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If you can't afford paid membership you can't afford me...
March 12 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Took me a few reads to work out what you are asking saying.. which.. incidently is one of the things I actually LIKE about people who do not have english as a first language.. it makes you concentrate more.. Rupamohan - this is how it appears to me... Males will go the pub and spend a shit load of money on piss and drugs TRYING to get into some girls pants... then.. they come home and reckon they have a better chance on here...Why? OBVIOUS.. IF a girl is on here.. she is desperate and will fck anyone - (Dipshits actually BELIEVE that crap!!)OFTEN, males do NOT see the hundreds they spend on TRYING to "Score" at the pub on the weekend as an actual COST.. where as.. they have to "PAY UPFRONT" here for access to profiles.Girls, on the other hand.. do not NEED to pay.. they put up a profile, and inundated with hundreds of offers of the greatest se in their lives Males, once they realize there is no easy score here, go back to their miserable "Pub lives"Women when they get sick of the BS from horny ignorant and abusive silly males, then decide to pay for membership and lock the cheapskates out...I don't see a problem with this.. .Remember the adage "Money may not buy happipness, but it lets you travel to places you MIGHT find it"Fully paid members SHOULD be able to make choices on who they look at, and who looks at them.. Choices on who they talk to, and who talks to them.
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LifeUnscripted
10 years ago
That guest members are fine, but it is a greater risk. Lots more fake profiles, or guys pretending their wife knows what they are doing, or time wasters, or picture miners, or people who are just dipping there feet into the lifestyle. Those who have paid memberships are more likely to be real, genuine, and experienced. We prefer all of those things if possible. So while we do talk to guests, and are happy to consider, you do have to be more cautious and skeptical. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Let's face it, for most of us in this country some $100 (average cost for a site like this - there are others but I';m not game to list them) is not going to break the bank. Affordability is only an issue for desperate people who want to be members of a dozen sites where they "potentially" could get laid. In which case it starts to defy the prupose - you can pay for sex if you need to with that kind of money..! SO other reasons not to pay might be - being here "just for the articles" (don't we all wish Playboy allowed that kind of readership), keeping in touch with friends - or looking for a long term partner without being asked for sex upfront. Not sure why I won't pay - I guess it is the principle that oin Internet things should be free :-) besides, if there is an intelligent lady who genuinely likes sex then she already knows how and where to get in touch (and no, I'm not looking for a clairvoyant). Bosch
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Lovinit28andKC72
10 years ago
Well because I like to look at all the pretty pictures, also because I like to be able to send messages whenever I like and that's about it really....💋
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RHP User
10 years ago
I pay because I'm a pro-active person. I prefer to have some control over my RHP experience. When I have asked men about why they have guest memberships.... One was married and didn't want his wife to see the credit card debits, the other was going through a full disclosure divorce and likewise didn't want the soon-to-be-ex to see the payments come out. Either way, a red flag for me that this is someone I generally won't want to get involved with. I tend to see non-paying members as passive people who are happy to let things happen to them. I'm not attracted to passivity. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
We are not wealthy. We pay for Membership after the food, bills, petrol and clothes, are payed for. Although being payed Members does not get us Higher on the Ladder ! Because we are payed at this point in time does not make us better than someone that is not. It's not a "I'M BETTER THAN YOU" thing for us ! For some it may be. We are just us ! ! ! Check us out.
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RHP User
10 years ago
mainly for the ability to "message" other Members. Like Keepitsimple72, I am proactive and also want control over my RHP life. I'm glad to say that the 2 men that I was "intimate" with in some way or another, are "Paying Members". As to my current man.......well....he sent me his first "flirt" while still a "Guest" and good thing for me that I replied !!! His was not a question of affordability. Some Members do start off joining RHP as "Guests" just to get a feel of this Site and see what it has to offer. I was a "Guest" myself for a year. I will reply to both "flirts" and "messages". The Sender being a "Guest Member" makes no difference to me. However, I decide on whether I should to send a "flirt" or "message" depending what is written or shown on the Profile that I see. Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
When my current man sent me a "flirt" as a "Guest", I interacted with him not because of his Profile Photo.To this day, I still reckon it's not the "best" photo of him.If I had been doing a "Search", I would have definitely "passed him over". But Profile Photos can sometimes be deceptive. There are many on here that don't show the Member in "a good light" and my current man is no exception. From experience, I have always been pleasantly surprised when the Member appears so much better looking in real life !!! To me, it is the Meets that define the final outcome. I was strongly attracted to my current man within seconds of first meeting him. I still am !!! Amy
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RHP User
10 years ago
been relegated to guest status again. I want a bit of a break so will probably remain a guest for a while and see what happens.
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aussian43
10 years ago
As a male member you have a much better chance as a paid member, relying on responses to flirts or waiting for a search to discover you is unlikely to work. Many ladies don't need to bother to pay for an account when men will happily message them. However my one success on this site started out with a flirt from a guest member. :) If I did not have a paid membership I would not be able to message her and hit it off. I think it improves your chances. Putting down money shows you are at least serious about the site, probably a better chance of going through with any meeting. And for gold diggers out there that he has at least the income to spare ;)
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RHP User
10 years ago
For some like myself who live in a rural area with very little to none men in the area I choose not to take out paid membership. I did pay at one point but all I got was responses from men and women 300 kilometres away , with very diffrent intentions ! If I happen to stumble across something that really takes my interest locally I may change my mind . - Posted from rhpmobile
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sock26
10 years ago
See I fall where Ralf 74 is now I was a paid up member here many years ago and found it mostly a waste of time and money and didn't really start coming on here again until recently and figured I'd have a look around and see if it's improved or not. And so far iv had more to do on here as a guest than I did for my whole membership. The real people the forums and even though I didn't go the meet and greet were unheard of back then. Or maybe I'm just a Lil more relaxed this time round. Daz - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Pay . It's the only way and even then the chances are slim for some. I have paid. Now I dont - Posted from rhpmobile
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6exxy
10 years ago
will say that you need to pay. I think it depends on the situation. It does not mean that you can't afford to pay, I choose not to, here is why. There are small number of women in the age I am looking for. Within the 40-50 women I am only attracted to so many of them. Only so many of those are interested in me for whatever reason. Why pay money for a very small number? Financially that is a bad investment. Oh you say new members? Again very small numbers. I actually have had a membership and cancelled it. Women actually get a better return on their investment as there are significantly more men on RHP. I can afford and chose not to.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I pay for membership.....many of these profiles that mention that phrase are guests.... So.... I use THEIR logic in reverse.... If I need to be a member to contact them; I should be able to expect that THEY are a paid up member to receive!!!! Screening process success 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I can't afford to pay at this point in my life (rather feed the kids and make house payment) but I'm most defiantly not fake... If I come a cross a nice guest profile I'll send a flirt saying I liked there profile.. Seems however many do judge based on weather a profile is paid or non paying...
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RHP User
10 years ago
I answered a flirt...There wasn't anything outstanding about his profile..but as it turned out...he is xxFreya
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QLDtwo4fun
10 years ago
We have been paid members and are now guests. We haven't noticed a huge difference in out comes. We meet more people at clubs and parties than on the internet anyway.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I paid because I've been on these sites before and I know that my being proactive is what gets results for me. I know that in a lot of ways, RHP (and most similar sites) are a mostly visual medium. (Mostly NOT completely - other threads have gone into this and I'll leave it at that.) I know that if there was a hot guy match and teams were being picked like they are at school, I would likely not be running onto the field first. I'm fine with that - I like to think I play to my strengths. That's why I pay - because I prefer to put my trump cards into my messages. They don't always work perfectly but I think I do pretty well with my messages. I don't use a template and I do my best to make the message clearly show that I've read the profile (however much of a profile there is - guest or paid, if there's not much on the profile, I'm less likely to contact with any more than a flirt). I agree that statistically, women will probably be more successful on RHP than men when it comes to guest profiles but at the end of the day, unless you're sending coded messages, SOMEONE has to send someone else a message, no?
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6exxy
10 years ago
There are far too many people on RHP who take the easy route! They want to be impressed and wooed. The thread about relationship material should really ask how many people do you meet? Quick judgements and membership are part of that, part of the equation of not meeting. It is a process of elimination that people use, Screening without meeting. Poor choices without face to face. Some people can create a faciad on there profile but less people are able to do that in person. That does not mean someone will not meet a dud but we are here to meet people aren't we? Again how many people do you actually meet?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Keepitsimple72' I pay because I'm a pro-active person. I prefer to have some control over my RHP experience. (...) I tend to see non-paying members as passive people who are happy to let things happen to them. I'm not attracted to passivity. Ditto, and if a guy feels the flirts on offer are good means of first contact, more often than not I feel we are on different wavelengths.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I like to challenge the prevailing wisdom..Iconoclastic me 😘xxFreya
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Dryphuz
10 years ago
I've been tossing up whether to pay or not at a different site... Since my new photo I've been getting unprecedented amounts of attention (the lack of which was the main reason i've only been a free member except for one or twice at e-smarmony). However my anxiety (have i mentioned that before? oh well) and poorness if I'm honest has made the decision difficult. In fact I've probably left it a bit long trying to decide. As a poor person (such a pity ) it would be the height of hypocrisy for me to judge others on their ability/willingness to buy a membership. The only thing i regret is that often I'd like to send people private messages about stuff they've posted on the forums. I do like the "I like your profile" flirt, because often thats all i want to say. i'm not trying to initiate contact, i just wanted to compliment your ability to express yourself or whatever. When i do have the expendable income to subscribe, I absolutely would initiate contact with guest members whose profiles are interesting to me.
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6exxy
10 years ago
Understandably you might "feel" that way however that is a feeling it doesn't make your assessment right. That's the same as declaring that to be fact without any evidence. I'm sure there will be a rebuttal but think about it. All you are saying is I'm right because I choose to say I'm right. The choice of membership is more complex than money, it can be as simple as money, however not always. Amy does make a great point that Freya backed up. Simple rationale from old reasoning, don't judge the book by the cover. Yet that is what you are saying about a flirt! 👋➡️
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rupamohan
10 years ago
Guest discrimination is perhaps like any discrimination people do based on filtering by grouping. Such filters can be useful to limit traffic. We don't have unmanageable contacts. We prefer to treat profiles more as individuals and have more exact way of evaluating compatibility.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I'm having a little trouble figuring out what you're trying to say. What fact am I stating? If it's the "fact" that I'm not attracted to passivity, then I hardly need to present evidence, what I am and am not attracted to is entirely subjective and therefore unable to be proven. You'll just have to take my word for it. If it's the "fact" that I choose to pay so I can be pro-active, again, what evidence do you suggest I present to support my claim? I feel my experience on RHP is improved by paying for membership. I guess that can be proved by the positive interactions I've had and the mostly great people I've met. Am I missing something, aside from your defensiveness over your own refusal to pay for a membership?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting '6exxy' Understandably you might "feel" that way however that is a feeling it doesn't make your assessment right. That's the same as declaring that to be fact without any evidence. I'm sure there will be a rebuttal but think about it. All you are saying is I'm right because I choose to say I'm right. The choice of membership is more complex than money, it can be as simple as money, however not always. Amy does make a great point that Freya backed up. Simple rationale from old reasoning, don't judge the book by the cover. Yet that is what you are saying about a flirt! 👋➡️ Where do I say my assessment is right? I merely stated an opinion, and I find I tend to be more on the same wavelength with others who share my view. Doesn't mean my view is right, it's one of many. (And yes the choice of membership is more complex, I did state in the heading of my post that it's not about money.) What is your point exactly?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Obviously there are many other reasons why someone may have guest membership. Yes one of my reasons is financial, being a full time student with limited $, fees on an adult dating site are rather low on the priority list. I was a paid member for quite awhile, but now that I'm getting to the pointy end of my degree the expenses are mounting up and some extras just had to go. Also though, I'm not really looking to meet people at the moment due to a few reasons, so am not concerned about being proactive in contacting others. And anyway in all honesty, living where I do, being a paid member hardly makes any difference in that respect. There is a small pool of people to contact, and an even smaller pool of people I would actually want to contact. It's probably a bit different if you're in or near a large city with a much bigger potential meeting pool.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'rupamohan' Guest discrimination is perhaps like any discrimination people do based on filtering by grouping. Such filters can be useful to limit traffic. We don't have unmanageable contacts. We prefer to treat profiles more as individuals and have more exact way of evaluating compatibility. that discrimination is the right word to use... "Discrimination is action that denies social participation or human rights to categories of people based on prejudice." Choosing not to respond to guest profiles most of the time is a filtering tool, much like choosing men who are taller than me or deciding against those looking for casual sex. I'm not prejudiced against those who don't meet my criteria, I just don't want to date them.
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RHP User
10 years ago
How very gold digger of you, Next.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am a recently joined member though still a guest. I see that the majority of females I have viewed are guests and I can not contact them in any way, as they cannot contact me. I have sent a few flirts and friend requests to a few who are paid members to see if there is anything there as it is all I can do at the mo. But I have joined other sites with paid membership. I have created in depth profiles and average profiles always with pics and it did not seem to make any difference. I am not into the pub or club scene as I prefer a quiet local coffee shop to frequent so I find myself here. I am a bit of a quieter person and I am sure that makes a world of difference but I would say a paid up male member would be noticed more than a guest. It works a bit differently so it seems for the female of the species as it doesn't seem to make much difference either way. They will be hit up for a chat, companionship or sex no matter what there status.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Was looking at my profile tonight,,he had a picture of a ..well slightly chubby torso and in his looking for section...I am looking for models because I am over six foot..Bless 'im xxFreya
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RHP User
8 years ago
I had wondered what the general feeling of guest members was on RHP. Whether the guest tag is viewed as a negative.Interesting to see that on the whole, it appears so.I guess this is kind of fair enough, I can see a valid side to some of the points above. In my case, I'm starting a new business, haven't had a solid job in over 12 months and so cannot afford to pay right now. Also, however, I'm just not in 'full swing' to find someone either. If I meet someone, great....if I don't, great. I am pretty thankful to RHP for allowing guest access, its nice to be able partake in these forums and also look at potential friends without having that cost.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I paid for a while then didnt and still got the same amount of messages. If a guy flirted with me who was a guest, and I liked the content of his profile, I would message him. I did it once and ended up with a lovely FWB. I agree with Kool, the guest and member snobbery isnt that kool ....
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