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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  My definitions of labels:-Gay: Capable ONLY of a relationship with a member of the same sex,Bisexual: Capable of a relationship with a member of either sex, Straight: Capable ONLY of a relationship with a member of the opposite sex, Bi-Curious: Has at least an interest (usually sexual interest) in at least one member of the same sex. Usually has never had a relationship with a member of the same sex. Is the applicable label (IF one is going to use labels) for someone in your position, all the way to someone who regularly participates in sexual encounters which involve a member of the same sex, but where an interest exists in a proper relationship.Experimental: Very similar to Bi-Curious but the possibility of a relationship, is NOT an option.Hope this helps you understand, where you sit.*Disclaimer* These are MY definitions only, others may not totally agree.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  It's Bi

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  That's a good insight, heywood. I also think that the possibility of love and long term relationship with members of the same gender is very important when it comes to figuring out all of these labels. Personally I identify as bisexual even though I have never had and doubt I ever will have love or relationship with a male. Part of that is my own circumstance, it's not going to work so I'm not even looking for it or open to the possibility. But I also think a lot of it is because I'm attracted to men only physically and on a platonic level than ever really having or wanting to have the relationshippy feelings. I use bisexual on my profile and not bi-curious because I've known for a while now that I'm definitely bi and have done sufficient research. It'd be a real stretch for me to say that I'm just a bit curious of the unknown.   That's just my situation, I completely understand how the label fits for other men's circumstances who are only just considering or starting to take a walk on the bi side. Since sexuality is such a powerful and important thing, I even understand why some men would want to stay with the label "bi-curious" long after their curiosity is sated and it's become a regular thing. Like heywood said though, it'd be ridiculous for someone in a relationship to cling on to the curious label. "My life partner is gay but I've just been testing the waters with him for six years..."   Saskia72, is it possible you like the female form from an aesthetic perspective and not necessarily a sexual one? Maybe you appreciate the beauty of a woman and are being subtly pressured to sexualise that appreciation by the culture on RHP and elsewhere. I think it's pretty natural and okay for a woman to admire the body of other women without needing to be sexual with them. I also think straight men find the look of attractive, fit men pleasing. They just never say so and don't take it to the next step of thinking about that attractive body sexually. I think that's why men's underwear companies always have attractive models, even when marketing to straight men who theoretically shouldn't care. There must be some reason why the shaved, tanned, muscular adonis sells more jocks than a plastic mannequin modelling the same product, and as the majority of those customers are straight, statistically speaking, it can't be because all of those customers want to drop to their knees in front of him.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  But I see your point, sometimes it is enough just to leave something where it is, not go intentionally seeking it, and who knows, maybe someday something will serendipitously fall in my lap... or dive in... :)   I think it has occurred to me more because of the immersion in the sexual culture of these sites. On another site that I frequent I was approached (online of course) by a stunning bi woman (among many others, but she sticks in my mind because of her pure beauty and sexiness) who leans more towards fems than males, she comlipmented me and said she was really disappointed that I wasn't bi, we exchanged emails over the next few days and then left it at "Please contact me if you ever change your mind... I'm sure your husband would love it." well obviously hubby nearly fell over backwards with 1) envy 2) hope... Oh yes, I could see those little cogs clicking over. Lol   I feel though that I wouldn't know what to do to a woman (as in specifically, not generally), now that might seem silly sounding to you all, "But you should know, you're a woman blah blah blah" ... Giving head to a guy is relatively easy, can just be hard work depending on size, giving it to a woman seems more complex... and we are so much harder to please.   Anyways... Thanks guys

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  in my humble opinion can be confining not defining.Sexuality I believe is a continuum.I have met two women who I was sexually attracted to but it didn't go anywher.,When I was in my twenties I had two sexual encounters with women but they didn't really float my boat. An appreciation of physical beauty is different to a sexual attraction.I can appreciate male and female beauty without it meaning that I want to jump their bones,in fact it is often quite the opposite. My philosophy is never say never,age, gender is irrelevant to having a connection with someone.That person may or may not be someone I have a sexual connection with,but we may have a strong emotional and or intellectual connection.x Hugs H

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Yes Krissy I see what you mean, there are soo many more than just straight, bi curious and bi. Hesione I think that is where I am, admiring women, but really don't think it would get me off as much as men, but who knows, never say never is right. I think I shall always be open for it, and if it does happen I'll go with the flow. Not so sure I could seek it out though, Think I'd keep having reservations and excuses etc.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Was approached by a lovely young attractive girl on here who wanted to engage with me but not my man.. She was happy to let hubby watch but not join in ... Must admit ' I thought about it but felt uncomfortable leaving my man on the sidelines even though he didnt mind.. But being placed in this awkward position it just didnt feel right. Which was a shame..It would have been a first for me and had my man been apart of it' it probally would have happened.. But like you Saskia, its only been the odd occassion that I entertained the thought.. and like you' when Im turned on' I like a cock handy.. I too admire a nice sexy woman.. but I dont think that necessarily make you bi.. but curious... yes...

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  12 years ago

  Where do I sit if: Attracted physically to both sexes equally. Seek out same sex for friendship and sexual encounters. Equally comfortable sexually with both sexes. Absolutely NO interest in a same sex relationship apart from friendship.

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  12 years ago

  I love looking at beautiful females, their faces, bodies, poses or whatever. I am definitely attracted to them. As to wanting to try something sexual, sure do. But, and here's the crunch, I want to receive but not sure about giving. As selfish as this sounds that's the way it is. I have felt this way for decades but have never really acted upon it. Even went out for dinner with a lady one night who was very open to me about turning a straight woman. She was extremely attractive and it came to nothing, but I think I may have gone further with her If she had offered. So, am I bicurious? Don't know but am most certainly curious.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I admire a good looking body on a physiological sense, that does not necessarily mean I wish have sex with that person(model), it does not necessarily turn me on yet again sometimes it does but again it is only in thought and fantasy, but realistically I am definitely a heterosexual

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  12 years ago

  I came close to oppurtunity but I don't if I could go down there. Just waiting for the right situation to present utself

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  thats a very good question , my wife and i have only started to play , she was curious , we played with a nice couple --she was bi-sexaul -and took my wife aside and " showed her the ways" , My wife only kissed and fondled her. She pleased her --actually the best anyone has apparently , since then we have played with another couple where my wife played one on one with her and enjoyed it ------ Our question much the same --- Is she (my wife) bi curious ???? Mind you , we only think its a label

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