If ya been divorced TWICE under 34? Could it

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  inspirit

  7 years ago

  Neither are relationship material? Alrhough, in my opinion, I'd say neither have the ability to communicate constructively, without judgements. There is a plethora of reasons why. I don't think there isn't any real blame tho. More acceptance of behaviours that conflict with anothers ideals. We have ideals.... right? Of course there are cases of illegal hapoenings, though they are just that and I don't think are even worth mentioning. I know of people who are on their 3rd and 4th Marriage. Although niw about 50ish. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  AnnieWhichway

  7 years ago

  Although not officially divorced the second. Separated 3yrs. Im the common denominator. Was a closet TV and bi. I get it, no blame to offload. Second wife is the best wife/person one could hope to meet let alone be a life partner and thus has now accepted me as her best friend. We share everything except sex. Do I regret things? I regret not being honest to others and myself. I don't regret much else. Can't change the past but will live the remainder of my life as the real me. No I won't be getting married again. Probably not even divorced. Tips to pass on to others...... If you have a secret life, you are not only deceiving your loved one but also yourself. There are many out there. You will get caught sooner or later and the hurt will be magnified so much more. A hard talk today is easier than after you get caught. Lives are changed, lives can be lost when things go pear shaped. Easy for me to say? Maybe now but been to hell and back but survived and happier now than ever

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  swingalingson

  7 years ago

  Deep. Thanks for sharing everything and anything volume 4!

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  Katkat

  7 years ago

  I’m about to get divorce soon can’t wait! But def won’t be getting married again just bf here & there if they’re special haha I love being independent & I don’t have to answer to anybody. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  usnow

  7 years ago

  SassyChic108 , We just had to read your profile to find the answer to the reason why !! Usnow .

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  3 times but only married late 6 years ago. Thought I had met my soul mate but it wasn't meant to be due to circumstances. It takes 2 to tango and marriage is not held in such high regard or valued as much as it used to be. So many times I have heard it is just a piece of paper. I don't think of it in that way and if I did I would never got married in the first place. People grow apart, and if you aren't willing to change and grow in your marriage then it is doomed to fail to start with. At the moment I would not go there again and it would take a pretty bloody special person to compel me to do it again. As Annie said having secrets does not a good marriage make. Any secrets which was my problem. Lots of reasons why people divorce I guess.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  My mum always has wonderful life advice. One in the form of a joke: Why don't young women fart? Because they don't get arseholes until they get married :P

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  gazpacho

  7 years ago

  Make the same mistakes over and over again. The mistake was getting married the first time. Hugs Gaz

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  HarleyQandMrO

  6 years ago

  Unfortunately nothing is guaranteed in a relationship / marriage and believe people do marry for the right reasons and just don't see what is ahead. I have only been married once for 19 years, my relationship was borderline abusive and something I hadn't seen or noticed until we separated. I was his third wife, he had been married twice before by the age of 30, I was apprehensive about marrying him, but he was very persuasive and insistent and I did love and thought I would be married to him forever. I was 30 at the time so had waited now I can step back and see his controlling narcissistic behavior and cheating ways, I can see how his first two marriage broke up and how much better I am without him. I am about to be wife humber 3 to my partner, who is absolutely devastated and embarrassed, his first two marriage ended., he did everything in his power to make them work, he worked his arse off off to provide and give them both the best of everything and ended up being used and treated badly and cheated on. Again he was only 33 when his second marriage failed. We both meet a year ago, slightly broken after our similar experience . This is where things changed, after all th hurt we had experience, we trusted each other straight away, which showed us how perfect we were for each other and.suppoetove and understanding. I have never wanted to get married and I cannot wait to marry him. We are absolutely perfect together and together we are mending and experiencing a life neither of us have had before. I truly believe none. Of us knows how things are going to pan out, there are just two many variables that can change a person / relationship way to quickly, changes in personality as you get older, children, mental health, financial situations and a wondering eye when they don't feel they are being treated like a king. No one should be put off marry again or give up finding Mr/ Mrs Right they are our there, unfortunately we cannot control the choices made by others and the devastating impacts this has on our lives and don't believe that just because you have been divorced at an early age it is your fault or a reflection on yourself. Shit happens. Take note of what has happened and vow never to treat or allow to be treat that way again, your new partner could be the absolute love of your life and sound be treasured. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  There's never an easy answer, and it's impossible to project an outcome from such a small number of um 'experiments'? I have had the pleasure to see some damn funny relationships. The couple that got married twice... to each other... Not for the betterment of each other unfortunately. I think they were apart when they each passed. And the couple that were left with each other after their partners split together. They did stay together for the rest of their lives. But relationships are complicated constructs and all sides of them, including whether the ex partners had been divorced previously themselves would have to be taken into account to decide where everyone's parts came into play. Soz, can't think of any actual multi-divorcees. I do know of people with failed relationships where the relationship seemed to make the most of both of their weaknesses rather than their strengths. Cheers, Peachy

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  RHP User

  6 years ago

  I know a lot of people who grew up in similar circumstances to me and they, like myself, treasure their relationships. Our group has celebrated 30th, 40th & 50th anniversaries in the time we've known each other. It's something we comment on a lot and wonder at. Peachy

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  MsSuperFoxy

  6 years ago

  My mum was married twice by the time she was 26. 4 kids my the time she was 21. It's no biggie or issue for me. Her 3rd marriage lasted for over 30yrs. Ms Foxy

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