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In The name of LOVE

August 21 2012

Are they any boundaries of what can we do or accept in the name of love ? .years ago I was mad in love this this guy , I suspected that he was cheating on me .His best friend , who I knew was a bit obsessed with me, ask me for FAVOURS in exchange for information about my boyfriend steps, I did of course , slept with him, and every time mi ex was about to go in date with the other girl I spoiled his fun planning something else .he found out years later (not together anymore ) and his friends and family dont talk to me anymore.was I wrong? He and the other guy are still best mates.NOT FAIR !!!

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  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    it was love OP....sounds more like a soap opera...you suspected your boyfriend was cheating, so you had sex with his bestie to find out all the details and the timing of his cheating dates with the other woman? Wow that sure shows dedication. I can't imagine why you are no longer together. Cheating the cheater with a bestie cheater to foil the cheaters, cheating.That is impressive,a pride of cheaters.xHugs H

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I see nothing in your post that relates to love. Plenty that relates to jealousy and hatred but not much else.As long as you are having fun I guess that is all that matters. Personally I like to move away from hatred and towards love. Your mileage may vary.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Bro's before Ho's.....sorry I'm not sure who is the most manipulative one in this little tryst!Cheers Felonius

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    poetry Nev... and almost a haiku !!..LMAO xHugs H

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Are they any boundaries of what can we do or accept in the name of love ?   Ah yes there is.....but your version of love is somewhat questionable   You suspect the man you "love" was cheating on you...so what did you do but go off and have sex with his mate to find out info...wow...you dont have issues do you ?   OP your post is riddled with spite and immaturity...I pity you

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Poetry....moi....not likely. What's a Haku?....lolCheers Felonius...poet and he didn't know it!

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I thought this thread was going to be a belted-out U2 singalong.     *dejectedly takes off his Bono sunnies and skulks off*

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    You are saving me a lot of hard work!!!!Have in mind that you met your current partner on this site and he could also be reading the forums!!!!

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    We all have done things in our pasts that we regret. When it comes to love it is a good exercise to look at the definition Unconditional love is more of a spiritual thing. It’s not bound by physical things, like blood relations and the desire to procreate. It has nothing whatsoever to do with sex. Most people are in relationships because they’re horny and/or lonely, even if they genuinely think they love the other person. But if the person they “love” suddenly lost their “equipment” for whatever reason, would they still want to be with that person? Would they get jealous if the person they “love” wanted to spend time with other people as well? Relationships based on needs are not unconditional. Jealousy is not loveLust is not loveFear is not loveKeeping people all to yourself is not loveExpecting something from someone is not loveAnd the only reason why I have used the copy and paste option here, is due to the fact that my own words have been unheard for years.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    quoting MsVelvetblue yes I guess was inmature... I was desperate, his friend manipulated the situation and I fell... but I knew my boyfriend was an asshole anyway... imagine yourself being with one person all your life, was with my first husband from 15 to 30, then you separate... you are there in a world you dont know... you fell in love with an ass, you have no experience in relationships, you have had only one man .. is hard . you are lost in an alien world .

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    What is good about life is to grow.. not only older but hopefully wiser, Regrets about this situation not at all, at my age now I found it quiet funny, in the eyes in the society in which I used to live that was a capital sin ( very primitive and hypocritical society ) .I think now I could it have more fun with both of them together..... they were really close friends after all...LOVE ... is just a subjective term, the greatest love of all is to love yourself and then you are able to love others, in that time I thought that passion and good sex was love !!! a combination of chemical reactions a chain reaction of feromones oxitonine and all the rest . LOVE IS RESPECT

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    LOVE YOU LADY !!! I wish I had a mum open minded as you are, would be able to talk about sex and life and anything, sopap opera Dont think so is more than a UNA TELENOVELA ( latino soap opera ) hahaha.eyes,

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    You open with a question about something that apparently happened years ago, wanting to know if it was wrong, quite frankly why does it even matter? Then in a subsequent post you state you have no regrets, so it begs the question.......why ask?

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    im wondering what is classed as love now days.. i grew up thinking it was to meet some one ,have an attraction to them you cant explain,if all worked out ,then you settled down with them and only them..call me old fashioned ,but now it seems that belief is gone ,,of all the people i know ,being in love means love and respect,, not cheat or sharing.it got me beat how people on here can go on about love and respect then go off and sleep with or share their partner with someone and not see it as wrong.. did the meaning of love change or do people use the word swinging instead of cheat to make it sound right..

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    did the meaning of love change or do people use the word swinging instead of cheat to make it sound right.. Its meaning is different to each person on this plannet. Depends on your culture, your age, your gender, your circumstances, your emotional history.   The post is just as valid as the rest.   The OP had a thought she wanted to throw out there,it starts a discussion and people bring their own knives and forks to the table and perhaps a side dish or two.   Yes Virgina the meaning of love changes. Thank god it does.   As it touches our life, it finds us according to our circumstance and how open our heart is. Love can find its way into the smallest crack, and yet it may also try to stay in our heart no matter how wide its ripped open. If it stays there long enough it can heal any heart.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Hesione' it was love OP....sounds more like a soap opera...you suspected your boyfriend was cheating, so you had sex with his bestie to find out all the details and the timing of his cheating dates with the other woman? Wow that sure shows dedication. I can't imagine why you are no longer together. Cheating the cheater with a bestie cheater to foil the cheaters, cheating.That is impressive,a pride of cheaters.xHugs Hwell said.....

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    He goes wanderingmoist red petals offered for truthlove was found wanting..~smiles~

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    wanting what?

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Two wrongs don't make a right, what did you achieve by doing what you did? You only compromised your morals and ethics. Revenge is bittersweet as you have found out.   It would have been best to just end it and move on

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I'm so not going to explain that. Especially not to you (or any of the other folk who I expect get it)..~pokes tongue out and waggles fingers at ears~

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    I think this topic has gone in the right direction. More Haikus and limericks, may be even an acrostic poem would be good. RedJuno, what you've posted may once have been love to begin with but at that stage was Husband cheating, his scumbag friend manipulating, and you acting in young desperation. Glad to hear that you're out of that scene, best just to remember and grow from the experience. It's gone, and you're stronger and wiser now. Don't let it haunt you.On the topic I have seen profiles of people looking for NSA relations because their long-term partner has lost interest in sex, or can't perform due to some disability or injury. That takes a lot of guts, trust, and something that can only come from love. Is it right? I don't know, even if everyone is ok with it there may still be feelings of frustration and depression. Sex is always more than penetration, especially when you are in love. Obligatory Haiku:My mind is blown now,How to respond to first post5 sounds on this line

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'Dragonfyre2010' Two wrongs don't make a right, what did you achieve by doing what you did? You only compromised your morals and ethics. Revenge is bittersweet as you have found out.   It would have been best to just end it and move oni share this point of view as well...that he was unfaithful is one issue,and obviously needed to be adressed, but i dont think it gives anyone the licence to do the same thing in retaliation.... this very same idea has popped up elsewhere, a couple of times by people who profess they live by the 'do unto others as you would have them do unto you' credo.....

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    All too often I hear of people taking revenge but it was not the satisfaction that they thought it would be, quite frankly it would be lowering oneself to the other's level and nothing will be gained from it only bittersweet revenge, it does not do the soul any good whatsoever, sure momentarily but one can go away with a very empty feeling just the same, we can have thoughts but to act it out, has consequences and still leaves the emotions and soul unsatisfied and regretting their actions, it can be a vicious circle.   The guy was a douche bag and she was better off without him

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    that it doesnt have boundaries. Which is what makes love so special and rare - by its very nature true, reciprocal love has no need for them. Love defies boundaries.2b :)Not in love - but always hoping for its resurgence.

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    One man come in the name of love   One man come and go   One man, come he to justify   One man to overthrow In the naaaaaaaammmmmmeee of love! What more in the name of love?

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    Quoting 'MsVelvetblue' Are they any boundaries of what can we do or accept in the name of love ?   Ah yes there is.....but your version of love is somewhat questionable   You suspect the man you "love" was cheating on you...so what did you do but go off and have sex with his mate to find out info...wow...you dont have issues do you ?   OP your post is riddled with spite and immaturity...I pity you     Well said....

  • RHP

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    12 years ago

    hello a am happy to comment to you now