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In lust... asking women... ok... guys also?
April 26 2016
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MsSuperFoxy
9 years ago
You are a Patient, she is a professional, leave her be. She's just not that into you. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Next time you go to her place of work, before you enter, walk into the nearest wall until your forehead hurts. She is saying no, end of story.
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social_suicide
9 years ago
Ummm just ask her out and if she ignores you then you have solved a simple problem.
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RHP User
9 years ago
yeah sorry for saying this, but that's the pattern I follow when I'm not interested. Not meaning to be nasty and she may be giving different signals but that's exactly what I do. The reason I glance occasionally is see if they've stopped looking. So she might be interested, she might not be. Agree with above, professional environment, leave it alone UNLESS she gives you clearer signals, starts talking to you more, bit flirty, that kind of thing. Still difficult for either party to make a move in that professional environment it does happen in day to day life but it's a bit of a no go zone
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RHP User
9 years ago
She is either very shy or she has picked up your interest and it makes her uncomfortable. Best not do anything and I know how awful it is when a guy doesn't pick up when I am not interested. I actually feel like I have to be rude to get my disinterest across and that makes me very resentful. My boyfriend says I am not always clear but I personally feel I am 100% clear. Maybe a male/female miscommunication going on? Not sure if that is the case here tho.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Over the last 5 years, I've spent more than enough of my fair share of time on the wrong end of a cannula and made some good friends along the way. These women are professionals and in my opinion (humble though it may not be) often contribute to the overall well-being of the patients to a far greater extent than any of the more random teams of doctors. I did manage to make friends with one who is exactly that... a true friend. It took a lot just to slide by the ''attitude of gratitude'' I had expressed for a truly dedicated professional. If they help keep you alive, hit on the next lady at the pub... these women are incredible.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Shes not really interested. Maybe has a boyfriend or hubby at home and is perfectly happy?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Perhaps you've got boogers hanging from ya nose and the others are just too polite to embarrass you?? Lol :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Knows that you are married , your attention is unwelcome and she doesn't "wanna fuck you" Q
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lovebitten
9 years ago
The guy that pushes himself on women who have made it clear that they are not interested. I'm actually surprised this is even a post. She's just trying to do her job and you are making her uncomfortable, by the sounds of it. At 49, you're old enough to know better. In fact, my 15 year old son is old enough to know better. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'MidnightCruisin' Over the last 5 years, I've spent more than enough of my fair share of time on the wrong end of a cannula and made some good friends along the way. These women are professionals and in my opinion (humble though it may not be) often contribute to the overall well-being of the patients to a far greater extent than any of the more random teams of doctors. I did manage to make friends with one who is exactly that... a true friend. It took a lot just to slide by the ''attitude of gratitude'' I had expressed for a truly dedicated professional. If they help keep you alive, hit on the next lady at the pub... these women are incredible. Yes... agreed but they are still women not just nurses.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Stirry' Perhaps you've got boogers hanging from ya nose and the others are just too polite to embarrass you?? Lol :p - Posted from rhpmobile Remembers to check on next visit...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Well ladies and gentlemen... I take your sage like advice... not sure why I asked in the first place... and will seek her conversation next time... well it is a start... lol.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta1' Knows that you are married , your attention is unwelcome and she doesn't "wanna fuck you" Q Married... well I wear no ring... and just because I am up front here about my status, that does not translate to a flashing neon sign on my forehead.
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Tell her you have a growth she should take a look at 😄 This amuses me. On one hand we have ladies telling you to back off. But in other topics they're saying they like a man who is confident, assertive, and who doesn't play games in expressing his feelings. Many say they'd love to be with that one man of their dreams. Could that be you???! Maybe, or maybe not. But just maybe. Now I haven't looked at your profile, I don't need or want to..... but here's the situation as I see it. You have to stand on that ice. You will either fall through it and get frozen..... .or you'll skate like a Wayne Gretski MVP mo'fo-ing boss. Does Richard Branson wait to hear what others who aren't invested in him think before making a decision? Did Steve Jobs ask complete strangers what they thought of his plans? The absolute worst thing that could happen here is she says what? No. So what. You're just a person, she's just a person. You're both capable of making your own decisions. Unless you step up you'll never know which it's going to be. Don't JUST listen to the advice of strangers who make decisions on your behalf. They may be right, they may be wrong. But with 100% certainly, they're not you! It's your move to make..... not other people's move ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
(HOW you go about it.... that's a different matter altogether.... and something that requires only a little thought ☺️) - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
9 years ago
1. She either thinks you're super hot and she feels she is not good enough for you. 2. She thinks you're creepy and makes her skin crawl. 3. She has seen your blood results and knows you're from another planet. 4. She has seen you on RHP and doesnt want to know you. Who knows. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
i have to agree she doesn't sound into you.. sorry! good on you for giving blood though!
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RHP User
9 years ago
I agree with Summer. MischeviousLad I hope you are better at reading women's body language then you are at giving advice. (Just joking, sort of). Problem is some men push it too far and will not take the hint and that makes me really mad when it happens to me. To be honest, if a woman is keen she would probably try and make contact with you while you are there, she wouldn't be avoiding you. This is not a Victorian drama and women are not such timid shy things anymore. Has she smiled at you when she glances over? If not, she definitely not into you.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Please don't be one of those guys who starts the pleading and the "why not, just go out with me you never know you might like me, what's the harm, go on you know you want too, you are just playing hard to get". Only so many ways a woman can politely say no. And yes, maybe a bit of conjouling is done when you are both doing the flirting thing but don't force it the point where she has tell you off. I have been in this position and I really hate it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Tell her you have a growth she should take a look at 😄 This amuses me. On one hand we have ladies telling you to back off. But in other topics they're saying they like a man who is confident, assertive, and who doesn't play games in expressing his feelings. Many say they'd love to be with that one man of their dreams. Could that be you???! Maybe, or maybe not. But just maybe. Now I haven't looked at your profile, I don't need or want to..... but here's the situation as I see it. You have to stand on that ice. You will either fall through it and get frozen..... .or you'll skate like a Wayne Gretski MVP mo'fo-ing boss. Does Richard Branson wait to hear what others who aren't invested in him think before making a decision? Did Steve Jobs ask complete strangers what they thought of his plans? The absolute worst thing that could happen here is she says what? No. So what. You're just a person, she's just a person. You're both capable of making your own decisions. Unless you step up you'll never know which it's going to be. Don't JUST listen to the advice of strangers who make decisions on your behalf. They may be right, they may be wrong. But with 100% certainly, they're not you! It's your move to make..... not other people's move ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile ;)
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inspirit
9 years ago
Fuk. Never new that. PHEW! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
The sentence summer quoted earlier in this topic is the key here. The first time I read it, I thought she's not into you, you're creeping her out. Toned that down in my comment, but let's be a bit clearer here. I've also been on the receiving end of unwanted attention but here's the thing. If I was in a workplace, confined in that environment where I couldn't walk away, where I had to continue acting in a professional manner with someone making me feel uncomfortable, I'd feel violated. My guess is she already feels that way. And you're married. I also don't go into profiles very often, missed that. So what would your opening line be "Hi, I'm (insert name), I'm married and I've been checking your arse out for the last (insert time period). Even though you look creeped out, fancy going out for a drink? And then when she says no, then what? Do you plan on going somewhere else to give blood. I would hope so but seriously, you need to leave her alone. I'm sure it's an age thing with men, budgie smugglers come out about the age 😃
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RHP User
9 years ago
Same age I meant
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Humans aren't that different. Not hard to understand, surely? Unfortunately humans are not as predictable nor reliable as are most other species on this planet. I've been the benefactor of some amazing relationships with Rotties, Mastiffs and Shepherds that have transferred successfully as guard, military or police dogs. Oh well, I'd never pee on your carpet and if you wanted to whack me on the nose with a paper, I won't bite.That last part... yes please but gently!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mstr_Full' and will seek her conversation next time... well it is a start... lol. Funny how the male OP and a male commenter are the only ones who that think this woman might possibly be interested despite all her actions pointing to the exact opposite
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Now...... Imagine how the ladies of RHP would respond if I compared them to dogs, as you did 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think you just wanted people to tell you to go for it....well in my opinion anyway. This is her workplace, why not respect that? As other posters have already pointed out, she has given you clear signals she's not interested.
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Wasn't a "try". It was your own words. You brought up body language in dogs to compare to the actions of the lady in this story. Not me. But nice try trying that re-frame lol 😄 All I did in my initial comment was suggest the OP go out on a limb, and talk to her..... specifically stopping short of suggesting how he talks). If some ladies want to turn walking out in a limb into walking the plank, well, I kinda feel sorry for how stand offfish they are, and how offended they must strangely feel for having to say ... what....'no'? Seriously. - Posted from rhpmobile
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MrMechanic
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Wasn't a "try". It was your own words. You brought up body language in dogs to compare to the actions of the lady in this story. Not me. You're on a beating to nothing Brah Let me splain it Outside of the forum posters here, how many ordinary women do you know that talk that much dirt about men.Id bet like me none or not many, and the few I've know that do is all down to one thing and that's bad baggage and after reading posts here over months the common narrative is plain to see, more baggage among women posters here than there is in the belly of a jumbo jet.I've been adding up all their tales of men who done them wrong and it s disproportionate to the mean average outside of here by a fair degree. And they are going to bust the balls of every man they encounter to make up for their hurt until the day they draw their last breath in an old folks home.You may as well be arguing with an army of Germain Greers, they can turn from attacker to victim in less time then you can say "Chooch"Unless you're a glutton for punishment, give it up, get out while you can before you start believing any of it. Run forest run !
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' If some ladies want to turn walking out in a limb into walking the plank, well, I kinda feel sorry for how stand offfish they are, and how offended they must strangely feel for having to say ... what....'no'? Seriously. When they've clearly indicated they aren't interested, I really don't think those women give a toss how you feel about them / for them if some entitled dude who chooses to ignore the obvious thinks he should still have a go (in their place of work no less). And on that, women working in health and medical settings often have to deal with inappropriate behaviour, attemps at conversation, and advances from men (and probably women sometimes as well). It's usually not appreciated at all, and it just makes you look like a tosser (I'm not referring here to men who have some sort of cognitive reason for acting inappropriately, but to men who have no excuse for ignoring professional boundaries).
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' attemps at conversation referring here to attempts to get too personal / sexual in conversation, not just general chit chat.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Do non-verbals not count as communication? "avoids my eye contact / avoids dealing with me" Does this not constitute a no? She is at work, and has to maintain a level of professionalism to people she deals with. Mister OP, you have ignored the women's opinion you specifically sought, and plan to ignore a woman's disinterest in you. Good luck with with that. In the words of a sage of our time, "Don't be a dick" Adam Hill <... he's a man, btw.
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PurePeony
9 years ago
OP, in your context, Nurses are bound by a Code of Conduct and professionalism. Flirting with patients is a huge no-no. Depending on the culture of the workplace and management's view / take on this issue, a Nurse who has been caught flirting with a patient can be subject to disciplinary action by the Board / Panel. It is THAT serious. Even IF she were interested in you, she would be jeopardising her career and professional repute for what, and putting her nursing registration on the line for what ... a flirt with a married man? A simple cost-benefit analysis would raise a HUGE blaring alarm and a blinding red light! :P All said, I am a bit embarrassed to confess that I actually thought that her body language might indicate a certain level of interest! 8-O !!! Sheesh! I either have a semi-male brain, or I just have some weird behaviour because if I were keen on a man, that is exactly how I might act! LOL!!! :P Come to think of it, when I am highly interested in a man, my behaviour is highly unpredictable and the body language I unconsciously send out could be very contrary to my actual thoughts and feelings! :P Maybe that's why some women absolutely hate me with a vengeance! Hahaha! Mystery solved!
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RHP User
9 years ago
If you aren't already able to engage her in a friendly appreciative conversation, despite being a regular donor then there's a reason she's avoiding you, and it's NOT because she likes you. This isn't high-school ... if she was into you, she would have tried to find out more about you by actually making the effort to do your donation prep/care and having a chat.
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
The usual suspects The usual judgements Aye aye cap'n lol 😄 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You act like a shy Virgin you mean? And you seem quite proud that women don't like you. I would say that is very commendable??
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RHP User
9 years ago
To be fair. The implication in your post was that he come on to her or ask her out. Not just talk to her. So what should he say? What outcome do you foresee? The next time she can't avoid dealing with him, he chats to her. I assume he would do that already. But he is just pleasant and friendly, she does her job and at the end of the day, isn't he still in the same place as before? Woof woof. ;-)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nailed it again 👍
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
I love how some people focus on the worst possible outcome. I didn't tell the guy to hit on, come on to, touch, harrass, molest, pollinate or impregnate the woman. I merely suggest he balls the hell up to start a bloody conversation. A chat. A bit of simple human conversational interaction for gods sake. Then she either chats back, or she doesn't! Walk the plank indeed. I suppose some people really are that antisocial. Maybe even Miserable, if someone interested enough to seek to engage in conversation is such a shameful activity. Glad the people I meet and chat with are ..... more friendly than that! ☺️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Mstr_Full' Yes... agreed but they are still women not just nurses. ...the ones with the stubble, long beards and/or deep voices are men. Seriously, keep it in your pants and respect the professionals.
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MrMechanic
9 years ago
Shizzle.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I tried flirting with a doctor/shopkeeper/guy at the bar/neighbour and got negative vibes I would give in gracefully. I was chatting, quite positively I thought, to a guy one night and then he said, "bet you were a wee smasher in your day" Game over. I left, tail between legs. We are not attacking the OP, just giving him an answer .....as he requested.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yep...all of us women - and the men - who have advised a man against hitting on a woman who shows every sign of wanting nothing to do with said man, in her workplace, are 'man-haters' . Do you even realise how ridiculous and childish you sound?
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RHP User
9 years ago
how brittle and fragile (SOME) men's egos actually are.
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Better and better.Character assassination attempts What amazes me... is that to SOME..... if a man dares to consider talking to a woman..... (or perhaps to some, if I dare suggest he does)....that man and I are somehow seen as holding an "entitled" attitudes. Or that our egos are brittle.... which Id have thought would be fairly contradictory to a man feeling "entitled" Good grief. Seriously. How did you ever make a friend if you're so ready to assume the worst of someone starting that conversation?!! Do you even realise that you've acted in a self entitled manner by arrogantly removing this womans opportunity to have some input... and exercise her choice to say no?! You don't.... do you. Well... the next time a stranger decides to strike up a conversation, ladies..... I expect.... you'll summarily shoot them down as an entitled, sexist, harassing penis wielding assailant hell bent on committing the extremist male hate crime of saying... hi.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Probity' Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Wasn't a "try". It was your own words. You brought up body language in dogs to compare to the actions of the lady in this story. Not me. You're on a beating to nothing Brah Let me splain it Outside of the forum posters here, how many ordinary women do you know that talk that much dirt about men.Id bet like me none or not many, and the few I've know that do is all down to one thing and that's bad baggage and after reading posts here over months the common narrative is plain to see, more baggage among women posters here than there is in the belly of a jumbo jet.I've been adding up all their tales of men who done them wrong and it s disproportionate to the mean average outside of here by a fair degree. And they are going to bust the balls of every man they encounter to make up for their hurt until the day they draw their last breath in an old folks home.You may as well be arguing with an army of Germain Greers, they can turn from attacker to victim in less time then you can say "Chooch"Unless you're a glutton for punishment, give it up, get out while you can before you start believing any of it. Run forest run ! I don't have baggage and fail to see how you think we're 'taking dirt' about men. The guy asked our opinion, we are women after all, online or offline, who are accustomed to seeing this kind of behavior pattern. Some men though fail to see how threatening or confining it is for women, how it makes the hair stand up on your neck, even when all the signs are there she's not interested, clearly the case here. What would you suggest we tell the op? With all your wisdom about how women feel, respond or choose to show that response, or not as the case may be, not sure how you would know, not being a woman yourself, but enlighten me. How is it you think it's okay for him to continue creeping her out, because that's clearly what's happening here. I feel sorry for her personally. It's a creepy pattern of behavior that men need to stop inflicting on women. Sorry, that's just reality, it's nothing to do with the forum, it's life, real life is where our thoughts come from regarding this topic, not our online world. What on earth does baggage have to do with it?
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RHP User
9 years ago
forgot to throw in she's in a workplace where she has no option to walk away and he's married. Married guys can get some action online but in the real world, not likely. Add to that the op commented on how she wouldn't know, he wasn't wearing a ring. Of course she would know, medical records would show that. Regardless though, was he going to just not mention it? Your comment didn't cover any of these issues, just random slander of the forum women pfft
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RHP User
9 years ago
IMHO she's already exercised her choice, though not with words, this is the thing SOME men have trouble comprehending, not all, this is not man bashing, I love men, clearly. But it then shows disrespect for this woman, or any women, for the man to plough on regardless, in order to satisfy their own selfish needs. What about basic respect for women? The op said she was 'avoiding dealing with him' and 'avoiding eye contact' ?? Any man who continues when the signs are that clear, particularly in a workplace where her choice to avoid him is removed, don't forget she HAS NO CHOICE as far as being in the same room as him, she's in a professional environment and has to stay there. That's the difference here from a normal public situation. But just ploughing on regardless becomes creepy and invasive of our personal space. Nothing wrong with looking, nothing wrong with showing interest, but then follow the signs, they're easy to spot for those who don't have their head in the sand. I respect the men who have come into this thread and also suggested the op leave her alone, they are the ones I would feel comfortable with out in public, they wouldn't be the creepy ones, my 2 cents
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RHP User
9 years ago
After seeing 'attempted character assassination' - which is an utterly ridiculous accusation since I did not do anything of the sort - I didn't read anymore of your last comment and am not going to engage with you further on this topic.
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
I guess the kitchen is hot. And not all debaters are created equal. You exercised your opportunity to decide to be cranky, say "no" and walk away. Point proved really. ☺️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I just cannot believe you are still talking about it... It was a simple... question ... chuckles. Well the next time I attend the Vampires... I will do as I always do (in any circumstance)... treat the vampire with great respect, behave like a gentleman, smile ... and we will see... Now ladies and gentlemen... I thank you for your humour, vitriol and conflicting views.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' After seeing 'attempted character assassination' - which is an utterly ridiculous accusation since I did not do anything of the sort - I didn't read anymore of your last comment and am not going to engage with you further on this topic. same, it just falls on deaf ears but like I said
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Summersolstice' Guess you're part of the "usual suspects" DG talks about now. Welcome! :-D Thanks, I'll happily be a part of the 'not trying to be a dick' crowd.
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting '2GuysWithRespect' Thanks, I'll happily be a part of the 'not trying to be a dick' crowd. In addition to a 'usual suspect' be prepared to be called a 'white knight' a lot. Another favourite term among certain types of men
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RHP User
9 years ago
I still call boogers lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
To be completely honest with you, her body language seems as if you make her feel uncomfortable and she would prefer to avoid you. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I kinda started thinking about the body language. Body language is pretty subjective despite there being some core similarities with others, so I'm going to make some assumptions in this response. 1. The OP's account is gospel. 2. That the friendly giggle, is being noticed by the lady in question, which, given that she's constantly looking toward the OP, isn't all that impossible..... What's the possibility that, this lady merely feels as though the friendly giggle is actually the OP flirting with the others, and not the friendly giggle?? Let's face it, one persons friendly giggle is another's seduction. It could be then be argued that she's not avoiding interactions with him because he feels "entitled" - which I may add was my first gut feeling too sorry OP - but in fact she's avoiding him because she feels inadequate. It does explain why she keeps looking in the OP's direction as much as it would her lack of interest...albeit I don't know about anyone else but if I were repulsed by someone I wouldn't be looking toward them at all.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
No, I look to see if they've gone
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Shouldda just left it at boogers mate 😄 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
It was the winner the had to be picked DG lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think this thread just jumped the shark
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RHP User
9 years ago
Lol you want me baaaad don't you??? :p - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mischeviouslad
9 years ago
Welcome back 😄 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Amazed...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Congratulations in giving blood. Yay for you 💉😊 Keep up the good work. 👍 I do silly things like these mannerisms if I like a stranger a lot. Sometimes I also do it because I've picked up the vibe from them without being physically interested. If asked, I manage to gently rebuff strangers. I'm not great at being clear but I have a shot. She's not a fragile flower, she's a woman and she's at work. It's trickier but romance on the job happens every day. If you ask her out you'll get a definitive answer or you'll get something wishy washy. Take the date if you get it, take the unclear as a no. Two things though: If you fancy going to give blood without hesitation, is it worth the risk of being wrong? Especially since you cannot offer her a relationship and that knowledge (your marital status) will most likely get around that office. If she fancies you that much maybe she'll pull a crazy lady stunt? Is it worth it? 😁 Lastly, Have you consulted her left hand? You probably have but its worth mentioning. When I wore a ring no one noticed. I have a tattoo now, no one notices. I have Married listed on my account, very few notice. A lot of men seem to get a shock when the signs are plain to see. Though, there is nothing wrong with taking the chance. L_D - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Three pages later, really? 😒😒😒 - Posted from rhpmobile
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