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In praise of single women,or are they the new pariah of RHP
July 10 2013
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RHP User
11 years ago
That was a rhetorical question.
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RHP User
11 years ago
is that our only choice??? Id like to think neither!!! so i must be confused
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RHP User
11 years ago
There are some amazing single women out there in RHP land, both as friends and something more. But I am guessing its a bit like it is for the ladies on RHP......sometimes you have to sift a while to find them, like panning for gold.
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RHP User
11 years ago
it was not a rhetorical question..simply redressing the balance....
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RHP User
11 years ago
We get a message from a single girl I'm sceptical. I can't help it. If its to good to be true then..... We have had "single girls" Use pre recorded videos on Skype, use random pics off the net, even had friends call us. Mr B, has had better luck than me meeting single ladies, not sure how that works :-/ maybe I'm giving out a bad vibe. Me? I can't help that think that single girls (especially the really hot ones, under 25) are either guys, or attention seekers. I want no part of either...and I've yet to be proven wrong..............................And, in saying all that. We went to a Rhp party Australia Day just gone, and somehow, perhaps miraculously, 90% of the guests were single were single women off Rhp! No shit! We were all shaking our heads in bewilderment! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I blame men for the bad rep single women have here.sort of ,but not quite a joke.,,I do think that quite a number of single women's profiles are...welllll not single women.
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RHP User
11 years ago
that I don't get that many messages. And really the only attention I get is the attention I draw to my li'l exhibitionist self. I think I scare most people off! And as for confusion reigning? Hell yeah! I'm in a constant state of confusion. I've had three kids and countless bottles of wine in my time. The few brain cells I have left are doing the salsa in fabulous heels on the roof of my little old shack... Oh, and I flake at midnight or after the 4th glass, whichever comes first.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think it depends what we read into things a lot of the time. Women do have it a lot better on the site than men... SOMETIMES. That definitely get more benefits as guests. Men are expected to make most of the effort most of the time. As in pay for membership, have an inviting profile (which does make sense), have a face pic in their public profile, write interesting messages (with no expectation of a reply) Have impeccable spelling and grammar, don't have dick pics. etc etc... just go through the fporums to see mentions of these things over and over again.Women on the other hand cop a lot of flack even if they do reply to messages. Most tend to be unindated with uninvited attention whether they have a pic up or not, as in men looking for women even if the women aren't looking for men. Women often post about the men who lie to get their end away, not mentioning that they're married or that they're really only after a one off etc.So, I'm going to go for confusion reigns... a bit of decency all ways and things could be very different.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think that a lot of women (girls) come to the site with a very different picture in mind from what they experience. SOmething that never fails to raise at least a smile, or even an actual laugh from me is upon seeing the username of some recent site-joiner - female of course- that is very... aggressive?... like 'cumslut69' or the like. And then seeing them not log in EVER AGAIN. I think that some women or girls entertain the idea of being desirable and slutty and having heaps of really filthy fucking but when the reality of the depraved well of sexual despair that is most assuredly what awaits them in their inbox within, oh, lets say 12 minutes... well I think they are then a little too confronted by what they see.In short, I think a lot of women talk a much better game than they play. And I dont blame them. Guys are fucked up.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'MrsPeachyPyre' Women do have it a lot better on the site than men... SOMETIMES. That definitely get more benefits as guests. Women do have it a lot better on the the site than men... in SOME ways. They definitely get more benefits as guests.
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
Single women in RHP..........are but a minuscule drop in the ocean of available open and amazing single women beyond these electronic walls.Ergo..... opportunities beyond are exponentially greater than within. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
a bumper sticker I saw the other day..... It depicted a bride in full bridal veil with a grumpy face (and the caption read)...."Why do I have to get married?.....I didn't do anything wrong!"It pretty much summed up exactly how I really feel about being in a relationship to a T!I'm single and turn 43 on Saturday and after pining away for most of my 30's, for the "one", the love of my life I was 'supposedly' going to meet, I'm over it.....and thank goodness for that!Now I choose to be single. I actually prefer it.I had previously spent 12 years in a loveless marriage and another 10 yrs bringing up my son on my own. Why would I want to go back to jail now? (You only get 20 years for murder, non parole of 15?)Seriously though....for me.....the question on people's lips is always, *head turned on the side and their face screwed up*"So why are you still single?!!!" ...as if trying to figure out what is wrong with me?My answer is usually... "I don't know?" ......"Don't you think I am the wrong person to ask?" If being single makes me a pariah, then so be it?It certainly doesn't make me an idiot, or a fake or an emotional risk.At this stage in my life I find that I don't want a man and the xyz that comes with him.Namely, his ex problems. I don't want to sit at home bringing up his offspring while his ex is in Bali on her honeymoon with hubby number three. I don't want his std, (yes I know what you are thinking but in this case I mean), his sexually transmitted debt, that he solely acquired when she took their house, of which he had no equity and I don't want to sit at home night after night warming a cold plate of dinner for him while he works overtime to also pay the child support, the repayments on the brand new Toyota Landcruiser (which she needs to cart around all their offspring) and the numerous credit cards she abused at 'Myer' and 'Toys 'R' Us' , just a week before she left, because he couldn't say "no!"The above scenario, although somewhat an exaggerated version, I no longer have a tolerance for. Since I am actually 'debt free' and,up until 3 years ago, gave a lot of my life in the service of others, I think I have the right to at least feel good about myself and proud as a single woman with the knowledge that both my intentions and actions are honest and do not harm other people. I have never, and I am not, leaving behind my gigantic footprint on any unsuspecting blokes head.But karma 'brownie-points' aside... being single is so much more for me than just not wanting to settle.I want sex too but that doesn't mean I will have it indiscriminately with any bloke who visits my inbox.I may be a very loving woman and a good woman, but just because I have a lot to offer doesn't mean I have to share 'me' and become a 'we' with just anyone either? In the meantime I actually have the right to enjoy being a single woman. Men are allowed to? Yes, there are a lot of men on rhp but I use the same level of discernment here that I would use in my daily life and for me it's simply utilising my own naturally discerning nature to filter what and who I expose myself to sexually and emotionally. The guys who use the word 'picky' have to realise that it has such a negative connotation and sometimes it just makes things sound as if single women should lower their standards and accept less or even allow bad behaviour from men because their status is somehow not an ideal.
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RHP User
11 years ago
paintme,and how delicious is flake
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm not privileged, nor a flake or fake... I just have standards lol Seriously tho most of the guys here expect you to sleep with them regardless of looks and to drop everything and see them that minute at whatever hotel they're standing in front of. I've also lost count of the amount of times I've had to block guys for getting upset cuz I won't fuck them... And don't get me started on the men who've offered me money!!! Even when I'm not interested in someone I alway try and write back and tell them so and usually get a mail back saying they really appreciated my response... A few just write back and ask "what's wrong with me don't I wanna fuck" lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Your opening sentence of your profile ....... OMG you must be inundated with messages. Here is what a man will read...Recently separated, seeking passionate flings with fun...............and often go no further. You are separated and you want fun, which in a man's head means you want sex... with them! Hehehe. All good if that is what you want that is. I did read an article and I have observed it too. Men and women interpret the word fun a little differently.
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RHP User
11 years ago
There's something fishy about flake...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Inerwest... Got it nailed man. I too have noticed the same thing, I mean it's not funny... But it is ! I'd love to have a web cam when they first check their inbox- priceless viewing 😄 Paintme... Could we start you on your 4 wines a bit earlier... I struggle with midnight nowadays 🍷🍷🍷🍷 Deepbluesomething... I guess it depends on wether you'd like to have someone to share running over your dog with, or if your happy doing it on your own 🙊🙉🙈 (I hope he's making a speedy recovery xo) Hp xo
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RHP User
11 years ago
Interesting how a thread like this has somehow moved on to single men? I don't get it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Next time someone asks you why you are still single, give them a saucy wink and say "because I am having far too much fun" or maybe "are you joking? How can I limit this (point to your body at this point) to just one?"
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RHP User
11 years ago
I remember a recent thread celebrating the women of rhp... Hardly anyone responded... A few men and some women... It just showed me that though all these blokes want to shag you, they don't really value the women on here. Meh... I'm happy to find other men, off site, who do value me.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Next time someone asks you why you are still single, give them a saucy wink and say "because I am having far too much fun" or maybe "are you joking? How can I limit this (point to your body at this point) to just one?" and the delivery should be in only the simplest language that even an ape can understand it because at times I feel like the question itself is really begging for a very base and even a crude or sarcastic sort of reply.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Hello Miss Freya, If I may, tell a little story. Sitting in the traffic with all the improvements on the old Windsor road, so many curse the red lights as they are stopped at each and every one. They will stop start, stop start, stop start every day, day after day and curse those damn red lights, giving all the reasons why those lights are so wrong and frustrating, even go as far to suggest being trapped and unfairly herded like cattle, become the cow and moo with the rest of the cows.Then there is the few that push past all those cows and love the red light, and become closest to it eagerly awaiting it to turn green. Now those damn cows take off at the green light and so busy cursing and hitting the brakes at 50km on the spedo, stop at the next damn red light, they really fucking hate them red lights, but feel much better for the curse yelled.Those few at pole position, take of for the thrill for green, hit 65km, cause they can and miss every red light all the way home.If asking those few, what of red lights? They may just smile for the relationship to be had along the way with those exciting lights.Soar like an eagle, or moo with the cows.love the gown Miss Freya, Black with white. Mado
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RHP User
11 years ago
Pariah, (noun) A social outcast, any person or animal who is generally despised or avoided.So wouldn't that really make anyone who is just down-right rude, ignorant or obnoxious more the epitome of pariahdom on rhp? Regardless of their relationship status, age or sexual preferences? and...If single women are perhaps the new pariah then who or what was the 'old' one?
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RHP User
11 years ago
When recently someone asked me why I'm still single, I told them: "How could you suggest I pick just one of my lovers, the others would be heartbroken!".
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RHP User
11 years ago
I really must remember not to stop shouting you drinks at 3! I've never actually been around to see what happens after the 4th......- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
As a single woman and Speaking for myself only. I'm neither a fake nor a flake. I know what i'm about, both here and IRL, i came here with realistic expectations. RHP has lived up to my expectations, but then this was not my first foray into sites such as this one. I think therein lies the problem, many people, both men and women, do not know what they want from sites like RHP. In addition they often have unrealistic expectations. Combine these two and you are going to get some people who appear to behave in flakey ways!
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RHP User
11 years ago
as a threat? I have read through all messages and there is only one man who has written back.The old old question is, WHAT DO WE REALLY HONESTLY WANT FROM EACH OTHER does anyone know?I am also like to be on my own, after being a mum on my own for such a long time I am free now to be me and I don't know whether men understand how this feels.To come home and it is quite and calm and only my mess. My music my place.To have been married and had children and now be for the first time in my whole life in the situation no one can say what I have to do or take responsibility off.As a woman my age, you have been a child and your parents said what goes , then you married and u had to share and compromise, then you had your children and you have had the sole responsibility for them.And now I can be selfishly be me and have freedom,I don't have to do what everybody wants me to do. I SAY NO when I feel like it, and don't feel bad doing so.I love men very much, I adore men, but I don't need a man to look after me. I say now at this stage, should there be any man become special in my life he needs to be my equal, independent and free.However you RHP males I like you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Karyn, many people of both sexes not only don't know what they want from this site, but I life as well. Either consciously or in that sneaky little subconscious are a few things that tend to mess some people up just when they have what they think they want. Not everyone but some of us.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Awesome71'I remember a recent thread celebrating the women of rhp... Hardly anyone responded... A few men and some women... It just showed me that though all these blokes want to shag you, they don't really value the women on here. Meh... I'm happy to find other men, off site, who do value me. there there, there there feel better now toots? daddy make u camomile tea?
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RHP User
11 years ago
That's truly valuable is like picking apples. Unless you're prepared to make an effort to get to the top of the tree - where the best fruit resides - you'll only get the shit..... Just saying- Posted from rhpmobile
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised'That was a rhetorical question. I just don't think she was after an answer.....
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised'That was a rhetorical question. I just don't think she was after an answer.....
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Lifes_great
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya73'I blame men for the bad rep single women have here.sort of ,but not quite a joke.,,I do think that quite a number of single women's profiles are...welllll not single women. You mean to say that all those 20 something year old women looking for NSA 'fun times' with guys 18 -99 aren't all real....maybe I'll have to re-think my membership
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RHP User
11 years ago
We have fun finding out want we want!!! And most of the time for me, I didn't even know I wanted it!! That's why I'm a flake. I never know what I want until I have it. Then I want mooooooorre!
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Violetincredible
11 years ago
I don't think I'm a fake or flake 😇 I use rhp as my pick up place lol. When I go out with my friends I like to be with them and be fully in to the fun of the event.. I don't pick up when I'm out (also im often the driver) and I get annoyed at the sleazy men who try to hit on me... Whereas rhp is the right vehicle for sleazing haha :D
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RHP User
11 years ago
What if the lights turn Amber? Quoting 'madotara69' Hello Miss Freya, If I may, tell a little story. Sitting in the traffic with all the improvements on the old Windsor road, so many curse the red lights as they are stopped at each and every one. They will stop start, stop start, stop start every day, day after day and curse those damn red lights, giving all the reasons why those lights are so wrong and frustrating, even go as far to suggest being trapped and unfairly herded like cattle, become the cow and moo with the rest of the cows.Then there is the few that push past all those cows and love the red light, and become closest to it eagerly awaiting it to turn green. Now those damn cows take off at the green light and so busy cursing and hitting the brakes at 50km on the spedo, stop at the next damn red light, they really fucking hate them red lights, but feel much better for the curse yelled.Those few at pole position, take of for the thrill for green, hit 65km, cause they can and miss every red light all the way home.If asking those few, what of red lights? They may just smile for the relationship to be had along the way with those exciting lights.Soar like an eagle, or moo with the cows.love the gown Miss Freya, Black with white. Mado
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On_Safari
11 years ago
And can I just say yours and Litonya's take on a single woman's outlook were great. Litonya I hadn't thought about a woman's lot in lfe being like that before but you're right.....we do seem to always end up being told what we can and can't do and having responsibility for everyone else but not being able to just BE. I have much to think about and yes KarenB I'm still delving into the catacombs of my own "self" trying to figure it out.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'innerwest123' I think that a lot of women (girls) come to the site with a very different picture in mind from what they experience. SOmething that never fails to raise at least a smile, or even an actual laugh from me is upon seeing the username of some recent site-joiner - female of course- that is very... aggressive?... like 'cumslut69' or the like. And then seeing them not log in EVER AGAIN. I think that some women or girls entertain the idea of being desirable and slutty and having heaps of really filthy fucking but when the reality of the depraved well of sexual despair that is most assuredly what awaits them in their inbox within, oh, lets say 12 minutes... well I think they are then a little too confronted by what they see.In short, I think a lot of women talk a much better game than they play. And I dont blame them. Guys are fucked up. Quite frankly I've given up the whole contact/waiting bullshit game here. I don't care any more.I'm just here for the forums.
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RHP User
11 years ago
a few months ago I put up a post about single men being pariahs,now it seems to be the turn of the single woman.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Quoting 'deepbluesumthing' What if the lights turn Amber? Quoting 'madotara69' Hello Miss Freya, If I may, tell a little story. Sitting in the traffic with all the improvements on the old Windsor road, so many curse the red lights as they are stopped at each and every one. They will stop start, stop start, stop start every day, day after day and curse those damn red lights, giving all the reasons why those lights are so wrong and frustrating, even go as far to suggest being trapped and unfairly herded like cattle, become the cow and moo with the rest of the cows.Then there is the few that push past all those cows and love the red light, and become closest to it eagerly awaiting it to turn green. Now those damn cows take off at the green light and so busy cursing and hitting the brakes at 50km on the spedo, stop at the next damn red light, they really fucking hate them red lights, but feel much better for the curse yelled.Those few at pole position, take of for the thrill for green, hit 65km, cause they can and miss every red light all the way home.If asking those few, what of red lights? They may just smile for the relationship to be had along the way with those exciting lights.Soar like an eagle, or moo with the cows.love the gown Miss Freya, Black with white. Mado then indagine would be right, green all the way love, but you have to slow down when the kiddies are let loose by the schools
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RHP User
11 years ago
Honky, I thought Greek Coffee was more your style...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya73' a few months ago I put up a post about single men being pariahs,now it seems to be the turn of the single woman.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am Single and assertive in what I am looking for and want from this site, but this still leads to a lot of grief and unwanted attention from men outside of my chosen preferences. Im no flake, and I'm definitely not fake, and the people I have met on here would agree 100%. It's not necessarily about being 'picky' or 'fussy' as we are the minority on here.... its the same way I carry out my 'real' life, in so far as I choose those I wish to be friends with, and stay away from those who suck the energy out of me when around!! There was a time I'd try to reply to all messages even just to say 'no thanks' thinking that was polite... however the abuse I'd receive and the amount of blocks I'd have to revert to soon made me stop. I also had a man recently get very pissed off at the attention and number of flirts I had as he wasn't getting the same....like it was my fault somehow and that somehow I must be soliciting it. At the end of the day though, who really cares?? Be true to yourself and your reasons to be on here. You can't make everyone happy all of the time, might as well just try making yourself happy and hopefully it rubs off on those who need it!! And violetincredible, flake and fake are the last words that spring to mind describing YOU... you gorgeous thing!! But that's another forum....
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have the same problem as Amarella (thought prolly not as much because I'm harder to find) and our profiles have little in common besides the 'single F'. Amarella Your opening sentence of your profile ....... OMG you must be inundated with messages. Here is what a man will read... Recently separated, seeking passionate flings with fun............... and often go no further. You are separated and you want fun, which in a man's head means you want sex... with them! Hehehe. All good if that is what you want that is. I did read an article and I have observed it too. Men and women interpret the word fun a little differently.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Inara look at your opening line. (see below) A man is going to read that and think cool a woman who just wants to fuck. So of course they are going to send you heaps of messages. Just depends what you are after. Lots of messages from guys wanting a casual bonk or if you are after more. About Inara Sometimes I need it hard-and-fast, other times I like to take the whole night. I miss making out like a hormone-crazed teenager who knows they shouldn't but desperately wants to tear off clothes and get to it then and there.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seriously, if you mention in the first few sentences that you are "root rat" that is what a guy will have in his head regardless of what you have written in the rest of your profile. Well, obviously you are not going to say that, lol. But mentioning wanting fun, sex, NSA, that you are experimenting, and anything else sexually explicit is a no no if you are after the better guys.... in my opinion anyway.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you don't say you're up for it you are accused of being on the 'wrong site'. If you do, it's read as an invitation for every cock with a pulse so send you (little) head shots... Without that opening all I received was contact from men - despite not looking or being interested. With that line at least I sometimes get replies from the people I am looking for. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Little head shots :P
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Inara' If you don't say you're up for it you are accused of being on the 'wrong site'. If you do, it's read as an invitation for every cock with a pulse so send you (little) head shots... Without that opening all I received was contact from men - despite not looking or being interested. With that line at least I sometimes get replies from the people I am looking for. - Posted from rhpmobile Well that's good isn't it?? Just depends what you are looking . Just saying that some women, and not specifically you Inara, complain about all the shit messages they get but it is often because of the way they have written their profile.... sometimes. But if you are getting responses from people you are interested in well that is great..... you will have to just weed out the good ones. Mind you, I don't think I have to say I am up for it. If a guy said that to me I would tell him where to stick it! How rude. I am here for my own reasons and not just to bonk just anyone.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's not single women who are fakes/flakes; It's people. Some are online and some are IRL. I'm more likely to ignore somebody IRL than I am online. I have been stood-up by men, women and couples and I suspect the same thing happens with speed dating and IRL equivalents. You either roll with it or leave - there's not much point in complaining. (and this thread reminds me *exactly* why I don't bother with the forums anymore)- Posted from rhpmobile
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