I suggested, she said maybe if...

Comments

• 

  RHP User

  6 years ago

  If she isnt into it, she isnt into it. If you 'nudge' it id be prepared to be single again. Just ask her if theres anything she wants to do. If the answer is no, then re-evaluate yr relationship if you really want to play with other women.

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  6 years ago

  It frustrates me to no end when I read this sort of thing... why do people think it’s ok to try to nudge/convince/persuade anyone to do anything? What people do has to be done wholeheartedly by them. It’s their choice to explore this world and have these experiences. Not someone else’s. Respect is being ok with the fact that that other person may not be ok with something - respect isn’t going to yourself well I think I can talk them around so I get what I want... Would you really want to be in a situation with someone knowing that every inch of them isn’t invested in being there and that they are only potentially there to please or appease someone else? Would you want to be that person yourself - the person who’s potentially feeling pressured to do something because it’s what their partner wants? She has to want the new and exciting situation. She has to be an equal partner in it the whole way or not at all.

  reply

  like

• 

  mango69er

  6 years ago

  Why do you evan have a couples profile on here if she isnt into it.

  reply

  like

• 

  horneycouplewa

  6 years ago

  There's nothing wrong with giving the nudge and bringing swinging up to a partner, even if it is a few goes at it. How else can a couple get into this, someone has to get the ball rolling so to speak. I'll give the benefit of the doubt to those who have tried rather than cheat. That's how hubby got I into it, at first I said "Hell No Way" twice actually..... as he used to be a jealous man, I was very conservative (yes believe it lol) and it screamed WTF !!!! I don't know if the fact that I've always been bisexual and we have had women in our lives that made it a bit easier to convince me, I don't think it did as it is a whole different scenario to having a man fuck me. He sat me in front of RHP and said, I mean it come check this site out, I wouldn't say he pushed me, he definitely nudged me and wanted me to understand what it was all about and give me to time to think and of course lot's of conversations. I became intrigued as much as he was, starting with simple conversing with couples together, he enjoyed my flirty conversations with men and then finally our first party. Haven't looked back since. There's always parties and events with no expectations to suss it out/watch together and lot's of conversations. OP, you have your lady as Bicurious, is that your dream or has she already said that's her starting point?

  reply

  like

• 

  House_of_Fun

  6 years ago

  I'm not seeing the "maybe" anywhere in your post, it reads to me she said she just isn't into the idea. My suggestion would be to respect her wishes and not to to convince her, but as you said spice up your relationship in other ways.

  reply

  like

• 

  The_Antichrist

  6 years ago

  She’s giving you a message dude about how you make her feel.... I’d be addressing that before going anywhere...she’s not saying you’re a bad bloke either ....

  reply

  like

• 

  DynamicCouple36

  6 years ago

  Does she know About your “couples” profile on here ? Does she even know about RHP ? Once again sounds like the male half doing all the pushing, without the poor female having any knowledge nor choice in the matter. It can only have a negative impact on your relationship if she is not fully into all of this.

  reply

  like

• 

  Lovinit28andKC72

  6 years ago

  I’d want to know how she’d feel about herself. She says you’d become less respectful towards her, maybe she’s more worried about how she’d feel about you afterwards? I have know problems with giving a “gentle” nudge. We all tend to live in our little squares because of our upbringing and social circle. We only know what we know, we become comfortable and don’t consider alternatives. If we didn’t give each other a nudge to try something new it’ll be a boring life. But just like Redmustang said “She has to want the new and exciting situation. She has to be an equal partner in it the whole way or not at all”. Open communication, being able to talk about your fantasies openly is a start. KC72

  reply

  like

• 

  NudesRus

  6 years ago

  I was wondering how long that would take. What ya should have done is made a singles profile and then you could get accused of cheating too. 🤣🤣🤣

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Welcome, like many I've seen a lot of this type of thread in my years here. And your's is running true to form. I can't say I ever remember a successful outcome being reported. I know in my situation we did go through a bit of back and forth when he brought the idea up. Me having a lot more experience than himself from teen years that didn't always go the way that sort of thing is advertised as going. There were enough successes to check it out though. I can see the resistance to the idea of anyone being coerced into behaviour they are not comfortable with. And what your missus said strikes the strongest that she is happy the way you are. That's all, 'scuse the blah blah, Peachy

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  6 years ago

  Thanks all for your input, some were more helpful than others. I am very new to this situation so I didn't know how to proceed. I guess now I will have a more in depth conversation with my gorgeous lady and see how she really feels. Cheers everyone.😀

  reply

  like

• 

  FredAndGinger2

  6 years ago

  We strongly recommend you buy two copies of this book and read it chapter by chapter together. The ESSENTIAL GUIDE for Adventurous Couples By Chantelle Austin This book will guide yiur conversations, questions and thoughts and at the end you'll be a much stronger couple whether or not swinging is right for you. All the best

  reply

  like

• 

  NewVicCpl

  6 years ago

  The Essential Guide for Adventurous Couples Great book, we heard Chantelle talk about the release of the book on the radio years ago, that started a 6 year conversation about the idea for us, then when we were both comfortable we went to a party to see what it was all about. Glad we took the time and communicated with each other rather than just trying to jump in the deep end whilst 1 of us was not 100% on the idea

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  6 years ago

  You need an honest relationship for this to work. I would spice it up in other ways and then maybe suggest it in 6 months or so. Delete your profile now and do one together if she agrees.

  reply

  like

• 

  usrightnow_Again

  6 years ago

  Chunky_monkeys, interesting name. Agree with XantheaHunter. Thirty years ago, when our relationship began, there is no way we would have thought we'd be of the mind-set we are now. Over the years we were propositioned by couples and sometimes propositioned ourselves. We discussed everything. Sometimes we experienced something we enjoyed and so we were open to doing it again. Sometimes we changed course a little. Crucially, we were always communicating how we each felt about each thing. We at All times remained respectful of the other one's position. If one or both of is weren't feeling positive about a situation or idea, we left it. Sometimes it came back up and we rediscussed it. Only when we were both on the same page, did we proceed with anything. Eventually we saw a show, wish I could remember the name of it, on the ABC, in January of 2016 on polyamory. A month later, after more discussion, we sat on our sofa and joined rhp. . our journey continued from there and we now see ourselves as poly, however, at present, we are not in a relationship with a third person, who would be our equal, within a triad. That's a long way from where we started. You've suggested something that your partner is, at present, and perhaps for good, who knows, not happy with, so, as XantheaHunter said, close the profile and perhaps, when you are both on the same page, come back and further your and your partner's journey then. Mr. urn. .

  reply

  like

• 

  RHP User

  6 years ago

  There is no way I can disagree with that. Great response 😍

  reply

  like