RHP

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Hurts

August 26 2014

So an old fuck buddy rings me today. We were amazing together, the chemistry was electric, we were like one then he dropped the bombshell that he was married. I had to stop it there but it was so hard to let him go. This was well over 12 months ago now. He won't leave his wife but he just rings me out of the blue to say hi and keep in touch and hoping get in my pants again but I won't let that happen. I had him as much as he had me. He tells me today that I am different, he could get stuck on a desert island with me forever. My heart sinks a little when he tells me things like that because I know he means it. Not sure why it affects me so, I never loved him although I still lust after him. He threatens to visit me because he knows I will probably fuck him so I have to tell him to stay away from me. My questions; have you ever had someone you care about have to keep a distance away for your own good and what are some lines from lovers that have stuck with you?

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Well maybe you did !! - Posted from rhpmobile

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    A few years ago now, but never forgotten it. I'd just started seeing this guy and we met up for drinks after work. After a couple of hours in the bar we decided to go back to his place. We both had cars with us, so I followed him and after driving for about 10 mins he pulled over to the side of the road. He got out of his car and walked to mine, then leaned in and gave me the most incredibly passionate kiss. He said "had to stop to do that cause I couldn't wait till we got home". Super romantic & super hot... fired me up and we barely made it through the door before we started ripping each other's clothes off :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    What a hurtful situation for you to be in,..I Just wanted to say I admire yr ethics, as it would be so easy to carry on having a sexual r/ship.,. Time changes everything, & eventually the loving & lustful feelings will change for u both... Stay strong, & don't let him emotionally manipulate you. That is all... Good luck & well done xxx - Posted from rhpmobile

  • Smilingwithfun

    Smilingwithfun

    10 years ago

    It was a situation that was best for both to be apart. It was when together it was a great part of a package, just never felt like the whole complete package, which is why it was best to be apart. It is harder to do what's best when you are single rather than if you have someone in your life.

  • Seachange

    Seachange

    10 years ago

    I can see where you are coming from. It is very rare to actually find that connection with someone, and even rarer to find one that is 'electrifying'. We are all after that and it is most exciting. A great deviation from the placid daily routine we lead. It always induces a great adrenaline rush. quite addictive. I had a guy like that once, an ex boyfriend about 2 years ago. Wonderful connection and electrifying. We knew it from the word go. But he was married to his job (as I was) and expanding his business to Queensland hence he moved to the Gold Coast a year ago. He also had issues to work out with his 'troubled' daughter, so we had to part but kept in touch. Everytime he would come down to melbourne, he would take me out to an expensive dinner, we'd have great laughs and banter, and it always ends in raunchy romp inthe bedroom although we said we wont go there again. always sad for us to say goodbye to each other. Nowadays, we try to keep our distance from each other as we try to move on in our lives. But so get you there....

  • MsSuperFoxy

    MsSuperFoxy

    10 years ago

    It's gets easier the more you do it...believe you me. They aren't called "Mr.YoYo's" for no reason...time to cut the loose end strings. Foxy

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Great story ,maybe some of us want the top apples,but it is not reciprocated! Funny I think a lot on here do grab for the bottle apples,but don't you get bad teeth from rotten apples !

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    You answered your own question you lust for him ,but don't luv him! Sometimes we want what we can't have,makes it hotter! Emotionally will only hurt you in long run,better to cut loose ,but that's your call! Was obviously married when you meet and only wants sex from you !!

  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    10 years ago

    Late last year, I let go a dear friend and occasional fb. After a year and a half of hanging out and enjoying company, we decided to test the waters of a relationship to see where it may go. It didn't work (for me)..... and my regret is the lost friendship.... but it simply couldn't continue. To her I shall always be sorry for the hurt that caused, but it was the right thing to do. (Not 100% relevant to the topic, but, the topic reminded me of the difficulty of living the phrase "be true to yourself"). Much love to all who have hurt, been hurt, are hurting... and for the hurt you may cause others in the future.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Mickelle8267' A few years ago now, but never forgotten it. I'd just started seeing this guy and we met up for drinks after work. After a couple of hours in the bar we decided to go back to his place. We both had cars with us, so I followed him and after driving for about 10 mins he pulled over to the side of the road. He got out of his car and walked to mine, then leaned in and gave me the most incredibly passionate kiss. He said "had to stop to do that cause I couldn't wait till we got home". Super romantic & super hot... fired me up and we barely made it through the door before we started ripping each other's clothes off :)

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    I only lust for him when he is near me otherwise I don't think too much about him. I have no trouble moving on, only when I hear his voice I want to fuck his brains out. I don't even have his phone number, he has mine and was far too short lived to be love.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    ^^^ that was in response to BO

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Late last year, I let go a dear friend and occasional fb. After a year and a half of hanging out and enjoying company, we decided to test the waters of a relationship to see where it may go. It didn't work (for me)..... and my regret is the lost friendship.... but it simply couldn't continue. To her I shall always be sorry for the hurt that caused, but it was the right thing to do. (Not 100% relevant to the topic, but, the topic reminded me of the difficulty of living the phrase "be true to yourself"). Much love to all who have hurt, been hurt, are hurting... and for the hurt you may cause others in the future. why must things feel so good, then feel so bad? Certainly makes you realise why people are once bitten twice shy when entering into relationships.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    "You bring out the inner~minx in me".'Once bitten twice shy' - Don't believe in it..I've been bitten, chewed up and spat out more than once..But I don't bring that fear to a new relationship - it's not fair to that new person.

  • Circe

    Circe

    10 years ago

    I was in almost exactly the same situation Ralf. I'm glad to be out of it, it was too intense, I hated the guilt. I don't really trust myself to see him. The zing was too big but I don't want to go back there. Yes, I'm bruised but ultimately I'm fine.

  • RHP

    RHP User

    10 years ago

    Quoting 'nostrings_1' You answered your own question you lust for him ,but don't luv him! Sometimes we want what we can't have,makes it hotter! Emotionally will only hurt you in long run,better to cut loose ,but that's your call! Was obviously married when you meet and only wants sex from you !! asking about the situation,the situation lead me to the questions at the bottom