Intelligence and respect...and apparent maturity... do not always go hand in hand...

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  Ice_Fire

  14 years ago

  Glad you have had some good experiences to counteract the not so great ones Henry.it is sad but true that people can forget the basic rules of manners and human interaction once they are dealing somewhat anonymously online I have a personal rule that if someone peeves me off or says the wrong thing then i tell them (i am like that in person too, often gets me into trouble lol) if i feel after a while chatting that i am not compatible with someone then i say so, if i am going to block someone i tell them and say why but i know that it is rare for people to do this, sometimes it is just not wanting to deal with confrontation sometimes they just don't care you never really know which.I know that Mr GC has had ladies chat to him and be all ready to actually go the next step and then for no apparent reason and with no explanation they say 'sorry i don't want to talk to you anymore' and that is it. I see the frustration that it causes and therefore try not to inflict that on others, we try to treat others as we would like to be treated, simple.I think the best bet in these situations is to look at it as their loss not yours and just move on to the next one (as hard as that can be).Anyway glad you got it off your chest and hope you feel better,Mrs GC

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  We have come across some rudeness also. Mostly regarding chat, emails and date responses. When it is them who originally ask us to email them, come onto chat and meet up. We're fairly new at online dating sites, and we still haven't scored a date where our date has shown up or replied back to comfirm that they will be there. Pretty poor to be honest. We have been told on many occasions to look into other couples (lol by other couples of course) but we have in the past and she doesn't feel comfortable with another man, so we're only here for women. Though we are very aware how picky they can be. A little honesty and consideration would be appreciated. Jose

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  It's a fact of online life, when you deal with what amounts to a name and a textbox, there's more than one person out there who doesn't feel the need to treat people the way they would face-to-face. Of course you never know the real situation - unless someone goes to the effort to tell you why they do a particular thing you have few additional cues to give you an idea... At least in RL you have nonverbals, phone there's tone of voice etc... Goes with the territory. Not too nice, basically because you feel you haven't been treated as a person. But then again, if they don't treat you as a person then you may be lucky they're not interested... Unless that's your bag of course hehe... C'est la vie.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  a lesson in morality ... thanks ?

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Henry...I think you should come down here and put your head on my shoulder and let me give you a hug till one of us feels all better !! :-) Dont like rudeness...or arrogance...or racism....or stupidity altho Im willing to give them a chance to prove me wrong.....or inconsiderate ppl........but i try to just sigh and think...they do unto themselves.......

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Unfortunately it happens..online and in real life..rude, disrespectful people...acting poorly... For example, a person who joins this site, marks "attached" in the lifestyle info, then states they are after discreet fun...sorta gives the impression that said person is looking for a bit on the side without the significant other finding out...and that would be a tad disrespectful and rude to the wife/husband/partner....just my opinion..I'm sure that is not the case with you Henry

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Yes I don't often get drawn into mud slinging matches but recently have with what I would have thought was a mature woman with something to say. I had a mild objection to her unwarranted negative opinion of someone elses choice of hairstyle and I get berated beyond belief. It seems the anonymity of a forum really allows people to act very badly indeed. I try to approach all my posts as if I was replying to a person face to face and even when someone pisses me off I try to curb my irritation with a little dry wit (maybe I'm just too dry?). I think some people think being condescending is a sign of intelligence, I fear these people lack true maturity. Someone with a modicum of intelligence and a little maturity can master the simplicity of being respectful - these are the people I like!

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  masquerading

  14 years ago

  must say I do enjoy wowwows one liners... refreshing and generally echoes my own feelings...

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Love a good opinion and I'm a bit of an opinionated so and so BUT when opinions are personalised (especially resorting to private messaging them) and when opinions are derogatory and always negative, then isn't it best to just keep them to yourself. We all come across a lot of things in life that are not our cup of tea but to live in a harmonious community we don't express all our negative thoughts do we? We show some self control, we know the world won't benefit from continual negativity. So why should it be different here? I'll only jump on someone here if they are being mean, if someone picks on someone in the real world I'll step up to defend them and so will I do the same here. It seems these forums are a great place for bullies to come and remain anonymous while they bully away. It's also funny that the bullies seem to be the ones that get threads closed when it's obvious they are being exposed. If we all play nice then no one will get hurt. This is a sexy hook up site, lets get back to being sexy and maybe, just maybe hooking up!!! Peace to all no matter what your hair style xoxoxox

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Now that is the pot calling the kettle black.

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