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Is a 'bad' kiss a deal breaker?
January 06 2021
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RHP User
4 years ago
Oh gross. The all tongue thing is awful. I would be instantly put off too. I don't think I would be training someone I was only with for that evening. Deal breaker.
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2EssesExploring
4 years ago
You’re right that there’s different styles ans we all have our faves and ones we don’t like. A good coupling requires a bit of matching but more so the ability to sense what the other likes and doesn’t. Kissing is usually the first test to see if you can work each other out and both care to adapt to make it enjoyable for the other. Usually if you can’t get this right then the rest will go along the same way. Sometimes it’s just inexperience or someone has only been with one type of kisser and doesn’t know there’s more than one way, in these instances some training may be required.
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Caprice900
4 years ago
Absolutely a good kisser definitely does set the mood, what i mean is that if you are already turned on by the flirting banter touching feeling and the talk well the kissing just takes it to the next level before the sex happens, not saying it's deal breaker but it can be a little disappointing because there is nothing better having a excellent kisser while having sex.
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Rlee552
4 years ago
It depends on what you are looking for and whether a bad kiss is a matter of technique, a misunderstanding as to style or a general approach. While I prefer the softer style (particularly where you do not have a good knowledge of the other persons preference) sometimes a harder approach is sought after. I always think for a first kiss it is better to go soft and then hard if needed than start hard and go soft - pun intended. I also think the second kiss is more important than the first kiss - as there is too much pressure on the first kiss for it to be a good measure. If it is a relationship then it is worthwhile investing the time to improve. If it is a hook up and the other person does not quickly pick up that their technique is wrong for you, then it is likely to be their style and perhaps not invest much more effort. This is particularly true if kissing is important to you. I would never mirror a persons bad technique though. It validates it, means it will continue, may escalate it and sometimes turn it into a competition - duelling tongues and bites. One last observation. I have found it incredibly powerful and sensual to stop a person mid kiss and gently take control over the kiss deliberately making it as slow and sensual as possible - pausing to whisper to them what you are doing and how you want them to experience it. It focuses the attention on the sensory experience of a kiss which is incredibly powerful This has been done on the phone so my grammar, syntax and flow may be off.
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teamaj2
4 years ago
I understand what you are saying, what one person finds worthless another finds a treasure . For me ( F) if I don’t enjoy the kiss it’s game over . I can’t help it . I find kissing a huge part of the build up , the play and it makes me very aroused . Excuse the crudity - my husband’s response- direct them elsewhere 🤦♀️. I did apologise in advance and he was joking . Ax
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RHP User
4 years ago
Kissing a must for me...that passion that just turns me on.. Years ago I had this guy open kissed my mouth, tongue everywhere all around my chin, jaw and face so fast I didn’t know what was going on. I didn’t say anything as I didn’t want to be disrespectful (one nighter). The next day I went to work - everyone asked what was wrong with my face as it was so red and sensitive..never again lol.
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nightingale8
4 years ago
A first kiss, some room for error is allowable. You haven’t learned and adjusted for each other yet. If they haven’t worked it out within a short while then yes I abort! It’s a preview of what oral would be like. This isn’t Jurassic Park... rawrrrrr!! (Who bites on a first kiss!?)
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EarthQueen
4 years ago
Absolutely tell them what you like. If you like them, tell them to stop and tell them what you want. If they listen, they could be worth the effort. If it was NYE and they were drinking they could just be a bit too enthusiastic/tipsy and might not be like that sober. I think decent men like to know how to please women and it starts with kissing so don't be afraid to tell/show them. Sometimes its just inexperience. You can teach someone to kiss well.
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RHP User
4 years ago
With most bad kissers comes a further incompatibility of styles. I tend to give feedback early. If it’s not taken on - I’m out.
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The_Antichrist
4 years ago
Kisses....are a prelude of things to come.
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MsSuperFoxy
4 years ago
Sadly, kissing like a swivel mop, doesn't really sweep people off their feet. People can be taught to kiss passionately by simply communicating. Ms Foxy
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RuralBiCple
4 years ago
Yes unpleasant kissing is a deal breaker, either you have it or you don't, it can't be taught.
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RHP User
4 years ago
100% a deal breake.
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RHP User
4 years ago
If a tongue goes into my earlobe and all i can hear is squishing noise. I recoil and shudder. Not in a good way either. 😳
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FeistyFatty
4 years ago
Definetely a deal breaker. Ive found if you can't get the kissing right..... the rest just goes pear shaped.
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DonnaBrett
4 years ago
Yeah bad kissers can be a turn off...that constant snake tongue wears a bit thin...but bad breath is even worse, now that is an instant mood killer.
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Sawadee
4 years ago
Yep' definately a deal breaker. The best kiss is the one that makes you want more ... Being the type of guy who doesnt go in for the tongue kiss first up ' l think is better, saving the tongue for a more appropriate time.. Even then ' l tend to hold back until it starts to feel right.. But thats just me..
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RHP User
4 years ago
ANYTHING that turns you off is a deal breaker 🤷♂️
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SimplyUs
4 years ago
Not sure it’s an instant deal breaker for us, but kissing is such an important part of having a good connection with someone so it doesn’t bode well...
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MsJonesy
4 years ago
Pretty much a deal breaker for me. I prefer someone to take a little bit of time, some soft kises, gentle nibbles on the bottom lip, then move on from there. Instantly lurching into a flurry of tongue pashing just isn't for me, particularly when they hit the tonsils in the first 5 seconds 🙄
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RHP User
4 years ago
Deal breaker 😔
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Two_Tarts
4 years ago
For us, the kiss test is the most defining one of all when it comes to whether things go further. If someone kisses the way you like, is aware of and responsive to your feedback, and that first 10 seconds has you wanting more, then whatever you do from there on is likely to be awesome. But if that first 10 seconds has you trying to back away with the other person oblivious to how it is going for you then just politely walk away....or run! It is not so much about a particular style, but is definitely about how aware and able two people are to read and work with each other. There is nothing better than a kiss that has you both going F#CK YES!!!
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RHP User
4 years ago
Yup!
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bigmasterking10
4 years ago
Hey! How are you guys? I’m a single guy looking for new experiences 😊
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RHP User
4 years ago
Wowww why would anyone with half a kink in their mind think anything other than a Good kiss is worthy. Like saying is BO just a one off thing.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Its all about reading the moment & the vibes of that person(s)🧐... its the same for sctions of intimacy.🥳 Being in sync, building to it is key (my perspective)🙈🙉🙊... Im more mentally stimulated, & if its not fully flowing but we moving in same direction, guess a touch or kiss & can add further clarify... Sounds like you did it all & the kiss killed it! Did you give him another chance or feedback? 😉
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boobsandbusted
4 years ago
If anyone comes at mrs b like a thirsty dog on a hot summers day and try’s to empty the bowl in the first 2 seconds ,yup I’d say that’s a deal breaker , and oh hell yes the bad breath thing is a deal breaker also ,closely followed by the wet cat fish style of kissing ,that just drives her underground and dries up the vitals like desert sand ,lol
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tickitoff
4 years ago
I (F) completely agree A bad kiss is a major turn off, I just can't do it. We had a couple not long ago, and her kisses her just.... odd? She was opening her mouth and had her mouth covering mine, and then just kept trying to jam her tongue in there amongst it all. Kissing is a major thing for us (mostly be) and if its bad, it can't be overlooked and the mood has turned. There's are always exceptions though, some people are just too gentle and can be taught or are visibly nervous, which I find cute as hell!
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boobsandbusted
4 years ago
@littlegiant, lol , our version of being attacked by a wet cat fish kisser, is one where the person kisses with super wet lips dripping of saliva ,leaving a trail drool and making being sucking smacking sound as they do it ,😱
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boobsandbusted
4 years ago
Sorry ,Should be making big sucking smacking sounds
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RHP User
4 years ago
Simple answer ,YES.
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Firefly4735
4 years ago
It would be a deal breaker for me. I think its a great test on how you will connect by how well your kiss goes
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DancingKing20
4 years ago
100% yes. No chemistry = no heat.
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Sweet_Cherry_Pie
4 years ago
If they can’t manage to co-ordinate their tongue for a kiss, what hope is there for other tongue required activities? As much as kissing between couples can improve, sometimes if it’s just bad, it’s just bad. For me it’s a dealbreaker when we are talking about casual relationships/flings etc, Different if this is someone you see in your future, it is something you can work on together.
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blix_and_queen
4 years ago
Kissing is an instant defining point for us. I think it is just an import part of chemistry equation.
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RHP User
4 years ago
yes simple answer for me
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