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I am not seeing new people???!!! What is this?
June 14 2013
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RHP User
12 years ago
This is a template reply that is an automatic response to all messages. It's an easy way to answer every message without having to read them all. If they are interested in you they'll get back to you when they have the chance.
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RHP User
12 years ago
those people are all members of The We Hate Party Hats Party,
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RHP User
12 years ago
It is one of the standard responses you can choose when replying to your messages. It is a nice way of telling you they are not interested. Same for the I am busy at the moment replies. I will tell you something for nothing. When Brad Pitt and George Clooney call me to arrange that threesome I will definitely NOT be busy. ⊂(◉‿◉)つ
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sweetgem
12 years ago
Like Meeka said, it's probably a nice way of telling people that they're not interested in the person whom messaged them. And it can also mean that those members are only staying for the Forums, but leaving their profiles open so the Forums posters can contact them if three is a need to do so. For example me, lately I am mainly here for the Forums, so I hid my profile once. But at one time the other posters and I were talking about leggings and one of the nice ladies offered to PM me the links to buy funky leggings, but only then she found out that my profile was locked and she couldn't PM me. Therefore, I now leave my profile open, but not receiving new messages. So, it could be any reasons that people have to say that they are not meeting new people, but still keep their profiles open.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
That is true Sweetgem but if a woman is here only for the forums and is truly not interested in meeting any new people that is what they write on their profile. Mind you it doesn't stop all the messages but that is what you write. Therefore if a woman doesn't say that on her profile that means she would still be interested in meeting someone that she was attracted too. Right? Or am I right? So the I am busy or I am not meeting new people generally means. Thank you but no I am not interested.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' So the I am busy or I am not meeting new people generally means. Thank you but no I am not interested. It's just one more way to (not) say "NO" for the women who suck at saying no. As I said before, any answer not containing the word "NO", will be read by a lot of men as "MAYBE". And they all know the maybe will eventually become a yes if they just keep trying.
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RHP User
12 years ago
you are right, they hate party.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Direct' Quoting 'Meeka100' So the I am busy or I am not meeting new people generally means. Thank you but no I am not interested. It's just one more way to (not) say "NO" for the women who suck at saying no. As I said before, any answer not containing the word "NO", will be read by a lot of men as "MAYBE". And they all know the maybe will eventually become a yes if they just keep trying. I like this one: It's just one more way to (not) say "NO" for the women who suck at saying no.I hope if someone wants to say NO, dare to use these 2 letters "N" and "O" and not anything else.
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sweetgem
12 years ago
Meeka, you have a point there 😊 and you are not wrong about nothing can stop the messages from flooding in. Like I have strongly stated in my profile that no couples to contact me because of reasons A B C D, but I still get couples sending me flirts with the preset messages like "I have some free time, please message me if you're interested" or "I'm keen, please message me if you want to meet". Seriously, I truly think that some people purposely send me the flirts just to annoy me! lol Ms_D, I don't know about other women, but I don't literally use the word "NO" when I write back to reject a contact, but I always say it straight that I am not interested, in a polite tone of course, and had only one guy who couldn't stop writing back asking for a second chance! I mean really, he didn't even get the first chance, so where did the second chance come from?!?!?! Lol Each to their own :-)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
some girls just feel the need to be nice....I am running NO workshops,at NO cost....sign up here ladies and repeat after me... ''Thank you for the contact ,but no.''....polite ,to the point,not fluffy,direct,.....now how difficult was that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'sweetgem'Ms_D, I don't know about other women, but I don't literally use the word "NO" when I write back to reject a contact, but I always say it straight that I am not interested, in a polite tone of course My messages are the same. "I'm just not interested", or "You're not who I'm looking for", still contain the word no. My point is that a lot of women (from personal experience) use excuses that they think make clear they are not interested, when they really don't. Saying: "I'm not meeting new people rigt now", means "But try again in a week, as obviously the reason I'm saying no is not you, it's just lack of time". Totally generalised: Women are great at hints, digs and ambiguous messages. Men are not. Simple.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Nailed it!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Direct' Quoting 'Meeka100' So the I am busy or I am not meeting new people generally means. Thank you but no I am not interested. It's just one more way to (not) say "NO" for the women who suck at saying no. As I said before, any answer not containing the word "NO", will be read by a lot of men as "MAYBE". And they all know the maybe will eventually become a yes if they just keep trying. Yes I agree. And yes I suck at saying No.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Direct' Quoting 'sweetgem'Ms_D, I don't know about other women, but I don't literally use the word "NO" when I write back to reject a contact, but I always say it straight that I am not interested, in a polite tone of course My messages are the same. "I'm just not interested", or "You're not who I'm looking for", still contain the word no. My point is that a lot of women (from personal experience) use excuses that they think make clear they are not interested, when they really don't. Saying: "I'm not meeting new people rigt now", means "But try again in a week, as obviously the reason I'm saying no is not you, it's just lack of time". Totally generalised: Women are great at hints, digs and ambiguous messages. Men are not. Simple. well said! Bravo!
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RHP User
12 years ago
It gets to me, is because I'm the opposite. Maybe it's the being raised in Holland thing (we have a rep for being blunt), but I tend to speak my mind and therefore don't feel the need to complain about the men here as some ladies do. "He won't take no for an answer, what a jerk!". Eh no, it's because you haven't actually said no yet. You teach people how to treat you. If you're clear about what you want, expect, and what your boundaries are, it makes things easier for you and everyone around you. Same goes for raising kids and owning pets, doesn't it? That doesn't mean you have to be rude or bossy either. It's not just the girls though. I have a male friend who's ambiguous messages have driven me crazy sometimes.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Even.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Of saying "I'm not seeing anyone new", because I wanted to be polite. Truth was, I wasn't interested at all. However, as some would contact me again to see if my time had freed up, I now simply say "Thanks for your message & compliment/s, however I'm not interested. Best of luck though" :)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
I'm starting a "No is a complete sentence" forum right this minute.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Ms_Direct' Quoting 'sweetgem'Ms_D, I don't know about other women, but I don't literally use the word "NO" when I write back to reject a contact, but I always say it straight that I am not interested, in a polite tone of course My messages are the same. "I'm just not interested atm", or "You're not who I'm looking for atm", still contain the word no. My point is that a lot of women (from personal experience) use excuses that they think make clear they are not interested, when they really don't. Saying: "I'm not meeting new people rigt now", means "But try again in a week, as obviously the reason I'm saying no is not you, it's just lack of time". Totally generalised: Women are great at hints, digs and ambiguous messages. Men are not. Simple. That is what is said by the OP. That is a pretty decisive no wouldnt you think :P Jeez Ms D your putting words into phrases that just wernt there. Sure your not a bloke :P Behind those pretty pictures.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'EuropianBliss' Quoting 'Ms_Direct' Quoting 'sweetgem' Ms_D, I don't know about other women, but I don't literally use the word "NO" when I write back to reject a contact, but I always say it straight that I am not interested, in a polite tone of course My messages are the same. "I'm just not interested atm", or "You're not who I'm looking for atm", still contain the word no. That is what is said by the OP. That is a pretty decisive no wouldnt you think :P Jeez Ms D your putting words into phrases that just wernt there. Sure your not a bloke :P Behind those pretty pictures. Is was agreeing with Sweetgem, saying my messages are the same as hers. You can be direct and polite at the same time, and don't even have to use the word "no" itself. But how come you added words to my quote? I would never say "atm", nor "at the moment". That would make a "no" into a "maybe" again. You're right though by saying the quote in the OP "I am not seeing new people, but thanks for your message" was decisive.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Apologies. RHP, not me.
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RHP User
12 years ago
GOD I LOVE YOU !!! WHO STOLE MY HAT ?? Quoting 'Freya73' those people are all members of The We Hate Party Hats Party,
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