Introducing BDSM into a relationship

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Hi there. First of all find out if you're on the same page. Ask yourselves some simple questions. Obviously you like being dominated so therefore you can consider yourself as bottom. But maybe your partner isn't top or like to dominate you. So find out your fetishes. Talk about your fantasies. There are so many ways to play restraining games. Then when you have gone through the details it will be much easier to play. A good way is to look at some BDSM vids on the net.

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  MsSuperFoxy

  10 years ago

  How much to you know about BDSM Newysub?? To the best of my knowledge BDSM is not just about tying someone up, whips, hand cuffs etc. I believe a lot of people confuse BDSM and adding extra kinks into the bedroom. If YOU are doing this to spice up your relationship and what YOU want ..I highly doubt it will work unless you take the time talk to her as in really talk to her and listen. There is a lot to consider about BDSM...like aftercare, which to me is the most important, I believe not many consider this or know or even have much knowledge on it. Do some research in this area. There is also trust and communication which is a huge part of BDSM. There's some great reading material out there...maybe introduce some books and speak to others, fully include your partner. However you can't make her do anything she does not want to do. You are on the right track by seeking advice... Just like hair shampoo it won't happen overnight but it happen - take your time, relax and have fun with it. Foxy

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  A great newbie book to help you both on your path is "Screw the Roses, hand me the thorns" a good instruction book but of course there are many Enjoy your experiences

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Thanks for the advice so far guys! Really appreciated. I am talking about it with her and telling her everything i want to try, but am taking it slow as it just makes me nervous/ i get scared of her thinking im weird, even though she has told me a number of times that she thinks its normal (guess thats jut the way i am haha) We have been dating for a while and i have taken the time to listen to what she wants and give her that, which is probably why she is pretty open to trying things with me. Talking more about fetish interests is something that i try and do but she isnt really sure she has any. I guess sitting down and finding out things that she might be interested in, to she what she likes might be a good idea. She is definently more of a top kind of girl, we have tried tying her but she tells me that she rathers to be the one in controll of the situation (but does like me taking control at times which i also like too) I do need to read more about BDSM i guess. I thought i had a reasonable understaning and know that it goes a lot deeper than purely restraints, but thats the main part of it that im interested in at the moment. I havnt read anything about aftercare at all, ill have a look into that. Thanks for letting me know :) I understand that it will take some time, thanks for the reassurance. Just want to see if there is anything that will ease it along, which both of you have given me some good tips :) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  You might want to try introduction into BDSM by an experienced Pro-domme or experienced mistress may be able to show you things you can't even begin to imagine. I agree with the others, you can't develop your partner into a dominant female if she doesn't have the express desire to do so. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Do you know of any. I am a bi girl and want to be fully submissive to a woman. I also like to be watched.

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