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If you don't cum with oral sex
October 07 2013
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cremecaramel
11 years ago
There have been times. But long ago. Maybe relaxation? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I wish I knew :( it's not that it has never happened but I have only been with one woman who could make me cum at will. Surprised the hell out of me when I actually begged her not to stop once. A very few others have managed it but really very few. I wish that was not so. It has little to do with the person, and it is something I enjoy, but I just almost never quite get there.
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chevtrek
11 years ago
For me its control as I like to give butalso love to enjoy.I cant speak for other guys.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Very rarely has a girl made me cum courtesy of oral. Many have claimed to be amazing at it but I didn't feel it. I prefer the feeling of penetration more, so I tend to skip the me receiving bit.
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RHP User
11 years ago
For me it's simply the stresses of life:( being a single father of six with 4 still at home I struggle to feel that final part if pleasure (feel the cum come) the build up is fantastic but the last second I can't nor have I felt it happen for two years now :(( however I still enjoy the mo of passion and have lernt to fake it some what so as not to make her feel bad!
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's always been hard for me to cum through oral sex. The worst thing is trying to explain it really is ME (circumcised plus other things) and not her, as it usually kills the mood if she wants me to ejaculate from oral. Most of the time during sex it's to the flow of the guy's movement so if he wants to ejaculate he can control almost all the factors such as depth, angle, speed etc. but with oral it's different: Pound away at her face like you do during vaginal and 99% of the time she'll hate you afterwards. The few times I have cum from oral was with a woman who didn't have a gag reflex and really enjoyed deepthroating, but even then each occasion we had vaginal sex for some time beforehand. It was great, but not much better than really good vaginal penetration.I'm actually pretty okay with the situation, as it can bring me to a full erection but won't bring me to climax. I think it's the best of both. The worst thing that could happen in my mind (and a way bigger letdown than not cumming) is going off prematurely and without warning in her mouth during foreplay.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Are you guys experimenting with a finger up the bum at the same time? I find guys also get into it more when I lick their taint. I love to do that and hear them moan. 😍
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RHP User
11 years ago
What is it you are licking? Curiosity got the better of me...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Why don't I cum during Oral? Simple, I don't like receiving oral and so it isn't pleasurable enough for me to achieve orgasm.Why don't I like it? That is something I won't divulge on the forums... sorry.
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Not quite sure hun - would you please come n see me and we'll work it out between us. Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is the area underneath the testicles, well between the balls and anus really. 😉
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RHP User
11 years ago
Just looked up the tumblr site for mantaint. Please guys! Trim any excess hair... I mean it must be a bitch for the lady when she has to cut her tongue out of your taint with some nail scissors. LMAO!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Where is my Whipper Snipper. 😈
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RHP User
11 years ago
Oh, okay I have never heard the term 'taint' before, perineum I know. Yes agreed, hair free down there is best if you want any tongue action, preferably waxed as stubble could be quite uncomfortable on the mouth!
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Taint their arse and taint their balls it the bit in between 😜- Posted from rhpmobile
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100'Just looked up the tumblr site for mantaint. Please guys! Trim any excess hair... I mean it must be a bitch for the lady when she has to cut her tongue out of your taint with some nail scissors. LMAO! She might have to cut her tongue off coz it's just too stuck in the man scrub. Owww. Tall
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E'Taint their arse and taint their balls it the bit in between 😜- Posted from rhpmobile Should read "tis" the bit in between ! Tall
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RHP User
11 years ago
all I can say is as for my self I love oral and don't have any problems blowing my load from a good head job unless I have a rubber on then it can take some time . AND WHAT MEEKA SAID WORKS WELL
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ahhh girls, you do make me giggle......- Posted from rhpmobile
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foreign_lover
11 years ago
Back on-topic,I love oral sex, it's up there in the fetish section for me. I used to come relatively quick from it and simply loved it, but lately (okay, let's be honest; since i joined RHP) it seems to be much more difficult. I think it's for a host of reasons:1. You don't know your partner that well, so there's a bit of anxiety2. The technique being used is unfamiliar / "not your thing"3. Ever seen the stand-up comedian Kevin Hart in his show "Laugh at my Pain", there's this part where he basically states to go in babysteps. Don't rush it, men can be sensitive too ;-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Tall_n_Hard' Quoting 'I_N_D_A_G_I_N_E'Taint their arse and taint their balls it the bit in between 😜- Posted from rhpmobile Should read "tis" the bit in between ! Tall It's actually spelling, not grammar, pretty sure she simply left the 's' off it
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RHP User
11 years ago
Like I'm lacking intimacy when I receive head, which is silly, because it's a very intimate act. I prefer to come during intercourse, preferably with lots of kissing... I really get off on kissing before intercourse and not breaking the kiss at all until climax, the breathless, passionate intimacy works for me... Which I guess is why I prefer to finish missionary. Initially it took a while to get used to doggy... Same thing, I just felt I guess like... a bystander... ? And when I have almost come from head, it's been 69... A lovely lady asked me cum on her belly recently... And with my hand and her teeth attached to my left nipple... We were both left very happy... :) Hp xo 💌 Mmmm nipple work...
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casanovastudd
11 years ago
....a blow job and have no problem blowing my load but theres times when I have a beer in one hand, cock in her mouth, balls slapping her chin and I sometimes think to myself 'what a great beer'
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
I was having a play on the word 'it' in Indy's comment, just as she was having a play with the word 'taint'. I was cheekily suggesting she should have used the word 'Tis', ie I was not having a go at her spelling of a word. Therefore according to my understanding of the English language, whereby I was substituting a word, that falls under the category of a grammatical correction. Thus here endeth the sermon. Bless you my child, and may peace be with you. Father Tall.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Amicus75'Why don't I cum during Oral? Simple, I don't like receiving oral and so it isn't pleasurable enough for me to achieve orgasm. Why don't I like it? That is something I won't divulge on the forums... sorry.Like dangling a bone in front of a dog...
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RHP User
11 years ago
I know i would find it incredibly hard to cum from oral, only because my ex would never let me so holding the cum back has become a subconscious thing.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's awesome. And when you have finished your beer she can stick the bottle up your arse so you can really come like gangbusters. 👍
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RHP User
11 years ago
Meeka !! 😄💋 Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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inspirit
11 years ago
To the guys though...Is it because you are givers and not comfortable receiving as you feel the girl is not getting pleasure ???
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'JayJay_66' Quoting 'Amicus75'Why don't I cum during Oral? Simple, I don't like receiving oral and so it isn't pleasurable enough for me to achieve orgasm. Why don't I like it? That is something I won't divulge on the forums... sorry.Like dangling a bone in front of a dog... Lol... bonerific!No dog involved however there is a friend of the family who lost a testicle to his wife's cat... that'll teach him to sit on the couch naked after a shower!I suspect she had to pay the price in oral favours.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes, there could be a bit of that involved. I sort of feel like ... I've got two hands that are empty and nothing happening with my tongue (yeah babe that's great...) yeah my cock feels great, but I definitely like to please... Hp xo 💌 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
To those guys who feel like their hands are empty and it's tough just laying back and enjoying. I love love love giving head. Seriously turns me on! If you must, tangle your hands in my hair, but do lay back and enjoy the moment. I'm sure I'm not alone in this.... girls??- Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
11 years ago
You are not alone.... I prefer them standing grabbing my hair and face fucking me.. can I call it that lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
is I havnt met a woman who wants/likes to suck a guy off till he cums.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Some guys have some bezerk masturbating ways which would require the giver to emulate to bring these chaps off.Amicus, I'm imagining the worst.
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RHP User
11 years ago
INSPIRIT, your inbox just has reached maximum capacity! [insert guy with jaw on floor pic here]
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RHP User
11 years ago
...being in the throes of a passionate , mutually pleasurable 69 ;) GG♒️- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just want to lie there and enjoy the pleasure of her licking and sucking my cock...feeling her hair and face against my stomach....and playing with her pussy and gently rubbing her clit while she has her mouth full of my lovely, hard cock...Love it even better if she is blindfolded...mmmmm...S'nP
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RHP User
11 years ago
Actually it's not just the bizarre. Men usually learn to masturbate hard and fast (and quietly) as teenagers and can set up a pattern that is hard to emulate either orally or in certain sexual positions. It's not as rare as you might think and is exactly why I started this thread. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Love it when they start thrusting into your mouth... Cause they can't help it. Lying on the bed with your head handing over the side so they can fuck your mouth is good too. (God I am lazy bitch. Anything for a lie down. Lol)
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RHP User
11 years ago
You girls are hilarious.....I will take it for as long as the lovely lady is willing to give it. I tend to go quicker when I am busy to as in a 69, but when I am just receiving....it can take me a while to cum from oral but not to say I can't or haven't but not everytime. As much my fault in that I find it hard to describe what I need to get off from oral, because of the things that makes it so great....everyone does it slightly different.......I call it TBS - Three Bears Syndrome......sometimes it is too hard, and sometimes it's too soft.....but sometiiiiiiiiimes...it is just riiggghhhhhtttt!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Geek_on_wheels' is I havnt met a woman who wants/likes to suck a guy off till he cums. I'd say you are definitely not meeting the right women
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'inspirit' To the guys though...Is it because you are givers and not comfortable receiving as you feel the girl is not getting pleasure ??? I am just worried about blowing her brains out.Mado
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RHP User
11 years ago
You lot are hilarious, thanks for the giggle! Read all the posts, also wanting to know the answer myself!- Posted from rhpmobile
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blond_gypsy
11 years ago
It doesn't simulate the feeling of sex, it's a totally different feeling. I love oral because its so incredibly erotic, but the pure feeling of it is not as intense as sex.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If oral is done right and abit of effort put in to it every one should be pulling of a big :) face - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love receiving and giving oral at the same time. It does not matter if I do not come, because I am giving an unbelievable satisfaction by licking and getting the same amount of pleasure. It is a great pleasure to get oral and it works really well for me when I do have both.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I believe the problem is one of "respect" for the partner, whilst I dont have a problem when others are providing the pleasuring at times I do struggle when my wife is doing the deed even though she is very good at doing it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I rarely cum when receiving oral or even a hand job. Being honest I have only met 5 or 6 women who truly knew how to give good head. It's not just a case of just sticking it in your mouth and sucking it ladies, there are areas that if you pay proper attention to will give good results. A lot of the time they're just way to rough too.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've always cum through oral, just feels amazing, what I do like is I can control when I want to cum and make them work that extra longer ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree, if its done right its mind blowing!- Meeka100 , sounds like you press all the right buttons
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've cum every time but once with my ex, to be fair though she didn't really like giving head. like every other guy i love the feeling of a good blow job, it's not like sex but still an amazing feeling. And when she gets her toung into omg I'm in heaven! Never met a girl who likes me to thrust while giving me head...wouldn't mind trying though lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Definitely all in the mind Guys need to relax more Girls enjoy it more when everyone relaxed - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
For me I have to be in the mood, I want certain things when in bed like oral or straight up hardcore fucking, ill still cum if we are not doing something I really want, just takes me along time
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RHP User
11 years ago
You respect your wife too much for her to give you oral sex? WTF?
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inspirit
11 years ago
Head back and their cock going in deeper till um ... well you know. Opens up the throat that little bit more lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry to make this boring and if it sounds blunt but........, cum contains sperm, sperm is useless in your mouth....ie no babies. I can cum during oral but have to be humping, humping??? ....it's an innate behaviour to make babies....the only reason we are here.
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RHP User
11 years ago
We'll just try again. ;) FOXY- Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
11 years ago
If you dont cum then you are challenge hehehehehehe
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RHP User
11 years ago
Def no prob usually in coming if the lady feels the need and find it mind blowing and a lot more sensitive when done right. Can be hard to find a lady that will continue till climax but I have found her now. :-) Love the posts girls, love thrusting.
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RHP User
11 years ago
To be honest, it's because I prefer giving and would rather not climax until well after I have made my partner climax as many times as possible. So not until the end of the main event so to speak.
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RHP User
11 years ago
There nothing better than licking n a wetpussy.an cli t til a women cums- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I think just as there are some more skillful guys the same goes for females, some simply take the time do it better .? For the guy ' (well both for that matter) it gets back to the connection. Very rarely do I cum with oral, but the few times I have ' or came close ' was with females who actually appear to be making love to the cock instead of just being there . Men are visual creatures, so if the giver is exciting to watch , the more likely he will cum.......... If you're lucky.... lol...
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RHP User
11 years ago
my missus isexceptionally good at oral, ifshe wants yourcum in her mouth and wants to taste you . thats what happens have watched her milk cocks on many occasions and always with ease.....lucky me..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MissLissa'You lot are hilarious, thanks for the giggle! Read all the posts, also wanting to know the answer myself!- Posted from rhpmobile Yes absolutely hilarious peeps!
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RHP User
11 years ago
.....about how long it takes. Sometimes, seems like it will never happen. So I get anxious, and that can delay it even more. I am no John Holmes but more than a mouthful So worried about the giver getting a sore jaw/tongue. I love feeling my head slip down into the throat, but I then worry about the giver breathing! I love receiving and it's a really nice warmup.I have on occasion not cum while receiving, plugged in and cum within seconds. So definitely worth it. And whether my partner is great at it or not, I appreciate them doing it willingly, and especially when I didn't ask or expect it! I almost like being licked on the balls, shaft and head more. Met one lady who didn't like licking balls, but took all of me plus some and swallowed a massive load - go figure! Mark
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've heard all the words....relaxenjoybreathe etc etc...For me I LOVE having oral performed on me, but never ever have I been able to cum this way....I've had some masters go to work as well, trying their best (& I have no doubt it was!!) for unfortunately no reward.I've even had the "I bet I can make you" so many times lol!!Its not a mental thing, its not a stress thing for me, but I am beginning to think it has something to do with being circumcised and the nerves etc???BTW, I'm willing to participate in any practical survey!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
OH LA LA....Jesus ! Astonishing !!!Supereffinlucious!Mymouthjustdribbled!!!FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
If a woman doesn't climax with oral sex from me, it means I haven't been taking notice of her reaction to what I was doing for her.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Usually i can cum from oral stimulation. But every now and then it just does not get me there. It could be because of the woman's lack of skill, or it could be that I have been overstimulated from putting off orgasm for to long. Then I either need a change of stimulation or a brief respite.
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RHP User
11 years ago
For me I think the reason is twofold; Firstly it's technique, a lot,of ladies just don't know how,to do it and giving directions is a little like telling someone how to reverse park a trailer...don't get me wrong, even bad oral is nice in its own way. Secondly, it's mental. Let's face it, even I'd you say you love it, in the back of my mind I as little voice say's that you'd prefer to be doing something else...like laundry or a crossword. Thirdly (yeah, I know I said twofold...but math isn't my strong point) there always comes (pun intended) a time when decisions have to be made; spit, swallow, splash, and also in the back of mind is the thought that you don't want to deal with any resultant clean up. I've had a partner who said she enjoyed swallowing, but she always had that look of trying to swallow a mouth full of sand... Oral on women is so much cleaner, neater and enjoyable.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well, I have no issue with it and love to cum by oral and find it easier that fucking as I really enjoy the visual experience of watching my cock in her mouth and my partner is exquisite at giving head. Might I may add, I also enjoy it when she cums while I am returning the favour to her
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RHP User
11 years ago
The right technique, the right speed, the right rhythm, and it all works, but the slightest change in any of these variables, means that you are starting again from scratch.....and if it crosses you mind that you are not going to get there.... Then you never can... I also agree that (for me, and I think many other guys also), if you have the slightest thought that your lady isn't going to enjoy it/is doing under duress etc....well that takes all the fun out of it too! I think most guys have had at least one bad experience with that....also if you think it's taking to long....that doesn't help either I also totally agree with the comment that it is SO much better when it looks great! When it looks graceful and rhythmic and feminine.....it's awesome.....when it looks like a dog chewing on a bone, it's a little harder to enjoy! I think my number one tip for women is to make sure your partner knows you WANT him DESPERATELY to cum in your mouth and you want to swallow it....whilst that may not make up for bad technique....at least when that is really clear, me are much more likely to be able to let go..
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RHP User
11 years ago
For me, I find that I can't feel anything from oral alone. Must be physical. In fact, oral alone is so difficult to feel, it makes me go soft. When combined with hand work it can be great, however. I am beginning to suspect that mouths are just too soft for me to really feel much pressure on my penis from them.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I love the feel of the tingle in the shaft just before they blow. Awesome.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
it took me ages to get over the gag reflex but once i did wow could do some cool tricks ssuch as bringing my tongue up under his balls while deep throutin as well as a couple of other things. i believe a guy needs to be reasured sometimes that you are really giving oral because you love to. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
My last partner didn't enjoy providing me oral love so I find it a struggle to find release in this way, annoys the hell out of me as I love to unload over my subs faces and I have to rely on my hand or their hand. It's just not the same I feel your pain if you are in the same boat guys.- Posted from rhpmobile
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Fantasyplus
11 years ago
Where the hell have I been?! Seriously, there are men out there who can't get there from oral sex? This is news to me! Whilst not every man I have been with has blown in my mouth, they have either stopped themselves to regain control of the fun or I have stopped short of them cuming so I can have more fun topping them! But not to be able to cum through oral sex??? That is a new one! I would die, if I was not able to cum with a mans mouth on my pussy! Sorry but I love it, and if he knows what he is doing and doesn't need a GPS to find all the right spots...I could take it for hours! Mrs Fantasy X
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not as unusual as you might imagine .....- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Really interesting to read about the experiences different men have - thanks all for sharing. I've always loved giving oral. Sometimes I'm in the zone and do a great job, sometimes I just can't find my rhythm and I suck at it ;). Years ago I stopped worrying about whether men come or not through oral and started just indulging myself with it. It sounds really selfish I guess but I pretty much give a man oral for me, because I love it and I can lose myself in it for ages. If he's soft, hard or in between I love it all. I've always had a fascination for penises and I've always thought they were (mostly) all amazing to touch, look at, play with and enjoy. Men, what if the woman doesn't have a goal in mind, isn't worried whether you come or not (though very happy to help you get there), and just really really loves playing with your cock, for as long as she wants to. Does it get boring? Do you just want to come or move on to something that feels better? Would you let her play because she was right into it even if it wasn't going anywhere for you?
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S_W_A_G_G_E_R
11 years ago
I have been with two girls who could give head that resulted in the most mind blowing orgasims ever. Unfortunatly they have ruined it the rest. They set the bar pretty high. So for me it would be a mixture of both emotional and physical. Physicaly i don't think it's suposed to mimic the same action as sexor mastibation. It's just what they do with there mouth and tounge that drives you over the edge. Emotionaly, I think it's more disapointment. Cause most girls really love to try and please, so it's not that there heart isn't in it. And unfortunatly the harder they try the worse it gets. Suppose i should consider my self lucky, to have been with two girls, who should go down in the guiness book of records as giving the best head in the word.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If a women knows how to give it then im in it.. ill blow all the time.. i cant do without it actually.. although some women use there teeth to much , know that hurts.. the correct ways is what i call a gobby.sort of using your gums and tongue. Ohh i love that . Makes me blow all over the place- Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Ok.... just asking here as there's things in this world that I'm yet to fully understand.... but how does a woman use her gums.... presuming.... she has all her teeth??? DG
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madotara69
11 years ago
she could have been wearing a mouth guard Mado
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RHP User
11 years ago
covering her teeth with her lips??
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hey gort :) Interesting post. Reading it made me curious about how others feel when giving or receiving directions during sex. I'd mostly be thrilled to get some guidance. No-one wants to be doing something while the other person is lying back thinking "ffs do it right!" or similar. I don't want to be given directions as though I'm a slave or a hooker, but some tips and instructions and requests would be most welcome.
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