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If I sent you a message would you reply?
May 19 2014
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ruby_blossum
11 years ago
I quite like this flirt. It gives the sender the opportunity to see if you are interested before they "waste" a message on you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
can reply to messages to a point I think. That is how I got lured into a membership, I just got chatting with someone then I couldn't reply anymore, lol. I now get 20 messages a day and I probably use 2 of them. I think a lot of guests use this flirt because they can't message which annoys me sometimes because I have paid for a membership, maybe you should too. But like Ruby said, it is a good indicator, many women don't reply at all so why would they bother sending a message just to keep getting the cold shoulder?
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sweetgem
11 years ago
Because I do not want to waste 1 contact on someone who might not like my profile. And all I expect in return is a templated yes or no Flirt message, not the other party using his allocated messages. It's a fair move and understandable, unless they are Guest member only, then it's a different story. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
From Ralf "many women don't reply at all so why would they bother sending a message just to keep getting the cold shoulder?" This is so true I have lost count now to the number of messages I have sent and no one replies to them. Most have read them and nothing, some haven't read them at all I have reverted to ending my membership and sending flirts because (why pay money for nothing)I'm not going to get a reply any way just as much chance to get a reply to a flirt as to a message or I'll just send a hi how are you or do I fall into your interest category
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cougar4fun
11 years ago
every 24 hours, so I think if someone's profile has caught your attention, then just send them a message....take a risk, you'll have a whole new set of messages to be allowed to send tomorrow.... I just don't see how there are so many people you want to initiate messages to on a daily basis (unless you have just joined maybe), that you can't waste a message on someone you are interested in. I don't believe that taking a chance of getting a reply from someone that has caught your eye is a waste anyway, more of a gamble....but seems most don't agree, which is interesting :) And if you are a guest, there is a flirt that says something along the lines of "I'm a guest and cant message you, please message me, I'm keen"
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RHP User
11 years ago
I understand that they don't want to waste their time and message on someone who's not attracted or won't reply, so it's a fair call. But then it's usually a "That's a no from me...." and life goes on. I find it's a nicer way to reject any advances :P - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
If it's said that many women don't reply .... and generally speaking, thats because the message is shitful, fails to engage, intrigue, attract or arouse - on a NON sexual level... (that one is for the dumbarses sending porn stories or sexual resumes to strangers!)... then logic says a well written message, supported by a well written profile with well presented photos... WILL! A flirt is like a message with less confidence, capacity or forthright committal. Be bold. Because if you don't think you should be confident of a reply, why should someone bother giving you one and prove you right!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' If it's said that many women don't reply .... and generally speaking, thats because the message is shitful, fails to engage, intrigue, attract or arouse - on a NON sexual level... (that one is for the dumbarses sending porn stories or sexual resumes to strangers!)... then logic says a well written message, supported by a well written profile with well presented photos... WILL! A flirt is like a message with less confidence, capacity or forthright committal. Be bold. Because if you don't think you should be confident of a reply, why should someone bother giving you one and prove you right! give you the impression people are playing the numbers game which isn't very flattering. Throw out as many flirts as you can and see who responds.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I find most of the flirts on here are just terrible. How am I supposed to reply to "I just wanted to say that I loved your profile". There is no simple "Thanks for the flirt" flirt, and unless I am seriously interested I am not wasting one of my messages just to say "thanks". Please RHP, we are begging you!! Update the flirts!!
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cougar4fun
11 years ago
I'm with you.... Let me put in my first request.... As a response flirt, "If you want to know if I'll reply, send me a bloody message!" And ralf74, that's how I feel, if you have allocated messages, but there was other people you thought were more worthy of them, so you flick me a free flirt to see if I'll use one of my messages to respond to you, despite the fact you wouldn't use one of yours on me, then I'll pass thanks!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've used up my messages lots of times. But I noticed that you get them back one by one pretty soon.So even if it says that you'll have to wait 24 hours before you can send a new on. Usually after an hour or two you'll be able to flick a new one ;). Flirts can be fun but, but some people get upset by them. I like messages better but maybe that's because I'm a paying member.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't have a problem sending a message responding to a flirt since it is a use it or lose scenario every 24 hours. But it shits me when I get a flirt, I bother to respond because the person is obviously interested enough to seek my attention, and then they never respond to my message. Why bother sending the flirt in the first place if you aren't prepared to engage in a dialogue? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm with ya right there!! There's nothing that says "I've got confidence issues quite like a flirt!!" The problem is, that some men message with their hands quite tightly secured to their dicks. The sublime message reads "fuck me goddamnit you'll love it....and I need to get a load off FFS" Que the great white sharks in 3....2.....1... Go!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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cougar4fun
11 years ago
I'm guilty of sending a couple of the flirts that say something along the lines of "you, me, whipped cream, handcuffs, any questions?" from time to time, but only to guys that I may see in the forums that have an incredibly hot profile pic, but live far from me.....so no hope of ever hooking up, but their picture is just so hot, something has to be said!! But I personally detest the if I send you a message, would you reply flirt.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Like a few have already said there are certainly uses for it. Whether testing the water or I have gone on a bit of a message spree, sent my five and then found one that I really want to gain contact from.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not a paid-up member, and I certainly only send out a few selective flirts to those I "think" who would be on the same wavelength. But none want to take it further, so, I wonder whether a paid membership would result in any different outcomes?Nor does anyone flirt with me. I wonder if some gals don't like receiving a flirt, coz they only respond to actual messages? Dunno.
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RHP User
11 years ago
as it's always based on the honesty of the dating provider, which in many cases is questionable and can never be controlled properly. If I go to a grocery store, I don't expect to be charged $50 just to be given access to the shelves. Dating sites/agencies should either be free or collect payments once the goods are presented and verified. Everything else creates the perfect opportunities for the dishonest guys among them to rort the system.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ralf74' give you the impression people are playing the numbers game which isn't very flattering. Throw out as many flirts as you can and see who responds. I get the impression it is a numbers game for many, due to the ratio of women:men I don't have a problem with the flirt either, more "respectful" than others...
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cougar4fun
11 years ago
It's not that I'm against flirts in their entirety, I get them and occasionally send them, but I just don't see the point in this one particular flirt. I hate getting it, if you can't waste a message on me to ask, then I'm not wasting one on you.... If your a guest, it's a mute point, you can't message me anyway.... I don't hate flirts (I mostly ignore them), but I just don't get, or like this one. Jmo though...
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cougar4fun
11 years ago
It's not that I'm against flirts in their entirety, I get them and occasionally send them, but I just don't see the point in this one particular flirt. I hate getting it, if you can't waste a message on me to ask, then I'm not wasting one on you.... If your a guest, it's a mute point, you can't message me anyway.... I don't hate flirts (I mostly ignore them), but I just don't get, or like this one. Jmo though...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I will say Cougar, any message is worth a shot but those flirts....... Theyre aweful but funny in a corny way. I know Id prefer a simpler 'Hi, how is your day? Would you like to chat?' and take a punt from there :-) Since being on here you are the only lady kind enough to reply to any message or wink Ive put out there. And I almost didnt because I thought 'Why would you be any different?'....... I thought Id give it one go, and I was wrong. A kind informative reply came back :-) Whether we continue to speak or not from my reply - thank you for giving me that mutual consideration :-) I guess any message is better than none but for me a simple hello will win everytime over a corny flirt - although Ill reply to a flirt if I like their profole - Posted from rhpmobile
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usnow
11 years ago
Isn't it the most polite and non pushy option there is when you just want to know if someone is the slightest bit interested ?Yes it is a sex site but respect and a few manners don't go astray do they . Swingnew .
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RHP User
11 years ago
not me, they are boring. Message!
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RHP User
11 years ago
No one replies to either a wink or a message from me
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RHP User
11 years ago
I guess thats my problem,perhaps i should use my quota of 50 messages a day to improve my strike rate?but i dont think it would make a great deal of differance.Personally i think flirts are ok,it gives a guest a chance to get in on the act and potenonally could leed to another paid up member.I would gladly waste my messages on people sending flirts.PS. who has time to send 50 messages anyway..lol..
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RHP User
11 years ago
do you... like... pay?
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