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Is it possible to love more than one person at once?
November 28 2011
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just watch the Bold and the beautiful....lol.. Jokes...Yes SnS
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RHP User
13 years ago
I do not think one person can fill l all the needs of another, unless its in the movies. Though it does depend on what a person wants. If your needs are not to diverse and your happy with what you have then perhaps you can love just the one. I have experienced that myself, a guy who is so good to me, reliable and just lovely but does not make me zingggggg!. I had a lover who drove me nuts, could not get enough of him, and him me the sex was electric. the best thing was he would fly over once a month have frantic sex for a few days and then go. thats why the sexiwas so good, its not complicated its law of lust. I find it hard to put my heart and my sexual lust in the same place, but thats just me :) maybe I am a guy? ( just kidding guys :) )
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RHP User
13 years ago
If one could not love more than one person then if that person were to die, we would never love another. When your partner dies you do not stop loving them. The love remains for the rest of your days. We still manage to go on and lead full lives, love others. For this answer I am setting aside the obvious of parent and children. We all know that a parent can and does love more than the one child but here we are dealing with a more adult form of bond...one between two or more adults. I love some of my friends. Those I am close to I love very deeply and that does not mean that I can not have other friends. Each time we do love it is different as each person we love is different. This does not mean that we love one less than the other just in different ways. Each relationship can still be as intense as the others without diminishing from one an other. The metaphorical heart is an amazing thing with the capacity for huge and many loves. It is not as if it runs out of room for love and each is limited to a small amount we can give. Our capacity to love is limited only by our desire to love. It is equally as important though to realise fully, understand and recognise the difference between loving someone.... being in love.... and being in lust.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I believe we can love people for many different reasons. But first love has to start with loving yourself. There will be many people in your life that will bring love into your life, you just hope the people you love in return are people whom are deserving of your love. I think if we all treat people openly and honestly we would experience a much greater love than we knew existed. Many people can mistake love for lust which will eventually fail, but we also need to show the same respect to all the people in our lives no matter what type of love we share, father-daughter, owner-pet, aunty-nephew its just learning how to be honest according to the relationship you hold.
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RHP User
13 years ago
We dont think it is possible, you have your primary relationship and thats the one you love. If you want more, you both play together as in swinging. Do you tell her?...hey love I love your mind butt your body / you dont cut it in bed!
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RHP User
13 years ago
The short answer is NO I think in our lifetime we love many, in many different ways, as these people fulfill our emotional needs at that given time ... noting also that as we experience life and all that it throws at us.., our views and perspectives (and choice of lovers) will often change. Who we loved at 18, well could you really love them at 72 ???? If you are talking about romanticc love...well some people are fortunate enough to find that one person who encompasses everything that they are searching for... but I think it is rare..very rare and I must admit I envy any that do.. What I think happens is a lot of compromising... My last partner - I adored him, madly "in love" with him and thought I would grow old with him. We (I believed) were friends and lovers however if I am honest, sexually he was selfish and lazy ( and I "put up with it" because I loved him) - I was prepared to compromise great sex because I enjoyed being with him and accordingly I sacrificed a part of me that was important to me......I think when you do love someone, you "put up" with their shortcomings and usually when in love their positives attributes outweigh the negatives... However sadly the pendulum oftens swings and before you know it the negatives outweigh the positives....cest la vie.. Plato believed that the soul when it fell to earth, it split into two...we have often been misguided to believe that our soul mate (our other perfect half) is our romantic partner - Plato did not believe that - he believed that our other half could be anyone...a friend, a lover, a sibling etc..it was someone who we totally connected with, our other complete half...it was poet and playwrites thru the centuries who alluded to our soul mate being our perfect partner/lover..and I think many of us have wasted a great deal of our lives searching for the perfect One...while disregarding and ignoring the "pretty damn close to perfect One" around or next to us Given a choice..give me the one that will feed my soul (and be kind to me) as I can always find body stimulation....its just a mouse click away..............Now where is he ??????
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have a close male friend who 'feeds my soul' as you put it but will never be anything more than a treasured friend. It will take another special man to 'stimulate my body'.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Absoloutly!!! It's what you do with the love that matters though
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RHP User
13 years ago
AH Ha now would that be considered cheating, by all the moralist hippocrites. ??? Of course you can love another, and what better feeling than to be loved by another, what does love mean, I wont look at any one else, I wont think of anyone else ever, I wont covet anothers woman, get real people Love is what you want it to be, Enjot it while it lasts, Its a lonely life without it.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes it is...i live in a polyamory relationship with my husband and boyfriend and we have all lived together for over 3 year now.It works great and we could not be happier.Leesa
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RHP User
13 years ago
My soul is hanging on the line out in the backyard to dry for the time being. So... yep.... a couple or three or so (why stop at one?) willing participants to stimulate the body is the jizz and does the bizz.HugsStalky
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RHP User
13 years ago
incorporates DECEPTION. Loving more than one person need not. It's really not rocket science :-/
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RHP User
13 years ago
Maybe you can talk to the girl who is isn't "stimulating your body" enough... she might not know what you like/don't like, especially if its a new relationship. Have you considered you might not be quite hittin the mark with her either??
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RHP User
13 years ago
Fiona's response summed it up beautifully and so very eloquently.In my case - I love my husband completely - he is my best friend, my lover, the man I share a family with, the person that knows me best and understands me even better - and I can't imagine having a life without him.And yet for the last 18 months, I also (albeit over time) loved another amazing, special man. Having him in my life made my world spin just that little bit better :-)Despite trying to convince myself for a long time that I only just 'cared' about him; I couldn't deny the fact that I lit up when I talked about him and he made my heart beat a little faster.These feelings didn't take anything away from what I felt for my husband at all - I still do and continue to love him completely; he is who I'm IN love with - but clearly I felt strongly about the other. To the point that the other man told me that he knew how I felt about him - he knew that I loved him (and yes, it freaked him out completely).I found the experience at times confusing, breathtaking, addictive, made no sense to others (or even to me at times), amazing, one that made me smile many times, erotic and like living on a roller coaster at times ...and yet it didn't change how I felt for this man and nor did it diminish my love for my husband.He did 'feed' a part of me that I wasn't aware that I needed to explore/be fed and he did stimulated my body/mind/sexuality in different ways - overall, it was an amazing journey in all its facets; the great and the not so great. At this point in time, I've stepped away from that journey, that 'feeling' and that man - our journey/experience always had a beginning, a middle and an end. I still have the same feelings ie: I still love him regardless and I still think of him often - he left a 'mark' upon me but I don't need to continue things with him. The relationship with my husband is still as strong as it was before and I don't feel that anything has diminished our relationship/marriage by loving another. So yes, I do feel it's possible to love more than one. "You can close your eyes to things you want to see, but you can't close your heart to the things you don't want to feel" .... and why would you want to? :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
The time you are with one, the other has time to stray. And visa versa. You may possibly end up with just one of your loves. Or the failings of both and the merits of neither.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'tuscanred' I do not think one person can fill l all the needs of another, unless its in the movies. I am happy to say that I have found someone who does just that!!Although I could do with a few more neck rubs lol.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just bumping this up for a sec... ...bear with me :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
no....not possible for normal people...the vast majority of us just couldnt do it....imagine this , and having a family? impossible, most of us barely have time for our partners, let alone another.... we are each others best friends, confidants, and soul mates...theres not a thing we cant discuss, and nothinsg too outrageous we cant bring to our table. our lives are intertwined, completely, and we put each other first, in just about everything. we have friends too.... but thats all they are...friends. some lifelong...but living their own lives, not sharing ours......
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RHP User
13 years ago
My husband and I are what I consider 'normal'. Have all the things you mentioned and yet I did. Maybe not an ideal or easy situation, however, that doesn't make us (or me) less normal than anyone else, surely! LOL Geez! Some might consider 'swinging' not normal so I guess as with most answers or points of view - it's subjective :-)
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