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Is an attraction to Transgender gals and guys seen as turn off to women
July 18 2016
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RHP User
8 years ago
Who cares what the wider community thinks about the issue? Indeed, if I did, I daresay I would probably be dead and buried. Maybe it's just some good old fashioned prejudice about what it means to be bisexual or transgender? Perhaps they just aren't that into you and it's the easy out? Ultimatley though, if you have been brave enough to advertise the authentic you and that isn't what they are looking for (for whatever reason) it's best to not waste your energy and time dwelling on that and focus on the people out there that can appreciate your own special brand of wonderful. There is someone for everyone in this big, brave world. ~KK x
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Andremmo
8 years ago
Women are massively outnumbered by men on this site so your profile needs to be awesome if you are going to stand out from the crowd. You only need to fail in small ways to get thrown into the rejected bucket. Looking at your profile I would immediately pick some obvious fails: No photos, looks = see photo, no photos, attached single man, no photos, guest, no photos.But if you are being TOLD that you are being rejected on the basis of your predilection for men and transexuals then perhaps that is another reason to kick you to the curb. There is an outside possibility that what a women says is not always what she means but it's a reasonable place to start.
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LittleGiant
8 years ago
Being an attached male? Nuff said. I know it would be an issue for some women, though. Also perhaps your odd choice of photo? Miss Little xx
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well obviously there no right or wrong answers to the question I pose , so it is just out of pure interest to see what others think. Given that I have been up front with my relationship status , sexual leanings and show a pic if asked for those whom do not like the Old purplemarquis pic , and Women have a higher proclivity to read profiles than us men , So ?. It may be , as some have already said , that it is just used as an excuse to say pass , which is interesting in itself to use that as a way out instead of just saying sorry , you are not my cuppa tea. Damn coffee drinkers ! lol. Anyway thank you all for engaging in answering my query . Humans are indeed a funny species .
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RHP User
8 years ago
people are afraid of what they aren't used to or don't have experience with so if they've never been with a man who is interested in trans then they could get a little spooked perhaps. Then again the attached male part pays part in it too i suspect - its great you've been honest about it and i encourage you to keep doing so as it gives people a choice as to if they want to be involved in that but you also have to realise not everyone will want to be :) .
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RHP User
8 years ago
Kiss me Harding..😘..best to get those ones outta the way..how phobic can people be? 👿 Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
Meant "kiss he Hardy" 😱Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
"kiss he Hardy" hey ! , thats my line lol
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Limited_Editionx
8 years ago
For me it's a turn on... For others not... That's what is great about this site you can get that out in the open before it becomes an issue. XxMiss L ed.
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RHP User
8 years ago
Unless you are just after any random and willing vagina, wouldn't you rather find that smaller window of women who will fit your lifestyle choices? My profile is specific to target the interest of a certain type I male. It better to stay true to who you are and what you are sexually interested in, than crapping on and hiding shit. That's prob why there are married men on these sites looking for what they couldn't tell their partner they were into. But that's not what you are asking. Yes, there will always be a large number of women (and couples) who won't get intimate with a guy who says he has same sex interactions. And that's why I get so many messages from guys that are straight on their profiles, but are actually into a bit of cock now and then. It's such a shame that society is so frightened of bisexual males.(not women-that's hot apparently) homosexuality is finally a part of mainstream society, but bi guys are the scurvy carrying deseased ones of society. Here's a personal observation of mine... Have played private parties on both sides of the fence. All straight guys,singles and coupled. And I've played with a bunch of bi guys or bi mmf play.And guess which parties I've had to remind the males to put a rubber on? Yep the straight guys.and guess which males try and go from person to person without being hygienic? Yep the straight guys. Wanting to go from vag to arse to vag to arse to where ever, without changing their rubber. In my experience, Bi guys think one step ahead. And if you really want to play safe sex, find the bi married guys, and I guarantee they play 110% as safe as they can.
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RHP User
8 years ago
But.. there are two students at the school I work at who are transitioning at the moment.One is at primary level the other year 12. The school is 100 per cent supportive of both students. All students are able to attend school formats with same sex partners ...staff are not. Times are changing even in moribund religious institutions,they are being forced to change .Q
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Limited_Editionx
8 years ago
But it does give a lot of hope for acceptance of all people's right to ownership of their bodies for the future... XxMiss L ed.
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Mischeviouslad
8 years ago
You like what you like..... Someone else has a different list of likes and dislikes. Im sure if I looked at your profile, I would read something relating to your own set of preferences. There is no point seeking to understand and try to renegotiate someone else's preferences in here, because thweyre just reading your words and it is far easier for them to just move on to the next persons words which are within their preferences And thats why so many people in here start telling fibs... to try to knock those hurdles down before they appear That just be the way of things.Do you.... and they might want to do you because of you.
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RHP User
8 years ago
It's a pity some will still judge on what you like before getting to know you as a person, but we all have our turn ons and turn offs. There are plenty in here that have the same likes as you and will not only be turned on by your kinks and likes, but will also understand your attraction. Having said that, it's not always necessary to have all the same likes, turn ons and kinks as our partners. After all, isn't that what makes life interesting and sometimes draws us out of our comfort zone to try new things?
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RHP User
8 years ago
make quick easy judgements. Spares them the trauma of nuance of thought and the honest reconsideration of what's (actually very precariously) established as accepted gender/sexual roles in society. However, I think the selection thing, y'know, the looking for tick me boxes, are deceptive as to how their read by others. Does ticking the TV/TS thing mean you wanna fuck any transperson? or is it an openness to the possibility that something great or even just brief fun could occur with her or him (for F to M)? Because I think it can be a little cruel just to categorise and trivialise a transperson's identity (and fight for it) as a sexual novelty. I'm lucky to have met many, and even been lovers with some lovely sensitive souls who identify as trans. Not all are sexual fiends. No more or less than the rest of us are. If some people judge you for it, then they're closed to the possibility of meeting some loverley souls. And yes, from that, usually comes great sex! So fuck 'em. If they're inhabiting a very narrow and atavistic view, they're not our kinda company! They're entitled to feel how they fel about it, and vote from their hole . KindredKohl is an intelligent, astute, aware, responsive woman. Sexy too . For example. Never met her. But admire and enjoyed our chats. And feel better about the world knowing people like her are bravely and sweetly following their nature and being great people and sharing their lessons and love.
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Bi_english_guy91
8 years ago
dude, just be happy, and if its what ur into, then do that :) I have always had issues cause i am mostly attracted to men, but even now some of my sexual interests are a little more out there than alot of my gay friends. but who cares, the world would be a boring place if we were all into the same thing :)
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Nice post. Well said. Annie
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RHP User
8 years ago
Just read your response and I adore you for it. Thank you for that big juicy mind (and ass, it deserves recognition) and your gentle, enquiring heart. Also let's change "Never met her" to "Haven't met her yet" because I fail to see how you can stand in the way of destiny. In fact, as someone who is transgendered it is a personal blessing to be able to read so many affirming and empowering viewpoints about transgendered people, even if it is in the far overused context of sexual attraction. I'm optimistic that our society is is beginning to accept individuality and freedom of expression/identity at a faster rate than it has before and that fills me with hope for our present and for our future. Whilst on the topic of trans* and change, what is with the restrictive 'TV/TS' option RHP currently allows? I think it would be totally fucking fabulous to see a variety of gender identity options available for the contemporary crowd of 2016. Some suggestions; TG (transgendered)/IS (intersex)/CD (crossdresser)/GN (Gender Neutral) or even an O (other). Anyone else with me on this? Big love, ~KK x
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Agree
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RHP User
8 years ago
Nothing less than what you suggest makes sense to me..Q
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RHP User
8 years ago
Agree with more choices for individuals to choose a label.And clumping together CD with TV is rediculous. They should be seperate.There are heaps of men that cross dress but are just into feeling sexy in lingere and stockings. They shouldn't be thrown together with TV's, which is a whole lifestyle choice in its own right. Even Fetlife has 12 different orientations to choose from. Including pansexual, gender fluid, Trans m2f, Trans f2m. Unknown . Very specific for personal choice. But.... They also throw crossdressing in with transvestite. Go figure!!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Dont worry about those gals who feel threatened of their own shadows, let along competition from nice trans gals lol. If you keep finding the same narrow mindedness from any here just come and see mama and stop lookin elsewhere as we dont share enough time as it is
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RHP User
8 years ago
So fantastic! Thank you Summer for investing the time to write to the mods, thank you to RHP for the proposed update and thank you all for your contributions to this thread. It's warmed my little heart right up in this cold Melbourne winter. With love, ~KK x
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RHP User
8 years ago
Summer :)
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RHP User
8 years ago
Well done you for steering change to occur in this space. There are very real differences between TS's, TV's and CD's and I am sure people who classify themselves as one of these will feel better served by the proposed changes. of course i think , as someone may already of said, that fetlife manages areas of lifestyle and of being so much better than most other sites. regardless well done . x
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RHP User
8 years ago
I think it's bloody fantastic, and to be honest, my hottest experiences has been with transgender both m2f and f2m , it's like the best of both worlds and are likely to be the most sweetest genuine people. So go for it, if people don't like what's in your profile, stuff them. That's their issue not yours - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
They've updates the categories. Trans women, trans men, TV/CD.
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RHP User
8 years ago
I'm absolutely with you on your train of thought there KindredKohl.. especially your post re: below.. Whilst on the topic of trans* and change, what is with the restrictive 'TV/TS' option RHP currently allows? I think it would be totally fucking fabulous to see a variety of gender identity options available for the contemporary crowd of 2016. Some suggestions; TG (transgendered)/IS (intersex)/CD (crossdresser)/GN (Gender Neutral) or even an O (other). Anyone else with me on this? Wow if RHP.com.au came to the plate on this ,allowing these options , many could automatically assume RedHotPie to be a progressive dating/social seeking web portal, thats still focused on its many members, and yet continually finds ways to remain relevant (even more so as we approach 2020)..
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RHP User
8 years ago
Live the life you want that makes you happy.... More power to you 😉 I, myself have my own turn ons and that is that I really like a man who likes pussy only.... A traditional man's man who just LOVES LOVES LOVES the pussy and nothing else mmmmmm there's nothing hotter than a straight man to me because that's my own individual taste. I respect your tastes though, you've just got to respect others tastes.... Don't question it too much just move on to a person you truly want. Good luck 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Curious1965
8 years ago
I will first say that transgender appeals to me because I like the touch of a woman over a man but would like someone to ride me. As someone who manages people all the time, you can have a meeting and at the end think that there is a common understanding but yet you find later they have gone off. On a tangent. It is very hard to get people to truly listen. It would be extremely difficult for a transgender and not something I would do, as the saying goes stick your head up and it will be blown off. I believe that we are all wired differently and that hard wiring will always cause issues with understanding and empathy so to strive for that understanding is a unrealistic expectation. - Posted from rhpmobile
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