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Inexperience
September 15 2013
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
I've played a 'teaching' role in the past year, although, she was a little older than you. I felt protective, and privileged. She was shy but at the same time very eager to learn, and that made all the difference DG- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You have the rest of your life to have these experiences. I'm sure many guys would like to teach you some things, heck, even plenty of women would too if that's your thing. Good luck in your search.
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RHP User
11 years ago
....purchasing a vibrator and learning about what makes an orgasm for you first.Experiment with it. An orgasm is not just something a guy 'gives' you. It's completely interactive.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You have just caught the attention of hundreds of guys, eager to teach you everything. My advice: Screen well, and set your standards high. You are a lamb to many and there are a lot of wolves amongst the many pleasant and honest guys here. Some will try and take advantage of you and use your inexperience for their own benefit. Good luck and sta safe.
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RHP User
11 years ago
It could be seen as a transient or fleeting asset much like your virginity ... 0 for 3 on the orgasm with one of those a special occasion ... someone is letting the team down boys ? ... you can do a lot better and no doubt will.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Echoing Mesmerised sentiments and even going a step further. I dont think this is the place for you yet. The online thing i think can be risky. Go out and get experience the old pre online age way like we all used to ;)- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Start by "Giving" yourself an orgasm or three before you look to involve a partner. Learn what works for you, learn how your body responds, learn what turns your mind on. Don't expect men to "give" you orgasms, take responsibility for your own pleasure then learn to share that journey with a partner. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Take the power back. It's not up to others, it's up to you to find your niche. I know it is so much easier to give that chore to another, but don't. And as Mesmerised said, screen well my dear sister. You have just put yourself on the chopping block. Screen well those wolves & stay safe xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Be careful, stay safe and be smart about it.I think what everyone else has said is spot on. You have figure out some things yourself - and perhaps take a few steps understanding who you are and what you want before diving into this.Good luck.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Honey, just go meet people offline. Its hit and miss there as well, but at least you do not put yourself in a high risk situation.You have no idea who your meeting, many do not want to use a condom and your youth might make you subject to pressure.Orgasms are not given nor foundWhat is found is that guy you meet at some social interaction where you get to communicate about all kinds of things, life the meaning of the universe to the point where you are on the same page.then you can be honest. You can say thats not working for me. You can play around and have fun without his cock being any where near you.There are many ways to reach the Big OI would tell both my daughters, go with the guy that you can have an orgasm with , without the use of his cock.good luck honey and play safe.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hey aetherskies, I cant help but echo the sentiments of everyone above here. Being young & inexperienced is not a bad thing. If I were to play big brother to you here, I would probably recommend you look for a committed relationship where you feel secure enough to learn together, and with someone who does not have an agenda other than to get to know you well, and look out for your fulfilment & wellbeing, wishing for that to be returned in kind. Someone who longs for your company, who looks forward to the next time seeing you. A travel partner to share life's journeys with seems more suitable than a teacher. Sex is just one aspect of sexuality. Sexuality encompasses so much more about what it is to be human, and ultimately lead towards fulfilment rather than just satisfaction. Take your time. Explore yourself. Explore yourself with someone else. Grab some good books which describe the inner workings of human emotion, romantic engagement and sexuality. Take a wide berth of a porn only mentality of sex. Most of all, be safe. It takes experience (of other people and their intentions) to be assertive and stand up for yourself and your own needs for emotional and physical safety, and to be able to weed out liars and people who may take advantage of you. There are plenty of them on sites such as these. Sincerely, blessings and best wishes to you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Getting experience through random encounters with guys off of dating sites is not going to give you the same experiences you would get from more traditional setting (friends, clubs etc) you'd miss out on some of the things that are exciting about being young with little responsibility and may just twist your perception of men and relationships. Your young, go out, have wild flings and passionate romances, break a heart or two, get yours broken, live and learn. All of my friends that I have talked to about orgasm all found it the same way, themselves! Don't rely on others to do what you can for yourself.Play safe, always let someone know where you are going and who you are meeting. Meet in public first! If the person is offended by this, then they are probably not trustworthy. Always go with your gut instinct, if it doesn't feel right do not be afraid to bail.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have a vibrator, and I know how to get myself off with and without it. Thank you everyone for your advice.
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wingman2014
11 years ago
Learn all about your body first . So many young women (and men) still don't understand just how their bodies respond to different sensations. And yes screen well ... Screen VERY well. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree with deepbluesomthing Buy a vib and test the waters of what gives you the pleasures... In many cases when people self help they tend to have a hard and fast big O as no one knows your body needs like you do...
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RHP User
11 years ago
With a daughter almost your age, what scares me the most is that she is young, venerable and very naive with relationships. Men will take full advantage of your innocence...believe me they will!!! They'll sweet talk, lie, deceit, manipulate, emotionally abuse you and tell you all sorts of bullshit for a root, shag a bit of oral. You will not mean anything to men on here, just a huge boost to their ego and a challenge, they will prey on you and groom you. Sorry but that's the truth honey. As others have Sweeti...go out into the real world and gain some real life experiences with boys your age, learn about your body first, explore it and learn to love it, learn how YOU it gets the big "O". I wish you all the best, I really do! At the end of they day it's your choice what to do. HUGS FOXY xxxxx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I've put myself in much riskier situations "in the real world" when I was younger than I ever have on here. I'm not much of a drinker and I'm very level-headed, but random sex was a vice and it's a miracle I lived to tell the tale on a few occasions. I think safety has as much to do with maturity and taking personal responsibility than it does anything else. OP, I agree with all the varied comments in this thread so far. Safety is paramount - do whatever you can to stay safe always. There's a thread on it on Secret Women's Business, perhaps pop in and have a read. Always always always always insist on protection for all forms of sexual activity, including oral. One night of carelessness can have long-term repercussions so look after yourself. Set your standards high and be patient. Lots of men, young and old, have absolutely no idea how to kiss, fuck, make love. Some wonderful guys do though, so trust your instincts. If you sense he's crap, he's probably crap. Discover your body - you can buy toys but don't forget you also have hands and fingers, the original girls' toys :) I was in my early 20s before I had my first clitoral orgasm. I was in my late 30s before I experienced truly amazing oral and orgasmed from that. Whatever you do, don't fall for the myth that you need to be able to fuck like a porn star - porn is fiction. Learn to be real, free, uninhibited, relaxed and sexually expressive. These things are much better than staged and sanitised porn. I think that's enough advice from an old duck!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'SUPERFOXXY' With a daughter almost your age, what scares me the most is that she is young, venerable and very naive with relationships. Men will take full advantage of your innocence...believe me they will!!! They'll sweet talk, lie, deceit, manipulate, emotionally abuse you and tell you all sorts of bullshit for a root, shag a bit of oral. You will not mean anything to men on here, just a huge boost to their ego and a challenge, they will prey on you and groom you. Sorry but that's the truth honey. As others have Sweeti...go out into the real world and gain some real life experiences with boys your age, learn about your body first, explore it and learn to love it, learn how YOU it gets the big "O". I wish you all the best, I really do! At the end of they day it's your choice what to do. HUGS FOXY xxxxx As venerable as you are FOXY I think the sweeping generalization is a little unfair ... bit like preaching abstinence to teenagers. The OP's vulnerability has been tempered by the very fact she has sought advice ?I will concede that I may ask to brush her hair ... being such a novelty for the likes of Moi.
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madotara69
11 years ago
Being on this site is a choice you have made, and part with choice is experience for it. If I could share some advice to take with your choice, it would be to spend some time listening to what the ladies say in here for a while, maybe even get to know some of them.There is a few million on this site, just imagine that there is only a handful that care for you.Bad choices come with bad consequences, and that can fuck up what should be a good experience. Hope you don't learn the hard way. Mado
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RHP User
11 years ago
If I had any luck in the real world, I wouldn't be here! Hahahahaha.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is all out of orgasms. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
don't need luck your just not looking in the right places ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Ok.... here goes..... and I know I'm going to possibly cop a bit of flack over this... Folks, how about giving the young lady some credit? Ever thought that perhaps she's not as naïve as some posters have been quick to assume. I know all of you have been well-intentioned and have the young lady's best interests at heart... as we all do... however she managed to find this site didn't she? The young-folk of today are a pretty clued-up bunch of people... Aether has also posted that she already knows how to give herself orgasms, and it seems that everyone has been quick to moralise and impart their wisdom, without stopping to think that she may simply be asking a question - not paying a trip to Yoda! I know... it's natural... everyone's motherly and fatherly instincts come out - however as she stated, if she was having any luck in the real world, she wouldn't be on here. I'm sure she's had a good look around... she also found her way to the profiles... and therefore has an understanding of what this site is about - it's no eHarmony...!!!! Aether - to therefore respond (in a non-predatory way) ... and this would depend predominantly on the age and/or maturity of the guy you are with - no, a guy with any sense of maturity and decency wouldn't see inexperience as a turn-off. Hell.... he's probably just as nervous as you are, and like a lot of guys, is talking-up his own level of experience. As you have already discovered, not every guy (or gal by the sound of it!) knows how to help you enjoy your body - but I'm guessing that you either saw them as 'experienced' or they said they were 'experienced' as they had been with a few people in the past. As I'm sure many would agree - it's not the quantity that makes you experienced - it's the quality. Where I do agree with the other posters, is that it's really good fun to find someone (possibly) around your age or level of experience and understanding, and perhaps your own situation, and learn together - no matter where you find them. I think most of us older posters would give their right arm to re-live those days of experimentation, when everything was new and exciting... sigh... Mutual respect is the main thing - and there's no guarantees where you are going to find that! The drunk guy at the bar is probably going to be worse than someone who you've been messaging on rhp a few times. If you are after some great reading and want to avoid the misinformation on the net, try getting a book called "Guide To Getting It On" by Paul Joannides (goofy foot press). It's a large tome, at close to 700 pages, but is an awesome book, covering pretty much everything you can think of, from vanilla to kink... missionary to anal fisting...! It should be available online for around $45.oo I wish you best of luck and envy your situation - oh, to be young again... (Oh.... and as a post-note, there are going to be just as many women wanting to manipulate their way into your knickers as well...!!!)
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Mischeviouslad
11 years ago
No luck away from the site.... Ok.... So..... If you say that, you should accept that most of the guys in here are just as "unlucky" away from this site...... so your job, is to determine WHY as part of your screening processes. Often, it's not hard to work it out from their messages and written profile. DG
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madotara69
11 years ago
I think it is going to rain, shortly
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RHP User
11 years ago
As Auzzguy has already said 'you don't need luck' first and foremost - you've got to like yourself!!!! for other's to like you...... Learn to be confident. Find a couple of your strong points - and capitalise on them. If you have a killer smile, beautiful teeth - use it. Gorgeous smoldering eyes, beautiful healthy shiny hair??? Nice tits, cute ass, long legs!!! Nothing says sexy more than a little confidence in yourself. If it's not working IRL - jump on a couple of the more vanilla sites - learn how to flirt!!!! A bit of banter back & forth.... Yes!! Stay safe and don't put yourself in situations where u are not in control.. Good luck Hun Gypsy💋- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I seriously regret posting this. All I wanted was an answer to the question I asked. I don't need extra parents. I don't need to be warned about the dangers of meeting people online. Just an answer. That's all I wanted. Thank you, SteamedPunk. <3
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JessicaRabbit
11 years ago
I joined the site when I was only 19 too and am yet too be taken advantage of (unless I asked for it ) or mistreated. Everyone has to start learning somewhere and you don't necessarily need to disclose that you're inexperienced..you might be a natural! The fact that you're a woman and obviously sexually open minded makes you a winner in many people's eyes on here so enjoy the ride!- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
to go back to the original question being inexperienced isn't a bad thing at all but be confident with it - confidence is a massive turn on in a woman (for me anyway). I'd struggle to think that many guys would say no to teaching a 19yo experimental nympho! The fact that you haven't experienced a lot should be a big appeal to a someone - to be that person that you will always remember as the one that gave you your first orgasm (or multiple) or whatever sexual experience is something most guys would love!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Inexperience can be found in many people of all ages who have lived "sheltered" lives and are just stepping out.When the person is inexperienced and willing I would describe it more of a privilege than a turn on, though yes when they are eager and hot for it yes it's a turn on !Inexperienced, hesitant and unsure is a turn off ! I would not start cajoling and coaxing a shy person.My advice would be to go for the upper end of your age range, screen carefully and don't fuck on the first date unless it is absolutely positively going hot and gangbusters.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Good on you aetherskies. Nothing wrong with getting some experience in. At least your not doing the guy thing and bragging about your experience when you have none.lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Perhaps soon would be a good time to earn your 'Chocolate Wings' or 'Bachelor of Rimming' degree.
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RHP User
11 years ago
There's something inherently wrong with that statement "never been given an orgasm". I guarantee no man ever was given his first orgasm, he got it himself. Very few women (of the very few that have them) will have been given their first themselves either, my other half's first orgasm was something she had to discover how to do herself. Passing the responsibility on to someone else to take charge of giving you an orgasm is an almost sure fire way to ensure you never have one. Apologies if this has been covered already, I haven't read the whole thread. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
whether you meet someone here or in IRL,there are no guarantees,life is a risk.Will men regard your inexperience as a turn off.....some might, others wont.Orgasms are tricky things for women,you will find that some men know exactly how to float your little boat...they tend to be the unselfish lovers,and not necessarily the ones that boast about their pussy whispering skills.The thing about the forums OP is that the people here posting are all pretty much a nice caring group,weird concept I know to find that on a site that has sex as its main focus,.So ,even though they gave you lots of unwanted advice,perhaps it is worthwhile taking at least some of it into consideration.
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RHP User
11 years ago
what a great and informative post....will definitely add ''The Guide to Getting It On'' to my list
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madotara69
11 years ago
when I was around the same age as the OP, there were plenty of good people around, caring people and with the job I had as a barman, I interacted with them people. Because I interacted with them, they became a part in this life we walk, I say we as Tara and our family is the life we walk to now.That life we walk is greatly helped by advice that was offered, it wasn't asked for? At that time I did not think it was.Back then, I did not know what the answers to my questions were, though what I have learnt, is that without knowing the answer, then I don't understand the question.If I can't understand the question, then I am naive to what I think for want.Those people were not being my parents, they just knew the questions I would one day ask.If I did not take advice and learn to care for Tara, then I doubt she would have had many orgasms at all. Therefore I would have had a lot less myself.Mado, Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sorry aetherskies!! I am sure you will find many guys interested in teaching you a thing or two!!! Gypsy💋- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'aetherskies' I seriously regret posting this. All I wanted was an answer to the question I asked. I don't need extra parents. I don't need to be warned about the dangers of meeting people online. Just an answer. That's all I wanted. Thank you, SteamedPunk. <3 So what answers where you expecting to hear???Did you want only "guys" to post".FOXY
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RHP User
11 years ago
I guess when i was 19 i thought i knew everything too. I think the advice that most people are giving, they are giving because they wouldnt feel right if they didnt give it. I guess the only way anyone really learns is by making their own mistakes. If i were you i probably wouldnt listen either.....- Posted from rhpmobile
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chevtrek
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mesmerised' You have just caught the attention of hundreds of guys, eager to teach you everything. My advice: Screen well, and set your standards high. You are a lamb to many and there are a lot of wolves amongst the many pleasant and honest guys here. Some will try and take advantage of you and use your inexperience for their own benefit. Good luck and sta safe. There is no way to pick the right guy but if he don't take time to explore your body and also teach what guys like then he's using you...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Omg you are going to be swamped . Slow down and take your time , please , your a baby . I meant that in the nicest way ! Enjoy your youth , oh fuck I sound like a dad . Be careful hey.
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RHP User
11 years ago
To be honest here might not be the best avenue try a boyfriend of fwb who's just as experienced as you and experiment. Unless you are into teacher student then here is where you want to be. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
as if this is real...hahah "seems legit"
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tamworthguy46
11 years ago
Hi......I'm sure you have been inundated with offers by now, some of them will be bullshit !.....and some might even be genuine........go with your gut........and have fun......all the choices are up to you ...... Tam
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RHP User
11 years ago
Mmmm Skies seriously if your so savvy about sex then why put such a post up? What exactly did you think people would say? This without sounding to harsh shows your immaturity. Having said that good luck with your search am sure there will be heaps in boxing you. Take care and be safe :-)
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RHP User
11 years ago
...Absolutely not a turn off in any way at all.As far as 'teaching' goes though, there is not really an across the board lesson for sex other than to go where your own sensuality wants to take you. If by teaching you mean 'what guys want', there is no standard, so the only skill you should really try to learn is sensitivity and awareness to what is happening in the moment.What is a turn off is someone whose technique is clearly something they got from porn or a magazine or article on 'what guy's want in bed'. Respond to what's happening and what you are sensing, not an idea in your head. That's the biggest turn on of all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Aetherskies: Personally, I don't find inexperience a turnoff at all. And if I was in your age range, and a lot closer to you, I would love to give you some more experience in a truly respectful and sensual experience.
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