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"I love large parties. They're so intimate.

June 02 2013

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At small parties there isn't any privacy." A quote from the book (and movie) The Great Gatsby, which got me thinking: When having sex, I like it to be a private occasion, whether it's just the two of us, or even a three- or more-some. I am not an exhibitionist, and when I do end up at the Couples Club I tend to seek out the dark little rooms, usually with only one person. I've been to a couple of orgies and have decided they are really not for me. I love the feeling of being completely into each other, with no thought for the outside world. The feeling of someone looking into my eyes and seeing... well, all of me in that moment. Now, I know people here that are the complete opposite and either just don't like or can't deal with one-on-one situations, but thrive on group dynamics.   I'd like to hear some thoughts from both sides of the fence. When do you feel most exposed? Do you feel you lay yourself bare when being with just one person? Or do you feel more vulnerable when there are others around? Is there safety in numbers?     x

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Doesn't worry me either way. I can feel intimately connected to someone in a room full of naked people fucking or watching me. I don't think I am an exhibitionist, although I have been known to perform for a crowd on the odd occasion. My main thing is that I like to know the people a little first... Usually. Hence I often play with a small group of people that I have normally met before even if there are 50 other naked people in the room. Not always.. But usually. :) Love it all. For me they are two separate experiences.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Well enjoy the large parties for the voyeuristic aspect and the prospect of meeting people, but I concur that when it gets down to it, prefer, a smaller number and more intimate. Of course this is not always possible lol and even when off in the moment my head does tend to pop up like a meerkat to see what may be happening nearby

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    My preference is for one on one or small groups... Say 6 people give or take a cock or two. :P

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I'll take the large party any day. Lots to do, lots to look at and perfect for me who has the attention span of a goldfish. I love all the decadence, debauchery and atmosphere of so many different types of people all pleasuring each other at the same time. One on one is too intimate for me. Haven't quite worked out why yet (maybe I'm just a hippie who loves to share) but having said that, my date on Friday night was tonnes of fun. ;-)- Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Sorry ... Fat finger syndrome ...- Posted from rhpmobile

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  • inspirit

    inspirit

    12 years ago

    I love one on one and the connection of two souls with the universe. Touch, smell, taste, sound and connection. This though is very rare for me, as I have found many people can't quite let themselves go in such a way. Passion!!! I have been to a few clubs and parties and Voyers do not bother me in the slightest as I know that is there pleasure. I love it as I am a pleaser. Knowing someone is getting off on watching me fuck is awesome. It heightens my sexual experience. I do not think I am an exhibitionist either though perhaps I am. I love it all I guess.

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  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    12 years ago

    I am totally comfortable in meeting people socially and can hold a conversation with no problem, but I must keep it private when it comes to having sex! I tend to get very nervous and uncomfortable if I know or think that I might be seen during sex! The time that I felt most exposed was a month ago when I had a session with a gent in a serviced apartment room with almost all lights on and only thin curtain was drawn. I was already nervous about playing with him for the first time, and he left all the lights on, curtains were wide opened as well, so I got even more nervous to the point that I couldn't focus, so I had to ask him to switch off some lights and close one layer of curtain! He did as a gentleman, but I was still nervous and it was very obvious that he asked me not to worry as he was not there to hurt me. I felt bad that I sent the wrong message, because the gent is a wonderful person 😝- Posted from rhpmobile

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  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    12 years ago

    Is my only preference because of the private personality in sex. That's why I have not done nor will I be having MMF any time soon even though I am curious about it 😒- Posted from rhpmobile

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'sweetgem'Is my only preference because of the private personality in sex. That's why I have not done nor will I be having MMF any time soon even though I am curious about it The best threesome I've had was with two guys whom I had known for a while,   I'd played with both separately more than once, and because they knew each other too, our night felt very relaxed and safe. I trusted them completely and knew they both had my back.

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  • sweetgem

    sweetgem

    12 years ago

    At the moment I am not proactive in meeting new people (profile hidden) due to career and personal priorities. So, I'll probably look into building up a good and trusting friendship with a couple of men later on (when I've achieved what I want to achieve) for that purpose 😛

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  • Mischeviouslad

    Mischeviouslad

    12 years ago

    The etiquette and loss of focus on the experience with those i am with, when there are others around is too distracting and disconnecting to me. I simply prefer to focus my full attention, efgorts and pleasure on only one or two people. DG

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    I don't feel exposed or vulnerable in one on one or in a group situation.   I have been to the Couples Club and a private swingers party and only played with my partner at both events as I do need that connection with people before I play with them. In saying that what I do enjoy about attending the events is playing with my partner and still being able to hear, smell and see other people playing either in one on one or group situations. I find the whole experience very arousing and visually stimulating.   Ms NC2147

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    The anonymous group/party/club thing has no appeal to me at all. I've had a few opportunities now to attend, and it's just not something I want to explore.However, I don't think there's a theoretical upper limit to a group size if I'd met with and played with all the participants before. I just need that connection on a personal level before I have it on the physical level, and I'd be uncomfortable in a situation with others present who I wasn't personally and physically attracted to.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    you never know till you go and have a look to see what it's all about. Most people go to check it out the first time as you don't have to do anything at all but just chat to people at see what's going on. I certainly did that the first few times I went, as I too don't really get off on bonking total strangers. Not always.... but usually.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    If you come on Friday I will make sure that no one molests you as you stand and watch in your suspenders. LMAO

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    large panties too dear...so much more comfy than those small ones....

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Meeka100'If you come on Friday I will make sure that no one molests you as you stand and watch in your suspenders. LMAO Is this an exclsuive offer, or do you provide this service for other members? lol

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Quoting 'neptune_drift' Intimate for intimating initiation of intimacy with individual(s)'s intimates I just read that for the sixth time. I need a drink now.

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    this is a service I may offer to people I have met before. Couples Club is a club open to everybody. If you have a date to bring along you are welcome I am sure. I already have a date with my boyfriend. :P

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  • RHP

    RHP User

    12 years ago

    Neptune in suspenders!!

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