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Into kink? How does this translate for you?
February 02 2016
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Katkat
9 years ago
I guess you have to be open minded the way to go but then it all depends what the other person wants & what you want. May be best to talk it out & have some kind of do not push my buttons or I will kick you haha ๐๐ some kind of limits how you want to go that far or not. But then again if you're willing & if that person is really good what they're doing then practice is the way to go & make sure he/them stimulates you good & u should be in control! You have the diamond play it well. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Mr_MrsAraps
9 years ago
I was the one doing the presenting that I am into kink to someone who was initially vanilla but unknowingly to me had had some thought into it. Apart from having an honest and ethical conversation about what that looks like and the things I was interested in, the main thing I also wanted to convey was hey ..... It's a positive thing. I'm into a lot of different things other than vanilla so if your with me then I promise sex will never be boring and always having lots of variety and open to trying new things together ...... Instead of being something that is shamed and something I am inflicting on someone out of duress. If Mrs araps wasn't looking to try stuff also it prob would have been a deal breaker for me (hey, lucky for me ;-) ) Cheers, W.
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RHP User
9 years ago
If they're into kink, i'm interested ๐
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Whereas I have had the kink of being a bi-sexual transvetite. The dilemma of whether to tell someone you have met and have started a relationship.All would be okay if you knew the person you were telling could still see you as the loving person that they have come to know.The million dollar question that I have faced several times in my life. Only rarely I have had that courage.That decision has led to much drama and hurt. OP. Just see that person that is opening up a very personal side of their personality is still the person you have met. They are being open and honest. It deserves at least some understanding and consideration. We are all different inside and one persons kink is another's norm. Annie
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nattyocean
9 years ago
Thanks all and well actually it's me who has the kink side and I'm trying to work out the best way to reveal this side to a man I have just started dating who for all other topics we converse and communicate exceptionally well. Hmmm maybe I just need to get my big girl pants on and tell him straight ๐๐๐ frickin terrifying lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Most guys love the fact I'm into kink , I tell them pretty much strait, away and I think it gets makes more turned on by it ! I think honesty is the best answer , the fact I'm a sub makes it easier for guys to get turned on by it but it's when they ask me to do stuff to them that I'm not used to as I'm a sub not a Dom but I try do anything to please them if that's what they want that's what they get ! But just intro Duse them lightly one you tell them but you never know they mite be into it and you just don't know , but my experience guys are more willing to do kink and get turn on by the thought of it , I say just be honest as honesty is always the best thing to do !! if they like you enough they won't care!! and even try kink with you
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social_suicide
9 years ago
So ... "Maybe you have had this revealed to you and it was either presented very well and you understood"......so no issues there apart from the obvious ie; either you like the kink or not. or........"not so well and you made assumptions which may not have been necessarily accurate or appropriate ๐", which is the fault of the person who cant express their thoughts accurately, which is why so many people state that they are looking for intelligent people to hook up with.
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RHP User
9 years ago
tie him up first
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chevtrek
9 years ago
A good relationship needs honesty andyou need to be honest.The other alternative is to hide it and beunhappy that you cant be who you are.
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RHP User
9 years ago
If you feel he could get scared off. Dont use the words kink or fetish when you bring it up in conversation. Those two words can make a vanilla person put a mental wall up before you even explain what your kinks are. Hopefully he will be open enough to question and be interested in exploring with you.
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RHP User
9 years ago
You're naughty? :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Most guys secretly want their gf's or partners to be kinky, some even stray to find that, satisfy that need. Your partner may or may not be receptive to it so agree with Willow, ease in, maybe throw a tiny bit into conversation. Most of us here would be the same, in that we evolve as we go, even if your partner isn't on the same page right now, acting out some fantasies might just spark the need for more, good luck, hope it works out for you ๐
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inspirit
9 years ago
..at the cucumbers... Is that kinky? ๐ - Posted from rhpmobile
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inspirit
9 years ago
Fish fingers. ๐๐๐๐๐ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's kinky only if the cucumbers smile back ๐xxFreya
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Lovinit28andKC72
9 years ago
Open mind. โค๏ธ Fun โค๏ธ Naughty โค๏ธ My kind of person โค๏ธ I'm a believer in laying all cards on the table. I'm pretty open to what I like, no good hiding it when it's what I'm looking for. ๐
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RHP User
9 years ago
If I genuinely care about the person, I'm not only happy to discuss kinks but also happy to explore them with him. I do have boundaries and if those kinks overstep my boundaries, I won't hold it against him and happy to negotiate how his kinks can be satisfied.
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Haleakala
9 years ago
No but it's kinky if all you buy is cucumbers, lube and condoms - Posted from rhpmobile
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twowithnolimits
9 years ago
here is an example of the problem you make for yourself... "Whereas I have had the kink of being a bi-sexual transvetite.The dilemma of whether to tell someone you have met and have started a relationship." why have you entered into a relationship at all without first being open about your needs, in my experience you can be pretty open from the off without being too in the face then read their reaction, compromising your needs for the sake of having a relationship seldom if ever works so why do it...? "If Mrs araps wasn't looking to try stuff also it prob would have been a deal breaker for me.." openness and honesty is the best policy, would you want to be further involved and months down the track and then have the truth become a problem??
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RHP User
9 years ago
Like everything in this world... KINK is a continuum! At one end there is a vanilla person experimenting with a pair of pink fluffy cuffs and at the other end... well anything the human mind can imagine and the human body can execute. As others have said... it is about communication... some will like it... others will not... if they do not like it... do not do it... that is where it becomes abuse!
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
So easy to tap out in black and white on the keyboard? And easy with hindsight? I have no idea what kink the OP has to confess and it makes little difference. I presume she has started a relationship and emotions have got involved. Realization the the confession could end it. Decision time. For me, been there. Different now. I wont put myself in that position again. Ive learnt but only through violence, blackmail and society rejection of those that dont fit the mold. But believe me, it's never black and white within the mind.
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inspirit
9 years ago
Valentines day Ill be shopping in the veg aisle. OP just tell him you like shopping. Im sure he'll be quite interested. KINK IS NOT A DIRTY WORD!!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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dananddre
9 years ago
We'd strongly recommend taking a stroll over to fetlife.com and seeing what's out there! What a lot of people don't realize is even things that most of us do in our bedrooms everyday are considered kinks... (e.g. hairpulling, light spanking etc...) It is an awesome eye opener over there- there's a lot of erotic photography and literature, and even though it won't all be your cup of tea in the bedroom it's still really interesting to learn about. We still find r.h.p. the spot for meeting people for fun, but for growth of your own sexual awareness (towards yourself and others) it's certainly worth a look!
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RHP User
9 years ago
I feel honesty is so very important and I am talking of the up front kind. Chev said it well in hiding it and being unhappy in that situation and besides who wants to pretend to be something they are not. As for the kink thing is concerned I feel the word kink is bandied about way too much, maybe 20-30 years ago this worked but so much of the so called kink is so mainstream now that you may be surprised what a vanilla (shit I hate that term) might actually consider to be kink.
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