M64
...Is confidence the ultimate aphrodsiac ....?
February 15 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Can be very attractive,but over confidence,not at all, just deeply annoying..For me it's when a man looks into my eyes and pays attention to me...even if we were in a crowded room,it would feel as if we were alone...and of course,like the song says....there's no aphrodisiac like loneliness xxFreya
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Cheekyarses
10 years ago
I tend to agree with Freya. Confidence is attractive, however I find over confidence = arrogance and I'm not too good with arrogant people.. Someone who can hold a conversation, has lots of positivity, who's smile n laughter is contagious, who is kind and who puts the time in when they are super busy - that's very attractive to me x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Ulysses42' or catch the eye of someone at the lights, and bust each others knowing thoughts with the slight gravity defying inflection of the corner of a lipsticked mouth .. You weren't anywhere near Ocean reef were you OP? I love when people flirt in situations such as you described, I like to catch someone's eye and hold it when I know they've been checking me out. It's great when someone has the confidence to hold it and smile back and not look down hurriedly at being caught out. I don't like arrogance either (who does), but that's not what you're talking about I don't think. There's a big difference between swagger and the confidence to hold a person's eye and indicate your interest frankly. I find that incredibly sexy and personally, I'm much better at it now that I'm older.
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RHP User
10 years ago
many men cant pull it off because they are faking it
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Cos most of them time I have that covered. Am I arrogant, bloody hope not. Do I fibd others areogant hell yes!! OP apart from the physical indicators I find it nice when someone is confident enough to approach you and pay you that compliment, introduce themselves or just continue to meet that gaze across the room and convert it to an approach and hello. Sometimes there doesn't have to be any gain or reward in doing this other than making the other person smile. Like an older lady I saw at Robina shopping today, she caught my eye a few times the last of ehich I walked alongside her and told her she looked stunningly rekaxed and fashionable and that she'd caught my eye a few timrs. She smiled and thanked me, gushing and very pleased. My male friend approacjed a lady in another store while she had a dress held against her body and said that it suited her very well and any nan would be oroid to have her on his arm. Mshe and her friends giggled and said thanks. Sometimes it costs nothing to approach someone and make their day giving them confidence and making them feel good also. Two way street this confidence thing.....
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RHP User
10 years ago
not too much that they are a complete wanker but certainly someone who knows they are good. I don't think confidence comes without a bit of arrogance. I definitely don't like try hard confidence but alpha confidence is so hot to me.
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On_Safari
10 years ago
Don't always proofread before I hit the send button!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I am confident in my ability to cross the road without injury, I am not confident in my ability to run a nuclear power station but would jump at the chance to do so (best you all run). I can appear as confident as a mountain goat on a cliff face yet be totally wrapped in fear of falling. Confidence is just appearance, can you read me, because I can read you, well I think i can, does it matter if I am right, does it mater if I think I am right.. Sorry op but you live in a place of dreams. You can not know the mind behind the smile, confidence is to know one is right, it is not an assumption of being right, or worse a guess. Assumption is arrogance that is way to often wrong and seldom ever attractive. What attracts, what really makes the world admire you is indifference. Does it matter what others may think, No. Am I confident that they like me, NO, but do I care, No.. and with that I can strut, i can woo, I can laugh, I can cry, best of all I can be my self. I am in that, very confident that for all the most attractive and desirable attributes we all posses it is ones self, without fear, without conformity, without performance that is the best The greatest beauty is truth, open, uncompromising honesty that can only be found when it does not matter who you are, it is not a lie you tell your self, the delusion of confidence. I smile at my thoughts as i undress in my minds eye a lovely body I spy, she smiles back, too many times a pretense, seldom is she in my place, but most sexy of all is if as she smiles at a remembered joke and without care smiles back at me because she does not care what I may think, she will not compromise her joy to fit in and spreads her infectious joy, as i do mine while all the time we are not the lest bit confident in what the other may be thinking, nor do we care. Now back to the power plant, I am confident that this button will be interesting to press... Click.
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Mischeviouslad
10 years ago
Confidence can easily be bluffed... ........the old fake-it-'till-you-make-it method. And a lot of people can get by with that..... and it can be attractive to people.... until... they realise it wasn't genuine confidence but bluff, bravado, ego, arrogance or any other such falsehood. But to be bold and act with boldness cannot be faked.Any incongruity in your actions will instantly leave people uneasy and because their subconscious, or even their conscious evaluation pick sup that its not your true self. I suggest that Boldness is what creates attraction, not confidence. DG
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't think I am terribly confident - some times I cant tell one end a dildo from the other But I am a believer in being truthfully and entirely meSo you get a genuine experience of a woman who can say to you - Im not totally confident with this or thatand a woman who may use the wrong end of the dildo, fall off the bed, accidentally kick you in the balls and literally get her knickers in a knotAn authentic personConfidence may be lacking but humour is not Tessx
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RHP User
10 years ago
His confidence in me
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RHP User
10 years ago
.... confidence is need not be a fraud? .... or arrogant .. it most certainly can be .... ... to re address the question ..... how does confidence stack up against .... say against .... the beautiful face ... the great suit .... Adonis's bod ..... or an infectious sense of humour ..... I think that its would be right up there .. Interestingly quite a few aligned confidence with arrogance .... arrogance is a is a term that I/we would use with men ... but not so much with woman ...... what about sexually confident women ... there are one or two of you out there ...lol Blindman ... Mischevious lad ..... maybe philosophical fodder for a beer when Im next in town ...cheers
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AnnieWhichway
10 years ago
confident men. They come across as false or faking. But I do realise that it probably is because I lack confidence. Jealousy thing. They always seemed to get the hot dates. So I was always left at home trying to dress like a hot date.......
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RHP User
10 years ago
If I'm confident or just don't care ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think it depends on the variables. Like blind man said, it's my indifference that attracts men to me. I was always intimidated at university by people I thought way smarter than me. Dyslexia can do that to you. Before rhp I had no confidence at all regarding my attraction to men. Now I think I am outgoing and happy in my own skin. So yes I feel confident. But that can be knocked out of you like some one pulling the mat from under your feet. Here is an example. I got brave enough to flash on web cam. I was really having a ball. Till one guy told me I was a disgusting and a woman my age should not be doing that. I felt humiliated and covered up. So confidence has a measuring stick that is linked to circumstance. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I spoke to a female in a club who pole danced and she said this to me. "The pole is a great place to hide." The more I thought about it the more it made sense to me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Confidence that says I am interested in knowing you and I am not afraid of what you might find in me, that is natural inquisitiveness and very sexy. Confidence that says I am amazing, I know you will think the same after I have kissed you. That is arrogance and very ugly. A lack of self confidence can suggest vulnerability which appeals to some but for the most part if you like yourself and are interested in others and can put a few words together, that is a damn good start to being sexy to many people.
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RHP User
10 years ago
For most of us is not a one size fits all of us...there are certain areas of my life that I am totally neurotic about...not being a sex goddess is one of them 😳but my profile name is aspirational but in other areas of my life I absolutely rock😀...so it depends on the situation and the persons I am with xxFreys
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RHP User
10 years ago
I see confidence as when someone is very relaxed in a situation., is also at ease with themselves and capable of going with the flow and can give those momentary notions of fear the flick. It's a delightful space. Being honest often goes with that kind of ease. It's a glorious feeling whatever the situation. Isn't that what we spend our lives trying to achieve in as many areas/situations as possible? Well I think so. ☺️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Confidence is definitely attractive....as long as it's backed up by actions. All talk no action is a waste of time. Arrogance/overconfidence/false confidence is a different story and definitely a turn off. Confidence doesn't have to be over the top or in your face though. Quiet confidence is probably the most attractive kind!
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'snowpatrol121' I spoke to a female in a club who pole danced and she said this to me. "The pole is a great place to hide." The more I thought about it the more it made sense to me. - Posted from rhpmobile would have to be a bloody huge one to hide behind
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