 'low' as 22...just older than my oldest childs age .lol ... she 16 and he 40 Handmaiden? yikes!

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Then I had that changed for me by somone. Now I look at the person, not the number.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I done a 19yo a few years back. I'd never do that again!!! Lol ......my exes mother is mariied to his ex best mate. She is nearly 70 and he's turning 50 next year they have been together for over 20 years....Roxxy

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  on the maturity of the younger person. I was having sex with an 18 yr old earlier this year, and as much as I'd love to call her a woman, she was a bit too immature. Having said that, I've been with some mature 19 & 20 yr old guys, and then the really immature ones too.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  i think that if its a relationship it should be relatively close in age but for a fling who cares its just fun.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  i should probably also add there as long as its legal....

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  A few years ago too close to my Mothers age and we were talking really icky in my mind, weirdly like others, my mind was changed on that by a lovely man. Yet I still balk at anyone older than she is (shes not that old people).   At 32 I played with a 19 year old for a few months - it took him 2 years to talk me around into having sex with him (yes you read that right 2 years meaning he started hitting me up at the age of 17 - persistent bugger). I have no regrets what so ever about playing with him. He was (and still is) a rare young man who knew at 19 what got him off, what he enjoyed, his limitations and he could hold a conversation about more than just sex too (a feat many older males I have met cant do). Im still friends with him though we no longer have sex.   Now though I am willing to go as low as 10 years younger than me (and they need to be exceptional for that to occur) and am going 12 years older.   Kisses Focus

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  21then they can make their own decision

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  flimac

  12 years ago

  Thanks for your input so far, I've found it interesting and there is a similar topic further down that also addressed some of this. Personally I had an issue with a large age gap, It's not the gap so much as I would have no issues with 30 and 50 or 25 and 40 generally. The situation was a man in his 40's who has and would continue to happily sleep with 18yo's. I know my work influences this dramatically, I work with teens and I have to say my view is a little sexist although I am well aware it can happen the other way round to. My issue is the only young girls - and yes I still consider them girls not adults, that I've known to sleep with significantly older men are incredibly vulnerable. The girls I work with have so much trauma and a lot of it sexual that they are easy prey, and I do take issue with people taking advantage of this vulnerability. I know examples of them having sex just to have somewhere to sleep the night, not to mention drugs and alcohol. I also know that these girls can and do present as mature and intelligent, because they have had to grow up quick, but I also see the aftermath of the continual unhealthy interactions with men and the shattered self worth, girls that can not consider themselves worthy unless a man, any man, pays them sexual attention.Now I dont want to say that all men who sleep with people of this age are preying on the vulnerable (although truth be told my job has created some cynicism)but is it worth the risk? are there 18 yo females (in this example) who can have healthy sexual relationships with significantly older men? I'm genuinely curious as my personal experience of a trauma free childhood (although I did not have a father) and a late bloomer sexually a significantly older man was never something I really considered or was interested - truth be told that hasn't changed much I do know there is no way on earth I would go lower than a few years younger, that was present before working in current area, and now...well the age range I work with goes up to 21 so the idea of sleeping with someone that young freaks me out - they are just babies in my eyes! Posting this hoping I havent just offended everyone, I acknowledge my cynical view of the world I'm a social worker and you can blame it on that! I also want to note that I've seen examples of the opposite, young men older women but truth be told its been a lot less.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  well i've been with my lovely lady 10+ years and she's got a few years on me, but we get on well and our sex life is great, but in saying that theres nothing sweeter than a 19yo horn bag who realy loves sex and has matured enough to know what she wants and how to get it. also it can be a little tricky especially when you go out to a club. I got reeled in by this beutiful indian girl at a club. got her number met up the next day, and she came home, now maybe i was blinded by her tight little ass or that sweet smile and those eye's they looked right thu me,.we sucked and fucked fo ra week solid before i found out she was a few days shy of her 16th bday. now i was only 25 at the time but i freaked out, but i didnt stop hurtn that sweet pussy, i guess i figured well i've been there now, i was already in deep, real deep. Now now maybe i was wrong to let her keep cumming over and using me for sex:) but we got on well both sexually and mentally. so was it wrong YES it was but it felt right at the time. my point being if you get along and enjoy each others company why not enjoy it no matter the age. tho if any one touched my mates or sisters daughters there would be hell to pay. but you know you cant stop it sorry i went on a bit but i love all women and if i can get that peach to spray and a cum dripping smile, well the worlds a wonderful place.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  A sexual attraction is a sexual attraction. while there might be generation gaps as far as lifestyle and music, the basic raw animal urge of S E X is universal.Young girls have been married off at the age of 12 to men in their 50s for thousands of years. this wasnt out of the 'male dominance thing, but out of brutal necessity.A young woman was of 'breeding' age, and an older man was settled and had a place for her to stay and protect her.it was for the good of the tribe or community, and in some places it still happens today.When one person is attracted to another, i dont think age is a barrier, other than the lifestyle thing.I have been with a few young ladies who were barely 19. While they could have killed me, I gave them a 'run for their money' (no money involved).With a guy, with AGE comes EXPERIENCE. i believe the same is true with older women.As far as the younger crowd, what they lack in experience they make up for in stamnia.I recall when I was in my teens, i was a human jack hammer, and would have a girl beating on my back begging me to stop. her thighs would be raw, and she couldnt walk when i was done with her ( and i hadnt even broken a sweat yet:) ).She would have had multiple orgasms to the point of almost swallowing her tongue:)Those days are long gone (without viagra), but I try to make up for it by other means (fingers, tongue, and toys, hehe).I feel if a person is of legal consenting age, and wants to try out a 'dirty old man' or a cougar, GO FOR IT.Sometimes i feel it is the best combination, the older person is trying their best to make up for any lack of stamina and have experience to take advantage of the younger persons high sex drive.Personally, i would pick her up and nail her to the wall:)I have also met a few ladies in their twenties who said, it is a pity I was 'so old' or they would rip me apart.My only question is 'what is stopping them?:)i have 'played' with a few work associates (we live and work on a boat together), and would rub the girls shoulders after work.They would line up for me to rub their shoulders at midnight. One in particular obviously had 'troubles' with it, as she said 'look at my arms', and she had goose bumps and her hair was standing on end. when i would rub her shoulders, she would just slam her head on the table and moan, with the rest of the crew watching.One time, I looked at a couple of the guys (all in their 20s), and motioned for them to watch what i was going to do (sorry, but the younger guys have no clue how to seduce a woman, they just want to jump their bones).She had a skimpy tank top on after taking her uniform off from work. I was sensuously rubbing her shoulders and she was REALLY relaxed and i could see goose bumps all over her, then i leaned over, ran my tongue up her spine and blew on it.she went spastic, shot bolt upright, looked at me and said 'I gotta go', and took off.i think she almost had an orgasm:) all the guys laughed and the girls reprimanded me for doing that to that poor girl (yeah right, they wished it was them)As far as sexual harassment at the work place, the boat was a 'harrassment free' zone, as they were all doing it like rabbits anyway. Because i was the 'old man' i didnt get any of the action, but the girls would always play with me and tease me, and would never deny a shoulder rub from the 'creepy old man'.So the way i see it, as far as sexual attraction, go for it.a long term relationship (like life), might be a problem like i said with generational gaps and people being biased about a young/old couple.It has only been this way the last hundred years, so when you think about it, the young/old thing is as old as the hills.it is our modern day stuck up bias that holds us back from what we do bestHAVE SEX

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  yes, there are sexual predators out there that would take advantage of a young woman, and tell them they love them just to get in to their pants, but that is really not restricted by age. I had been with a woman MY AGE who dumped me because she THOUGHT I was just using her for sex when i was flipped out head over heels in love with her.neither of us bothered to communicate it until now.One of the reasons i am here is trying to put back together the pieces of my shattered psyche. (yes men can get damaged too).this probably isnt the best place to try and get your head together from a bad break up.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I couldnt put an actual number on this. I have spoken to some very well formed personalities at 18, 19, but have also met some incredibly spineless babies that were (sometimes much) older than me.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  when I was 6 I was hot an a 13 year old.A huge divide to be sure.Oh the shame. :(

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I typoed there

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

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  On_Safari

  12 years ago

  Have been approached by quite a few young people, some just for conversation others want more. I baulk at anyone 25 and under because my oldest is 20. 18yo contacting me I find disturbing and wonder why they are even on a site like this?? There was one young man though, met through a friend, lol 19 and sweet as they come. Could crook my finger and he'd come running....he is now a close friend of my 15yo. Thank God I resisted that forbidden fruit!! I still prefer older men, have since I was 16. I try to keep it in the 35-56 range.....but even a wayward angel can be led astray!! Have only met one Peter Pan, he was 50 struck out with me and asked me if I'd introduce him to my 26yo friend. She nearly puked!! Lmao

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  Letsgetwhoopee

  12 years ago

  If the young woman and old man are fine to be in it, why should they really stop themselves being with each other?Its worth spending time with people whom we like rather than thinking what someone would think if I am with someone elder to me or younger to me.Be it Old Man and Young Woman or Old Woman and Young Man, life is going to be short, and having some good memories for life will only come where you find yourself to be comfortable and so taking age gaps into account will surely deny you beautiful times and memoriesRegards,R

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  twowithnolimits

  12 years ago

  @handmaiden, it too know of a case like yours, it was my then GF's sister, she hooked up with a "grown man" and of course dad, mum and everyone on the planet wanted to wade in with their cliched and predictable response.(i did not..)..and like you have seen they have outlasted most of their critics relationships!!   but in this age of the 5 second sound byte, the 20 second tv ad, the two minute drive through meal and the ten week vocational course you are not expected to thi kdeeply, research widely or ponder profoundly..just react as you have been told is the normal way to react and move on to the next thought....   age acceptance can be dictated by culture, religion, sibling s experience, and much more, bottom line its their decision and just like those with an age gap of 5 years, an age gap of 2 years, etc etc etc they will sink and swim according to their interactions...IF YOU LET THEM   if as much energy went into NOT judging people as it does into judgin gthem just imagine what a peaceful happy world we might live in ;-)

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I remember reading an article that had a formula for calculating the age range of a potential partner:- Youngest = Half your age plus 7 years, Oldest = Your age minus 7 years then double it. Thus, if you are 40 then your partner would be in the age range of 27 to 66.   Personally, I don't think age matters if you are enjoying each other's company - in anything you are doing. I wish I had realised this a few years ago when I was with a lovely and much younger lady. Some of my family and friends didn't approve and I took the easy way out (stopped seeing her). Now, I wouldn't care what anyone says.

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  flimac

  12 years ago

  I understand what you are saying and yes pondering and researching are often perceived to be lacking, but its that process that made me ask the question, I reflected on my reaction to a situation and yes I did judge, but I am ok with that. Age acceptance is shaped by many things and I have had mine shaped by my experiences working with young people, and they are generally very vulnerable but at the same time some can present as mature and capable of there decisions, so yes I judge. I work in an area that requires us not to judge and I think I am pretty good with it, BUT I do judge the people who have caused my clients pain and trauma, be that through family relationships or sexual relationships.Sadly that has caused me to be cynical lol, I dont want to tar everyone with the same brush, hence I wanted to see others opinions and experiences.

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