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June 04 2020
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Kokoflamingo
5 years ago
Wat U up 2..........Hi.........Up 4 Fun?........An eggplant emoji once :) or Do you like ass fucking? Rude, immature and totally disrespectful. Its an introduction, make yourself appealing. Ive had some great first messages, and luckily they make up for the others. These are there guys I tend to end up meeting. Profiles with no photos and Ask me for all the questions...what is the point?
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RHP User
5 years ago
I dont waste my time on people who seem to have a problem with being upfront. I tend to reply with same effort as they gave me. Or comment on the template message they send, even better when u get it the 2nd time 3 months later. Dont accept bad manners only you can control that. Online behaviour is going down hill fast thanks to epidemic. Unrequested dic pics became the norm. Now it seems wank vids sent without a introduction are the newest idea that men think are a great way to say hi. I have nothing against a wank vid if i know the cock well. Otherwise its just yep ta. Or I will tell them it looks like a poster ad for what a std looks like.
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wildcrazyloving
5 years ago
I don't mind these messages/profiles.. I usually skim over them and focus on the ones who have displayed some effort.
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AnnieWhichway
5 years ago
I don't care any more. It happens a lot. But l see it as it is. I look at the blurb of the profile that thought l was worthy of sticking his cock into perhaps a romantic blowie prior. Makes me feel special...... So it makes me garnish a few seconds of my valuable spare time to check out the few lines of script that edges around his life story, aspirations and dreams before l decide if l should block him permanently from ever meeting
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MsJonesy
5 years ago
Now I don't even shrug as I close the message and delete. I figure those actions took as much effort as them typing "DTF?"
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nightingale8
5 years ago
Yes you’re asking too much. Being on the receiving end of many messages (if you’re female) the good ones stand out and the rest *appear* as lazy empty crusts. The “Hi” and “WYD” people just haven’t yet worked out that’s not the path to success, how could each and every one of them know if they only see their own messages?
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SpicyKale
5 years ago
I just look at it as training for a future post covid career as a psychic 🤷♂️ A blank profile is probably better than one that proclaims to be the Dalai Lama of pussy eating.... under promise, over deliver!
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nightingale8
5 years ago
(I’d hardly think Hi and WYD is rude. Even DTF. Just a poverty of understanding what women tend to like)
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RHP User
5 years ago
Well, you're a guest member, so you haven't paid a dollar. Here's the same, but from a guy's side. You sign up. You thoughtfully fill out your profile. You put more time into your profile. You pay. I'll say that again - you pay. You check your profile again and reword it. You search and favourite and like and send out emails that day with compliments. With thought. With a bit of banter and some cheek. You send emails the next day, the next day. And then? No replies. Maybe one. Perhaps two. All those other emails. You see that they've viewed them. They still don't reply. Well? That's life. So, on one side you're feasting with attention. Perhaps not the poetic attention you seek. On the other side, many are planting seeds with passion yet in wondering why the are in famine. Hope you're smiling though. Enjoy the attention! :)
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Tall74nHard9
5 years ago
that manners can be somewhat of a luxury on here. Goes on both sides of the fence.Some people will - most people won't.You'll soon find out who and what to look out for. Tall
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Mrs_Deep_Love
5 years ago
You should probably be happy you get messages. Many on here don't.
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missy_mo0
5 years ago
Or the conversations that begin with “ask me a question”.... instant conversation killer for me. No conversation needs to begin with that question, especially not if the person asking it initiated contact
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indulge_you
5 years ago
As a male I expect most sent messages not to be answered.A short sentence gets as many positive replies as 3 or4 well thought out sentences. Writing more i figure won't get read.I can address statements made in profile to be told sorry your not what I am looking for Being the paid member it's my message to waste I am keen to see what a well written first message should look like
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Phoenix_Rising
5 years ago
Nah not really, I just give them the same amount of effort they gave thier profile 🤷🏼♀️
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Kokoflamingo
5 years ago
If someone.....thinks a first message consisting of 3 letters is good enough then yes, its rude and also damned lazy. Then they moan that they dont get replies.
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RHP User
5 years ago
Hmm the transactional dynamics of this site and how to navigate the often-frustrating introduction… It’s problematic on both sides of the equation, without question… particularly given that most, not all, females are guests and can’t initiate contact and that most males are paying members with the onus on them to reach out in the first instance… that being said I would hasten to add that the quantity of introductions being received by women are overwhelming and the quality, on average, are probably less than desirable… For me, and this is only my experience and opinion, I have taken the time to the genuinely express whom I am in my profile thus allowing a greater insight for those that may be interested.My details are honest, to the point and sincere.I personally take the time to read and consider each profile that piques my interest and when introducing myself and my interest in another person I always maintain a level of respect and decorum that I would consider reciprocated, whether that be on the site or if it happened to be a ‘real world’ organic meet up. On the whole face pic upfront misnomer… life is complicated and whilst this is a dating site, it is expressly more explicit than most… for me I choose not to have my face pic situated here due to my very public role and desire to not bring unwanted attention or judgment on either myself or the organisation that I work within.Furthermore I am upfront about this in my introduction to those that expressly require this upon initial contact and suggest sharing these details via other means.Furthermore, I always take the time to respond inkind to those that have taken the time and courtesy to communicate in return, whether that be the start of a more exploratory conversation or a polite ‘not interested’ from the get go and a thank you for responding. I can honestly say that 99% of the time that level of maturity I rarely receive in return, in fact, and purely from a guy’s perspective, these are the most annoying habits of people on the site: + thoughtful, polite and genuine interest put forward – no response… ever (but message read) + thoughtful, polite and genuine interest put forward – blocked + thoughtful, polite and genuine interest put forward – response received, replied in-kind – no further response – ever (and sometimes blocked) + or worse – great conversation, arrange a meet-up at her insistence then ghosted, and no further contact from her… I understand that everyone’s experiences are different, and people’s motivations, circumstances and sincerity vary, and that this is just my opinion and not everyone will agree, which is totally fine and to be expected.Acknowledging that this does not represent all those amazing women I connected with, it sadly does represent the majority though… and I’ve come to understand that if the decency wasn’t/isn’t there to begin with then the likelihood that I’d actually enjoy their company in real life to be highly unlikely…
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RHP User
5 years ago
Not really, but i get your point. I onky contact people im REALLY interested in after looking at their profile a few times and considering it. I reply to all nessages sent, no matter how short. Its onky polite. I try to be the same in my messages as i would im person when meeting a stranger. Say; Hello, how are you? Nice to meet you, Whatcha been doing tofay? Would you like a coffee? I suppose a fuck's out of the question? I dont launch into a massive series of complinents or ask about your life story wgen meeting a stranger in person, and i dont do it on here. Short and sweet gives the recipient enough to know I'm here and have made contact , gives them a chance to look me over first (just like in person) before responding quickly with some pleasantries or a polite, Thanks but no thanks. Thats just my experience from a single male (dime a dozen, plague proportions, whater the opposite of unicorns are) perspective. *That ones a joke of course, just to annoy the annoyable 😘
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SpicyKale
5 years ago
These questions are a bit like groundhog day! I'm with the OP, it doesn't take any more than half an hour to fill your profile out properly. If you're actually going to bother paying for membership, why the hell wouldn't you do at least that? It goes for guys, girls and couples... what are you meant to do when a blank couples profile with no pics favourites you? The new site update has meant a stack more of those for us for some reason. I'd always thought that blocking for no reason was a bit egotistical, but it's the only way to clear your inbox these days! As to the question of the ladies on here not being paid members, 320 paid female accounts from my reckoning. Who knows how many single guys are paid members... I could scroll through 2000 paid guys accounts Australia wide before the site stopped me and I was still in the premium plus section with the premium to go! I doubt that's half way through.... similar numbers in the couples profiles! Damn I'm in the wrong business, that's a fuck load of money!
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RHP User
5 years ago
Bring back the flirt option! I base the shorter messages on the profile effort & go from there. If there is no effort in the profile I’m not interested.
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sweetnyorkshire
5 years ago
so long as your profile is developed and can answer all the basic questions
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SpicyKale
5 years ago
Tend to agree, the new like and favourite replacement for flirts is a bit meh and impersonal. The matching bit I like, we've got a few to follow up on from that inclusion. At least they didn't follow the trend of allowing likes and comments on photos that other sites overseas have done!
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MnauMnau
5 years ago
Quoting 'SpicyKale' As to the question of the ladies on here not being paid members, 320 paid female accounts from my reckoning. Who knows how many single guys are paid members... I could scroll through 2000 paid guys accounts Australia wide before the site stopped me and I was still in the premium plus section with the premium to go! I doubt that's half way through.... similar numbers in the couples profiles! Damn I'm in the wrong business, that's a fuck load of money! I've been saying this for years.... paid my bit for years and cant be bothered to pay now. App doesn't work, upgrade is useless, notifications doesn't work (and missed an email then got abused ). Now is RHP asking to pay if you want to see who likes you or who is your match! need to milk it hard... Posts are censored or deleted without any warning and I have a wild guess "some" people here on forums are volunteers or part of .r:h:p: team, just to keep some activities.The company should clean up all the ghost profiles and profiles with paid services... Back to OPas some already said before, some of you are expecting thought through, well written messages but you cannot reply back "thank you, no thank you".I used to send 3-5 messages a day with few lines - introduction and what Im after as a starter (no copy/paste template!!) and received back less than 2 replies per month and few blocks.
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HolyFunk
5 years ago
Random blank contact generally indicates , laziness, a blazay attitude, and a general I expect the fun to come to me attitude. 🤜🤛 Well my interpretation of it.
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RHP User
5 years ago
I have every right to not be thankful for every wanna fuck messages i get. However on the very rare occasion you can chat and meet really good respectful people. I dont accept shitty behaviour and certainly would never entertain the idea of meeting any that did.
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click_lick
5 years ago
I am with LipsLegsLingerie and SurfSeaMan. As SurfSeaMan says, short and to the point is closer to real world. Single word, acronym or single emoji openings is however unacceptable in my opinion. That is also very remote from what someone would say or do meeting a stranger for the first time. I fully appreciate the women get swamped because the technology is enabling such behaviours from men (in my opinion a small minority). Someone who fires off a crappy opening would not have the guts or opportunity to do so in the real world....cold ignorance, drink spilled in the face, bouncers kicking one out are just some of the deterrents that come to mind. None of this exists on an online platform. However, the frustrating response behaviour is very much the online expression of what would go on in real world as well and, yet again, the anonimity provided by technology enables this. So...sometimes you lose and sometimes the others win on an online platform. I suppose it all comes with the turf of online dating....for all participants. Instead of getting frustrated or even wasting a thought about unthoughtfull messages....just delete...unread. And try and focus on the good ones.
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2EssesExploring
5 years ago
Ok let’s jump in a time machine and go back to a time before covid, May let’s go back to a time before the web of all things. You wanted to meet someone, you went to a bar. You saw a lovely potential friend sitting alone at the bar so you sat down beside them. You glanced their way with a friendly smile, you took in their reaction, if it was a frown or rolling eyes you ordered your drink and wished them a good night and went and played pool. If they gave you a warm smile you responded with something like “Hi, how is your night going so far?” If they said “It’ll be better when you vacate that seat” or “I’m just about to catch up with 3 girls for a girls night out” then you realise she’s lovely and polite but just not into you so you go find the pool table. If she says “I’m looking forward to meeting some interesting people so why don’t you sit down and tell me about yourself” then you try not to let out a little squeal of glee and you sit down and try to be the most interesting version of yourself you can. Now fast forward to dating rhp style, what would this same conversation look like? You see a profile you’re interested in but let’s be honest you see quite a number of profiles that interest you as the net is cast much wider than a few seats at the old bar you remember playing a LOT of pool at. So you decide to send a message, do you start with “Hi, I like your profile and hope you like mine too”, nope that’s too short and generic. So is it you open with a synopsis of the past 5 years of your life? You have to rewrite a new synopsis for each new contact as people just wont tolerate a form message. After the 4th response of “sorry I’m not interested” you now have rsi and cannot write another word not to mention you feel slightly depressed that even though you have expressed yourself to the best of your ability you suspect that your lack of six pack must be the issue else you might have to accept that you’re an interminable bore! So I get that the “Wot you doin’” from an empty profile is like having a person who hasn’t showered for a week nor changed their clothes sit down next to you and flash their decaying teeth your way with a quip something like “I wanna get in your pants” but then I do feel most people here will judge a contact and put them in the trash so quickly for even the smallest diversion from their endless list of requirements that expending a great deal of thought and effort to make every first contact the most stimulating you can is just not a worthwhile endeavour. Surely a fairly descriptive profile is a prerequisite but even then there is always more to learn and sometimes you just don’t know what you don’t know you’re looking for. The absolutely best friends/lovers/clients/business contacts I have made have come from a surprise meeting or even from someone I judged harshly on first meeting only to be blown away by their awesomeness once I got to know them. So maybe just maybe we should all chill out, the “wot you doin’” guy will more likely meet the “letting you get into my pants” girl and that’s super and if we send a short message (when we were paid but not any more) to say “Hey we like your profile” isn’t adequate to get you to have a quick look at ours and respond if you feel the same then you are likely way too much hard work for us anyway. Hmmm maybe we are lazy or there’s method to this madness 🤓
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mjulzy
5 years ago
If a profile has no pics at all and limited bio I keep on scrolling..not for me
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livelifegohard
5 years ago
Well hear is the problem !!!do guys get lazy, yes !!because we are not getting bombarded with introductions because males pay and most, not all, girls are guess. I personally only select one every so often to continue and look extensively at your profile looking for similar interest and compatibility, write an intelligent in-depth introduction and if you ever get a reply, it’s not what I’m looking for...... even after you did everything you requested like read my profile and make mention of topic in my profile. I’m not having a winge it’s just my prospective on the situation. I thought this online dating thing would be the bomb 💣 people would be real, honest and upfront, cut out all the wasted hours trying organically to see if they is compatibly know matter what you are looking for. But if you meet someone organically you might not at first found them attractive but after engaging in a conversation you found them very interesting and found them attractive.
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MsSuperFoxy
4 years ago
Don't need to ask Babydoll, just ignore or block. Its not even worth wasting your time in replying to them as there is no obligation to them. Put your time and effort into those who want to met you. X
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